Is he interested in dating me or not

Is he still interested in dating me

have read that many complaints from match is the status option is flawed and can be triggered from simply receiving and deleting a email from match in your personal account. we have been seeing each other, twice a week for 7 weeks now. met my boyfreind on the site in april 2012, we spoke over txt for like 3 weeks and met up. one month down the line he stopped refferring to out future, except he will only speak to me current situation and only refers me as gf. just wanted some suggestions from you about moving on or should i still date him as it really bothers me and also when he tells me that he doesn’t know what he really wants. – i think it would be a good time to mention being official again. after the month of him being gone, he got a hotel room and i stayed with him for a few days, hanging out non stop except when i have to go to work. it's more important than ever to come to nyc pride. so i can see how the boys would struggle to manage that and think that continuing conversations online harmless… it is an enormous confidence booster, flattering to receive attention and the thrill of first dates really good fun. so as that sixth week approaches, i think it would be best if you let him know that you’re bothered by his profile still being up and see how he responds. am just so scarred to bring my feelings or the site thing up……., if my wife told me that she put an online dating profile up because she was a pisces…that wouldn’t fly with me! i immediately drove over to his house, and asked him (not in an angry or confrontational way) if we wanted to date other people. month 4, i told him i was really enjoying getting to know him, and that my feelings for him were growing in a way i had not expected, and realized that i had reached a point where i would like to include him more into my life and allow him to meet my children (they are teenagers now). also, you might want to ask him why he wants to keep his profile up if you are using words like that. i met a guy on a dating app, we went on a date.’d vote for opening up more and letting him know how you feel…but not necessarily in one big conversation. after that we never said another word about it and have been hanging out like nothing happened. there was one night about 3 weeks ago now where i did flip out on him (somewhat) about not responding to my texts at all (heard nothing from him, two different days. if you couldn’t be, walking away could very well be the best option. he not only read the email but he also viewed my profile. i was very upset & contacted him – he came over & not only calmed me down but sorted things out for me. chatting to women on a dating app for the sheer fun of it is just one example of the ways a guy can lead a lady on. i told him i talked to another man on the phone. if you really hit it off, i’d hope the car situation wouldn’t prevent a relationship from forming. i told him i appreciate his honesty and that if he still wanted to ‘date’ (not spend nights, yada yada) while we both date others, to keep our connection going, i was ok with that. he’s all over the shop & i can’t handle this roller coaster. he may like you, he may love you, he may be into you but…. i recently signed up on another website and have been looking at other prospects because i feel even though i care about him, i don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket if he is unsure of me as well. wud like to add we are both the same age and same religion but from differentt cultures origionally (they are similar). and he went on to say he thinks we may be meant to be together but struggles with being unsure., i’m not familiar with tagged but it doesn’t sound good. zane wrote for us that while he still labels himself as bisexual, he may never date a women again for the rest of his life. we met later that evening and had a good conversation where i told him to ask the next time. he said it all has actually caused him to love me even more and strengthen his commitment to me, which he acknowledges might sound strange, but that is the affect it had for him. his only real response to all of this is that he is a different person now than he was then. you other questions on if his story is true or if he was using you for sex…i really have no idea. we decided to put the apartment in both of are names. he completely altered his whole viewpoint in just a month. after all, he better be impressive if he’s going to win you over. as you approach being exclusive, obviously it would be a problem but since you say that’s not where you’re at, i’d leave it be. we both voluntarily took our profiles off about a month in, but we never really had the exclusive conversation.. we are both full time parents and work full time. so, i asked “why do you have the profile up when you know it bothers me this way? reality is that if a man likes you – i mean really likes you – it will be obvious. but i must say his profiles up still really bother me, especially since we have been intimate. it would be the same thing to me if i asked a woman to date me exclusively. i’m sure this will make him angry but it will be pretty hard for him to deny (and i get the feeling that you’re going to have to accept him getting angry if you want to pursue solving this problem, regardless of how you approach it). even though i told him that was one of the conditions for me if we were going to live together., i’m not sure aaron carter is a representative for this group.” we also did the “in a relationship” status on facebook. i don’t want to bring it up with him again for a third time. i felt if he was into me then he would without asking him to. he said that he hadn’t been on that one in months and didn’t even remember the login – even though it said he had been online literally right before i called him. that’s how things went for my wife and i when we met online. we talked a lot about what we want in life, our values and dreams, and they match almost 100%. once he wants to commit, you’re willing to commit as well. i haven’t said one word about it since but i am wondering how long to wait. there will come a point that you will need to draw a line and make ultimatums but i’m not convinced one month into the relationship is that time (especially if you think you’ve found a great guy). we still text once a week and i usually text first or he does if i don’t. i saw that his profile was still up, which was a bummer since he said he would take it down and he hadn’t. we like to do a lot of the same things, have the same smart a** sense of humor, both enjoy mind games (of the fun sort), have a very acttive sex life, laugh a lot, ecr ect….’ i had so many answers to that question like if he liked me as much as he said would he still be looking at other girls, or how do i know he’s not talking to others? he said things to me like “you have a lot of stress in your life, and it’s stressing me out etc. can someone, please explain to me what is going on because i see it as one thing and one thing only, i am being deceived in a very cruel way as he is clearly preoccupied with pursuing other women on dating sites. you know i’m not a bad person and i did try to tell you i wasn’t thinking us in a relationship would work. know it won’t be easy but if he refuses to commit himself to you i recommend keeping your options open. also, ladies, exclusivity is a trap for women and a benefit to men. just want to take the time to say thank you very much for your insight and guidance. he even used it last night, and i just dont know what to do about it. as maree touched on earlier, these guys wouldn’t try to continue to pick up other women and real life and shouldn’t do so online either. sometimes i feel that maybe we rushed into things a little too quick….” he took my hand, placed it on his chest which was beating as fast as mine and said