He still goes on his online dating profile

He still checks his online dating profile

anyways, we still met up and spoke very very regularly over the next 6 months.! now i’m really starting to panic – so without hesitation and with some authority, i look him straight in the eyes and tell him in front of everyone – ‘that is not a for sure thing yet, as we still have not talked about the details’. do yourself a favor if you don’t want to end it at least deactivate your dating profiles. he asked me a month into the relationship to be his girlfirend ive met his family and friends. i know that when you are dating you should do this but i just can’t and he said he was the same. he says he is, yet i’m not so sure at this point. i told him he shouldn’t be taking his frustrations out on me & that he can date my ‘friend’.? this guy i’m dating logs in around 4 times a day…. he has had it rough…a lot of ups and downs with his ex who has refused to let him see his babygirl.?Now it’s been 4 months and i wanted to see if he’s being true to his promises and i decided to check. completely deleted my profile dont know if i should make a new one or what. am glad you were inspired to share and contribute in this way. he checks his emails in front of me and i didn’t think much of it that he still got emails from another dating website and he had said he couldn’t remember the password. a week goes by and it still says active within 24hours.”, he says he was already feeling that way for me, but this whole incident deepened it for him. the last time i went round he had a close friend from home staying for a week (he’s from the states) but still wanted me to come over.” so obviously, i creeped today and you can see (even if you’re not a member with a profile) if a username of a profile exists. then in april he tells me he spoke to his 19 year old son who was still living at home but looking for his own place, that the game plan was to be out of his house by june 1st, that is when he would be moving in with me, so his son better get active in finding an apartment. first, the idea that you calling his phone or texting him would drain his phone battery is a lie, although i imagine he’s going to use that event if pressed on why he’s not talking to you. i made up a fake profile and decided to check to see if he would respond. he told me he was going away for 2 days for work (this is true), so i took that as a hint not to text because he was busy. let’s be honest here; if he’s on a dating site he is still looking. was noticing a few things even when i’d be around his neck of the woods and invite him to join me and my friends he wouldn’t. i confronted him about it and told him how much it confused me and hurt me, since i thought we were still good, and that he wanted things to work out. i checked the messages tonight and it said he was online now so i messaged him with hi how are you, he didn’t respond. we were on his laptop and i was on youtube. he replied jokingly asking if i stalk him haha and that he didn’t know why because he turned off his roaming of data to not have a cost explosion. obviously what you describe doesn’t sound good (in the sense that it seems like he’s telling you one thing and then says something online that is different to your “sister”). he said he was checking for my profile and was curious. can’t really speak to how much hope there is in this situation but maybe instead of walking away, you just open your options as well? i don’t think that means that you should have concerns that you’re being cheated on, but i do think you should have concerns around “why does he feel that he still needs to be checking his dating profile? you both have a profile on match and have been intimate on more than one occasion, one or both of you should step up to the plate and discuss the options. it’s hard to judge why his profile is up otherwise – it might be because he’s still looking to date others or it might just be that he’s forgotten about it. i would dump anyone who made it clear they were monitoring me in this way this soon into a relationship because it communicates “needy and controlling. he asked me to come to his area next time and i just nodded. i got another funny feeling one day, agian while waiting for his text. after 2 months he asked me to be his girlfriend – actually an old college friend of his we met on the street asked if i was his gf and then a few mins later i told him that i did not want to continue to see him unofficially so he asked me to be his girlfriend and said he’d tried to ask many times but was too shy. i’m having doubts if he’s still interested but i view his page anonymously and he hasn’t been active for 2 weeks and also removed his pictures. why only pick pretty girls to talk to to be his new friend? once the “exclusivity” talk came up (from my end): i asked if he was still on that dating site, because i took my profile down about two weeks after we met. seemed we were perfect together with him professing his love and talking of marriage. met someone in my home area on an online dating site. all that being said, i do have some family issues in my life, i have a brother who has a drug/alcohol problem who is always getting in trouble that i have to look out for, my mother passed away 5 years ago but it still feels like yesterday. last time i asked him why he went on dating sites he said when i wasn’t around he felt lonely. come to find out that she was actually his online girlfriend. i, the obsessor that i am when i genuinely have feelings for someone, made a fake profile and emailed him “hi! i had asked him about this issue a few times and each time he just informs me that he is not cheating on me or dating anyone else. – i need to wrap this up, it’s way longer than i meant for it to be! he’s also a bit of a dipstick when it comes to computers (we’re both in our 50s and haven’t grown up with them, though i’m a lot more computer literate than he is) and given how i’ve seen him struggle with searches/purchases on ebay, i can appreciate that he might not be able to get his head round hiding a profile on a website so i haven’t cut and run. ive taken family vacations with him and his father so im thinking things are just fine. so i checked online later monday and low and behold he created a new profile recently online and he was on that day.’ve been talking with a man i met on a dating site for a couple of months now. only problem is that i now trust no-one and everyone i meet on the net is suspect, although now i keep my profile up (even though i do not use it) so at least they know i my profile is still active. if you want to make him become obsess with you, you should just go back to the one you were before, the one who attracted this guy to fall in love with you. ‘dated’ a few guys when i decided to try the online forum. it’s like the old joke where a wife walks in on her husband with another woman and he tells his wife, “it wasn’t me you saw” and she accepts that. i’ve lived in a military town my whole life, and i avoided dating military men for that entire reason. he called me his girlfriend and said that he doesn’t see anyone else. – it sounds like the confusing areas in your relationship might go beyond just the dating profile. we met on a dating site and were surprised to find that even though we live in a small town we had never met. it was identical to the match account he had (still has actually, but there’s been no activity for months). i know he likes me cause his actions shows it. i have never done online dating myself but because of my boyfriends profile i now log in under a fake profile every day to check his activity. and eharmony screen pretty well, and if a guy has an active profile on a site like one of those, it usually (and i would say 99. i guess my question is, if it’s almost been a year and his feelings haven’t changed since we first started seeing each other and he’s still going on dating websites, should i even try to thinkta he would someday want a relationship? i removed my profile at the end of the first week or so explaining to him that it was my personal preference/instinct and that it placed no pressure or expectation on him. i admitted to snooping through his phone, and laid out everything i had found and discovered. i texted him and said that i think if he wants to take this relationship seriously as he says (kids, marriage, moving in together, etc) then it’s probably a good idea to delete the profiles.’ve checked and he’s not been online since i mentioned it so hopefully it’s made him think. yes first time i get an invitation to his place. on sunday (and i knew he was going to do this) he cancelled saying he had to go to meet his folks for lunch he didn’t even reschedule. i think having the talk on this will clear that up and if he still won’t take his profile down, i think that will be the sign that something is really wrong. he suprised me first thing in the morning with an execpected visit, we went to a braves game that we had scheduled a week before and then he invited me to spend the night at his place. we both want a faithful and loyal partner, and since his last girlfriend cheated on him constantly while he was deployed to iraq (3 times), he said he really doesn’t have time for games. saw each other every weekend and we would stay the night at each others house…i trusted this guy, he made me feel loved by his actions.” this type of thing has a lot more to do with  our own personal insecurities and not so much with what the other person is or isn’t doing. i told him that i couldn’t continue on with him though if he still wanted to see other women. a friend advised me to keep dating other people, but i’ve never really worked that way… but i do feel i need to back off a bit from this man. an extra tricky thing here is the kind of research that it’s taken you to reveal this activity. during that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. soon after he tells me his parents want him to start thinking about seeing a family friend’s daughter from the same background as them. mean we are just getting to know each other, and it’s still very new, but since i had asked him if he is still on dating sites or talking to other women, i feel like he wasn’t sincere by telling me he wasn’t. after the first week he was asking me to be his girl. of the last couple of weeks ive had this nagging suspicious feeling and i couldn’t put my finger on it. my ‘dating’ experience had been extremely limited, despite being married and divorced twice.” ( he’s talking about my profile) so that bothers me since we haven’t had the talk yet. let’s just say that hypothetically speaking another attractive women sent him a message to his profile. do not trust online dating anymore too many bad experiences and too many shady characters. that for the first time since his divorce, he is ready for a full on commitment, and that it just took him a really long time to get there. shares so much about himself with meso why is he pushing me away like this. i don’t blame the guy in this instance, but the girl for jumping into bed with someone without any clear idea of what each person expected from the relationship. i took mine down right away and i just figured he always had his up. has his ego been hurt that i was online when he had removed the earlier account? he asked me to be his girlfriend shortly after we got the apartment. so it’s been three weeks now since we agreed to be exclusive but he still have his profile up and checking it. yet my gut says there is something not right about his profile being up still. the guy is playing around online because he doesn’t see you as serious and if you let it continue, you lose your own self respect – much more important than him (he will dump you when he meets someone he prefers). we met online mid june and became sexua lly active early august. later that night i noticed he had taken his profile off and i was very happy. i told him i appreciate his honesty and that if he still wanted to ‘date’ (not spend nights, yada yada) while we both date others, to keep our connection going, i was ok with that. i’ve been dating a guy for a couple of months and we are sleeping together (safely). im not sure what site i met him on or if he is even on a dating site now. i asked why he was online recently, and he said it had to be a mistake, that he must have accidentally pushed a button on his phone that logged him on without him even realizing it. have noticed that if you get email notifications from match just opening one of the emails logs you in and shows you have been online. when i met someone very special, i did that periodically for awhile just to see his picture or double checking some of his interests for date planning. and simple, i would say in general if you are dating a guy and you agree to be exclusive and then you see that they’re active on a dating site (or sites), then i would assume he’s still actively shopping the field. he apologized 5 days later online that is was not me and said i was so gracious etc. you will always be wondering in the back of your mind if he’s created new online profiles. i am protecting myself from a man who had to answer an email to some woman on a dating site to be respectful. we havent spoken properly about this as this was late last night and when i rang i woke him. this is how a lot of us get hurt, by not accepting the truth that’s in front of our faces. vulnerable anxious feeling you have, like, this is really really good and suddenly there is something to lose here and you don’t want to lose it? he’s been too busy to delete it and also his friend is using it to find women. when i saw him last night i casually (on the outside) mentioned when deleting my profile that i’d seen he was still going online. i’ve met his family and friends, he takes me out everywhere and even wants to book time off with me. i think you getting your profile down and then asking him where he sees things going is the best thing to do. we started off as being friends with each other and now started dating but he never mentioned about being exclusively but when i check the dating site each day he seems to be on it very often as i am very confused as to why when he informed me that he is my boyfriend and still looking for someone else. he says hes not dating/sleeping with anyone else but why is he still online? about 2 weeks after we met, i cancelled my match account, and closed out my pof profile. so i texted him jokingly that then whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm.

