we seriously don’t belong anywhere, and now i’m feeling i don’t even belong in the feministwire ciricle because it seems as though my aceness makes me less “woman” because i chose to not have sex or a relationship as part of my sexual orientation. thought i do feel like it’s important to stress the root of the connotations around black men’s sexuality, independent of us, as well. but i wanna add a disclaimer of something that bothers me:I am a black woman and i am, indeed, aromantic asexual. the curves of my face, my boisterous personality – versus many other indian girls’ reserved studiousness – and my avid obsession with making mix tapes off of hot 97: to other indians, these things indicated something unrespectable and, indirectly, sexual about me.'m a black male and i am very attracted to indian women. know a few black-indian folks here in the northeast, and i just yesterday saw a very dark-skinned indian man with his ethiopian girlfriend (who was lighter than he was) at a local bookstore. i would ask of you if you just used a different word than asexual (to me, it’s the same as saying “this article is so gay”) because by we’re already extremely affected by hypersexualization to the degree, and i’ve read too many “feminist” articles outwardly calling asexual women “sick repressed women” when we do get older. many indians would agree that it is often tough to find a good indian restaurant, even in major cities., and op must be part of the black love brigade. am a black woman that swirls but i can't never get down with indian men. unfortunately it seems that the majority of them want nothing to do with black men. it wasn’t just that i was not seen as attractive (because that is subjective overall, color aside); it was that i was wholly invisible during that high school process of exploring sex and romance. lots of black ppl don't introduce their other half to parents. a south african indian woman i was really moved by this article. asexuality is also not a cookie cutter sexuality, and there are many orientations within asexuality, but i’m only speaking from my personal experience as an aromantic ace. dated an indian woman for a while,and she told me right up front that her parents would never accept me,because i was black. but really man, don't expect to get anyone unless u guys are in love, i never though i would fall in love with a south american but i did, i always pictured myself with either white or indian. because i hung out with the alphas and went to “black parties” on the weekends.
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black women need to love themselves more than to put up with racist indians.. i notice that black woman care more deeply when this happens but black men overlook it and still marry and procreate with the vermin. i was completely unaware of the stigmatizing of young indian girls and women that dated black men. asexuality is also not a cookie cutter sexuality, and there are many orientations within asexuality, but i’m only speaking from my personal experience as an aromantic ace. but what’s more memorable and noteworthy than these actual relationships is what people on the outside believed about them, something that follows me to this day after a fierce drawn-out battle in adulthood with my family over a boyfriend, also black, whom i was with for six years and nearly married. people think i am down right not human, down right mentally ill, and want to send me to all sort of doctors when in the few rare instances i do express my identity. as a fellow brownie organizing in the nyc area, i can’t tell you how much crap i get by basically all my non-black & latino friends and fam about simply having black friends…just this past weekend i called out my friends and fam for being racist, and had zero support not only because of their stereotypical/traditional ideas, but just simply being uneducated and ignorant about the black community…so thank you so so much again for this, i feel for and with you on your experiences and i’m so glad to know i am not alone 🙂. they don't believe so much in just dating which is what modern people like to do., a few years later and in a new place, when my sister told me that indian girls who date black guys are sluts, which i sadly learned was indeed the popular perception, i remained a virgin, almost sitting out college hookup culture altogether. but whenever i was at school, i was the quiet, ignored, unattractive, “typical indian” girl. can go find people living in the most isolated tribes on this earth, talk to them, and even they know that black american women are desperate for white menclick to expand. like look at how black people in india are treated. lots of black ppl don't introduce their other half to parents. i’ve finally come to see clearly the odd dichotomy i’ve been navigating of being seen as prudish and puerile and, alternately, overly sensual and almost dangerous because of the ways i step outside of that virtuous indian woman trope, even if only in the way i speak, carry myself, and dress. though: would it be anymore harsh if the guy was black and he was too embarrassed to introduce her to his parents cause she's too dark? do indian women feel there is a negative stigma associated with all black men? “oh, if she had to marry a non-indian guy, why a black one? but whenever i was at school, i was the quiet, ignored, unattractive, “typical indian” girl.