with a smile “it’s what happens when you’re falling in love” a few days later, he updated his headline on pof to “undecided” —- i dont even know what that means. friends all think he seems to really like me… i hope s too. just don’t do so in a confrontational way: just let him know you care about him and you need to know where the two of you stand. i told him i wasn’t upset but that it weirded me out and i need a partner i can trust. i told him that i couldn’t continue on with him though if he still wanted to see other women. do wonder, how would he react if you had an active dating profile online? perhaps it’s a commitment problem, perhaps it’s a fidelity problem or maybe it’s something else…but regardless of what it is, it’s not a foundation you’d want to build a solid relationship on. made a point to let me know that there was no way anyone could decide in two or three dates that the person they’re interested in was a bust – so, it certainly looks like he has done just that. – i do like your friends advice to continue dating others. you can read a book together but if he turns around and starts putting a profile online, what good has it done? met a guy on a dating website about 3 weeks ago, and ever since then (tons of long emails back and forth), we’ve been really attached. the only problem is that half the time you end up over-reading all the little things. obviously the profile is not “just there” and obviously its not there for his friend’s use because he is putting up pics of himself and updating his own info.” he started dating girls at age 17, but after a few relationships, he said he had “an experience with a male that i had an attraction to who i also worked with and grew up with. and if an emotionally mature person is being rude to you, it's a pretty good indicator that they're not only not worth your time, but they aren't that into you either. in your case it sounds like he’s keeping it online (for whatever reason) but he’s also lying to you about it. i was chatting/emailing a guy for about a month, we met and seemed to get along really well. until the conversation happens, i would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up. – i think it’s likely that he’ll find another excuse, but you can explain to him how to hide his profile: log into match then click profile then settings and then set the profile to hidden. that was fine, i did keep a check to see if hed come on and there was nothing for a few days and now its started again, hes been on and off for the last few days now. actually, he kind of chased me online for a week before i gave in and talked to him. if you’re just not comfortable with that, it sounds to me like you could bring this up again. you can’t bring yourself to be more aggressive about the situation in person, one thing you could try is to also create a profile on the site (if he’s using a free one). i also feel really guilty for the snooping online i can’t believe i have resorted to this i’m ashamed 🙁., this guy may not even be thinking about his profile and might be totally confused if you disappeared. the fact that you’re taking the time to answer each person is truly amazing. after that i did what any respectable women would do and i deactivated by online profile. i’ve lived in a military town my whole life, and i avoided dating military men for that entire reason. i also told him that we agreed to be exclusive and that having an active profile tells other women that he is still single and it is disrespectful and unacceptable to me. how he loves what we have but that he doesn’t think he can give me what im looking for at the time. he texts you first a lot, that’s a pretty good sign. dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? i texted him and said that i think if he wants to take this relationship seriously as he says (kids, marriage, moving in together, etc) then it’s probably a good idea to delete the profiles.’re not all calculating, manipulative scumbags, but men often subconsciously lead women on. he said his data on his phone wouldn’t work (i think he meant he didn’t want to risk paying for the roaming), but he would text me whenever he would get a chance. i’d suggest you suggest to him that you meet out his way – if he responds positively and wants to meet, things are probably fine. he did not have any sent messages in his sent out box. i have active accounts on the on line sites as well but its been months since ive even thought to look at them. a couple months ago i started to have a “gut” feeling that he was doing things that he didn’t want me to know about.. even if after i take mine down, because it is just a profile… and i have decided… (just now) after reading all these comments that unless he cheats and i can prove it (and i will be gone)… nothing else matters…. out the “best of elite daily” stream in the bustle app for more stories just like this! i also think if she didn’t respond the way i wanted i might put my profile back up. i thought he was nice and understanding, but i was completely wrong. does he seem like he wants something more with me? i still believe what i wrote there, i’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not. on the other hand, i feel like i’m getting mixed signals re.’ve had several readers write me after they argued with the man they were dating to ask if i thought they had made the right choice. they will not give up a good thing, but at the same time, they’ll do just enough to keep you interested. are there guys that such a statement is true for? i am in my late 40s and was seeing and sleeping with a man in his late 50s who i learned was very active on the dating site we met on. things were going extremely well and i have never been happier. and transparency are vital in a healthy relationship i feel for you. out whether a guy is just being nice or actually into you isn’t always easy, but dr.!Are you new to online dating or looking to improve your success using it? so i texted him jokingly that then whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm. today morning his picture is public again and he’s been online every hour 🙁 i have deactivated my account since i don’t want to bother with it. he had deactivated ,blocked me and deleted his old account so that it had looked to me he was offline yet had reopened a new one! a few weeks ago we got back together or at least started seeing each other again and were saying the l word and he said that he didn’t want to sleep with anyone else, so we were monogamous. i am still not sure how to handle the situation. i guess the details of everything doesn’t really matter, i don’t trust him to be faithful to me long term, and i don’t trust him to be truthful with me. i did my usual hey there sexy, he said lol…i asked him how his work thing was going, no response. told me the first day i hadnt talked to him that he forgot his phone at his friends, and id like to believe him but now 2 more days of him not talking to me much i dont know what to think… my friends tell me to give him space so im gonna work on not trying to contact him as much today. they have children from a previous relationship, their partner is always going to be part of their life – but otherwise, any excessive mentioning of an ex is a bad sign. being exclusive means resisting temptation and focusing on the lady you are bedding and claim to be crazy about. if you see that he’s active all the time, you could send him an email from your dating account to his and ask him why he’s so active on the site. wonder what he’ll think when he sees his fiance’s new profile there. news 2 hours agothis gay porn star graphically details his violent experiences with chemsex 3 hours agoperez hilton tells kylie jenner she should’ve gotten an abortion 4 hours agotransgender teen viciously beaten at high school in new jersey (video) 7 hours agohorror and more: what’s coming to netflix, hulu