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then i can still look online and see that he is on those sites almost everyday. i checked online today and it said that he was online today..he wasn’t being extra sweet to me in his texts…one night from my hidden account i looked on match and noticed he had his profile up, he even uploaded a picture i took of him. he may have secretly been hoping for a commitment from you after having this conversation and when that didn’t happen he’s now not sure the relationship is going where he had hoped it would. i met someone online a year ago and we started dating six months ago. you other questions on if his story is true or if he was using you for sex…i really have no idea. story is i am over 45 and back into dating (i was single for 3 years). literlally with in mins of saying good nite to me he was online, he disappeared for a few min and then came back up and now his profile was saying he was looking for a relationship, so it went from nothing serious to looking for! he claims a friend must have hacked his account as a joke and that he still wants stuff to work. well after we had sex and all he is still interested cause we went out again and i told him i had my period and he didn’t care. we were casually talking about something and he slipped something about the site and i asked him: “wait, are u still on the site” he answered that yes he’s still on it but it’s “just there”. so i began “snooping” and found that even though after 6 months he was still using the dating site that we met on, but he is doing it from his phone so that i can’t check. this online dating drama made me push him & drove him ‘crazy’. and this was the first time in my life that i had actually dated a variety of men at the same time. saw him one more time a few days later, then he said hes getting a hip surgery and has to work a lot of ot plus his daughter is moving to another city for college with her things hes been moving her.! it’s going to be hard to trust a guy after this. he also said that i should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. would have to say that if he’s still logging into a dating site he’s probably still shopping for a better deal. i know it’s fair game and it’s just a first date, but i can’t help but think this way. all this bull about the guy being scared of commitment and just being a guy is bull crap.. but at the same time i cant understand the need to have a conversation with guys on a dating site? in the cases where his profile is still up, i would expect that another month after bringing up your concerns is all it should take for him to decide (and it really should be much faster than this). he goes to this site and changes his status without thinking about his profile text and logs out.%d bloggers like this:Dear Captain Awkward, I'm a serially-single female in my mid-20s who has only been in two relationships. reflects well on him, or his self-esteem, or the way that he feels about your relationship. he still gets emails when people “check him out” or message him. a couple of weeks went by and he still hadn’t taken it down. so, i asked “why do you have the profile up when you know it bothers me this way? i’ve been to a work picnic once but haven’t met his friends . its a similar situation to the above scenarios – he really has his act together and has made it very clear that he is sure that he wants me in his life (so he doesn’t say anything like “i’m not sure” or “i can’t commit”). however, i was feeling something was going on that i did not know about and so i checked his email (which i should not have done) and i saw some messages that were from meet me. until the conversation happens, i would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up., as you mentioned, you see him signed into the dating site only when you are also logged into the dating site. a lot of guys (this one included), the clarity at which a woman is able to say something exists isn’t clear to us at all (and i speak as a married man who has conversations like this from time to time with an exasperated wife who just doesn’t understand why i don’t get the obvious). hours from where i live, so we knew that dating each other wouldn’t be that easy, but we also said to each other that we would make it work. i had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active. i suppose if she’s just dating you casually, it may be less stressful to think that you might be cheating on her.. and then back to the sex thing he thinks he was going to get some from me but i told him not till “the break is over and the sites are deleted” (this is all texting btw) and he goes “you’re demanding stuff because you said were not going to have sex till i delete match”…ummm duh… i said yes and i have a good point to, that don’t you think? if i were you i’d have dumped him already no matter how much i still love him, and i believe many of your friends who truly care about u have told you that already. however, after a while i think we both stepped back slightly due to this situation. i recently found that he had set up a profile on plenty of fish. he said it all has actually caused him to love me even more and strengthen his commitment to me, which he acknowledges might sound strange, but that is the affect it had for him.. he has gone from asking me to move in to changing his mind. i get that you can view profiles for free… but my thing is that if a person is into you seeing you more than once a week – nine times out of ten you have nothing to worry about… dating more than one person is not something most guys are good at and let’s face it… it is too damn expensive. there is no reason for him to be on this site. i also took more time to look at his profile than i originally did the last time, and i noticed that at some point he uploaded a recent picture that he actually just posted to facebook back in april. find it very difficult to give advice on this topic because there are often so many things going on that i can’t really predict. i have been on the online dating scene for 3 yrs and have been on sooooooo many dates and havent found anyone who i am remotely interested in until 3 and a half months ago. met a guy online we hit it off really great. he is still getting messages from other women on there and i told him that she accidentally hit it (i didn’t even act mad) and he turned it around like it was me and said i was probably snooping (this time i really wasn’t! heard from him twice while away – one sentence texts, with no greeting or emoticon – i answered and then he never responded – both times were like this. unless he lies to you and says he never goes on there, don’t make a big deal out of it. does he really think that i will be happy to settle for being his ‘she’ll do in the meantime’ girl?, he is still active on the sight and logs in. as a matter of fact, making an issue of things at this point could create a problem when no problem previously existed. mean we are just getting to know each other, and it’s still very new, but since i had asked him if he is still on dating sites or talking to other women, i feel like he wasn’t sincere by telling me he wasn’t. towards the beginning, we decided to go withthe flow and see where this relationship would go. i don’t wanna pressure him, as i want him to make the choice on his own, but it’s still so annoying that he lied, twice actually. i noticed that he was not his normal self around me. ive been very patient about the situation because hes so good to me and my daughter he cooks for us every single day, and hes told me that he saw me as wife material and introduced me to a lot of ppl in his family. he know it bothered me the first day he “forgot his phone” so why would he keep doing it unless he was purposefully ignoring me possibly? during the date, he continued to say the same things that he’s been saying to me and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. he wanted to meet me on sunday evening but i couldn’t and then i was shocked to see that he had repeatedly logged into his account. would then suggest that if things are still going well between the two of you in a few weeks that you let him know that you would like to be girlfriend/boyfriend and see what his response is. his parents are apparently reaaaaaaaally keen on this idea and so are hers. and barely said much at all…this past week i got a bad feeling so checked the dating site where we met, and his profile (which wasn’t there a week before) was back up. but, i suddenly asked him about his still online in online dating or not? i managed to close the tab i was on by mistake and when i opened what i thought was the right one i found it was his dating website profile.“when i saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. situation is a little bit different, so i don’t know if it fits this category…i’ve been doing the online thing for just about 3 months now, and have met some nice and not so nice men. i think this is a breach of trust and i want to confront him gently. or you’ll just chalk it up to this person being a jerk that mislead you or is sneaking around behind your back. this could remove some of your problems but it would also be nice for those who are still dating online and trying to find someone interested (and obviously you’re not!?Recently, i started dating a man i began to realise i really really liked. i’d be careful: if he’s now dating another girl and things don’t work out with her, he’s likely to try and come back and make you feel like everything was fine and you were overreacting. jenn – i actually touch on this issue a bit in my article on when a guy disappears after a few dates. not by his charm or anything, but by the effort he puts into being with me and everything. then i said how about we just put this off till next week but he seemed eager to see me cause he said no let’s meet on saturday. he brought up my fake profile but i told him i did ‘t want to talk a put it cos i am still hurting. i also think if she didn’t respond the way i wanted i might put my profile back up. of december, it seems his fwb girl pretty much cut him off. if he really cares about you, being open and honest like this shouldn’t bother him. along really well communicate during the week and he comes over even when he is exhausted just to see me wants to meet kids and his kids we have had 6 dates and wants to go out from the beginning not to b too serious go slow and asked me two weeks ago to settle down didn’t really answer him but told him i like him. but what if he doesn’t… i cannot go on for years knowing the profile is there. this might provide him time to come around while at the same time giving yourself a chance to find someone who’s looking for the same thing you’re looking for. anyway, i wasn’t worried about the profile as we were only a few weeks into dating so i had just forgotten about it. now, his social media already setting private and i can’t do anything unless messanging him. you had the conversation about killing both profiles there is no excuse to open the emails or winks even now that you know the tidbit about the cookie auto log in i just told you about. – that’s its okay to continue chatting and even dating online while dating and building a relationship with one of us. he told me he’s not into the casual thing with other girls, i know he’s active on his dating profile. in fact i think your boyfriend is not only a selfish dude but also an immature grown-up, he is throwing away things he keeps claiming to be his favorite and eternity, uf he;s a grown-up and he knows he needs you to be around, he should just make up his mind and do what’s the best for both of you, but he doesn’t. this means no going against his grain or his rules. he says he really likes me and is into me and still getting to know me. he came all the way here (drove 40 minutes in practically a blizzard), and his birthday was three days ago so i made him a cute blanket. he might already think of the two of you as exclusive (at which point you’d want to talk about taking any profiles down if you want to be exclusive as well). we were approved he never moved in because he has his own home. it’s best to be apprehensive with your guard up than to be naive and let the relationship flow as if nothing is wrong when you know he’s online looking for his next conquest! low and behold, he had been online sometime in the last week, and had added new pictures. ive broght it to his attention so i hope it is removed soon. so as that sixth week approaches, i think it would be best if you let him know that you’re bothered by his profile still being up and see how he responds. another problem is that a few times he had informed me that he is confused and do not know what he wants in life or keeps on changing his problem which makes me feel so confused and disappointed. only, only way i could see him logging onto a dating site affecting your relationship with him is if you let it get in your head and then bring it up with him and then he thinks “yikes, why is she monitoring my online activity and acting like i owe her an explanation for it after a few dates? went through this with my now ex bf i met in july 2011 from match. i think you are the opposite of me although we share sth in common, i am also an observant girl when i am dating online, which is what i am doing now. he also talks about personal stuff with him and his whole family and i really thought we were connecting. on friday (13 jan) he tells me that he was going to his mates place for dinner so if i’d like to join. the first is that i actually find it really amusing and wish he would let me read some of the messages because i get all, “ahaha, ladiez, this wonderful man is not available!.as your understanding of it may be different from his. i want to trust him, and i have… but i found out that he still visits his datig profile regularly. on one hand i am his emotional outlet person but he won’t commit. it doesn’t work out, you have options, and the same good qualities that made this person like you will attract other people. he said that it was everything about me that turned his heart around and brought out the person he used to be a long time ago, and that he absolutely did not want to lose me. you don’t want his profile up and that’s what i think you should have said. – this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to me. tell him if he’s going to continue posting that he is single and updating his site, that you are too and you are also going to start seeing other people. i’ve met his parents and extended family and he has met my parents.  it’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but i want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about? you could continue to date him if you want, but if he says that he loves you but refuses to take down his profile even when he knows it bothers you…well, i find that very concerning. we have been calling/texting each other about everyday since we met online. so i took a week to decide if this was someone i really wanted to be in a relationship with because we both have kids, and i wanted to make sure that if i commited i am doing so with the intent that i will stick around for awhile knowing we will start to integrate with the children.

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however, if you go another month without any change, i think you might want to keep your options a bit more open as well (and be sure to let her know this in a gentle way as she’s going to be sensitive to feeling like she’s being lied to). but revenge wasn’t sweet as he then sent me an email about his lack of self confidence and his poor self image and how it gave him such an ego boost as his mother never loved him blah, blah, blah, blah. i’m just trying to have a clear perspective on this. he actually emailed my fake profile on friday & then on sunday. in my heart i feel that when a person man/woman is in a serious relationship on line dating sites should be out. i was kind of shocked – as i was never part of this ‘game plan’ discussion, in fact he had not discussed anything further with me about living together! so, again, not defending him but i prefer his response over a lot of other responses i’ve seen. is very kind of you to look for the best in this situation. am thinking of giving him a few weeks and see what happens but at the same time i am concerned as well and confused as to why his profile is still active and he often logs on. admit the date was perfect but i had bit of committment issue to because i got hurt in the past and due to this i dumped him on the third date but we quickly patched things up. – i’m guessing here but if i were going to tell a woman i was dating that i had taken down my profile, it would normally be because i would be hinting to her that i want to date each other exclusively. lied to me when he told me he had not said ‘i love you’ to anyone since his ex-wife. but (and there is a huge but here) i took my profiles off any sites that i was on. however, if we use your examples of the real world versus online dating (and really a case that you appear to make that they should operate more similarly): if it were the real world instead of online dating wouldn’t you have been more firm that he shouldn’t be talking to another woman/making himself available to other women? if the two of you have worked out some understanding on a difference between exclusive and girlfriend/boyfriend, isn’t he still headed towards breaking that agreement? do you have any advice about how to start it, things to avoid, or things to definitely bring up in this talk? he starting to show signs that he is interested in me and i am meeting his friends already and its been 2 weeks of dating. then he gets an email from an interested woman and he says, “oh wow, i need to update my profile”. continued seeing each other and finally i just told him that i had made it clear in my profile that i was seeking a long term relationship and that he had indicated that in his profile as well. whether his behavior was “just” ego-stroking or serious looking doesn’t matter–i found it repulsive and a waste of a mature person’s time. i said nothing, because minimizing still means he still gets to talk to them.’d suggest talking with him and encouraging him to let you know when he’s feeling down or tempted to create a profile…but you need to be open and understanding if he’s going to be that honest with you (so no attacking if he admits he’s feeling that way). he had a couple of messages received – one of which was from my fake profile. the worst part is that he is doing this while i am sitting in the same room, but hides what site he is on! looking back, i think if someone is active on an online dating site, while he is dating you, he is probably a player. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days. and then i saw that he actually had been online in the last 3 or so days. if he’s just looking for his ego stroking, he shouldn’t need it right now should he? i don’t think you should feel stuck though – obviously this is a relationship you should work on getting away from (but i understand your concern given his response). his response was “that the site is for friends, just like facebook” i said him he has got to be kidding because it is a dating site not a friend site and what would he do when girls want to meet him?***ladies please,i know this is very hard to understand and comprehend and digest, but plain and simple if you have been in a relationship with a guy and it has been over 2 months or so and he has told you that you are exclusive and that he does not want to be with anyone else, yet he still keeps his profile up even after you have confronted him… plain and simple, the guy is not that into you! i met a guy on a dating app, we went on a date. i hope all guys aren’t like this because it seems like it. after everything this guy has done for me…i just don’t get it…commitment issues? a guy checking his dating profile isn’t always a sign that he’s unhappy and based on your agreement i guess it’s fine for him to do so. met him through an online dating site six months ago. i understand not wanting to fight and dropping it but his excuse for being on the site was pretty weak…. i asked him why, he said because this girl called dion had recently been to korea and he just wanted to ask information about traveling to korea., if my wife told me that she put an online dating profile up because she was a pisces…that wouldn’t fly with me! #2you’ve been dating for some time and have recently become exclusive when you’re friend stumbles upon his  or her profile while searching through matches. he has no idea that i know about this site. we met online and things are moving in a more serious direction. unfortunately it seems that at this point you should have a conversation with him about this and where he sees things going…i’d hate to think that he’d be using you for a place to live (and hopefully that’s not it). he had deactivated ,blocked me and deleted his old account so that it had looked to me he was offline yet had reopened a new one! you don’t have to be aggressive when you talk with him about this but i would be direct and ask him straight out where you stand and explain the confusion he’s creating for you. im sooo scared to lose this guy and dont know what to think right now. he continues to be online at unusual times (really late at night or early in the morning).’s perfectly normal for people to still be active on a dating site before you’ve made things official. if for any reason i do a search some time from now and i find him anywhere near a dating website, i’m gone, no explanations this time. it’s a good idea to let him know that the active profile is the source of much of this feeling (leaving this out could leave many of us guys, who can be dense when it comes to relationships, confused or surprised). he is now back on the dating website daily again. his profile was still on but he took down his pictures and remained inactive for a month but just yesterday went online and reattached his pictures. he not only read the email but he also viewed my profile. however, i would do the opposite if i found out the guy i am with is doing all these dating app things behind me. had a lot of first and second dates with online dating that just fizzled out. so based on my observation i am assuming that he was checking his profile for a minute or two then logged out. i have met his family, he has met mine and i have come to love his 2 children ages 6 & 9. i go round, we hang out with his housemates (2 guys and a girl), he’ll cook me dinner and we’ll all go on a night out. i’ve talked to a lot of women where this type of situation can drag on for months only to see the man start dating another woman. he did & told me his dad’s very ill – he seemed so upset. but feeling like he needs to keep his options open for a little longer. that was the last communication we had, and i am kind of glad that i didn’t say anything about the badoo profile, but i am now feeling uncertain of what really is going on, and if i should leave it for now or until he comes back in october? if he can’t bring himself to take his profile down no matter how much you talk about it, i think you need to consider keeping your options open as well. he said that his ex did not want his daughter at my house anymore and that was that. he did and had no problem giving me his number! he said that when he’s feeling down he can’t go to the doctors, as it will go on his medical records that he is depressed, which will affect the court case currently happening with his daughter. – it sounds to me like you were exclusive at some point (at least in his mind) and then later, without you knowing exactly why, you stopped being exclusive (again, at least in his mind). i’m happy to say i accomplished all those things and with support from my best friend, decided to start dating again – but i was certainly not looking for a relationship or to get serious. if you see that he’s active all the time, you could send him an email from your dating account to his and ask him why he’s so active on the site. – i can’t really speak to what’s going on in his head. i stopped checking his personal accounts and email after we got in a big fight about whether he was cheating on me or not. this morning i texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. am a woman in my early 50’s and i have been dating my boyfriend who is a year older than me for about 8 months. the issue at the end was mostly mine, i invested myself too much on a relationship that didn’t have firm ground, now, if we had agreed on being exclusive before finding out about the new profile i would’ve not stayed with him, no matter what he said. he said that he hadn’t been on that one in months and didn’t even remember the login – even though it said he had been online literally right before i called him. met a guy online from okc in january 2014, i was evicted 6 weeks afterwards for violating my lease after letting family members stay with me. this would put our “relationship” on hold and already up to a tough test. this morning i texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. if after a week his is still up, you could try dropping hints: maybe mention that you took your profile down or talk about how you enjoy spending time with him. if being online and chatting to other girls was face to face lets say and you met a man in this way. none of this one foot in the bed and the other on the floor while exploring options. at this point, assuming you’re right, i’m not sure what other options you have. he asked me if he should take his profile down? if a couple weeks from now, you’re still feeling anxious and unsure?’ve been seeing this guy a little over 3 months now. anything, it will clarify what this term means for each of you. asks male dating expert if it’s a problem that the guy she’s been seeing for a month still checks his match. was dating a girl pretty regularly, seems like it was a fwb situation, but they both clearly felt more for each other and wanted more, but couldn’t seem to make the situation work for their lives at that point yet. has dating become so distorted that we don’t even know what’s acceptable behavior anymore? the fact that he has logged onto a dating site? had put my profile back on and started looking as well.?If you want someone committed to you, this doesn’t sound like the guy. but again, maybe i misunderstand what exclusive means in this case. met a guy on a dating website about 3 weeks ago, and ever since then (tons of long emails back and forth), we’ve been really attached. so, i had a feeling he was on the dating site again. meaning he would wait for my response to see what card he would pull out of his hat next….  my only point in bringing this up is that we always want to leave room for self examination and ask, “could any part of this be coming from me? had not been looking at emails that came from his dating site, let along responding to them.” so i disabled my profile and stopped logging into the site. it feels so much like a relationship and that he is warminig to the idea, but we havent discussed it cos we cant due to his parents and their plans for him. you’ll start looking for clues on what this person could be hiding and then you’ll be the crazy lady hiding behind trees and lurking near wherever he or she goes.“the only, only way i could see him logging onto a dating site affecting your relationship with him is if you let it get in your head and then bring it up with him and then he thinks “yikes, why is she monitoring my online activity and acting like i owe her an explanation for it after a few dates? so this was just the tactic he needed to reel me in hook line and sinker! this guy always mentions me to his neighbors and friends but we dont have a label on it. but he would still talk to a few girls he met on okcupid on whatsapp. when i informed him i wasn’t he felt really bad and decided to remove his profiles, i told him he didn’t have to (mostly because i was determined to end it all anyway, i didn’t see the point), but he said i was too important for him to lose me over some dumb online profiles. i’m afraid if i put my profile back up that it will make the situation worse, plus i really don’t want to. started talking to a girl for around 2 weeks, we met on a dating website and have been talking daily. then this past month the texting died down a lot. we have been itimate and he told me he hasn’t been with anyone since he broke off his engagement last summer. he takes out so much time from his busy schedule to skype with me, which he initiates a lot, and he drove to see me and paid and was a huge gentleman. however there is one problem: his dating profile is still active. really, i can’t believe i have this as a resource, i’m so lucky! abruptly changed his mind because he suddenly “didn’t feel it” with me, i had a sneaking suspicion something. now i discovered by accident that he’s on a dating website a few weeks ago. so i took down my profile after we chat and plans to talk to him about our relationship. even if a woman had been cheated on, the message would still be “i’d like to commit to dating you”. this morning he told me he would try to consider my feelings, and *minimize* his frequency of talking to those girls. i even told him i had to get his confirmation because i have trust issues with previous guys cheating on me. off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.

