Dating less attractive guys

Dating a not so good looking guy

if the women do appear attractive and he is balding, overweight, unemployed and unattractive, he expects a super model to love him back. off, the couples answered a questionnaire about their personal desires to diet and be fit and sexy, and then, each participant was ranked on desirability based on face and body attractiveness.  when in fact the vast majority of guys do not. my experience, i often see guys with big guts and terrible habits (smoking, drinking nightly) who happen to have nice facial features and heads of hair with very lovely girls, but rarely do i see them with guys who have strong, healthy bodies if those guys lack in the facial features department. guess guys don’t care as much as we do. the ones i find “unattractive” are the guys missing teeth and the old hippies with long, thin grey hair tied back in a ponytail. if you’re on okc, and the men’s pics you are shown are not attractive, it could be okc considers you to be in the same league as the men who’s pics were shown to you. the reason women do that is because if we rate a guy highly, and we’re remotely attractive, he will contact us.  and yes, i was one of those women who only contacted the best looking guys on the site knowing i was competing with many other women for his attention. what this could mean is that the 3 and belows were ranking me high (as 4 or higher), inflating my attractiveness value, but they, because they were rated 3 or lower by others, didn’t appear (as often) in my feed as the other men who were 4 and above, aka “in my league” as defined by the lower-rated, but perhaps larger majority, of men? i’ve never turned someone down for a date unless the guy made me feel uncomfortable, initially (and maybe that wasn’t fair of me, i’ll admit). agree on who the most attractive men are, but not the rest, skewing the average score downwards. also anytime you see a hot girl with a less attractive man (see: goddamn everywhere) your point would become weaker.

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? guys my age, few of them, have taken good care of their faces/bodies/spirit. was he a little less hot than the younger men you had been responding to, or maybe only 9 years younger instead of ten, or twelve, or fifteen? in which case, were they asked to rate based on their own hypothetical “average” or just asked to give a number based on how attractive they found them personally? when i asked for a serious answer they said that all other measures of success and appeal being equal, (education, job, fitness level) they would always rate a bald(ing) man as less desireable. live on the westside of la and i rarely, rarely see any guys who come close to that type — i just came back from nyc and didn’t see any guys who looked like that…. i have also rejected tall, short, fat, balding, thin, athetlic guys. it seems somewhat paradoxical to me that if men have such “realistic” and “fair” standards for women’s attractiveness, they are mostly contacting only the most attractive women. about a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks. am somewhat typical of women on this website & in the article above with one exception- i do write to average joes if there is something in their face/eyes that grabs me, i find attractive and their profile is a killer in terms of intelligence/articulate/humor/what have you., in my world, average-looking guys who seem intelligent and show themselves to have the important qualities like loyalty and integrity quickly become a 10. why on earth would a woman want to make a man feel “less than” for a physical characteristic ? don’t recall that happening with the more attractive men that ended up in my feed. also the sound of his voice can be very attractive.

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"the husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," mcnulty told livescience. vast majority of guys that i talk to would be more happy to be dating a “girl next door” than a supermodel or actress. who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, mcnulty said. i talk with men who are interesting…ant attractive because of that. the most attractive men get 11x more than unattractive men. wrote: men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness. in real life after having actually talked to one of these guys they’d probably change their tune. about cupid and many other dating sites, i come to realize that there are men who are not attractive short, balding, punch bellies, boobs, not gromes when it comes to shaving, wearing caps and tasteless clothing, photos backgrounds are not clear) and most of these men in their 50 to 6o are looking for young women in their 20 – 30 and wonder why after becoming involved with these women who are young enough to be their daughters and grands why the relationships don’t work out. a lot of the guys i tried to date when i was in my 20s were disrespectful jerks, and some were even cruel. not that you care, but women my age, (i’m 68) look just as repulsive and sexless to me, as men your age look to you., you are correct, but i’ll clarify your statement even further: instead of saying “top echelon,” i’ll say that men and women who are generally considered to be attractive, who have reasonably outgoing personalities, no major social, emotional or psychological issues, don’t really need online dating. i think women are more likely to put their best photos on the sites, and sometimes even go and get a professional or semi-professional picture taken… while men rarely take a professional photo for anything unless it’s work-related! the mother lives less than 10 minutes away and does not have anything to do with the child.