and amazon in october 2017 8 hours agovideo games helped carlos maza become an online video starmore in celebrities: perez hilton tells kylie jenner she should’ve gotten an abortion september 30, 2017 playboy’s hugh hefner, dead at 91, was a staunch supporter of gay rights september 28, 2017 5 things you should know about ‘bodak yellow’ singer cardi b september 27, 2017this post is also available in: spanish portuguese tweet share 0 reddit +1 pocket pinterest 0 linkedin 0 even though he recently came out as bisexual, aaron carter just revealed he’s not interested in dating men. he said he had in the past gone from one serious relationship to another and wants to see what dating around is like. i tried to explain to him i want you to see where i’m coming from, that i was so shocked and hurt that he did that…. love it sasha…although i’m sorry you had to go through this. i don’t write the others off by no means but just usually really like just 1. you had the conversation about killing both profiles there is no excuse to open the emails or winks even now that you know the tidbit about the cookie auto log in i just told you about. i just assume that if someone really likes you, then they would delete their online profile right away and they wouldn’t be so afraid of commitment. he had told me earlier that he wanted to get off the dating site. but the common denominator was that i enjoyed the attention from all of them. and when i say frustrating, i mean for both parties – frustrating for the woman because she’s hoping it will work out but deep down probably knows it won’t have any long-term mileage, and frustrating for the guy because he can’t admit to himself that he hasn’t got the courage to end things. those of you that ask why about how i found his profile, my friend created a blank account to check her dishonest husband a few years ago, and i logged on (with her permission)…my profile has been down for a long time.! he’s computer illiterate, but i don’t buy that he can’t figure out how to hide or delete. i’ve met his friends and he’s met my friends and some of my family. i’d love to hear how things turned out if you stop back! a few minutes later, his short worded texts suddenly stopped. they’re undecided about babies – “maybe in ten, twenty years, they’ll probably invent the technology!

Is he interested in dating me or not

still he kept his profile up as “single” so i did too. i took my profile down and never asked him if he did or not. notion that men are afraid to commit while women are not isn’t true. we saw each other at least once on the weekend and would text, email, im and phone throughout the week. i have a date today & i did mention to him on friday night that i had a date then. so what if as an experiment you tried communicating with a few more guys at the same time. i told him if he’s not that into me, then he’s more than welcome to leave. he said that i was making a big deal out of nothing. confronted him about it after i had time to let it chill. why would a man want to keep me as his friend after he knows he’s messed up? he just asked me something else, i answered and then he asked me to send me a pic and then i answered “for what? and hes always cslling me, we spend every moment together that we can. in the begining i didnt have a problem with him still being active on the site cus it was early days, i was still on there too. that was the last communication we had, and i am kind of glad that i didn’t say anything about the badoo profile, but i am now feeling uncertain of what really is going on, and if i should leave it for now or until he comes back in october? i then handed him the piece of paper and headed for the door. i think it would be better to try to stay away from him at this point…he’s lied enough that it will be hard to tell if or when he starts telling the truth!.Keep in mind it wasnt more than extremely friendly and jokey……….) or even worse, your crush has the emotional maturity of a kindergartener and thinks the only way to get your attention is to make you feel so rejected and isolated, that ultimately, you'll end up clamoring for their attention. he apologized and said that he did panic and freak out because he is afraid to ‘settle down’. he tells me for the first time that he loves me, i say it back to him for the first time as well, because i know it’s true, but i was never going to say it first.?If you want someone committed to you, this doesn’t sound like the guy. if he’s never going to commit, wouldn’t you rather know now as opposed to 6 months from now? it feels so much like a relationship and that he is warminig to the idea, but we havent discussed it cos we cant due to his parents and their plans for him. anyway, he tells me that he doesn’t have the desire to talk to or see anyone else. had not been looking at emails that came from his dating site, let along responding to them. thought through all of this for a couple of days before i brought it up to him. she no longer used the other roommate entrance and decided it was a ok to walk in and chat with him even when i was there all the while shooting me filthy die woman looks. if the two of you have worked out some understanding on a difference between exclusive and girlfriend/boyfriend, isn’t he still headed towards breaking that agreement? we were approved he never moved in because he has his own home. it honestly sounds like your time might be better spent looking for someone who would fight to spend time with you as opposed to fighting to spend time with others. he calls me every good name in the book, such as “baby”, “my girl”, and the works. i tried to give it back last week and he told me to keep it.” just so i could see when he’s online (not to get a response. i don’t know if you would necessarily want to “let it go” but at the same time if he’s keeping his options open you might want to do the same (including staying active online). things were tough at first but then they seemed to be getting better. if you’ve been on one or two dates and your guy still has his profile up, you have nothing to worry about. he refuses to let our relationship status to be known publicly and i’m not allowed to post pics of us together on my facebook and tag him nor make it known that we’re together. he claims a friend must have hacked his account as a joke and that he still wants stuff to work. in the meantime brad he treats me very well and has introduced me to his parents and all his friends.. im not proud of myself but again it felt so so right, i had fallen for him through all these months. – if the two of you are using words like “love” and “monogamous”, i think it was totally acceptable for you to bring the topic up. exactly the same thing happened to me with them – and at the time i tried contacting them, but i was ignored. so, there’s no practical reason for me to want a woman or to identify as bi. to hear but this is how it should go if you expect to be trusted. – it’s very possible that he would change as we don’t really know what’s causing him hesitation from fully committing to just dating you and hiding his profile. he texts me the other day and says he it on pof just out of pure boredom and then tells me he misses me and wishes he could see me. i believed him and since we had such a great and easygoing time with each other, i just went with the flow. it seemed as if we were back to where we were 🙂 but something got me curious and so i went on the same website that we met on thre years ago and there he is on line that day. then he will always know that i found out and, the guilt he may feel could jeopardise our relationship. he said he was trying to hide his but couldnt do it on his phone but when he gets a laptop he will do it, i said ill hide mine too. however, when we commit to getting into a relationship we should be willing to give some things up. then instead of apologizing he yelled