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What To Do If the Person You're Dating Still Has an Active Online

if he is logging in…… he is looking or communicating and the bottom line is… you will never be able to trust him completely because this will always be in the back of your mind. what if this other guy he sees has a car and they meet up regularly? or have you been the one caught on a dating site? approach it from the stance that you want to understand where he’s coming from (but also that you think you should be taking the profiles down). in your case it sounds like he’s keeping it online (for whatever reason) but he’s also lying to you about it. i messaged a guy on a dating site and we texted for weeks before finally meeting up. both accounts are still “active” technically, but there hasn’t been any activity on either. his job is stressful right now, but in my mind, if you like someone a minute or two to send a quick hello is not a big deal. if he wasn’t interested , he could’ve said that when i texted him once during the no contact(cos he would’ve been thinking ” i think this girls still into me”) why make me think that he is still interested when he’s obviously not. they also indicated that to open an email or wink from the service from the associated account would show them as online. i told him again that it makes me feel as though i can’t trust him if his profile is still visible because that means he is still single. a man leaves his online dating profile active, what does it mean? so i texted him jokingly that then whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm. is so true, i can honestly say that given this is a very hard task to do as well as keep up with. i think it would be better to try to stay away from him at this point…he’s lied enough that it will be hard to tell if or when he starts telling the truth! we are talking and seeing each other, he met my friends and even introduced me to his. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. he still checks his profile each day but not multiple times per day. this may not be the most polite way to go about things, but it’s their prerogative. i am still not sure how to handle the situation. he also tells me that he hasn’t told any women that he loved them since his ex wife – and they have been divorced 11+ years at this point. i asked about it and to his credit -it is an old flame and he hasn’t been on the site since april. you two have ongoing sex in any form , have respect for yourself as well as her and anyone else you are whispering to in bed – and either become exclusive if its going well or let her find a man who knows her worth and would like to share life with her. he visited me one weekend (stayed in a hotel), i visited him the following weekend (stayed with him), two weekends pass and he came to visit me again this past weekend. he’s removed his dating profiles, although i don’t like that i had to get very demanding about that. hes very loving and affectionate which completely goes against the grain of him being emotionally closed off. this article seems to expose a type of man that is rotten to the core and is capable of using women without any conscience. since we see each other daily (he gets mad if we don’t) i just don’t know how to deal with this anymore and its taking its toll on me. he had asked me to meet his mom a few months ago, but we had to cancel and it has yet to happen. his last message though was that he was going to message me the next day. i kinda already mentioned about this… i dont know how to play it. i still think that’s a fine thing to do but more recently i’ve found myself encouraging women to be a bit more pro-active or aggressive (whereas changing your photo is rather passive-aggressive). i only work 5-6 hour days, and then i was back to staying at my place but we were still constantly seeing each other. is fabulous to have a weeded out process available in this day but the downside is evident. i know its wrong to snoop but i did i went on his cell phone and found that he has an open tagged account. this point i don’t want to even mention to him that i’m aware he’s quite active, especially on match which my sister says allows for various forms of communication with people unlike the site i’d met him on, where his original profile remains active. i’ve been dating a guy for a couple of months and we are sleeping together (safely). the 2nd time i had a little too many and it got a little too late and we ended up going back to his place and well you can guess what happened. give the guy a little breathing room to figure out his own mind, and trust that someone who likes you will do what he can to let you know and reassure you that he likes you. unfortunately i’m a bit of a worrier and now i’m worried about what his motives are. he knows i’m interested but yet he’s browsing online. that’s how things went for my wife and i when we met online. are you both okay having profiles up and options available? he’s all over the shop & i can’t handle this roller coaster. if he’s introducing this way to some people but that way to other people, i think you have a right to know where you stand. as i’ve said previously, if you can do this without anger or making him feel threatened, i think it will go better. wonder what he’ll think when he sees his fiance’s new profile there. am sorry to be negative here, but i dated a guy for three months that i met online…i noticed that his profile was still active and often he was checking it daily…i wanted to trust him so i did…i confronted him about it, but said that i trusted him and wanted him to take his profile down because he wanted to, not because i asked him to. have been on 5 dates with a guy who i met online, i really like him & feel like we have a good connection, but he has not yet mentioned exclusivity & deleting our profiles. he had told me earlier that he wanted to get off the dating site. he is introducing me to his dad (who lives out of state but is coming to visit) next week, so thats kind of a big deal but yet he is still doing this…help please! after 6 months of dating, he still introduces me as a friend to people he knows when we go out. so my question is should i be concern about his profile is still up and he’s still checking it, since i never mention or ask him to take it down. as i usually contact him 1st but he responds like right away, like he is sitting on his phone almost. hmm…i don’t think you should be looking for a way to blame yourself for his actions. so i agree with you guys, this needed improvement and i got around to it. i don’t know how it got to this point. we all went to his friend’s houseparty and we were holding hands and he even wanted me to sit on his lap because there weren’t enough chairs whilst we were there. i once again bring it up because i’m hurt and he proceeds to say he honestly thought it was nothing and had deleted the app and proceeded to even cancel his subscription in front of me. when it comes to me and dating i think i have the worst luck and i cant even get past the 3rd date with someone so i am always walking on pins and needles each time. i was dating a guy who i discovered had a secret dating profile. wish i could find an article more recent in regards to this topic. that being said, almost 100% of the time when i talk to women in this situation they want to follow the advice your friend is giving you: lay low, wait it out. only that, but the sexsearch profile showed that he had been active on it in the last 5 days. he claimed a guy he worked with asked him to check out and see if his wife was messing around. then i saw just two months ago he was texting w/ his buddies about have spring time itch again. expected both our profiles would remain active until we were certain we were right for each other and moved forward in the relationship. we chat/txt evey day without fail, he has been to my house few times now but i’ve never been to his. don’t know what to do at this point – my friends say just lay low, wait it out, don’t contact him anymore and see what happens – my gut is leading me into the mindset that he found someone else while i was away, or just decided he went too fast and is now backing off way too much. out of boredom i signed onto the dating site where i met for the first time in a long time. i deleted my profile ages ago, but this afternoon i had a look and he is still using it. told me the first day i hadnt talked to him that he forgot his phone at his friends, and id like to believe him but now 2 more days of him not talking to me much i dont know what to think… my friends tell me to give him space so im gonna work on not trying to contact him as much today. and he said he had logged in to show his friends my picture that i was the highlight of the weekend. so looks like he pulled one over on me and is still online. if you’re just not comfortable with that, it sounds to me like you could bring this up again. said, if you’ve only been dating for 4 or 5 weeks, i think i’d recommend you just be patient for a while longer. he didn’t say marriage, but his intentions are long term with me and he is excited to see a long term future together.  how clear was his side of the agreement to being committed? the original poster stated that she slept with someone without any clear idea of what their relationship actually was before doing so ( quote – it’s not like i’d call this guy my boyfriend already), yet is upset that her sexual partner (that’s all he really is ) is still looking for dates somewhere else. question: do the same mechanics apply vice versa (woman continues to browse the onlinedating site)? he was suddenly not wanting me to meet his friends. have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. have been dating this guy i met from online for about 3 months now, everything was amazing in the beginning. i’ve seen this with some regularity talking to people over the years and while i can’t say for certain, that might be what’s going on here. as it turns out, he continued to see his fwb through mid december, sometimes he was ‘with’ both of us on the same day! although my trust to him is kind of broken but i still want to trust him again. he then texted me and said he too tired was but i saw he was on his match account. thing is in the begining he was referring to our future hopefully it would lead toi marriage and refferred me as his wife, love etc. how he hates the fact he makes me feel the way i do with all this. he said ‘no’, he said he had posted those pictures to see if i would notice, and because he was curious to know if i had been online lately, which he saw that i hadn’t.” and submit it to the an(n)als of online dating! i will tell you that he does the same with his job though. i even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up. even after three discussions and several screenshots as well as telling him how to delete his account and how to bury his cookie email tracks, he still could not resist. out of the blue, i got a curiosity about the profile situation. it sounds like this guy decided to start looking again but wasn’t going to tell you. have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. so i went into my whatsapp (that’s how we communicate) and checked when my messages to him were actually read (i normally don’t pay attention to this), and it came out that he seemed to have been online at times when he told me that he didn’t have wifi on his phone. he said he was trying to hide his but couldnt do it on his phone but when he gets a laptop he will do it, i said ill hide mine too. have been seeing a man i met online for almost a year now. he can get you a hotel room and take you on a road trip but logging into a website and removing his profile is beyond his time and resources? i began dating, i realized what fun i was having with it, even if a date wasn’t great, i just loved getting out there and meeting new people and discovering things about myself and relationships that i hadn’t before.’m not sure i follow cathy – did you meet him a long time ago on a dating site but now he’s forgotten? i checked, and he’s been online in the past 4 hours. after reading many of these stories i have somewhat of an undertstanding that this is not uncommon. he told me the thing’s he told my fake profile weren’t true – ‘i was obviously trying to pick her up – would i tell her i am seeing or sleeping with someone? he even had the brashness to say in his email to this imaginary girl (who was me): ” i am also very honest with my partners, nothing can be built on lies…. if i had met him at the pub, i would have met his friends & seen his place. just met someone this past weekend and we “hooked up” for a few days and it was nice…and i find it weird that he still emails me on the site seeing that we have had such a hot weekend… i have stated that i find it weird to communicate since he and i have each others phone number and i also stated that i date one person at a time and that if he chooses to continue looking that is on him…. i ended communication with all other guys, hid my profile and gave this guy my full attention because that’s the kind of woman i am. but he told me its long over their marriage and said she wont be allowed in his house or at least where his computer is anymore- i could hear anger in his voice. he was dating and sleeping w/ tons of women – that doesn’t really concern me too much, as i can’t say i wasn’t doing a little of the same, and we had not declared exclusivity at that point. i also told him that we agreed to be exclusive and that having an active profile tells other women that he is still single and it is disrespectful and unacceptable to me. he constantly went on dating apps to talk to other girls and he confessed to me and told me he cheated on me. but you have to chill about the online dating thing. again, i calmly asked him about this, and he seemed genuinely confused. don’t center it around whether or not he’s talking to women online; focus on the reality of your in-real-life relationship, and where you’d like to see it go., this guy may not even be thinking about his profile and might be totally confused if you disappeared. – if i understand correctly, you’re saying that if he doesn’t decide to take his profile down in 6 weeks then you’ll not talk with him about it and just end things?

