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it wouldn’t matter if he was single or not, you do not tell your boss something like that." i had completely given up on my ability to say no to him. as you are job hunting, please stay away from any job where married men work. god, i could never face the man again after making such a fool of myself. dating an owner can reduce a talented professional to being considered “the boss’s girlfriend,” which can inhibit her colleagues’ trust and the flow of information, torpedoing work collaboration. i was also mad at myself for developing feelings for my boss. from what i can see you told it boss this because you picked up on feelings from him otherwise i would not have told him. ” you say you are not planning on acting on your “feelings” yet throughout the whole letter you keep fishing for excuses and reasons to go after your boss. i think most guys are kind of funny about having sex during pregnancy cause of all the silly myths behind it. you confessed your feelings for your married boss, who has a pregnant wife. boss doesn’t want to be involved with you romantically. when i told him my feelings, he told me, “i …i can’t say anything…because of my position here. then he kept saying that he was married with a baby, and questioned why i was telling him this. november 18, 2013, 10:27 pmthis reminds me of something that happened to an attorney in my office. reply link bagge72 november 18, 2013, 12:05 pmyeah i would be really creeped out if my boss started doing that with me. think if there were a larger age gap between the two of us, it would have felt weird to be drinking so much and getting so personal—but since he's only four years older than me, the line between boss and friend became blurry very quickly.

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i mean the letter should be about how you made a huge mistake and don’t know how you can return to work after inappropriately confessing your love to your married boss. reply link fabelle november 18, 2013, 10:59 ami agree, i don’t think the boss had been inappropriate at all— i mean, arguably, talking about his marriage/sex life is boundary crossing for the workplace, but like rainbow said above: unreliable narrator? months after the girl-in-his-hotel-room incident, i found out that my boss had had a new girlfriend since the christmas party in chicago. the future, i probably won't be so open to sleeping with another superior because i know that my situation could have turned out a lot worse than it did (no one at work ever found out about us). if you did, you wouldn’t even have thought to confess these feelings to your boss. then he said, “wow, you really threw the ball in my court, didn’t you? there's a girl waiting for me in my hotel room. presumably my husband doesn’t want to cheat, and if he did it would be only a matter of time. lw- great you have a crush but you are married, he is married with a kid on the way and from what she has described imo has not really shown any interest in you besides maybe some casual run of the mill flirting or venting wasn’t that like the most awkward and uncomfortable conversation or confession? reply link lets_be_honest november 18, 2013, 11:36 amyuck, imagine some woman talking about your sex life with your husband like she’s a part of it?? the lw says she’s been married for 20 years, so i have to assume she’s at least 38 at the minimum, yet it sounds like this letter was written by a 15 year old, talking about a guy in her class. i discovered this in one of the worst ways possible, too: in a meeting, some coworkers casually mentioned my boss's girlfriend. reply link iseeshiny november 18, 2013, 12:53 pmonly not to the same place your boss went. your boss could go to hr if you continue to act inappropriately. especially if, like this boss, it’s against your will. link addie pray november 18, 2013, 2:52 pmdid i tell you about my ex boyfriend whose dad was a ent doc?

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but i suspect if i had, it would’ve been one of those “oh, my crazy isn’t that crazy compared to this! it wouldn’t be weird for me to talk about sex stuff with my boss. i assume if you’ve been married for 20 years that you’ve been an adult for some time now." in that moment, i lost track of the fact that he was my superior. hooking up with your boss sounds bad on paper, but there was an electricity between us that i couldn't deny. reply link vathena november 18, 2013, 2:11 pmyeah, i like how they “rushed” by getting married a year and a half after they started dating. so, you’re definitely sexually harassing your boss right now." she said that she wasn't that surprised because of how i'd talked about him leading into my trip to chicago. and i’m sure i would feel the same if i knew there was a flirty woman near my husband. if you want to stay married, you need to shut this crush down in your mind iand quit fucking thinking about it. reply link cleopatra_30 november 18, 2013, 10:48 amhaha i think that was my lol moment of the whole letter, just cause he didn’t have sex with her while she was pregnant does not mean he doesn’t love her. your husband deserves better and i can’t believe you would want to risk a 20 year commitment on some lust for your unavailable boss. something like “oh and remember when i said my wife and i weren’t having sex? that was the first time in six years that i had been attracted to and had a connection with someone other than my ex. what makes you think that it was at all okay to confess your feelings to your boss? he once asked me how my weekend went and i told him about one of my really really crappy dates back in october.