at me for knowing. to play devils advocate: let’s imagine he totally forgot about this profile. we made some mistakes by not talking earlier, but i did not want to use that as a reason for exercizing caution when i knew i would not go forward. he had cancelled his membership (and told me he was doing this) about 3 weeks ago.” doesn’t have to be confrontational, just you getting clarification on where he’s at. i still haven’t come across a problem like mine. sometimes it can be ridiculously hard to determine if he’s actually on the same page as you or keeping you deep in the friend zone. i meet this guy on a dating site 3 months ago and we do have feelings for each other. his last email he said he was thankful to me for giving him the kick & the confidence to get back out there. he seems like a great guy, and the compliments are flowing but something is off. so, if this is the case, why would his profile still be up? and never be ashamed to check if that person has lied to you. i also have a feeling that he won’t text me tonight. the monday after a long beautiful weekend, bam, he is online. it really didn’t come up again for quite a while. as a matter of fact, making an issue of things at this point could create a problem when no problem previously existed. second, the idea that he can’t delete his profile because he only logs on from his phone is silly…it take 30 seconds on a computer to remove it. i just have no idea what to do anymore…he is acting like everything is good other than my crazy moodiness lately (i think some of it has to deal with him and the other is just a mix of things bothering me). i asked him if we are exclusive and he said yes. – this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to me. i told her i recently gotten an email and deleted it but i have not been on in a long time. are going along great, he talks about the future alot, i mean making plans and things like that but he still calls me his “friend”. then, one day, out of the blue i decided to see if he was still using the dating site and he was online and chatting with girls. i am not a lonely or desperate woman and like to think i have a great life and great friends. we see each other about once a week due to work and we both have kids, he has his when mine is gone to his dads. he agreed that he did too, and things were good. if she says she’s not comfortable with that because of her past experience, i’d try to be understanding. was dating a girl pretty regularly, seems like it was a fwb situation, but they both clearly felt more for each other and wanted more, but couldn’t seem to make the situation work for their lives at that point yet. at that time, i was chatting to all sorts of girls and a few caught my eye, for differing reasons., let’s just say for example he was doing it because he was bored, but had no other intentions… well even that is dangerous because i personally know so many couples who have broken up over facebook accounts, comments, pics etc… it always just starts so innocently, a person looks cute, they say hello and that could lead to a full blown relationship/affair/fling. i know he checked his email and eventually he did look at the profile, but he did not take the bait and respond back. i am one to not talk with other men when i am a few dates into seeing a guy, but we aren’t to that place of discussing taking down profiles yet.’ve checked and he’s not been online since i mentioned it so hopefully it’s made him think. he held my handhe put his arms round me and we had a lovely time once more. he had left it logged in and i noticed from the history he had checked some of the women out but he didn’t have a premium account. we haven’t gone on a real date yet because he lives in a different country than mine. If your crush does these things to you, then they aren't really interested in you. however i told him i am relationship girl & not at ease with this casual arrangement.?Also since posting this, we’ve had more discussions, all of which have been helpful. not quite sure, or just putting it aside for the next one. he said he loved me for the first time and i said it back. if you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, i feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed. i have never seen a guy so keen to listen to me in my life. i had spoken to him several months before we met. is not too much to ask that a man put other girls aside for the moment but sometimes it’s important that you explicitly ask it! is now going away on his own for the next week or so but when he is back i shall ask to see him. none of this one foot in the bed and the other on the floor while exploring options. then he’ll later mention ho he misses me of how we needto hsngout more. we spend a good deal of our free time together, he’s met my friends and family (he has no one here, but his family knows about me), and we have an amazing time whenever we are together. so for the first time, i decided to do some checking, and did a search on his profile username. when we were a month into our relationship i told her i was not going to renew my match subscription because i only want her. “if then it dosn’t work out boys – by all means go back online, chat and date all the people in the world that you desire! instead i think if there is no mention from him after 6 week i would find it easier to just ignore him & move on to dating over guys. he remains curious and i increasingly uncertain of where i stand.. but at the same time i cant understand the need to have a conversation with guys on a dating site? on the other-hand, if everything is fine and he’s just been busy you’ve done no harm and might even kick-start things again. he said that his ex did not want his daughter at my house anymore and that was that. i’m scared because i think i’m already falling for him. no one lights up with recognition when you introduce yourself – but they might look slightly uncomfortable. after 6 months of dating, he still introduces me as a friend to people he knows when we go out. but if the ex keeps coming up, they’re probably going to sneak back in. we live an hour apart so i only see him once a week -but we talk or text daily. just met someone this past weekend and we “hooked up” for a few days and it was nice…and i find it weird that he still emails me on the site seeing that we have had such a hot weekend… i have stated that i find it weird to communicate since he and i have each others phone number and i also stated that i date one person at a time and that if he chooses to continue looking that is on him…. after the first date their was no question weather or not if i wanted to see him again, hope to be his gf and etc. i told him how i felt he was hiding me that he wasn’t taking me out to dinner or movies. he said no, and when i asked if he is talking to other women too, he also denied and said i don’t need to worry because we are good, we are having a great time and that he is being honest. this was done for money and publicity purposes no matter what his actual sexual attractions or “lifestyle” is. as i usually contact him 1st but he responds like right away, like he is sitting on his phone almost. if he’s just looking for his ego stroking, he shouldn’t need it right now should he? find out how i failed at first but then had great success with online dating – download my free 100+ page online dating guide ebook today! he evenetually wanted to come visit me within a couple of weeks of chatting. a lot of men are damaged and just don’t know how to love or be loved. of the last couple of weeks ive had this nagging suspicious feeling and i couldn’t put my finger on it. he helped with my car, helped paint the shutters of my fathers house, my father is getting old now and it meant so much to me, he even helped with other things around the house, he said he “liked to take care of me. i would really like him