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think you should relax and give more guys a chance. one of my single male coworkers recently asked a female friend to go shopping with him, which is also nearly always a good idea for the single guy (unless said friend has a taste for affliction shirts or skinny jeans 😉 ). i know we guys do it all the time; i’ve heard of women with only 3 sentences in their profiles getting over a thousand messages from guys. with selena and cecilia, i had the same thought as i was reading the article – maybe 80% of men on dating sites really do come across as unattractive, because of the photos they submit (basically, most guys post whatever the cat dragged in – squinting against the sun, zombie hands on their shoulders because they’d cut someone out of the picture, etc etc)? i want younger and more attractive too, and in the real world i have some chance of actually getting that; online, i have none., this is confusing b/c i just looked on okcupid now, and you can’t give someone a zero, so i don’t know how people can score less than “1”, unless okcupid has made changes since this blog post.  personally i have fallen for men for a wide variety of reasons: attractiveness, confidence, humor, sexiness, kindness, intelligence, spiritual depth, it all depends on the package! are these men particularly unattractive or is there some new higher standard for average?) thanks to intense socialization beginning at birth and continuing throughout life, women spend a lot–a lot–more time, effort and money making themselves attractive to men, a situation that most men feel perfectly entitled to, thus leading to today’s world where a 55-year-old sloth with a beer gut living in a trailer sends messages to beautiful young 28-year-old women with a graduate degree. shave their heads because it looks less obvious that they’re balding than it does if they just leave it and then you can see all the areas where the hair fails to grow. i’ll find someone unattractive from across a room but then be attracted to them when they stand next to me. are always reading romance novels that feature an unrealistically hot guy on the front cover, or daytime soaps where only the hottest actors are hired, then they seem to get the false impression that all good guys are supposed to look like that. in a normal bell curve, 5% of the women were found to be the least attractive and 5% were found to be the most attractive, with most women falling in the middle 90%.

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a man’s career/salary matter less to me ’cause i’m like many women on here: smart, independent, good job…. “the results reveal that having a physically attractive husband may have negative consequences for wives, especially if those wives are not particularly attractive,” says researcher tania reynolds. however, i do think that the almost endless options, the one click away aspect, and the ability to sit in your own living room and come up with a million fantasies about people you’ve never met seems to exaggerate issues like looks. highly doubt okc has come up with an algorithm to determine whether a picture can be deemed un/attractive to “most people. about all the porn guys watch full of teenage girls with fake boobs and hair who supposedly love threesomes and anal sex? find that 99% of men aren’t good looking unless you meet them in real life. as a very single but average looking 50ish 6 foot male, probably earning a sexual attractiveness rating of 5 or 6 issued by attractive women who are a 9 or 10 themselves, but i do in fact have all my dark hair and i’m not over weight by any measure, but i do in fact watch a lot of porn but not obsessively. i know we guys do it all the time; i’ve heard of women with only 3 sentences in their profiles getting over a thousand messages from guys. agree, a statement like “women rate 80% of all men as below average-looking” shows women as pretty brainless – dumb chicks cannot even divide 100 by 2 without getting an 80 – so on the surface, it is easy to laugh off. there is not some yawning chasm between attractive and unattractive, there are a lot of men in between those extremes of perfect features and imperfect features. they don’t want an overweight and ugly woman (but he is) but expects an attractive woman who cares for herself, to settle with him. my problems with men is they find me intimidating or the ones i find attractive have self esteem issues because they listen to men and women who know nothing about relationships and feel like they’ll never be good looking enough.• the average male sender gets a 27% reply rate from the most attractive females.