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my destiny, i assumed, was to grow up and become a boss. it is totally inappropriate to approach your boss with these “feelings” – you are not in love with him. by age 11 i was well on my way, hiring and firing neighborhood kids in a backyard production of my self-penned opus: cats, the sequel. and you sure as shit need to stop talking to your boss about it and hyper-analyzing every little thing that happens. when i mention something fun that my husband and i did, he seems to want to do the same thing and right away texts his wife about it. was he trying to say that he feels the same way but can’t because of his position as my boss? if you are os happy with your husband why do you continue to obsess over every little tid bit that you boss tells you. i'd also broken up with my boyfriend of six years two months earlier, and i hadn't been on a date since. my boss & i have a super special love, & i guess none of you have ever fallen for somebody under imperfect circumstances! link kay november 18, 2013, 9:31 amwhoa…why would you feel like you needed to tell your boss that you have feelings for him?" i didn't feel like, "oh, my sleazy boss thinks i'm hot. you’re a “happily” married woman who is actively pursuing someone who has a child on the way. my creeper alerts started going off with flashing red lights and everything. tremendously inappropriate behavior on her part for any employee, married or not. one drink, he asked me was if i still talked to my ex-boyfriend. a month after i'd started my job, the company sent me to chicago for a week to help justin entertain our midwest clients at various dinners and happy hours; it was going to be a lot of socializing and drinking.

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“i deeply care about my boss and worry about him when he is under stress or sick. there’s something wrong with you and your marriage if you think its ok to a) be in love with someone else while married and b) express those feelings. my mom was only 18 and a month out of high school when they got married. my dad had his own political consulting firm and my mom was the president of the national women's political caucus (a feminist organization to get women elected). reply link kkz november 18, 2013, 5:30 pmi think this may be the first time my jaw has literally dropped while reading a letter – and stayed dropped for the entire letter., the letter begins with “several months ago, i told my boss that i have feelings for him.… i tried a few times to distance myself from my boss, but it’s hard because we work so closely together. i threw myself into wooing him, regaling him with tales from crazy girl scout swap meets of yore. still admires my work and expressed to me that he didn’t want me to leave just because of my feelings.***************you can follow me on facebook here and sign up for my weekly newsletter here. even though two bottles of wine at a work meeting seemed aggressive to me, i agreed because i didn't want to turn down my boss, and i was really enjoying the first intimate conversation i'd had with a guy since breaking up with my boyfriend. you have even an ounce of respect for your husband, you will distance yourself from your boss, find a new job, and recommit to your marriage. in very tapped into my intuition so this is my feelings on what i’ve read.” he would, on occasion, brush stuff off my face, and, if someone complimented my work, he would light up. this isn’t a case of “oh he was shamelessly flirting with me and i had no idea he was married”. this is a case of “well i know he’s married, he’s turned me down several times – but maybe i can convince him to leave his wife for me!

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i did read this really quickly, so i may have missed something more explicit, but i wasn’t seeing how the boss was being inappropriate. said, if it were a guy who was always talking bad about me and my marriage, rather than a flirty woman, i still wouldn’t want my husband to hang out with him, because that’s disrespectful and i wouldn’t want him in our lives. i liked being able to put it out of my mind like it had never happened; it made it easier to forget that i felt something for justin. if the boss had written in to tell us this story, i would hands down tell him to report her. link spaceysteph november 18, 2013, 3:55 pmyeah i’m with you on this. but telling your boss, who is married and has a baby, that you have feelings for him is just not okay. she’s reading into the most asinine and crazy shit, which the boss can’t control. i woke up at 9:30 the next morning, i was in a serious panic because justin's boss had called both of our phones while we were asleep. so i had it in my head that he’s just not really in love with her. possessive, jealous women, who spit the dummy when they see a free spirit dare to indulge in their feelings outside the ‘boundaries’ that they so desperately need to be bound up in. i felt like i was seeing my friend's place; his roommate was there and everything. because i knew in my heart he was the one (and had steered both a psychic and a tarot card reader to the same conclusion). and i say “anyone” because if the office is so small that she can’t ever avoid her boss-love, there’s no doubt in my mind that the other employees know what fresh hell is going on here. link iwannatalktosampson november 18, 2013, 11:56 amyeah i guess this lw is so gross i blurred those two issues. reply link lets_be_honest november 18, 2013, 9:52 ameven if neither were married, i’d still think this was a f’d up situation. when he met her, they were quick with everything: moved in with each other after 6 months, married a year later and had a baby during their first year of their marriage.