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Ask a Guy: We're Dating, But He Still Checks

dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? i immediately drove over to his house, and asked him (not in an angry or confrontational way) if we wanted to date other people. a married man let me tell you even after years and years with a woman i love, i still rarely know what’s going on in her head. if you think this is annoying i definitely understand but i would still encourage tact when you try to resolve this issue. still, these are areas you will need him to define. for the last few months this has been by far the question i’ve received most often from readers. they met online were together 2 years and he was still checking his site. if you’ve read a lot of my advice you’ll know that i do see dating one person at a time as problematic. maybe wait a week or so and see if the profile comes down on its own. i was quick to let you know how much i loved my wife but every time i told you this i also punched her in the face. until now, nothing about him has bothered me at all, and i would hate for this to ruin what could be a great thing. she showed me the profile and it said he was interested in meeting women for dates. the last time i went round he had a friend staying for a week (he’s from the states) but still wanted me to come over. i told him at the end, “i’ll get home and delete my profile :p” he goes, “so will i ren :)” so that night when he got home, we texted for about an hour and he told me what a great time he had and that he can’t wait til i’m in the same college as him so we can always be together. many of them are not serious and they are addicted to match and other dating sites. charles if you can give me ur intake on this i would appreciate it. i have no idea how he’ll respond and whether he wants to keep seeing other people, as he had stated his doubts about our relationship before when we broke up. it does make it harder him living in london and myself in suffolk as we don’t have what i would call a normal dating relationship which does make it harder. if i was seeing a guy and i found out he was using dating sites… i’d dump him. i’ve gone on a handful of online dates over the past few years and that have never resulted in a second date. have you been 100% open with him on how all this makes you feel? i was living in the belief that he had deleted his site and i didn’t even doubt him about it for a second, sine he had promised me he would. please listen to your instincts and there is nothing wrong for a man or woman to check out their perspective other not in this day and age. i met my boyfriend on an online dating website years ago. still he kept his profile up as “single” so i did too. can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill i needed to learn. i don’t know what to do, put my profile back up, question him again or what.. even if after i take mine down, because it is just a profile… and i have decided… (just now) after reading all these comments that unless he cheats and i can prove it (and i will be gone)… nothing else matters…. i’m still also unsure if i want to be in a serious exclusive relationship with him. he said he had in the past gone from one serious relationship to another and wants to see what dating around is like. as maree touched on earlier, these guys wouldn’t try to continue to pick up other women and real life and shouldn’t do so online either. i know he checked his email and eventually he did look at the profile, but he did not take the bait and respond back. as a former dating blogger, i started profiles on some sites to try them out and write reviews so there are simply just dating sites that i don’t remember about. that said, even if this guy is an idiot with computers who isn’t getting together in person with women he’s meeting online, if he’s continuing to log in, it’s not unreasonable to conclude that he’s doing this to feel that he’s either keeping his options open, or that he’s looking for the ego boost that comes from strangers finding him attractive. he said that he wants to continue dating me and that he wants to work on things. lied when he said he added pictures to his profile just to see if i would notice and to see if i was still online. i know you make a case for not doing this in your comment but i worry that there is some risk in expecting a man to recognize:The moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally). that talk goes something like “hey, i really like you and i’m pretty sure i don’t to date anyone but you. i told him it was iffy and i had hidden my profile because i’m not sure about it all together. post:  how to turn him onthe bottom line is, still being active when you’re in an exclusive relationship is a pretty bad thing. he said he hated his life, he’s depressed, sad … an emotionally unstable person shouldn’t be online lol. so, while perhaps this seems immature, i got gussied up big time and decided to go out that night, knowing we were supposed to go out together later on., why not hide your profiles so other people won’t contact either of you? i did confront him to discuss it but now i realise i did so – not to understand him – but only with a view to declaring that he had failed, that i don’t ‘share’ and therefore we couldn’t continue in this state. he told me that he would like us to be in a relationship, but because we were approaching his busiest time of the year at work, that he would like to wait until things calmed down a bit…he said 2 of his serious relationships ended over it in the past. double your chances and give staffordshire dating site a try for free today.! i just found out today he has another profile on pof i want to date other men but now i feel stuck…. i know that’s easier said than done but if you do end up dating him again just be very cautious…sounds to me like he would have cheated on you if he would have had the chance. i am a relationship girl – cannot do this casual/fwb stuff! am his first relationship since a divorce from a 16 year marriage from a woman who had cheated on him. actually i have some of my toiletries in his bathroom and he’s fine with that. he said he could ask me the same thing and that i had blown up his phone all day until it died. there where little things that happened when we first started dating that i didn’t concern myself with too much at the time, but now i felt like i had to get resolution about those things if i was really going to make a big commitment like this with him. well, curiosity killed the cat, so i created a fake profile and though his was hidden, there are ways to search and find it regardless. perhaps a taste of his own medicine will wake him up to what he’s doing…but honestly that’s not the point or the goal. i brought it up with him, as i couldn’t pretend i hadn’t seen his profile. jackie – as with the other situations, i can’t say exactly why he would keep his profile up. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. did you already have the conversation to deactivate all your profiles? he promised that was not his intention and again said he would take his profile down, but needed help because he couldn’t figure it out. i found he was still on there, not just on there, but online now and he had added a new picture with a shirt that i got for him for christmas. saw texts between him and his hockey buddies about how he wants to f*% everybody and how we was getting that ‘spring time itch’ really bad. he’s an adult and for whatever reason, this is the choice he’s making right now. thing about the advice above is that someone women will want to start this process immediately after the first date. now 5 weeks later i will be meeting his kids and going to a family gathering soon but he is still online.’ i had so many answers to that question like if he liked me as much as he said would he still be looking at other girls, or how do i know he’s not talking to others? of course, you should only do this if you could be comfortable with it. i myself have been dating a guy for a little over a month. i know you can hide your profile when you have an active subscription because i’ve done it so don’t let him try to convince you he can’t do that either. and no a guy views dating so differently to us that it can only be expected that removing his profile is repeatedly a delayed occurrence. i love him but he wont commit, using this family thing as an excuse i guess, but then he still is online tlking to random women whilst keeping me in and out of his life? met my current boyfriend online a couple months ago, he kept mentioning thing about me being his girlfriend so 2 weeks ago i asked if we were together and he said yes. he still makes updates to his site and says he is single and “looking for long term and short term dating.)anyway,i said, so i am just going to enjoy this while we’re here. it’s so frustrating for me that the website charged him (earlier than they should) and after he had cancelled his sub. there are some great guys using dating services but sometimes it takes having a good deal of patience to find them. i decided the other day to go on and delete my profile since we’ve declared each other ‘mine’. so just ask him if he still goes on, if he says no, he’s lying, but if he says yes, this can lead to an important conversation. explain how much you enjoyed spending time with her but given how infrequently you are seeing each other and given the fact that she’s still looking online, you feel like you should keep your options open. this friend since added me on facebook and so has his housemate.  if this was a mistake, tell me… i can forgive, but i won’t forget. almost everyone who has success with online dating will have some time where they have a subscription but aren’t using it…assuming they meet someone. then, he has been trying to sleep with my with no strings attached and even today he told me he misses me and wants me, but still sees people that he met on the site, but i am the only one he really likes… sure…. he told my fake profile in his last email 2 days back that there was no spark between us & that’s why he kept it casual. he has met my family and gets along great with them, i have met his mom and some of his friends. and then he asked me to accompany him to his brother’s girlfriend’s b’day. have been dating a guy for 5 weeks, been out 12 times w/a couple of overnights. i didn’t realize that by cancelling an account it just meant that your subscription wouldn’t renew, not that your profile wasn’t still active. need a bit of advice as i’m recently dealing with this. as far as the deployed thing, he is getting deployed in a few months, and this is something i knew about not long after we met. and knowing that he’s still browsing, i feel reluctant and fear i know the answer already.. ladies, be smart about this, like a previous poster said, respect yourselves, love yourselves, and have enough confidence to kick his azz to the curb if you have to… one day he will realize what he had and how he messed it up, may not be tomorrow but one day he will! it’s just that the sent messages show when that user has been online). i understand his availability issues because of his work as a nurse, but i’m feeling this sadness and doubt inside me because it has already been almost a week since he last sent me a message. notice shes still going on this same dating website we met on ( i had taken mine off since we met) but this worries me so much that i asked if she still went onto the site and she said she did. basically i met this guy on a marriage website and we got to know each other of the basic stuff., based on his responses to your previous questions, i get the feeling if you were able to prove he was using the services his response is going to be a strong one (and to me it seems like the wrong person is getting angry! i did my usual hey there sexy, he said lol…i asked him how his work thing was going, no response. set up some boundaries to lessen (not eliminate) the likelihood of this happening to me again. do with online dating site, so…what had this punk done? this dating scene nowadays is tough , it is tempting not only to look around for other people because dating websites are just a click away, but snooping is easier as well, and very tempting. yesterday morning i checked again and it said ‘online now’ to say i felt sick was an understatement but i didn’t want to go wading in and accuse him when i didn’t know the story. i made it clear that i was not looking to settle down, but did want to continue dating him to see where it could lead, but could only do it if neither of us were going to continue to see other people. i asked him on sunday and he said he was in there cleaning up his inbox before deleting. in the meantime brad he treats me very well and has introduced me to his parents and all his friends. the second is that he’s actually met friends through the site before, and so on the off-chance that he has an opportunity to make more friends, he’s not disabling his account. similar story met a guy online 2 months ago we meet once a week on the. i then asked if he was still on the dating site and he said yes. who’s to say there aren’t other profiles out there that i am not even aware of? the next morning i asked why he always tried to meet me during weekdays and he said it was just a coincidence cos his weekends would get so busy. it seems that this was the choice he was making prior to you making an issue of it so i really don’t think your actions need much scrutinizing. so how on earth can it be acceptable to do it online! his status updating from:“interested in meeting women for dates”. it proved to me this is someone i really want to be exclusive with. i don’t know if you would necessarily want to “let it go” but at the same time if he’s keeping his options open you might want to do the same (including staying active online). people change – but i don’t want to be a fool about this. had not been on my profile since nov when we had the talk, and neither had he, but we didn’t discuss hiding or removing our profiles. i still haven’t come across a problem like mine. there was more to the text that told me his close friends were there at the pub with him. 5 days later – screen shots proved he had just been online and active.