to come to the realization that he needs to delete it himself! and often, also subconsciously, women let it happen, over and over again, in the hope that the man in question may actually like them. he said that he is very much excited in seeing and dating me, and already planned on where we would go. when i saw him last night i casually (on the outside) mentioned when deleting my profile that i’d seen he was still going online. the things got escalated pretty fast and basically we end up sleeping on a second date. we definitely argued a bit and i told him to go on a date, if he liked the girl, we were done (obviously). it may be that he enjoys your company, but doesn’t see you as a long-term prospect. i checked, and he’s been online in the past 4 hours. i told him if i ever considered dating another man i would be honest. i told him i wasn’t the kind of person looking for a casual relationship and he confirmed he was also looking for a long-term relationship. they can be crazy about you and still want to screw the basement chick. the emails he wrote to her were very flattering and he said beautiful things to her just like he did when he first met me and how he wanted to meet her and possiibly have a relationship with her. during the process i did get the little ‘addiction’ niggle. we see each other once a week since we live an hour away from each other. or how would he like it if the situation was reversed? he’s removed his dating profiles, although i don’t like that i had to get very demanding about that. i know it sounds petty but he is being petty by saying stuff like that to you and even being on those sites. and my rule for kate is “just let me know what you’re thinking”. “he’ll ask you questions and then follow up on topics that seem to interest you. when she let’s me know, i can normally respond in a way that makes her happier! does it seem like he could be telling the truth? keep your options open and don’t care too much about what the men do…care about how it makes you feel. i think these are all good things and he did give me a heads up well in advance and still wants to meet. i recently confronted him about a woman on his facebook that was posting pics of him and about how much she loves him. he probably doesnt even kno that i love him or that i still want a relationship with him cos i try hard to act calm and cool with everything…. 2 weeks before move in, i just couldn’t shake a funky feeling i had about the whole thing. and i am not going to ask him about what he wants to do. i was living in the belief that he had deleted his site and i didn’t even doubt him about it for a second, sine he had promised me he would. he replied jokingly asking if i stalk him haha and that he didn’t know why because he turned off his roaming of data to not have a cost explosion.

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    would you be hurt if she did this to you and slyly hooked up with another guy? a man leaves his online dating profile active, what does it mean? now i know what you’re thinking, and no i am not going to show up and jump out of the bushes. but don’t confuse that with him just asking for the answers to the homework. met him through an online dating site six months ago. it is concerning that he would trying to chat with other women where you met though. he told me he’s not into the casual thing with other girls, i know he’s active on his dating profile. i hope he comes around to appreciate what he has instead of worrying about what he might be missing out on! we had been together for 4 months at that point so it really hurt.?It saddens me to read all these stories becuase i am on the same exact boat as most of you. agree with the advice here – especially the timing – and acknowledge that girls tend to overeact in these matters of the heart so maybe we could all do with a bit of advice to slow down a bit. lied to me when he told me he had not said ‘i love you’ to anyone since his ex-wife. i’d say make a point to sit down with him and ask him where he sees the relationship going. doesn’t he realise i am losing trust in him? between monday and thursday i noticed he was logging in. now in the position where i dont know what to do now? then if it doesn’t, you could tell him a friend told you that she saw him actively online and you could ask why his profile is still active. a friend advised me to keep dating other people, but i’ve never really worked that way… but i do feel i need to back off a bit from this man. he hides his friends list on facebook and has changed his relationship status from “single” to hidden since he asked me to be his gf. he said he respected that about me, and that he had not seen or been with anyone else in a while. the only interaction i have had with match is when i open to delete the wink/emails sent to my personal yahoo account. since then i have been the happiest girl on earth and i am so in love i have never been. it’s not clear to me what you’re trying to figure out…. tweet share 0 reddit +1 pocket pinterest 0 linkedin 0 rolyn muad’dib chambers he neees to get a job. i know at one point after we first met, he told me he wasn’t just sleeping around with anyone and everyone. again he pushed it back on me and i had had enough. his facebook page and his relationship status says involved with another girl. i think you’d be better off talking about it now (assuming you can’t stop worrying) than waiting another four months and being miserable with concerns. is it something i’d want to make as a general statement for men (or women) in general? obviously what you describe doesn’t sound good (in the sense that it seems like he’s telling you one thing and then says something online that is different to your “sister”). if he continuously finds an excuse not to meet again, i’d be more concerned. i met him online, soon after romeo proclaimed adoration and love for me he “deactivated” his account as he said he is % sure i was the one his been looking for. approach it from the stance that you want to understand where he’s coming from (but also that you think you should be taking the profiles down). blogs and daisy buchanan explore the different factors concerned when a guy just isn’t that into you. later that night i noticed he had taken his profile off and i was very happy. he works the graveyard shift so it is sometimes hard to see eachother but we usually manage a couple times a week. would say things like “you don’t want to work it out” etc……he told me we were just on a “break” not broken up that he wanted to prove to me breaks could work…. i know its wrong to snoop but i did i went on his cell phone and found that he has an open tagged account. attention to his actions, they might be the most telling sign. we met later that day and he told me his friend had informed him earlier in the week that i’d been on it a bit and he was shocked and angry and that’s why he used this other profile. who likes you will be desperate to take you to their favourite restaurants, the prettiest parks and the buzziest bars. question: do the same mechanics apply vice versa (woman continues to browse the onlinedating site)? i had been on a few dates from the site, and was just about to lose interest completely when i met him. example, someone might say, “you have beautiful hair, when was the last time you washed it, two weeks ago? all this bull about the guy being scared of commitment and just being a guy is bull crap. i told him that if he had indicated all he wanted to do was date around, i’d never have gone out with him because i was looking for something more serious. after i posted my previous concerns, my man and i went out to dinner and after that i asked him how he feel about us being exclusive and he hugged me and was silent for a minute then he said yes. we did have the talk of being bf/gf and being exclusive. come to find out that she was actually his online