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i got back to new york, i told my roommate, "oh, my gosh, i did it. he was more interested in my working there than anything else. while we were talking, he brushed his hand against my leg. man, if only this guy hadn’t been hoodwinked into marrying and starting a family with a woman he clearly doesn’t love, he would have realized that his married subordinate was really his soulmate! and i still can’t quite wrap my head around it. also don’t believe for a minute that you didn’t intend on anything happening between you and your boss, as you told him, because if you did, you wouldn’t have asked., if i were you and i had such a crush on my boss that my obsession went on for months and i was analyzing every little thing he said and couldn’t help but to confess my feelings — again, the level of inappropriateness on that one is off the charts — i would find a new job or ask to be moved to a different department or office within the company. link red_lady november 19, 2013, 12:28 amyeah, i don’t think the analogy works either. its my fault if i’m fat, i decide what i eat, but its also kind of stupid if i keep hanging out at cupcake shops to test my resolve. then, he said, "my house is actually right down the block.” except for the fact that you are in love with your boss and seem to be unable to stop fantasizing about him. knew in the back of my head that maybe this wasn’t a good idea, but we were clearly attracted to each other, so i just went with my gut. your boss shares to much, and that makes you feel like you need to bang him, because he feels weird about having sex with his pregnant wife? passwordarchivescategoriessupport dwcontact“i’m in love with my married boss” by: dear wendy november 18, 2013 columns, marriage, work life 155 commentsnew here? they don’t go “hmm, i want to cheat on my wife today. link boosker november 18, 2013, 1:31 pmyeah, i’ve kind of seen this with my parents.

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you would not create these fantasies of “being single” while your ring was off (oh i’m so sure your boss just *happened* to be in earshot for that conversation and it was a total accident) or deciding that the reason he can’t have sex with his pregnant wife (which he’s out of line for even mentioning it, but this is about you) is not a medical thing or a physical pain for her thing but that he just doesn’t love her and thinks she’s unattractive. in my mind, it was a one-time thing, despite the fact that i kind of liked him. your boss reacted the way he did when you told him your feelings because he was shocked and embarrassed, not because he has the same feelings. this all changed when i was cast as penny hartz on an abc sitcom called happy endings and i met the show's creator and boss, david caspe. — in love with the bosswhat i think is that you’ve both been incredibly inappropriate and that you are very lucky you: a) still have a job, and b) neither of your marriages have been ruined by your (mutual) inappropriate behavior at work. writing for advice before you dropped an awkward bomb on your boss might’ve been a good idea. before i left, my roommate said, "you know you can't hook up with him. years ago, he was single and i had taken my wedding ring off to get it resized. then he took my hand and asked me to dance. reply link boosker november 18, 2013, 1:32 pmyeah, if my boss (was a male and) was brushing food off my face, i’d flip out.: my business partner is dating one of his direct reports. a crush is one thing, but being so bold as to confess these feelings to another married man, let alone your superior, is widely inappropriate and screams insecurity and seriously bad social etiquette. i feel like she has an amazingly far fetched take on her boss’s marriage and words (judging his love for his wife based on lack of sex during pregnancy? link lyra november 18, 2013, 11:11 ami definitely agree that talking about marriage and sex between a boss/employee can be seen as inappropriate. knew i had to let it go so that i could keep my cool at work, though. why aren’t you analyzing what it means to be in love with another man when you are currently married?

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 i respect him less as a person, but i don't feel like i need to run away from my job because of it, either. i made it clear that i didn’t intend on anything happening between us and that my husband (of 20 years) is my best friend and our marriage is a good one. reply link ann april 28, 2014, 6:05 pmi am not saying that the boss does like her, and indeed it is totally inappropriate to talk to him about her feelings. reply link vathena november 18, 2013, 12:22 pmas a married woman with a 5-month-old baby, i kind of want to gouge this lw’s eyes out. then i read it again, and saw that she’s been married for 20 years. first time I met my boss, who's based in my company's Chicago office, in person, I felt some sexual tension. reply link iwannatalktosampson november 18, 2013, 10:11 amreading this made my stomach turn. what you took as complaining was probably your boss joking (and maybe being kind of inappropriate but if you have a super relaxed work environment i could see it)…basically, you took what may have been said in a joking manner, or what may have been slightly inappropriate, and a brief four year old flirtation and somehow twisted that around to fit your fantasy of your boss having “super seekrit feelings for you. he and i started setting up my desk, and within two minutes of our hug, he said, "yeah, my girlfriend and i broke up. and when romance blooms at the office—especially with the boss—it’s disruptive to other employees, triggering questions about fairness, favoritism, transparency, credibility and accountability. i was head over heels for him, but i think we're all in agreement that sleeping with your boss isn't a great color on anyone. i deeply care about my boss and worry about him when he is under stress or sick. link fabelle november 18, 2013, 11:38 amyeah, i bet he really is afraid of that (sexual harassment lawsuit)—lw, if you “care deeply” for your boss, like you say, thennnn the best thing for him would be your departure from whatever company this clusterfuck is going down at? six months after my first trip to chicago, i went back for more meetings and a work holiday party with 800 clients and other people in the ad sales industry. reply link mylaray november 18, 2013, 11:40 amlw, you sound mentally ill and/or very unstable. i was right =) reply link bittergaymark november 19, 2013, 12:34 amthis letter was mindblowing… link taylor november 19, 2013, 12:56 pmand not in a good way… link kmj november 18, 2013, 12:53 pmi don’t see the behavior of the boss as all that inappropriate.