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before becoming intimate, demand exclusivity, which also means get off of all dating sites – and let him know that you will check periodically to make sure he does. this article has been very helpful but i want something a little bit more specific. where he stands may not be where you hope, but he should still know where that is! Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning.. which is solely his decision… however i have the right to vocalize my thoughts which is what i did… i would never tell him to close his account and also to those of you that are upset that you man has his account out there… how do you know unless yours is out there or you are still online? hana, this guy is looking around while enjoying you and wonderful qualities. i was so upset i put my profile back up without telling him, but i haven’t been active in looking to date anyone else. i thought everything was great his parents know all about me i’ve met his friends and some family. he said we are not dating but we couldn’t establish any status quo. we met on a dating site and i knew when we started dating his profile was hidden ( i wanted to show my friends who he was but couldnt find it! he said he was extremely hurt as well and he still cares for me a lot, but wants to take it slow. yes, we’re actually on the same page and at some point i’ll modify this post – it doesn’t get many visits and it’s very old, so i just didn’t get around to it and expand it. have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. things are well, but i’m still struggling with it all. “if then it dosn’t work out boys – by all means go back online, chat and date all the people in the world that you desire! he said that he had taken his match account down, and i believed him. i said it was up to him (i want him to take it down because he wants to not because i want him to…) i did say that him keeping his profile active made me feel that he wished to keep his options open and that if he wanted me to feel that way then to carry on. but my daughter has this thing where she loves to look at his pictures and since his phone is touch screen and she is only 3 she sometimes hits other buttons, well about a week ago she opened his browser and ended up on the exact dating site i am talking about. shed some light on thisand please tell me what i should do. know this is almost what everyone else is saying but i would like your advice. i get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people i could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not remove the profile so all those women don’t have to “work hard” in the first place? i still believe what i wrote there, i’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not. it was after telling him this that he asked me if i can go out with him on several days for the coming week. he said he hates the fact i always have to leave and wishes i could stay at his place all the time. i think for now, you might want to hide your profile in the off chance that he’s keeping his profile up because he still sees yours is up. he said his data on his phone wouldn’t work (i think he meant he didn’t want to risk paying for the roaming), but he would text me whenever he would get a chance. i was able to get a hold of his phone last week and saw that he had the dating site application on it. i don’t like to come across as the vulnerable one & dating commitment phobes in the past has made me tougher so i don’t want to bring up a conversation of where are things going or mention his profile still being up. in this first section, i wanted to walk through getting clear on how committed he really is in the first place. you been dating exclusively for 3 months or have you not had a talk on being exclusive? if you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, i feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed.! this after he tells me he’s the luckiest man to have a great catch like me. i am not active on any of these sites and my fiancé knows that i may have a profile or two out there. i wonder why dating is so hard for myself but seems so easy for others.! this happened to me after being in an exclusive relationship for 14 months. to hear but this is how it should go if you expect to be trusted. my membership came to an end shortly after we started emailing and i chose not to renew – i’m now off of the site, and he knows this. i do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy:My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, i check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so. to play devils advocate: let’s imagine he totally forgot about this profile. i’m a single mother of 3 and this ‘bleep’ honestly thought i would take care of him literally and cater to his every whim. maybe you should join all those dating sites just to piss him off! i recently confronted him about a woman on his facebook that was posting pics of him and about how much she loves him. i understand you don’t need anyone to tell you to leave a guy like him although he’s obviously taking you for granted, but i think there is a way you can help yourself, that is try to “concentrate on yourself” instead of making yourself look like a miserable wife who’s always waiting for his return, have you thought of this, besides his ego boost and maybe sexual need which motivate him to go online to talk to other girls, you’re also one of the reason why he keeps doing it? he seems genuine but he won’t take his profile off & commit. i told him earlier today that i had deleted my profile, “just to let him know”. it’s early may, and we’re spending mothers day with his parents. to me this makes it feel as if hes expecting us to fail or something. so i don’t think it’s impossible that the man you are dating is not actually using the site with intent to meet someone, so much as to flirt or assess his worth on the dating market.  look… we live in a time where everyone can see everything that’s going on online with people. on monday he asked if he could see me on tuesday and i told him i wouldn’t mind but i wasn’t getting intimate since i didn’t like the idea of him flirting and dating other women. deleted my profile about 2 weeks after we had started being boyfriend and girlfriend. retain some reality, because being online is so surreal and the rules of engagement so different to real life that some surely find it unbalancing. it’s clear he’s online but not yet dating anyone. if you have ever heard of law of attraction, it says the same thing, if you want to get someone back, you shall stop thinking of this person all the time but think of what you can do to make yourself happier(this is the hardest, you can’t just do it as if u r really doing it , but still think of him 24/7, you have to do it as if you are really into loving yourself more and more), trust me…people are attracted to people who love themselves deeply, and you proved it already by how much you love a self-centered man, so just copy his way and love yourself more, meet more people, by the time when he realizes you can live well without having his attention, that is the time he realizes how much you are worth and comes back to you. he opened an email and my friends said he was online within 24 hours. he did not have any sent messages in his sent out box. the thing is he goes on his match account every day. do text and talk on the phone quite often but i had came to realise that its already been 3 months and his profile is still active and he goes on it quite often. i feel that it is his way of letting me know that he is not doing anything behind my back and is totally honest. before all this i knew we have a whole lot in common and there was a lot of chemistry and sexual tension plus i really like him. i was like would u be happy hidin ur profile as i am. we have gone on trips, and had wonderful dates, he told me i’m just the girl he’s dating. have felt tempted a couple of times to search for him on dating websites to see if he’s back on them or not, but i have stopped myself from doing so because it wouldn’t be fair to him or me at the end. i’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now, we spend every weekend together. where has all the trust gone, now i feel he’s been doing this the entire length of our relationship? will try to keep this to the point and as brief as possible which may prove to be difficult since i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. both have 3 children, although his dont live with him and are a bit older than mine. he held my handhe put his arms round me and we had a lovely time once more. a girlfriend (or boyfriend) can usually tell it the profile is real in any number of ways – if the profile has exact details about height and weight, the writing style that was used, etc….’s no other reason to log back into a dating site, unless you’re shopping around for the next fling/relationship. and that he stays online because he is afraid of closing all doors and just be with me, the first woman. it’s not like i’d call this guy my boyfriend already, i know it’s still early… but what’s your opinion? have had a 5-6 really great dates, chemistry off the charts, met his daughter, spent a weekend with him. now the only reason i knew to look and see if he was on there was this gut feeling that i got. boat here…been dating my guy for 11 months now – we are both 42….’m concerned telling her this may rattle her a bit givien her prior experience and scare her off. im really falling for this guy and i never ever pressure him on anything cause i know men dont like to be pressured so i kind of take each day as it comes. all of our contact – texting/dates, was due to his initiating – i never texted first or asked him out. i checked, and again i was right on the money (i should have read this blog before so i did not do what i did again) i called him out, this time he flat out lied and got verbally abusive. he kept his profile online and then during a period where he was busy he removed the profile. my friend asked if i check to see if he had gotten on his profile, so i did, and that sunday night he had been on. he introduced me to some guy as his girlfriend but tells everyone else i am his friend.  your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with… this is separate, but i want to address it for your sake in general). the time august 2014 (now one year of dating), he was spending every night at my house, we practically lived together, even though he still had his own home. but he still checks it daily so im kinda confused. needless to say, i was relieved that he hadn’t been online in quite some time. that, both of us (individually, this wasn’t something we had agreed to do or asked the other to do) changed our statuses on the dating site to “seeing someone.”  i say this not from a blaming standpoint, but for the purpose of seeing where you might be limiting yourself and thus a place where you could improve and empower yourself (and your relationships as a result).  something in me made me curious and i looked at your match profile and saw you’d logged on recently after we said we’d be exclusive. during that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. day 3 he texts me and apologizes for his coldness and tells me that i don’t deserve that. i got really sad about he still having it up and went into my zone for the rest of the night. so 4 days goes by (we agreed he would contact me), he didn’t. i was upset since according to dating norm he should have paid. in the article above i recommended that you update your profile to show him you’re still active. i deactivated my pof online dating acount 2 weeks ago as soon as we discussed that we were dating. i am a little upset so a few days i set up a fake profile with photos of another friend he has never met and messaged him. online dating was an avenue i hadn’t tried and i was curious!. i brought up the subject and he insisted it was nothing that he had an app on his phone and would click on it when bored but that he would remove the app. i guess you could mention to him that your friend told you that she saw his account was still up and you could let him know that you’d feel much better if he hid it. if he still doesn’t make the right decision (taking his profile down), i think you may want to consider putting yours back up as well to see if you can find other people to date. then if it doesn’t, you could tell him a friend told you that she saw him actively online and you could ask why his profile is still active. i’ve been dating a guy now i met online for almost four months now.  you didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts. after 6 weeks of talking non stop via text, a few phones calls a week, and seeing each other no less than once a week i brought up the “where is this going” talk…. this immediately sends her the message that i don’t trust her and i lack confidence, two very crucial steps in the wrong direction. i don’t know why he has to do this, i thought he has me?, as i’m getting this question more and more often, i’m hoping the details i’ve included here can help you reach the point where he realizes there is no reason for him to keep his profile active any longer. have said to him that if he likes, he can continue dating but he needs to tell me, so that i can do the same. he hides his friends list on facebook and has changed his relationship status from “single” to hidden since he asked me to be his gf. oh, and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend in february. he’s spoken a lot about his parents and himself and his friends and his work. curiousity always killed the cat and i checked to see if he was still active a couple weeks ago and he was. he said the only reason he was on it was to try to figure out why they took out of his account. i asked him playfully several times if he’d take the profile off he never gave answers. i’m pretty savvy with my online privacy settings and avoided clicking on his profile, so he couldn’t see that i had visited it. said, i’d be careful to really be sure that he owns that profile. the fact that he won’t allow you to post pictures of the two of you together but then has photos with his “online girlfriend” is particularly troubling. after almost 4 months, i was really falling for him, and had stopped dating other guys after month 3.

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as you’re deleting old messages, you see she’s changed her profile picture. i know he was aware that i disabled my profile because he can check it. one thing bothers me though, his profile in the dating site is still active – though he told me before that he rarely checks or chat with women in it. am asking because i don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “yes, you and i are exclusive…” or, better yet, “i want to be exclusive with you. he also said he has friends he talks to but no one that he is seeing or dating. thoughts are that yes a girl makes this decision more quickly – instinctively not wishing to harm the budding relationship. sum it all up: i would expect that within the first month of actively dating each other that you should have an idea of where you stand and i would expect his profile to be down. we both want to get married, so this site and our culture is the norm for that. this might come off as being too ‘charming’ or ‘player-like’, but it’s actually not. do think that approaching this with caution is a good idea…you don’t want to come off as if you’re obsessing. even after all this thinking and reading: i still don’t understand entirely. i’m so confused, but over thisyear our conversations and time spent together hs allowed my heart to grow. if a woman continued intereacting with men she was meeting online, the man she’d been planning a future with wouldn’t dismiss it as innocent. which btw still says “singe” and “actively seeking a relationship”. i know, because i have a friend that is on the same dating site and she keeps me updated, unfortunately. are you ok with having sexual relations with one another while your profiles are active? i treat him so well, cook, clean, and care for his kids but yet i seem to have no standing with him. i met him online, soon after romeo proclaimed adoration and love for me he “deactivated” his account as he said he is % sure i was the one his been looking for. i can totally understand having caution after being cheated on, but at the same time you don’t want to wait months and months only to find out this might not go anywhere., forgot to mention, i go over to his place a lot and everytime i leave, he begs me to stay and says he hates that i have to leave. also, you might want to ask him why he wants to keep his profile up if you are using words like that. that tells me a)he’s looking for better than me b)he’s looking for an ego stroke since hes was inactive for a month or c) maybe trying to show his ex(who he also met on the site) that he’s putting himself out there. is now going away on his own for the next week or so but when he is back i shall ask to see him. however i knew of the website and i was able to see his profile when i got home. good thing is, it doesn’t sound like you’re approaching this situation in a demanding sort of way. he wants to spend all of his free time with me and i feel that due to the fact that hes new to the city that’s mainly because he doesn’t know a lot of ppl.” but i wouldn’t fault him much for looking at the fake profile. some online dating sites have a lot more than just “dating” going on on them so i wouldn’t worry too much about this dude’s continued perusal of the site right now (in addition to everything the captain said). i’m writing this to help people out — i don’t look at relationship advice as men vs. i took my profile down and never asked him if he did or not. again, not with any type of ultimatum, but i’d let her know that you’d be interested in concentrating on dating each other exclusively. so, i put my profile back up today and i am not going to tell him. don’t really like to say things like: “you should break up” or “clearly your guy or gal is cheating on you,” but, honestly, if you’ve been together for a while and your significant other is active on a dating site he or she is probably up to no good. so i never talked to him about the dating site but i found out that he isn’t using the site we met on anymore but that he has set up an account for a totally different site and tried to hide that it’s really him so that no one will know. we talked about this issue almost every night and i told him i feel hurt that he still talks to girls from dating app. he also told me at night that he’s missing challenge in his life. – would you feel comfortable telling him you want to take your profile down and ask him if he would do the same? he said he did not show that day as he ex came to his home and found him on pof and freaked out. this original question, the reader had just gone exclusive with the guy and my comment was from a place of, “give it a week or two to adjust…” the website was a lot smaller – a few thousand visitors a month versus the millions we get now. i feel like i’m just there and he is still looking for something better and it makes me feel bad. an addiction to online dating, even if you have a significant other. guy i met online and he said he needed space to get over an ex. again 🙂 just clarifying that the part i wrote about him telling his buddy he ‘sort of has a girlfriend’ and that ‘he is trying to behave’, was over a year ago – that conversation did not happen 4 months ago, i got my dates wrong…too much confusion, right! i then said: ” i am the other girl” the look on his face was priceless especially when he realised that all of the stuff he had written (and there was pages and pages of very intimate stuff) was all sent to me. i told him if i ever considered dating another man i would be honest. he doesn’t know i know…i don’t know how much longer i can keep up this role.’d try not to worry too much at this point. you can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here. of now, my “match” still gets on often despite us going out many times. i have not confronted my boyfriend about this online dating profile yet. i asked if his feelings changed at all towards our situation. just received an update to this email and reread the original posting and eric’s response..i met him online we went ona first date and it was grreat, then he took me on a weekend trip and we reallly conncted and he said so too, and i didnt see him for 2 weeks because he said hes planning another trip with me, i met his closest friends already, but i saw that he was active within the last days , and i think we might get intimate sometime soon but i dont want to give it my all and then be left alone and used,im really quite confused.  as such, some of the comments (which i have preserved) bring up points that i have since addressed in this revision. but i strongly suggest that you go with “hey, i really, really like you and dating you is making me really happy and hopeful,” vs. we’ve never talked about taking down our profiles, but i took mine down and he hid his. have both been under a lot of pressure and stress this past year and i haven’t had the guts to bring it up. his answer was “one of my friends wanted to see new pics of my weight loss”? the other day i did have to make a little remark where i said, you know…i know you arent in this for the long hall, (i only said this because when he told me he loved me, he also said…”this doesnt mean i necessarily feel i want to spent the rest of my life with you…wtf? he has not only changed his profile picture, he has added a picture from our trip, a picture that i took of him. however i did manage to see that he was “online now. my guy and i were only seeing where things were going and he hadn’t logged in the website we met for a month already, but he had other profiles i knew about, i noticed he wasn’t logging into them either, but one night out of nowhere i decided to make a search for him on a totally different website, and lo and behold, there he was, he had created a brand new profile, a very well done profile at that. i’d say that long of “exclusive” dating should be long enough for someone to know if they’re ready for that step. to me, he sounds like a guy who can’t admit when he’s found a good thing and wants to keep his options open…but this sort of thing is only going to make his life (and yours) more difficult. if a man still keeps his profile up after becoming intimate with you he’s hedging his bets. i expected to see the original profile from when we first meet but this one was different and his profile picture was a picture of him and his daughter that we took after we moved in and decided to take family portraits to hang around the house. and if he doesn’t want to get more serious, the fact that there are seventy billion people posting pictures of themselves online won’t be the reason. said ok, that i would hang in there, but i asked him to please be straight up with me the second he doesn’t feel like this will go anywhere and he promised he would. that none of those scenarios have anything to do with whether he has been logging onto an online dating site for any purpose. hours from where i live, so we knew that dating each other wouldn’t be that easy, but we also said to each other that we would make it work. he claims that he needed time to himself, to get back to “personal responsibilities”, that he wasn’t happy with his life, financial problems etc. however, i know has has a dating profile because a few weeks after we started dating my friend who uses the site told me she saw a profile for him. i just immensely like him, and i haven’t felt this way about anyone., i find really annoying is when he informs me that he is not cheating on me but why is he still on the dating site. love it sasha…although i’m sorry you had to go through this. not that you can’t find success, but often this approach mentally “locks” us into continuing to pursue a relationship even when it isn’t that great (and there are lots of other reasons to date multiple people in my mind, but i’ll not go over all that again here). took 6 months to tell me he loved me, but still has his profile up even tho its hidden…and i just grew on him like a comfortable old shoe…lol. we’ve never defined anything but really have let the relationship unfold, however why would he lie about this when he never needed to? are you ok that you may hurt both of you because opportunities come easier and in catalogue style online?” so i admitted what i had done, he got mad that i didn’t trust him, and i got mad that he was still on there. if talking it out doesn’t make things better for you or you find they’re still using the site then it’s probably best to end things. six weeks ago i met a guy from an online dating site. each time i saw/found out my guy went online after going out with me for a while i felt sick, duped, confused about where i stand, no longer confident about how he felt about me or what i thought the relationship was, suddently totally insecure and worst of all foolish…. i saw that his profile was still up, which was a bummer since he said he would take it down and he hadn’t. i find this truth out many many months after dating when she kept walking up into his house and always there when i came over.) last night i went on (my profile is hidden) and his profile is active for everyone to see. in the browser history i was looking to see if he had been viewing porn websites when i noticed a dating website there. i told him i was hesitant to live together as that felt very committed and serious, and i didn’t actually know for sure what his intentions were with me. know it is difficult to address this issue but i do worry that if you don’t, in the long run your daughter could be hurt more, not less. his excuse was he did not have a computer, only his phone to access, and there is no way to deactivate from a mobile device. i have checked simply out of curiosity and really to keep myself from getting to attached at this point. he always tells me that he has a great time with me and i’m his favorite person, but that he never dated much when he was younger and thinks he owes it to himself to date around now. we hit it off and are still seeing each other. my profile was still up i did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago. if he’s not going to commit, this is a risk for you and i’d see talking to other men as a valid approach since you can’t know what he’s going to do down the line. we have never had a talk about exclusivity, so this is all fair game. – i think it’s likely that he’ll find another excuse, but you can explain to him how to hide his profile: log into match then click profile then settings and then set the profile to hidden. i deactivated my profile thinking maybe its cos i’ve been browsing too much that led him to reactive his profile, but i know i’m just making excuses for his behaviour. he replied jokingly asking if i stalk him haha and that he didn’t know why because he turned off his roaming of data to not have a cost explosion. i asked my friends boyfriends/husbands (some of whom met my friends online and some who are or have dated online in the past) they all confirmed clearly that if the guy dosn’t remove his profile voluntarily following the moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even ‘by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally) then it is clear he is not entirely certain about you or he is not entirely ready to committ to a relationship. recently, another woman is doing the same thing on his facebook and it makes me wonder if he’s doing the same thing to me yet again., i shut down my profile a week after meeting him. i now realise that i never actually asked outright for any of them to take down their profile to be with me exclusively. questions to you are these, one thing that sort of bothers me is that we are exclusive, however he only hid his profile. i still had my profile up and so did he. so i can see how the boys would struggle to manage that and think that continuing conversations online harmless… it is an enormous confidence booster, flattering to receive attention and the thrill of first dates really good fun. i recently signed up under a fake profile and tried to wink and favor him. completely agree that if someone is still checking dating sites after committing to someone then they are leaving options open,stroking their ego,or seeing you as for now person. he said his data on his phone wouldn’t work (i think he meant he didn’t want to risk paying for the roaming), but he would text me whenever he would get a chance. we had the exclusive talk, and we both agreed to not see anyone else – but we aren’t exactly “official” yet because of the uncertainty of his job (he’s at risk of being sent overseas for a minimum of 2 years).  you’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world. then, one day, out of the blue i decided to see if he was still using the dating site and he was online and chatting with girls. he told me about 2 months in that he deleted his account.’ll explain why i bring that up in a moment, but at any rate i agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…. but, last weekend over in the same friends house she told me that his profile is still there., it is possible that he just likes getting emails to stroke his ego and isn’t looking for a relationship. is the thing… when we met online, he stated that he wanted long term, his “last best friend “, or something along those lines. about three months into dating, i knew i was starting to fall in love with him and i was bothered that his profile was still active, he would be on at least every other day. i said that he really should think about changing that if his goal is simply to date around. me, if a month goes by after you’ve expressed your concerns and he is still refusing to remove his profile then setting ultimatums seems more reasonable.