girlfriend. i don’t know if he’s been online or not but should i be worried? i deleted mine because i was sick of the in box messages and found someone (him) that i really liked. we started off as being friends with each other and now started dating but he never mentioned about being exclusively but when i check the dating site each day he seems to be on it very often as i am very confused as to why when he informed me that he is my boyfriend and still looking for someone else. i checked to see where he was at on the date of that party, and he was with me the whole time – so he didn’t go. this means no going against his grain or his rules. i tell him i am very busy through the week and can manage saturday. i was thrilled to have found something special and i cancelled all of my future dates as soon as i got home from my date with my (someday-to-be) wife. if you do see one of their colleagues at the pub, they might drop their hand, move their chair away and stare into the distance. that in mind i wanted to review one of the recent emails i’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem. and then i saw that he actually had been online in the last 3 or so days. i messaged a guy on a dating site and we texted for weeks before finally meeting up. after a while i replied & said that my friend had told me she’s seeing him. that moment i realised i really do have feelings for this guy. said he doesn’t talk to anyone else on the phone like hd can to me.”he then said that at age 13 he “started to find boys and girls attractive. he know it bothered me the first day he “forgot his phone” so why would he keep doing it unless he was purposefully ignoring me possibly? i made up a fake profile and decided to check to see if he would respond. would say let him know how he’s made you feel and then keep your options open to date other guys because at this point it seems like he’s proven that you can’t believe what he says. i will tell you that he does the same with his job though. boat here…been dating my guy for 11 months now – we are both 42…. since then, he seems to put more efforts into our dates, but we don’t see each other as often as before. cos he seems to think of me when he’s down & out!" with these tips, you’ll be able to decode even the most confusing messages. however there is one problem: his dating profile is still active. when we first met he was so into me calling me all day and making his way to see me whenever he had free time. finally i asked him if he has talked to anyone on the site, and that’s when he got really angry that i don’t trust him. he immediately guessed my name – so guess at this point he’s only seeing me. after a few days, i told him i’d done that and asked if he would. i tried to start a conversation but he said sorry but i’m going out soon. guess i’m concerned because it seems like he logs onto match when we’re both at work. he had mentioned getting marrired and i told him he was crazy. my membership came to an end shortly after we started emailing and i chose not to renew – i’m now off of the site, and he knows this. he feels like he has a ‘clean slate’ now, and can see that he absolutely wants to be committed to me, he said quote “i’m all in!. he has gone from asking me to move in to changing his mind. and how much can i really mean to him and can he really love me if he keeps doing what he knows hurts me so much. is us women risks a lot of emotions right away when by fact we should be more objective in the first place. we are talking and seeing each other, he met my friends and even introduced me to his. so i made up another profile to see if he would chat and low and behold, he started chatting and added me as his favourite! he knows that i will soon be going to live where he lives soon because that is my plan (even before i met him) – which is four months from now. though now, mostly i do it to see if he’s on. guess what – if you did then you are not ready to be honest with her or yourself. he told her that he never really thought of the person he was chatting to. but we can’t count on the person we’re seeing to be any braver than we are. i recently found that he had set up a profile on plenty of fish. he said she was just a fan but nothing more so i let it go for a bit. about three months into dating, i knew i was starting to fall in love with him and i was bothered that his profile was still active, he would be on at least every other day. he wanted to take things slowly and was not ready to commit to a relationship though he liked me a lot and did not want to stop what we have. you'll catch her either reading (and tripping) on the brick paths around campus or laughing with friends. anyway he’s told me he needs time to himself. he has written a free online dating guide to help others find success with online dating. he is a pisces too, and i tried to “read” him and so far so good. we have taken our relationship to the next level (if you can call it a relationship) intamacy is great. he promised again he would delete it as soon as he can get back on and he promised i would never have to go through something like that again. i decided the other day to go on and delete my profile since we’ve declared each other ‘mine’. this last weekend he finally got the courage to inform his mother that he had proposed (6 months ago! so look out for two things: how much attention he shows and how he acts when he’s around you. i told him that it hurt to see him on the site and that i felt that everything was going good and i did not understand why he was on. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles..he is such a great guy who i think is worth it., you’ll probably want to check out my previous advice on this topic. it never occurred to me that i could, that it was an option. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days. do with online dating site, so…what had this punk done? this doesn’t make leaving his profile up is right…but it could mean that he is committed to you even though he is taking an action that suggests otherwise (so don’t lose all hope! hes very loving and affectionate which completely goes against the grain of him being emotionally closed off. i hope we can talk tonight but im so confused about where i stand and don’t know what to say to him. said, if you’ve only been dating for 4 or 5 weeks, i think i’d recommend you just be patient for a while longer. for example, at the end of a nice evening together (especially if the two of you are commenting on how much you enjoy spending time together) you could bring up your concerns on not knowing where you stand in the relationship. if i had met him at the pub, i would have met his friends & seen his place. in the beginning we talked about being interested in each other, yet if someone comes along whomakes us happier then we would understand as lon as we were honest with each other. you brad we had a talk and it turns out he doesnt go on it and didn’t realise he had left it, he didnt think it was an issue. i do need to sit down with him face to face and ask him but i just never seem to have the confidence to do so as i worry i am being too demanding. this could remove some of your problems but it would also be nice for those who are still dating online and trying to find someone interested (and obviously you’re not! i’d hope that he’d respond positively and remove it.” he goes, “aww 🙂 you like me so much to delete it. guys are just passive, so it’s hard to know if there’s any issue here. he left he kissed me on my forehead & cheeks before the lips. i try and not let these things effect me but of course they do from time to time, my friends are always telling me i need someone who is going to be there for me…a superman…and yes this guy has understood things, told me i could talk to him, however recently their was another family episode and my guy wanted “a break” ok. next morning he tried