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a lot of my girlfriends will wonder why i’m with a guy because they’ll think he is “ugly” or “unattractive” or “not in my league. you’re writing to a very attractive person, you now know you’re competing with everyone else on the website. the guys, being guys i guess, just assumed that they were. all right: what about their assumption that in a “realistic” world assessments of attractiveness should follow a bell curve? i think that all these women want the same three guys…. the results revealed that women who had attractive husbands were more likely to diet and constantly try to lose weight in order to look better and better ad infinitum, which is not fun. that were the case, then the new guys that appeared in my feed whom i would then rank 4 or 5 if i thought i wanted to meet them would have had to have ranked me 4 or 5 first so that once i ranked them 4 or 5, we would both be sent the mutual match notification. it reminds of me of that bogus story about black women’s level of attractiveness that was recently posted on the psychology today website. women, thanks to the investment not only of pregnancy but child-rearing, are vastly choosier–a single act can result in pregnancy and then we live with it for 18 years, whereas a guy can theoretically spawn 365 kids in a single year, none of which he necessarily needs to contribute to (anthropological studies show, contrary to pop assumption, that the average man in a hunger-gatherer society contributed about 10% or less of any one kill to his existing children or the women he had fathered them with–most of it went to higher-status males or other fertile females). whatever i had in common with the attractive men when i was deemed unattractive by okc (staff or algorithm) were the same as when i was deemed more attractive.  i think that would lead to a disastrous, miserable relationship if i was “guilt tripped” into being with a guy whom i found unattractive (even if was wonderful on the inside). if this study were done correctly, it would have been a broader cross section age wise and maybe even “hot” guys with bad pics. the "grass could be greener" mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.

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but the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.• the average female sender gets a 30% reply rate from the most attractive males. however approached the women in direct proportion to how attractive they were. couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. for sure, the more attractive my pic was, the better looking options were presented to me; the less attractive my pic, the less attractive were presented to me, and i assume mine to them.  sex perverts now haunt women’s restrooms with government and corporate blessing.) evolutionary psychology: tons of scientific data over decades covering millions of years of behaviour not only for our own species, but for our closest primate relatives, shows this to be a consistent and perfectly rational strategy on part of both men and women: men (and other male primates) are less discriminating because the consequences of a bad choice don’t last long and aren’t serious.* it does not make intuitively bad sense to me to find that most women rate most men as relatively less attractive in the world we live in. okcupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5x more email than average women and 28x more email than unattractive women. of the guys i’ve dated look anything like one another, as i’m not so much interested in a “look” or a “type” as i am who they are. you’d think that would have taught me a lesson but it’s still difficult to get around some of the bad pictures. people who are preoccupied with searching for a mate are devoting less time to self-development and any issues that need to be addressed, and are therefore remaining in stasis in many ways. in other words, hang on for it, *most men are less attractive than most women.

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men find most women reasonably attractive but spend their time writing only to the hottest ones. since digital cameras were introduced, i think every woman grabbed one and started practicing being photographed, men apparently did not, they could learn a bit about flattering lighting, good angles…attractive clothing…. if you think women find balding men unattractive then you need to google hottest men in hollywood. so many of us reserve the highest ratings for the men we both find attractive and find likely to be a match for us. if more “attractive” people rank you high or like you then they’ll show up in your matches and vice versa. attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. the vast majority of males will not succeed in this, but are perfectly happy to settle for someone far less attractive (or several someones) if they seem like reasonable biological bets. and i was very attractive in the second set of pictures., if i have a physical characteristic that a man doesn’t find attractive  (too thick waisted, small busted, redhair, too short) or whatever, i would rather a guy move on., it does not because that suggests that the average-looking men who are busy fervently contacting the hottest women on the site while simultaneously ignoring other less-than-hot females, are deluding themselves into thinking they are worthy of getting the 10s.  if i want the guy’s attention, i will give him 4 stars but if i think he is an attractive guy, but he is… too young/old or has clearly expressed different goals, then i will only give him 3 stars.(columbia pictures)we’ve all seen this situation: an exquisite, drop-dead gorgeous woman walking hand in hand with a dude who is much, much less attractive than she is.  could it be that the responders to their questionnaires were rather young, and that’s why the “hottest” guys appear 18-20 while ok cupid’s employees who look to be at least mid-20s were even considered semi-decent?