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… this is an old article during a time where i would get really big questions and edit them down to be shorter (in more recent years i generated my answers from more generalized questions and covered all the bases). this after he had spent friday with me & had told me he never shares his bed with anyone. i am just going to start dating other people and not even worry about it. met this guy online and we exchanged numbers and texted each other 2x a week for a month. once i texted him he was quick with his response and asked me to come over to his suburb. he lives about 120 miles away and is busy finishing up his residency. he’s military, so his schedule is pretty screwy, but since my work schedule is easily manipulated, he proposed that i get it to match it as closely to his as possible so we have the same days off.! online dating is a sickness and they need therapy or rehab. we were out with his family and friends yesterday and i just happened to catch a text message on his phone that said “what are you doing babe” to the very same girl., you’ll probably want to check out my previous advice on this topic..what am i going to be with you, sleep with you, & be wondering whats going on; on the side with the dating site…. i honestly don’t feel very trustful about it all, but i must accept that we hadn’t agreed on any terms before this talk. so i made up another profile to see if he would chat and low and behold, he started chatting and added me as his favourite! at this moment, you are reading into the situation negatively, assuming that he has bad motives or could be playing you. the dating game has changed tremendously over the years and many have ulterior motives and love not being one of them! in some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly. i would be as kind as possible if you decide to have this talk with her: you’re not trying to punish/reprimand her, just letting her know where you stand. i have also made myself avaible for this same night. he really loves you and agrees you are exclusive, the profile needs to come down. since i see he’s on, i browse my matches but very rarely wink at anyone and don’t message people back (in all honesty, i kind of got sick of online dating and had just tried it because it seemed novel until that feeling wore off). hope you’re on the anm dating list because i give away all my best stuff on there (for free, just like here). there’s the possibility of a move for him in the future after his military career ends, and he has asked me to go with him if that possibility becomes a reality – i accepted. i have also noticed that on his computer he is getting on another site and looking at personals, mostly from other states. and lets just say that because i went out for a girls night instead of hangin with him, that he responded to this other woman.. when i think back i am surprised to find that each and every time it was i who decided when he should have an opinion about me, i decided when he should take down his profile and actually i decided everything about timing etc based on my instinct and my feelings. it would not be unreasonable for him to feel a bit miffed that you’re checking up on him behind his back; you are.’s a long article just discuss having a guy take his profile down! so, if this is the case, why would his profile still be up? i’ve been dating this guy i met on pof for 3mts now.’m gonna see how it goes over the next month, if he’s still going on then he doesn’t care about my feelings and i’d prefer to be someone’s one and only, not their until something better comes along! so then a few days goes by he asks if he can see me, so he comes over for coffee (it was sunday evening). he told me he would remove his profile and that he was so sorry he upset me. if you’re two months in and his profile is still up, it’s time to get your profile back up as well. however, i do worry that the next time he tries dating someone else he might find himself interested in her and then you’ll find yourself alone. i slightly said some of my concerns today (coming off as joking) and he lied and said he hasn’t been online since the time of our date to take his profile down. all that wasted time waiting for him to make the right choice only to have him start dating someone else. reasons she’s not responding to your online dating messagesthe most frustrating part of online dating. yeah, it would be nice if when he got the “hi” email if he would have said to himself, “oh, that reminds me, i should hide my profile! he had left it logged in and i noticed from the history he had checked some of the women out but he didn’t have a premium account.’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months but he continues to be active on dating sites. so i went into my whatsapp (that’s how we communicate) and checked when my messages to him were actually read (i normally don’t pay attention to this), and it came out that he seemed to have been online at times when he told me that he didn’t have wifi on his phone. i try and not let these things effect me but of course they do from time to time, my friends are always telling me i need someone who is going to be there for me…a superman…and yes this guy has understood things, told me i could talk to him, however recently their was another family episode and my guy wanted “a break” ok. today morning his picture is public again and he’s been online every hour 🙁 i have deactivated my account since i don’t want to bother with it. it i looked to see if his profile was still active and it said ‘online today’. i’m sure this will make him angry but it will be pretty hard for him to deny (and i get the feeling that you’re going to have to accept him getting angry if you want to pursue solving this problem, regardless of how you approach it). eric, you can justify, or play neutral to his action all you want, but it doesn’t change the fact that a man who stated to a woman that he wanted exclusivity, is someone who would have no need to log back into a dating site. know other men who do this sort of thing, i am no stalker, just keeping my heart in check here..it’s just a temptation many men can’t avoid and usually a big clue about what’s going on in the mind of the person who is still active on a dating site while dating and sleeping with someone else – he’s still shopping around, basically. i still think its about respect… and not so much about committment. i messaged him on my friends proflie and he answered very nicely that i was pretty and he was still looking for a relationship. few days later i log back onto the online chat room we met on seven moneths ago, i made a new profile and he was online…………. i don’t know if he’s been online or not but should i be worried? they can be crazy about you and still want to screw the basement chick. i also feel really guilty for the snooping online i can’t believe i have resorted to this i’m ashamed 🙁. there was all these messages from the dating website that we meet on.!Are you new to online dating or looking to improve your success using it? that in mind i wanted to review one of the recent emails i’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem. if he emails someone, they then have access to his profile and it can go from there. my thoughts are… this guy i am talking to and “having fun” with i will continue to do just that and will never tell him to take his profile down. part of me thinks it just his response to getting caught but i’m really in no place to judge him. i have checked a few times by searching users on pof and each time i see his profile it says he has been on that day. he probably doesnt even kno that i love him or that i still want a relationship with him cos i try hard to act calm and cool with everything…. i wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). after i invited him to my home and he seen how nice it was, the horns started to emerge from his head. i never checked my boyfriends chat history or emails because i didn’t want to. my friends think it’s too soon for me to bring it up and think that i should be making the most of the online dating world by seeing other people too. this morning i decided to reciprocate the photo txt, and i sent him one (nothing i would be ashamed of though if someone else saw), and i sent a message along with it that said good morning 😉 it’s been a good 20 minutes since i’ve sent it, and in another 15 i know he’ll be at work and therefore wont text me. initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. you just never know but i have given up on online dating. at this point in time it is not wise to promise exclusivity to any man without a proposal. he answered back telling me that he knew i’d been online too. the material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by a new mode, inc. if he wants to get more serious, then the fact that there are seventy billion people posting pictures of themselves online isn’t going to matter. i know he got my messages yesterday i messaged him on facebook and it tells you exactly when he read it which was this morning around 8. he offered exclusivity, yet actively participates in an online dating community. It…What to do if the person you’re dating still has an active online dating profile. also said she wasn’t one for dating sites ( no sense) and if a guy was to try and talk to her she would say she was dating someone. literally had one fight with an ex that calling me claiming im online on the dating site where we met and i was im my car driving, yet alone i dont have a smart phone with internet abilities. i kept refreshing the search everyday i don’t know why and then last friday morning i was shocked when i saw that not only had he been online but he had uploaded his picture. temporarily disable your profile and make a decision to stop tracking his online activity. you can’t bring yourself to be more aggressive about the situation in person, one thing you could try is to also create a profile on the site (if he’s using a free one). i in your situation, i would make it clear to whomever i was dating that absolute commitment was of the utmost importance to me. i’m just hoping if he knew he could talk to you when he’s tempted to do something silly like this, then maybe he wouldn’t need to go through with it. well…i don’t think it’s a *good* thing that he’s still logging in. yeah, a deleted profile would be best (or updated text) but at least he has it heading in the right direction. i have a question, i have been dating a guy that i was introduced to by my sister. he said his profile was up but that he hadn’t been checking it and he hadn’t found time to take it down. he said that’s fine cos him & his friends would go back to the city in any case. have been dating this guy i met on okcupid for a few months now. a few weeks later we broke up for 5 days i activated my profile and gave a guy my number. he immediately guessed my name – so guess at this point he’s only seeing me.’m definitely not defending what he did (i disagree with it and think it was wrong of him to do so) but you did get a much better response than many women: he removed the profile quickly and i think he was a lot more honest than most guys in admitting that creating it made him feel better. we all went to his friend’s houseparty and we were holding hands and he even wanted me to sit on his lap because there weren’t enough chairs whilst we were there. if he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off. no wonder so many lose faith in the online dating venue. anyone who has done online dating seriously will confirm that there always seems to be people lurking on the edges, folks who are up for a chat but not for a meeting. after the first date their was no question weather or not if i wanted to see him again, hope to be his gf and etc., in your response to cat, not all guys are like this. i didn’t ask him if he was going to delete his, i assumed that of course he would. know this has become a long message, but i really hope you find the time to reply. i’m actually in agreement that this post would be better if it started out with a lot more context. now im starting to question if i should stay in this realtionship or go. that moment i realised i really do have feelings for this guy. know this has become a long message, but i really hope you find the time to reply. then in febuary, i was at home and i needed to use his computer to chek and email. his last email he said he was thankful to me for giving him the kick & the confidence to get back out there. a quick google search on his user name revealed another three, all with very recent logins. finally bothered me so much that his profile was still active that i asked him about it. find out how i failed at first but then had great success with online dating – download my free 100+ page online dating guide ebook today! what is up with men you meet online and how they still log in and show chat venue open. i stopped answering and next time i saw him i asked him if he was still on the site and he answered and said: “yes im still on there and actually last week someone messaged me on there, and i’m pretty sure it was you. or maybe he’s doing this to get my fake profile girl. cause he knows you will forgive him and wait for his return, each time you argue with him he only sees it as a time to brake for a while, and then after he has “settled” you down he would go on to do more of what he really wants to. that he was online hurt me and threw me a little. jenniferpapril 16, 2012bad internet dating, captain awkward's dating guide for geeks, dating, overthinking it, reader questions. i meet this guy on a dating site 3 months ago and we do have feelings for each other. most guys that are ‘players’ in the real world are whores online. think that many guys who use internet dating think of it as a “smorgesbord” and feel that it is their right to taste everything on offer! you so much i really needed to see and hear this, and the fact that it came from a man makes it so much more official for me to do exactly as you said and the article said. this of course, hasn’t cancelled his current 6 month subscription.