to cancel and i wouldn’t allow it. i am just going to start dating other people and not even worry about it. so if we really like someone, we don’t reveal our feelings until we’re sure they’re going to be reciprocated. the site was deleted and i never heard anything else about it. – honestly it’s hard to judge your situation because some guys just have trouble committing. guess i’ll be renewing my membership in the site where i’d met him since i did talk to a couple decent men there despite having had little in common with them but, who knows, maybe i’ll get lucky. we had an amazing connection and he made me his girlfriend about the second time we hung out. then in april he tells me he spoke to his 19 year old son who was still living at home but looking for his own place, that the game plan was to be out of his house by june 1st, that is when he would be moving in with me, so his son better get active in finding an apartment. he says if you can keep your options open, why can’t i’ and i’ve told him several times i don’t want to keep my options open. he told my fake profile to understand that he’s looking for a ‘soulmate’ – really?. which has been cancelled but not hear anything about a visit. things your crush does that you think are flirting, but mean they're not interested. to be honest the site was for marriage purpose, i have been in there for some time and gave up hope. i did let him know that i would have cell coverage in mexico, and if he’d like to say hello he could. then, he has been trying to sleep with my with no strings attached and even today he told me he misses me and wants me, but still sees people that he met on the site, but i am the only one he really likes… sure…. was feeling unsure (trust issues from being cheated on 2 out of 3 boyfriends) and so i created a “fake” profile (something i am not very proud of). have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. have the same story as above, i started dating this guy a month ago. you're wondering if your crush likes you, then that's problem number one. you may think these four actions are flirting, they're really not. addition – and forgive me if this is blindingly obvious, but not all women seem to see it – you get what you pay for. also said she wasn’t one for dating sites ( no sense) and if a guy was to try and talk to her she would say she was dating someone. we hit it off straight away and i instantly felt so comfortable with him. i’ve been dating this guy i met on pof for 3mts now. i don’t think that means that you should have concerns that you’re being cheated on, but i do think you should have concerns around “why does he feel that he still needs to be checking his dating profile? i told him i was getting a bunch of emails and just didn’t feel like dealing with them. i know it’s fair game and it’s just a first date, but i can’t help but think this way.
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    i am in the same boat and i wil be having a discussion with my so called guy about this asap. on monday he was supposed to call me but he went to the gym late which he normally does and said he would let me know if he wasn’t too tired for a call. i finally pushed him and he admitted he and she had a sexual relationship a long time ago and that he had lied but he felt nothing for her then or now. the fact that he won’t allow you to post pictures of the two of you together but then has photos with his “online girlfriend” is particularly troubling. tuccinard is a senior at the university of south carolina and is pursuing a career in publishing. we had talked about it over the phone and via text message and it left me unsettled, but talking to him about it face to face has made a serious impact on how i felt. it’s just that the sent messages show when that user has been online). men like zane and carter can be bisexual, understanding they may only date one sex from here on out. you’ll notice he takes every opportunity to literally reach out and touch you; your (arm, hand, hair etc. he might enjoy the thrill of the chase, the “cat with a ball of yarn” scenario. i checked online today and it said that he was online today. it actually pains me to admit why i feel qualified to write about this. he goes to this site and changes his status without thinking about his profile text and logs out. being crazy about her may not be enough if you have to check your match winks and mails. i so like him that i cannot help but hope he realises what he’s letting go of. that said, given how you two talk i would expect it to be down very soon (within the next week). i keep creating these scenarios in my head and i know i shouldn’t. to me this makes it feel as if hes expecting us to fail or something. we also slept with each other…yes i know it probably wasn’t smart to have sex on the first date, but after talking to each other that much, i think we both just went with the flow. then about two months after, i went on the site with my friends user info and searched for him. know other men who do this sort of thing, i am no stalker, just keeping my heart in check here. in the cases where his profile is still up, i would expect that another month after bringing up your concerns is all it should take for him to decide (and it really should be much faster than this). i was completely honest with him that i had looked him up, and he told me that he ex-wife took his old computer after they split up and that’s the computer he had used to sign up. i want to trust him, but my heart doesn’t understand why we’re not together if he “loves” me? now, he only goes online for a couple of minutes at a time whenever he does log in. it sucked because my friend offered to give me rides to his dorm but now that’s canceled. that means he can’t always be around you showing 100 percent of his attention, making it slightly more difficult to see if he’s just being a friend or is interested. ugly truth – when a guy just isn’t that into you – by joe blogs..but im starting to feel a bit strained because i just dont know where this is all going. he checks his emails in front of me and i didn’t think much of it that he still got emails from another dating website and he had said he couldn’t remember the password. but if there’s an ultimatum, i think it’s only fair that he know about it! anyway, i wasn’t worried about the profile as we were only a few weeks into dating so i had just forgotten about it. explain how much you enjoyed spending time with her but given how infrequently you are seeing each other and given the fact that she’s still looking online, you feel like you should keep your options open. in her case, it is very reasonable for her to expect her guy to offer some clarity on where he sees their relationship going. i know, because i have a friend that is on the same dating site and she keeps me updated, unfortunately. he says he cares for me, likes being with me, and likes the way things are but i don’t think he’s committed to me.