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*i wanted to edit to say that i don’t believe the boss is completely in the clear here either. why on earth would anyone think it’s appropriate to have that conversation with their boss? cheating on my spouse is disgusting and would make me feel guilty. i got home that night, i told my roommates that i felt like i had just had a great first date—with my boss. do i do if my boss starts following me on social media? i was like that with my husband, too, but we grew to love each other and it worked out and they will probably work out fine, too.’s looking for signs that he loves her, but that’s just because she’s in love – in my view she doesn’t need any therapy for that. link honeybeenicki november 18, 2013, 11:55 ami agree it’s not necessarily inappropriate to talk about sex (we do it at our office, up to and including my boss asking questions about artificial insemination), but i think the lw is crossing all kinds of lines and making people uncomfortable. yes, you did something very, very stupid – confessing to your boss that you love him. whether the boss cheats or not has nothing to do with this lw, you know? you have officially entered that category of women not to be trusted around my husband. he then said that he understands that married people have crushes on other people and that we are higher animals because we can choose to be with one person. but am sorry to have to tell her that a:her love is unrequited since he did not reciprocate b: she is lucky to have her job and she needs to be self contained, self reliant and project a professional aura for both her sake and her boss’s if she truly cares about him and c: she should stop clutching at straws. reply link ann april 28, 2014, 6:10 pmokay, pregnancy is tough on marriages at times, but is it really appropriate for a boss to tell his employees that he couldn’t have sex with his wife while she was pregnant ? and as for your boss, i feel so bad for his wife and child. if he cheats its totally on him, but she is disrespectful to our marriage for saying these things and i want to keep people who would disrespect my family, away from my family.

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i wish i could say something to your boss as well because this guy is just a piece of work too. it’s like going to a new school, where you get to start over and reinvent yourself to be the person you want to be, starting now, and no one needs to know about the horrid boss incident that, thankfully, did not result in disaster and that need not define you. my boss and i started inching closer to each other on the dance floor, and at one point he grabbed my hand and twirled me. the first day, my boss, justin (not his real name), came up to me to say hi while i was setting up my voicemail. one of my colleagues said, "yeah, she used to work here. this is particularly true for someone who is your boss and who is already married to someone else. we started chatting about our industry and my new job, and then, toward the end of the bottle, we got onto the subject of how our friends from the small towns we grew up in got married at a young age—and how neither of us saw our lives going that way. was class president, captain of the field hockey team and not to brag, but i was in girl scouts until my senior year of high school. justin is still my boss, it can be hard to work together because of our past. i think if you put even 1/4 of the effort into your marriage you have into this obsession with your boss, your boss would soon be irrelevant and your marriage would be thriving. let me stick my care all deep up in you. this guy is your boss, he’s married and he’s got a kid. kindergarten, when anyone would ask me what my parents did, i would proudly reply, "they're bosses. (perhaps those two things should be reversed in terms of importance…)and finally… “when i mention something fun that my husband and i did, he seems to want to do the same thing and right away texts his wife about it. like when would it ever be appropriate for you to tell your boss you have a crush on him? honestly tough love it does not sound like he is into you at all and as you have wisely mentioned even if he were you are married and he is so nothing can come of it.