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i confronted him about it and said that it bothers me that you still have your profile up on match. i can’t say which one it is but i do think if he’s keeping his options open you’ll really want to do the same thing (and not just saying you are to convince him to stop). i need a break from online dating so i’ve hidden my profile. he changed the city to the town he used to live in, shrunk his height by 2 inches, and hasn’t put up a picture. sure, there is a degree of romance in having the guy take down the profile on his own. do wonder, how would he react if you had an active dating profile online? if he is trying this relationship with you ask him to delete his profile and you delete yours. i even flew all the way just to get him to talk about this with me because i thought i had to talk about this with him. that’s besides the point really but it’s still true. when you bring up the fact that his profile is up, do you tell him that it bothers you? lots of dates, exchange of christmas gifts, meeting family and a lot of his friends. i told him i’m a straight up woman if he wants to explore to just tell me and that i hoped he finds what hes looking for and someone who loved, respected and appreciated him as much as i did, this set him off right away…. i have been told by a close friend (who is male) that i need to be chased and show him that i am not at his beck and call. at least some of the guys will admit they’re keeping their profile online updated or keeping their options open. he was always treating me like i was his gf and i met one of his close friends and he took me and my sis and his friend out for dinner. so i know this is wrong but i decided to make a fake profile using my sister’s photos since she lives in another country. granted we’re not exclusive though we’ve introduced our children to each other and we’ve both said we’re excited to see where this can go. the fact of the matter is this kind of thing is a real life concern, not just for fear of being played but for your health and safety. i have only been dating him 3 weeks, but i don’t want to be with a guy who just wants to string me along so i will wait maximum 6 weeks for him to mention something. it has been another 2 weeks after that conversation and his profile is still active. she says he’s on it regularly and this evening while he’s texting me on the phone, she calls and says, “he’s online at match right now”. whether he’s just checking until it expires or he renewed after he showed me the cancellation it still means he clearly isn’t that into me. we see each other about once a week due to work and we both have kids, he has his when mine is gone to his dads. his only real response to all of this is that he is a different person now than he was then. he told me i’ve always had a special place in his heart and he couldn’t seem to forget about me and move on (because we lost contact with each other for a few years back then) so last year he asked me to be his girlfriend and we got together. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days. i want to be with you if you want a relationship with me, i don’t want to be with you if you’re only deleting it to have sex with me and he goes “of course not” and i said the whole match thing adds a lot of confusion to me. ren – at this point i’d suggest giving him a bit more time. may (2014) he got an out of the blue text from his ex (fwb girl), saying he should come to a party she is having in june. he says he doesn’t want to rush things and does not just want to date anyone, he is dating to find someone to marry and wants to be sure. it’s just what always happens to me and i really would appreciate it if you would tell me what my next move should be and how this should turn out/how he feels and what he may be thinking. i think doing this can be beneficial because a) you might find a great guy who does want to commit or b) he might realize how much it sucks to have the person you’re dating to be open to dating other people. the online dating profile is tellng me that he is still keeping his options open just incase. we spend a good deal of our free time together, he’s met my friends and family (he has no one here, but his family knows about me), and we have an amazing time whenever we are together. he finally set up some time for us to talk, but i was frustrated that at this point, he had already given his landlord 30 days notice.. i’ll summarize the positive and negative of what i found:He had not been texting or emailing other women since over a year ago (at least from what i could tell).. after fighting about it for weeks he’s now saying he’s going to delete it but when where together to do it… because as soon as i saw he had his, damn right i put mine back up and he said i did it out of “revenge” …. strange thing is, while i deleted my profile from the site on which we’d met, he hadn’t and i assumed he’d just cease using it or hide his profile and not renew his subscription but, turns out he has a match membership discovered by my suspicious sister whose brought it to my attention. kinda confuses me…but i have created a fake profile on the same site with no picture and said that i don’t have any kids and made myself 2 inches taller and also put that i live in the town i grew up in. but he didn’t pay for my lunch just gave me the change for his coffee. week two came and i found that while i was waiting for him to respond to a text i sent (45mins) he was on the dating website from his phone. and i hope it goes without saying that when you enter a relationship where you both are only interested in each other, at that point the multiple dating would stop!’ve been dating the same guy for 4 months and today i asked him where i stand and he is not answering me back is he hiding something from me. thought through all of this for a couple of days before i brought it up to him. if he continues to check the dating site drop him and save yourself some pain down the road. we have established the gf/bf thing, introduce me as his gf, established monogamy, etc. i had been dating this guy i met online for 4 months. re-enable your profile, let him know that you no longer consider your relationship exclusive but you hope to continue to date him, and then start looking for other guys to date. i raised this with him, and he still swore blind that he hadn’t met up with anyone since meeting me and was responding that he wasn’t available for a relationship. i mean, when is the point where he would take his profile down? that or i would just cut him off… the guy i used to see from okc has a new gf supposedly but he is still on there. i just assume that if someone really likes you, then they would delete their online profile right away and they wouldn’t be so afraid of commitment. his last message was that he was going to send me a message the next day…but he didn’t. actually, he kind of chased me online for a week before i gave in and talked to him. i’ve met his friends and he’s met my friends and some of my family. so when i met him on thursday i asked him why he was online if he so wanted to get off. mean, the whole comment gets a big “yes, correct”, but this in particular. saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, i went to visit him this time. he denied it, said that he’d been telling any interested parties that he was involved with someone (me) – and that he’d look into taking down the profile. we both voluntarily took our profiles off about a month in, but we never really had the exclusive conversation. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. (this is because my 20 yr old is here still and this way we can have alone time. we have a lot of common interests and have so much fun together, but have had a couple of awkward conversations about exclusivity and where this may be heading. if i want to check on someone i just use a friend’s profile to see when they were last online. 4 units so busy but he bought it to my attention that he saw me online previous day. this doesn’t make leaving his profile up is right…but it could mean that he is committed to you even though he is taking an action that suggests otherwise (so don’t lose all hope!  this is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience. i was getting player’ vibes from him by this time. i love him and i’m scared of losing him, but it gives me a lot of heartache knowing that he has feelings for another online dating girl. those of you that ask why about how i found his profile, my friend created a blank account to check her dishonest husband a few years ago, and i logged on (with her permission)…my profile has been down for a long time. instead i think if there is no mention from him after 6 week i would find it easier to just ignore him & move on to dating over guys. in your case, he asked you to be his girlfriend…he needs to cut out the unnecessary continuation of online dating now. but after three years of giving my heart to him i feel that i deserve more than that, i feel that he is being disrespectful and dishonest if he is spending all this time with me and saying he loves me, we are even doing 5 love languages together to help our relationship. he goes online every day brad yesterday he was online in the morning and in the evening.?Any suggestions on how to deal with this now am i just wasting my time and just move on? i confronted him about it, we broke up, and then he came crawling back to me 2 weeks later and deleted his okcupid profile. he told my fake profile to understand that he’s looking for a ‘soulmate’ – really? so far, so good – until we were both looking at something on his laptop, and a dating website came up as one of his most visited sites. he gave me a key to his place also and told me to stop by whenever.” just so i could see when he’s online (not to get a response. just wanted to say thank you so much for this site! i would be eternally grateful because at this point i feel as if i am going crazy. but i’m hoping that if i continue to practice this then it will just become second nature. i am really confused cos y’day he was online 3 times i haven’t even gone into my account. this last weekend he finally got the courage to inform his mother that he had proposed (6 months ago! he said that he is very much excited in seeing and dating me, and already planned on where we would go. we met later that day and he told me his friend had informed him earlier in the week that i’d been on it a bit and he was shocked and angry and that’s why he used this other profile. we have yet to have a real exclusivity talk and have not talked about our dating profiles.. he said he’s really interested in pursuing a relationship with me and said when we first met he felt chemistry… however i haven’t been going on the site ,so i decided to log on to remove my profile and saw he was on line . his response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile. this fool also stated he wanted my mind, soul, body, money & property. postshandling online dating rejection gracefullyhow to handle casually dating multiple people at once5 online dating profile turnoffs what happens when you finally meet someone? any insecurities i had were short lived – he has proved to me through his actions that i can trust him.!2 days ago i checked to see if he had taken his pof profile down (along with another one i had found several months ago – sexsearch dating site). i am one to not talk with other men when i am a few dates into seeing a guy, but we aren’t to that place of discussing taking down profiles yet. i really don’t want him to talk to those girls from dating app. in the begining i didnt have a problem with him still being active on the site cus it was early days, i was still on there too. you meet someone awesome; start dating, and then suddenly you realize they still have an active online dating profile. i can see why some people might not like their friends reporting on this sort of thing regularly…but if you’re close, she would probably appreciate it. i have told my parents and he has claimed that he’s told his as well. except the fact that my bf wanted to date me and see me, but still thought there was someone else out there “better” for him, so he kept the site up. but here is my situation:Met this guy who is 36 yrs old on “match” and he took me out to all these expensive restaurants and showered me like a princess. i like to stay chill, but it’s hard when the person i deeply like and have put a lot of time into isn’t willing to sacrifice his current dating life while i am. gatherings out of state, day outtings with his kids, hanging with his other friend couples (he has always introduced me as his girl), spending long weekends together…. we still text once a week and i usually text first or he does if i don’t. ive literally in the past found dating profiles that i have never created using my pictures and details to create profile counts or other uses. he has written a free online dating guide to help others find success with online dating. in my mind the matter is so simply about respect and i find it difficult to understand how to tolerate the ‘continues to actively online date’ thing…. i suppose my issue is that his profile is hidden therefore does not show up in any searches, so why is he accessing his account? though he already told me he wasn’t interested in dating other people, and we had both disabled our profiles a week or two before. i understand his schedule because of his work demands as a nurse, but there’s this feeling inside me that makes me feel a bit sad and worried because it’s been almost a week since he last called me. so for the first time, i decided to do some checking, and did a search on his profile username. i am trying my hardest not to bring this up again, but the recent picture really has me thrown for a loop. red flags: he wanted me to put his needs before my kids, he wanted me to give him a monthly allowance because he wouldn’t be able to work his weekend job and asked if i was ok with him recouping the loss of funds from me. this has been most acutely demonstrated over the last week by the data dump from the ashley madison platform, which revealed that the site had millions of straight male subscribers, but very few women signed up. we’ve had this dang conversation at least 4 or more times! so it concerns me when i found out that his profile is still up and he goes online like pretty much everyday. he even offered to show me the “fake” account he was using to help his friend. i’m really freaked out about commitment – i love this guy and have a relationship with him like no other, he accepts everything about me, he adores me, is kind, gentle and makes it his daily goal to do things that make me happy. the fact that he changed his profile means that he still uses the site.

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he also said that i should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. i am aware that there is a 30 minutes lag off in okc, like you will still appear online even though you already logged out. if you’ve been on one or two dates and your guy still has his profile up, you have nothing to worry about. would you be hurt if she did this to you and slyly hooked up with another guy? a month ago, i complained about his dating profile still being active. so i plucked up courage and sent txt, saying i had a good day etc but im upset and i needed to talk to him, his instant reply was are u ok, whats wrong. it’s true, camba, that glitches happen and profiles can be created by scammers, those are usually the sex dating sites,etc…..and during all this, we are both still active on the dating sites…. unfortunately i think in this case eric is giving women advise on how to give men exactly what they want, without the woman receiving what she wants. about a week ago, i noticed that he had the pof app installed on his phone, and he just got a new phone a few days before that – so i calmly asked him about it. if he agreed to exclusivity and he’s still on dating websites, that’s cheating, doesn’t matter the reason. i have read what you have written on this subject and i know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it? a few minutes later, his short worded texts suddenly stopped. since our last huge fight regarding him talking to other girls he said he had deleted the dating apps. i brought up the online thing & he said he was emailing 2 girls – ‘nothing interesting’. i asked him if dating or seeing somebody and he replied he is dating here and there and kinda seeing someone but nothing serious. we both want a faithful and loyal partner, and since his last girlfriend cheated on him constantly while he was deployed to iraq (3 times), he said he really doesn’t have time for games. 3 months in is when i saw he was still logging in……it upset me…. this required him to travel like 3 hours to visit me where i was at that time…. however, i have been a little freaked out by this talk before, which is why i dread having to start it. is possible that when you talk to him, you’ll gain insight into his position. you care for him and while some of his actions declare he feels the same way, other actions make things less clear. i finally told him he need to set up a specific date with me where we could go out and talk about this stuff together and privately. don’t attack him about it – show genuine curiosity and i hope he’ll realize that even if he thinks it’s not a big deal that his profile should come down/be hidden. logic aside, i would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing i asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you exclusive and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other? the real irony here is that fast forward a year down the road, this woman gets burned badly and has wasted a whole year of her life, and then she will be told that she should’ve seen the warning signs early on and “should’ve known better. he was still really, really insistent that he wasn’t looking for anyone else, and would look again at cancelling the sites. however i told him i am relationship girl & not at ease with this casual arrangement. if the guy looks at your profile, you get a notification. – that he could go back online without telling me – this feels like he is going behind my back in some way – though the forum is public so of course i then think the act of going back online means he is making a massive statement that he is no longer interested instead of having the respect and courage to say so to my face… if you know what i mean. i found out he was dating multiple people (yes, and sleeping with all of us), all from the online dating site. i’ve stopped responding to these emails from the fake profile. how many girls he’d been with sexually and not: not many, and if he was dating anyone else: no, and if he was what i like to call a serial dater, dating many at once. he is super attentive when we are together, has introduced me to all of his friends who have warmly accepted me into their circle as one of their own. he hasn’t asked to meet since i just nodded at his suggestion. this whole situation sounds to me like him trying to have his cake and eat it too. i got my revenge though and set him up by using a friend’s profile to catch a great big rat (and even though it was me he was writing to he still lied and lied and lied) and i caught him out big time. one guy got mad cause i wanted him to confirm im hes still coming! ever since then i can’t think about anything else and i still feel sick to the very core, i just want to know why he would do this! i reminded him how his friend spied on me – he now says it wasn’t his friend but he himself. i told him i didn’t understand this plan since we had not talked yet. brought it up and he told me that he thinks there is someone else better out there for his “lifestyle. after a couple of weeks i told him that i had deactivated my profile and he told me that he had cancelled his subscription. saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, i went to visit him this time. i think it’s more likely he still wants attention or that he’s lying (unfortunately).  that is not to say that no effort goes into the relationship – my statement is that the work that the relationship takes doesn’t feel like effort… it feels like a labor of love… a meaningful contribution to something worthy, fulfilling and great. i was completely honest with him that i had looked him up, and he told me that he ex-wife took his old computer after they split up and that’s the computer he had used to sign up. that being said, i’d still be cautious – it takes 5 minutes to take your profile down so his excuse doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. he even introduced me as his fiancee once, and all his friends know about me. i have been seeing this guy for two months and we’ve gotten fairly close. addition to answer from just me:He already has pictures of me, i have sent by phone and i asked him that he had been online, he said it was because he was checking whether i had been online, i have left it a week and sure enough he has been online in the last 24 hours. i realize she’s already reached that point where it would be devastating for her to lose him but allowing it to continue only to have things end over this a few years from now isn’t going to improve things for her. is true that lots of people set up online dating profiles without ever taking action or using them to meet someone.? if this is the case, then ill do the same thing hes doing to me. just wanted some suggestions from you about moving on or should i still date him as it really bothers me and also when he tells me that he doesn’t know what he really wants. we are 4 months into the relationship and he still says he’s scared of commitment. that’s what’s really going to tell you where this is going. this would put our “relationship” on hold and already up to a tough test. sex until you both take down your profiles and agree to be exclusive..but between the texts and the online dating profile still being live i am not sure what to do. asked me about it in person i said i was checking his profile. other times a site will say i was online while i wasnt on it. your situation is a little different because it sounds as if he didn’t have a dating profile when you started dating but now he has one (? i was not satisfied with his anwser so i kept a close eye on things. partner and i have been together for about half a year, and we met on a dating site (i’d guess it’s the same one as the lw is using because it’s free and actually better than the majority of pay sites). curious of anyone’s thoughts on this…been going out with a guy i met online. i check his page (because it’s viewable to the public) and he’s made several modifications today. anyone ever found their significant other on a dating site? i’m not saying this is what is happening but i would argue he seems to deserve a little more benefit of the doubt than some of the other guys discussed here. This week: what to do if the person you’re dating can’t quit the sceneHomeonline dating bloghis dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? he invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. do you do/what does it mean when he lied about deleting his account when i never even asked him to? after that i did what any respectable women would do and i deactivated by online profile. i think these are all good things and he did give me a heads up well in advance and still wants to meet. he decided on his own that we should be exclusive and not look anymore, i didn’t push the issue to be honest because i was so disappointed over all that i honestly didn’t care at that point if we kept seeing each other or not, but he seemed determined so i gave him a chance. there is no cure but an expensive therapist to sit with you for several sessions for emotional damage – to help re establish your self worth and value that was destroyed by one person who had the audacity to demand no expectations while you jump to his cool as heck laid back beat.” he took my hand, placed it on his chest which was beating as fast as mine and said with a smile “it’s what happens when you’re falling in love” a few days later, he updated his headline on pof to “undecided” —- i dont even know what that means. he brought me to his parents but seem to be quite scared of letting his friends see me. we met on a dating website, and the relationship took off right from the start., if you let your account expire and can prove that to her, that means you can’t read or reply to any communication so there’s really no risk of your profile being there. his facebook page and his relationship status says involved with another girl. i told him the reason why and what i had done and he didn’t try to deny anything, he was very straight forward about it and said he thought we were still looking, he was under the impression i was still looking as well. accidentally discovered that my bf had recently logged into his online dating profile. why would a man want to keep me as his friend after he knows he’s messed up? – have you tried talking with him about this more aggressively? How do you tell if he is interested in dating you exclusively? we still caught up on sunday evening and it was lovely. we were going to hang out all day but he told me yesterday that it’s his friend’s birthday on saturday, i mean how do u forget that?” i then printed this section out and asked him again if he was cheating on the internet and he looked me straight in the eyes and said: “definitely not”. i don’t want to tell him i know about the profile because even if he appologises and deletes it. so as our conversation goes i knew he was referring to me the girl he was seeing.. i put his hand on my chest and said ‘omg! and i don’t care how innocent it might be, it still hurts.  however, in this case, i feel that the conversation points i laid out above do more to instruct than even my explaining of my viewpoint would have…. if your gut tells you the guy you’re dating is a big fat pig, literally and figuratively, he is! i decided to still give him the benefit of the doubt.” today, i emailed him and asked him if he is dating people from the site and that we should both take our sites down and focus on each other. everyone and a while i would get on his phone or computer and check. this infuriated me, and to my utter shame i called him out immediately.” he goes, “aww 🙂 you like me so much to delete it. must-see related posts:Ask a guy (dating tips / relationship advice for women): frequently asked questions. the risk of being lied to is higher online because it is a catalogue of sorts. at this time he posted that he was “single” on ok and so did i. but if this is good and is making you feel good? to be honest, i’m not convinced that all the guys doing this even understand why. are going along great, he talks about the future alot, i mean making plans and things like that but he still calls me his “friend”., i thought i was the only one in this situation. now, he only goes online for a couple of minutes at a time whenever he does log in. he lied when he told me he hadn’t been with anyone else in a while, which turned out to be about 7 days… and he told his fwb girl that he hadn’t been with me in a really long time – which actually was like 3 days. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. he mentioned twice that nobody comes to his apartment but me. i kept my profile on there because a) there’s cool quizzes; b) there’s a social network there (both through journals and forums) and keeping membership was the easiest way to maintain some friendships) and c) there’s a setting for ‘seeing someone’ in the profile. just looking for a suggestion on how to handle this is all. slept together after about 5 dates and it just felt right but neither of us mentioned about being exclusive, i think we both took it we were only seeing and sleeping with each other, at this point he was still active on site but my time on there was becoming less. he met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. she doesn’t know is that he could be logging on and looking at her photo and reading her profile again. i recently started seeing this guy and we met through an online site a long time ago but we just started talking through facebook. well i found out he is now with a seperated lady he met online. so we got chatting another time he was having a party where he did the cooking (this made me feel bad as i don’t have a lot of contacts here)…then the next day we wanted to call me, so i gave my number.“he thinks “yikes, why is she monitoring my online activity and acting like i owe her an explanation for it after a few dates?