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but i”m known as the girl who dates “ugly” guys. the guy i just started seeing has long blonde hair down to his shoulders and a hair line that could match patrick stewart and some serious tooth decay in his front two teeth but i find him attractive most the time but sometimes i look over at him and have to do a double take because i forget what he looked like.’ve been on okcupid and i can tell you that the men on this site are generally less attractive than the paid sites or even [email protected] – yes – many men i have found are “lazy” about submitting attractive pics! there any particular reason, other than the male ego, why women’s assessments of men’s attractiveness should not follow a long-tail distribution pattern, when so much else in the world does?  i do hope that when a good man falls in love, he would pass up a more attractive woman if one showed interest in him… i don’t know though. where if i rated a guy high and he rated me high (4 or 5), then we were both sent a message that we found each other mutually attractive. but nonetheless just to let you know, i would happily trade in a heartbeat all of my threesome fantasies with a woman who has a rating of 3 or 4 for some very consistent good old fashion anal intercourse any day of the week.’ve all seen this situation: an exquisite, drop-dead gorgeous woman walking hand in hand with a dude who is much, much less attractive than she is.) jfk/ elvis/ tupac/ kurt cobain – depending on your age, you just know these guys are alive! again, proving that attractive women are at the top of the online dating totem pole. and i agree with the poster who said that many of the most attractive and eligible men i’ve known don’t really use online dating. i am in my 30s and definitely feel the crunch of less men on dating sites being remotely interested, i think i am about an 8.

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a short time online dating, i quickly got over evaluating guys based on their photos, because they always looked so much better in person. i am an attractive woman in her 50s and i have the same complaint that the men go downhill after 53. so if you are a regular attractive girl that isn’t super hot, you’re pretty much screwed either way. group of trained "coders" rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. many of us rate guys based on their likely matching with us individually. he needs to search for a woman who’s balding, overweight, unemployed, and unattractive like he is. you give someone 4 or 5 stars, it sends them an email saying “someone finds you attractive, play quickmatch” and it flashes up a bunch of users for you to rate. as was mentioned here by many people, they think they can pick the most attractive person they want, without taking into consideration their own attractiveness, level of mental and emotional health, level of personal development and other qualities. as an average-looking woman who does not expect gq models to contact me, i’d really love it if guys could get their heads out of the clouds. on one of the other studies of on line dating it was clear that the women were only responding to the most attractive. atheltic…yada yada yada…i am attracted to a wide range of guys for different reasons. i try like hell to focus on guys my age (50s), but in the end write to the guys in their 40s.  i should stop watching tv…shows like the young & the restless for instance…the problem is that the concentration of  attractive people on some television programs gives a false impression that the world is full of attractive people at every turn.

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, you’ll see that since you can’t force people to write to you (since most men and women are chasing younger, more attractive people), all you can do is open up to others and improve the way you interact on your dating site.) men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness. then you go to the grocery store and it’s full of people who should be on the biggest loser and would be rated a a 1 to 3 out of 10 on the attractive-ness scale. so if you find the men unattractive, it’s because you’re not considered attractive by others in okc., i’ve personally been out with all types of guys, tall, short, fat, balding, thin. dropped my need to find super-duper attractive types when i got back out there… as long as he was physically attractive to me, that was all that mattered, and i knew from experience that a lot of other factors could play into my overall estimation of attractiveness. it’s like someone saying go ahead and contact me because i’m attractive…you know you want to. i can out lift most of the guys i know that work out and  i’ve never seen the inside of the gym. the study, researchers at florida state university evaluated the relationships of 113 newlywed 20-something couples in order to understand if respective attractiveness plays a role in overall happiness, and considering the fact that previous research suggests a combination of a hot wife and an ugly husband make for a great marriage, this is pretty valid. real reasons the hottest girls always date less attractive guys. i am an attractive woman in her 50s and i have the same complaint that the men go downhill after 53.  but i feel like if i can’t date someone on my attractiveness level (another 9) i just won’t be happy with him. i want an attractive guy just as much as a man wants an attractive woman.

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