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reply link bossy italian wife november 18, 2013, 10:25 amlw, if i were you i would back off! a week after my trip, he ended up coming to the new york office for another company holiday party. months ago, i told my boss that i have feelings for him. reply link thatgirl november 18, 2013, 11:05 ami have this same impression of the boss. i slept with my boss, but i also married him. i mean, i’ve talked to my boss (who is a single, 42 year old guy) about my personal life before. link bethany november 18, 2013, 12:05 pmi was planning on getting botox for my 30th for the exact same wrinkle! and if this boss was my husband, i could definitely see him coming home and telling me about the whack job he works with. reply link stonegypsy november 18, 2013, 9:49 amyou know, i totally understand *having* an inappropriate crush. my first weeks on the job, justin and i talked via instant message and on the phone about his brother getting married, my sister moving to new york, and other details i wouldn't normally discuss with just any old coworker. i leaned in closer, and he put his arm around my chair. was the first time that i had slept with anyone since breaking up with my boyfriend, and the sex was really good—even better than it had been with my ex at the end of our relationship, when sleeping together kind of felt like a chore. your boss doesn’t love you, and you have made him very uncomfortable. link thatgirl november 18, 2013, 2:46 pmi get what you are saying, and maybe i said it wrong…but not wanting a woman who openly invites my husband to have an affair with her, often, no matter how many times/ways he says “no” is not wrong to me. had a client event planned for my first night in the city. think the biggest clue for you that he is not interested was him saying “then he kept saying that he was married with a baby, and questioned why i was telling him this.

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link katie november 18, 2013, 10:40 amhonestly, i think a good amount of people who married young have a … inexperienced, or immature, worldview about dating and relationships, just because they have only their own expirences to draw from. as our coworkers started to go home one by one, he became more touchy-feely and started grabbing my waist. it is important for a boss to be discreet, but there are plenty of oversharers in all walks of life, even management, that aren’t sharing details just to woe a subordinate. i guess those parts were easy for me to believe since i’ve had jobs where comments like those – and sometimes worse – were made allll the time (it’s one reason i really love my current job – we’re friendly and talk about our lives outside work, but nobody’s badmouthing their spouse). i would be livid if my husband talked about our sex life to a female coworker. their issues whatever they are, he should be trying to work out with his wife… honestly, they sound like normal married people problems. but then this year came around and i thought of a bunch of other stuff i wanted to buy myself. link iwannatalktosampson november 18, 2013, 12:00 pmfunny you should say that, last year on my birthday i promised myself i would buy myself botox for this birthday to get rid of this dumb forehead wrinkle i have. i started my job as an account executive in advertising sales, i was 23 and had been living in new york city for a year. and may i add that if you put the energy that you’re putting into your boss into your marriage, you could revitalize it. the onus is on him if there was infidelity, but i don’t want my husband around anyone who so badly disrespects our marriage (male or female). he said, "yeah, some of my friends got married so they could have sex," justin said. it doesn’t matter what he feels about you (it sounds like maybe he had fun flirting with you before he was married, but has chosen to remain faithful to his wife). that is not the behavior of a married man and father. i hung out with my girlfriends, saw an astrologer (i'm a scorpio sun, capricorn rising, which explains a lot), wrote a movie with my bff, worked hard, and did me., i can see why some people are saying the boss was being inappropriate in talking about his sex life, but depending on the dynamics, i can see a clueless man reaching out to a female friend or co-worker that they have a closer relationship and venting and maybe hoping they’d have some insight to share or assure them it’s normal and it will pass.

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i’m ok with open relationships in my own life- so for me to write that you are out of line means you are out of line. link cleopatra_30 november 18, 2013, 9:37 am“i made it clear that i didn’t intend on anything happening between us and that my husband (of 20 years) is my best friend and our marriage is a good one. reply link landygirl november 18, 2013, 1:14 pmit is never really appropriate for a boss to discuss such things with his subordinate. though i would have to be blind not to notice how attractive he was, i told myself he was off-limits since he was my boss. i said, "regardless of whether there were feelings, you're my boss, and you can't pull stuff like that on me. reply link landygirl november 18, 2013, 11:18 amlw, you say you’ve been married for 20 years but this letter sounds like it was written by a 16 year old girl. i trust my husband around any women, including ones like this. you can get a new job – or move to a new department or whatever is available – to distance yourself from your boss and start over! i would immediately and violently throw up all over my boss if he ever said something like that to me. he then said that he understands that married people have crushes on other people and that we are higher animals because we can choose to be with one person. we worked on the second bottle, we started talking about what dating is like in a big city, and i told him that i had recently broken up with my boyfriend.!🙂 reply link lemongrass november 18, 2013, 11:54 amyou are a piece of work. like, in what world do you tell your boss you have feelings for him? surely you can see how confessing your feelings to your married boss as a married woman was really, really stupid and counterproductive. ~maybe~, maybe, maybe he had a harmless crush on you, but—judging by his statement of “married people have crushes on other people… we are higher animals because we can choose to be with one person”—he understands that adults who are in committed, monogamous relationships shouldn’t *act* on crush-y feelings. link lyra november 18, 2013, 12:16 pmwhen i was with my ex, one of the girls who he was “friends” with also had a huge crush on him and started sending me hate messages from a fake facebook account.

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