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are you ok with easier opportunities via online dating while shagging her? now i not only wasted a year but have spent six months trying to recover emotionally and am going back into the dating scene with less trust. would say let him know how he’s made you feel and then keep your options open to date other guys because at this point it seems like he’s proven that you can’t believe what he says. have the same story as above, i started dating this guy a month ago. we had an amazing connection and he made me his girlfriend about the second time we hung out. a man is still browsing a dating site, he’s keeping his options open. also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. i have only been seeing this guy for three weeks., often online dating doesn’t match the real world and i think that in some cases waiting for the commitment/respect to happen naturally is going to be a frustrating experience. now, i confess that i think i still have a profile on a dating site or two (don’t judge). this thing where people are actively looking for love and connection but they only get it if they pretend really hard that it doesn’t really matter and play it cool all the time? you can read a book together but if he turns around and starts putting a profile online, what good has it done? i would just be concerned that this type of game could continue for years.’ve had several readers write me after they argued with the man they were dating to ask if i thought they had made the right choice. on, my now boyfriend and i started dating and it was casual dating for both of us. there — i looked back at this article, which i wrote awhile ago, and i agree it missed some key points. was feeling unsure (trust issues from being cheated on 2 out of 3 boyfriends) and so i created a “fake” profile (something i am not very proud of). quizprivacy policyterms of useftc disclosure statementsites we lovecontact usask a guy (dating tips / relationship advice for women): frequently asked questions. it sucked because my friend offered to give me rides to his dorm but now that’s canceled.’s so funny about atl these response is how you all know he hs a dating profile still… that means you have one too… i went through this… dated a guy… liked him wants mite but he refused to be anything more than casual… then when he saw i opened a new profile he was angry… calling me a slut… thing is hestill had his own profile… maybe they know you’re checking or not but just confrontb them. there’s no doubt in my mind she is someone i want to date, be part of my life and take it from there and see where im this goes from there. the advice that was given in this article was horrible! is there a way for me to bring this up that will not result in the “relationship” talk? he said he wanted to see me this monday which is tomorrow (holiday). i called match to make sure i did not falsely accuse him of being online if he was not.! the next morning i saw him in there at 630 am, did some things, came back at 730 am, he deleted his entire profile! i’d suggest you suggest to him that you meet out his way – if he responds positively and wants to meet, things are probably fine. he asked me to cancel the recurring payments in paypal, which i did for him (english is his second language and he’s not terribly computer savvy). i still stand by what i said if the proper context is included, but i agree this answer needs expansion to clearly explain the difference between a player’s behavior and a regular guy who just needs a little time and space to adjust (within reason). when we are together his behavior to me in without fault and amazingly caring. i wish you the best of luck – whether he changes his mind or not! but i never made it past 2 months with anyone because each and every time the guy would continue with an active profile i would feel disrespected, lose trust and belief in the guy’s intentions and force a swift ending one way or another. he goes out of his way to text me just to say hi, good morning, or see how my day is going. i guess i’m writing because it seems like we have a good connection and that he likes me (he even told me so) but he hasn’t made a move to discuss exclusivity and he doesn’t seem like he’s interested in giving up his profile. would you be at ease knowing that if you are looking online you cannot give the relationship a chance? anyway, last week his sister had been awful to me and i was home alone and upset..but im starting to feel a bit strained because i just dont know where this is all going.’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising. two days ago, someone brought his pof account to my attention, knowing that we were “together”, so i got online and checked it out. me, this guy is saying he loves you but he is not showing it. i’ve never had to initiate the “where is this going” talk. a message that makes you ask yourself “what fresh hell is this? when i didn’t hear from this guy till friday afternoon, i was in no mood to wait and was not happy and you can understand why since i had spent all my patience with my ex. – it’s very possible that he would change as we don’t really know what’s causing him hesitation from fully committing to just dating you and hiding his profile. but he’s still so kind to me to help me in my time of need. that was the last communication we had, and i am kind of glad that i didn’t say anything about the badoo profile, but i am now feeling uncertain of what really is going on, and if i should leave it for now or until he comes back in october? it was my first time online and i honestly thought he was ‘the one’! i’ve don’t a ton of research on this and cannot find any explanation of how a dating profile can show recent activity if the user has not been on for supposedly over a year. then even though my fake profile kept telling him i wasn’t interested he kept asking telling me i (real me) was ok with this since he’d been ‘honest’ with me. i go round, we hang out with his housemates (2 guys and a girl), he’ll cook me dinner and we’ll all go on a night out together or if it’s in the day, watch movies (we’ve only had rainy days so far). i mean, if he meets someone else online it’s not as if you’re exclusive any longer. i think that might be a next step: to let him know that you’re very unhappy that he keeps his profile up. he had planned romantic trips for the two of us, we were together practically every day, we went on family camping trips, i met his parents several times, he was talking about future stuff with each other. all this crap about it being ok anf find ouy first is straight crap. we had a look and he has changed his profile to looking for women for friends. now i know guys are prone to do this once they’ve “got” a girl as it were. it’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case. i asked him if things were still good because i really wanted things to work out between us. his title on the site is “just looking” but his goal is to “fall in love”…. i’m fully aware of the irony of this, being that i had to be online as well in order see him. i will have to trust his decision, and if i ever feel like my mistrust of him is too big to continue, i will let him know and i will break it off, just like i had intended the first time. know i am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! i just had a weird feeling to log in one day and see if he was online …and he was! i took my profile off the site because i believe it leads to hurt feelings and in my little mind, why make him not trust me.’m still very interested to hear your thoughts and advice. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. i really want to find out why men do this?. he told his fwb girl ‘love you’ in a text, and that was a little over a month after we first met. i am in the same boat and i wil be having a discussion with my so called guy about this asap. second, the idea that he can’t delete his profile because he only logs on from his phone is silly…it take 30 seconds on a computer to remove it. in fact, he has since told me that he is actually glad i went through his phone and handled it the way i did with him (holding him accountable to it, ready to dump his butt, but didn’t attack him like the tasmanian devil). not in that place to talk about exclusivity but one thing that i find bothersome for me is when i see he is online immediately after i’ve left his place or he’s left mine. obviously the profile is not “just there” and obviously its not there for his friend’s use because he is putting up pics of himself and updating his own info. on the other hand i don’t want to continue to put a lot of time and effort into this relationship if she’s looking for something else as i don’t want to be the fallback guy either….’re saying i’m writing this to help a bro out. i am in my late 40s and was seeing and sleeping with a man in his late 50s who i learned was very active on the dating site we met on. the next day he says he went online and couldn’t find me. everything is great so far, we go out for dinner, watched movies, sometimes just stay in his apartment and ordered pizza and cuddle on the couch and watched a movie.!, conversation was boring and didnt amount to anything so i just blanked him and deleted profile. shellbell – i’m emailing you a response on this (sorry for the delay if you wander back! i realized after 4 months of being on match that this was not the venue to use to meet someone if you are interested in a serious long-term relationship. they are not looking out for you if they still are checking out the menu while proclaiming they are crazy about you. but i must say his profiles up still really bother me, especially since we have been intimate. – i do like your friends advice to continue dating others. have to remember that you don’t know his full story yet.?Also since posting this, we’ve had more discussions, all of which have been helpful. my feelings for him were getting so deep and i wanted to be his gf. i really like this gy so i want to give him a chance to delete the profile of his own accord. seems he wants me on his terms but doesn’t want anyone else having me. the monday after a long beautiful weekend, bam, he is online. he invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. i logged on to it because he gave me his passwords to things and i figured it was the same one. how do i let what would normally be a wonderful relationship (if it were not for his dating profile) progress, or how do i let it go? once the “exclusivity” talk came up (from my end): i asked if he was still on that dating site, because i took my profile down about two weeks after we met. asked him about this, and told him that while i had no wish to pry into his personal life, the question for me was whether he was looking to keep his options open for now, it being early days.!First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating. majority of these guys that get on these dating sites (especially match) never get off. can someone, please explain to me what is going on because i see it as one thing and one thing only, i am being deceived in a very cruel way as he is clearly preoccupied with pursuing other women on dating sites. i don’t want to ask that question too soon for fear of scaring him off but i haven’t got much dating experience so i’m unsure as to what i should do. when we first met he was so into me calling me all day and making his way to see me whenever he had free time. but i just dont know how to really tell if his idea of a relationship is the same as mine or if he just wants to date. he was sent to them as a mutual match and it showed that he was online that day within one hour after he had with me in bed the night prior.) i just started seeing someone really great and want to see where that goes, but if it doesn’t work out, yeah, let’s get a drink sometime! this may or may not be a situation you need to say no to…., if you sent him a short email saying you were going to be in his area soon and you’d love to grab a coffee with him, i think that could work. if a woman had emailed me after i met my wife, i probably would have looked at the profile even though i knew i’d met “the one”…i think sometimes it’s more about wanting to know who was interested in you as opposed to pursuing them. so if a possible “match” checks his profile and sees all the info on it–including last log in, that’s fine because that’s what he’s there for. he did, when we spoke i said i was upset, i just seen his profile and how it changed and we were literlally with each other hours ago. he had cancelled his membership (and told me he was doing this) about 3 weeks ago. i texted him that i missed him, i havent mentioned anything to him about deleting his profile, i told him i deleted mine and he said he cant delete his from his phone. he’s told me his biggest fear is missing the boat’ as in not getting married and having kids at a decent age.’s note: i have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as i do from time to time). when he says he’ll take it down when the time is “right”…well, if you’re dating someone and you keep telling her you’re not going to date anyone else then the right time is now! met him on pof in august 2013 and to be honest, i had just started dating again since my divorce 6 1/2 years earlier. he said maybe its best if we stop contact until after his surgery and hes well again (which could be 3-4 weeks! it’s awkward now because i don’t really want to confess and say that i created a “fake” profile because of my own insecurities. about a month into dating, i knew i really liked him and wanted to see where it was going to go. then he said he may not get to his computer much to message me! this is how your valentine’s day is going rhia. i was able to see his messages and as of today it shows that he had logged in and there were messages from women in which he had responded to just a couple of hours earlier before i came home.

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