… i guess the question we all want to know is: what is in a man’s head that makes him think / or not even think at all i guess from your comments? i know you care for him and i know that it hurts, i’m just afraid that he’s establishing a pattern where he’s showing that he’s going to continue to hurt you throughout your relationship. almost every interaction with a mean guy leaves me wondering, “are they interested in me?. but i can’t relax with her until i know. – if i understand correctly, you’re saying that if he doesn’t decide to take his profile down in 6 weeks then you’ll not talk with him about it and just end things? well i found out he is now with a seperated lady he met online. but also texts me and tells me how much he misses me and how much he dreams about me, blah, blah, blah. i asked my friends boyfriends/husbands (some of whom met my friends online and some who are or have dated online in the past) they all confirmed clearly that if the guy dosn’t remove his profile voluntarily following the moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even ‘by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally) then it is clear he is not entirely certain about you or he is not entirely ready to committ to a relationship. i told him at the end, “i’ll get home and delete my profile :p” he goes, “so will i ren :)” so that night when he got home, we texted for about an hour and he told me what a great time he had and that he can’t wait til i’m in the same college as him so we can always be together. but after three years of giving my heart to him i feel that i deserve more than that, i feel that he is being disrespectful and dishonest if he is spending all this time with me and saying he loves me, we are even doing 5 love languages together to help our relationship. i really like this gy so i want to give him a chance to delete the profile of his own accord. ideas on how i can get her to talk to me?! this happened to me after being in an exclusive relationship for 14 months.? and do u think he is using me for sex ? re-enable your profile, let him know that you no longer consider your relationship exclusive but you hope to continue to date him, and then start looking for other guys to date. in general, he was never pushy or anything, but the opposite, and i got the impression of him as being a nice and honest guy. we proceed to see each other two more times, before i went on vacation for 5 days to cancun (alone). if that doesn’t explain enough, i texted him once and he didn’t respond. or to try and keep a friendship if we cant hav more maybe? don’t be too quick or demanding in your desire to define your relationship…be willing to give it time and allow it to grow naturally.. after fighting about it for weeks he’s now saying he’s going to delete it but when where together to do it… because as soon as i saw he had his, damn right i put mine back up and he said i did it out of “revenge” …. earl – did she seem to appreciate it the first time? if he’s not going to commit, this is a risk for you and i’d see talking to other men as a valid approach since you can’t know what he’s going to do down the line. i met someone online a year ago and we started dating six months ago. i’ve seen this with some regularity talking to people over the years and while i can’t say for certain, that might be what’s going on here. week three we went out and he said the big “l” word to me. i don’t have any lack of self esteem but i don’t call myself a gift horse!! around the same time he texted & i started sending very cryptic responses. i know it’s annoying but he’s being open about it and i don’t feel like anything you describe is “shady” (yet). i think that no matter where things actually stand, if you start to worry/stress about things, he’s going to pick up on that and it won’t make things any better. i once heard a comedian say, the reason people marry another is because subconsciouly they think ” she/he is the best i can do for where i am in my life or for my leage” when i heard it, it was a funny but it definitely has some truth to it. he even came inside to meet my parents (he was so nervous) but unfortunately, they went to bed before we got there. last weekend we were supposed to go out but i got tied up and i told him and he was pretty bummed. it hadn’t come up again, and i hadn’t thought much about it. lied when he said he added pictures to his profile just to see if i would notice and to see if i was still online. continued seeing each other and finally i just told him that i had made it clear in my profile that i was seeking a long term relationship and that he had indicated that in his profile as well. we worked things out and he promised me he would delete it asap. situation is a little bit different, so i don’t know if it fits this category…i’ve been doing the online thing for just about 3 months now, and have met some nice and not so nice men., in your response to cat, not all guys are like this. i also thought it was kind of weird but i felt that if he was okay with me seeing where he was and i had nothing to hide then there shouldn’t be a problem. now, his social media already setting private and i can’t do anything unless messanging him. i kinda already mentioned about this… i dont know how to play it. i’m just hoping if he knew he could talk to you when he’s tempted to do something silly like this, then maybe he wouldn’t need to go through with it. anyhow she clearly knew about me, and was very threatened by me. tell him if he’s going to continue posting that he is single and updating his site, that you are too and you are also going to start seeing other people. they’re not the only one who can pull the plug – call time on it immediately. i called him 3 times when i was off work and then it started going straight to voicemail… not sure if he turned the phone off or what…. we text when we aren’t hanging out or he calls on lunch, and he is always talking about our future with my daughter. was noticing a few things even when i’d be around his neck of the woods and invite him to join me and my friends he wouldn’t. it takes is one act of unprotected or oral sex and a habitual liar with high risk behavior to expose you to a lifetime of emotional and physical problems. i told him no way cause i have a life to which he said how about saturday day time? you're little, you're taught that the person who bullies you probably has feelings for you that they don't know how to express. “a guy who is interested in you will want to talk about you, not just himself,” she says. if i try to ride it out, what is a good amount of time to see if he takes it down? shellbell – i’m emailing you a response on this (sorry for the delay if you wander back! i don’t want to tell him i know about the profile because even if he appologises and deletes it. yes, even those random texts asking about class can just be an excuse for him to talk to you. if it’s the thrill of the chase, the conversation will be heavy on the entertainment, but very light and vague when it comes to arranging a date. kinda confuses me…but i have created a fake profile on the same site with no picture and said that i don’t have any kids and made myself 2 inches taller and also put that i live in the town i grew up in. i dont know…is that something that can even work? i was upset since according to dating norm he should have paid. if that is the case, how long to you tolerate such lack of respect for you, for the investment you are making of your heart and your life? have both been under a lot of pressure and stress this past year and i haven’t had the guts to bring it up. i dont know, but the last time i tried to have an indepth discussion about something with him he said i was “pushing” him and we broke up for 2 weeks. he visited me one weekend (stayed in a hotel), i visited him the following weekend (stayed with him), two weekends pass and he came to visit me again this past weekend. once i texted him he was quick with his response and asked me to come over to his suburb. he milked his outing to try and promote a new single and get a couple gigs at some low-rent gay clubs. he goes online every day brad yesterday he was online in the morning and in the evening. all of our contact – texting/dates, was due to his initiating – i never texted first or asked him out. he will have other friends that he wants to hang out with—and yes, they might be girls—but if it seems like he’s completely distracted, then he might just be appeasing you. nov to jan, we went on a date once every 3 weeks, always having the time of our lives. over the course of the next month we continued seeing each other and had several attempts at “the talk”. he however did not, at first it did not really bother me. there was more to the text that told me his close friends were there at the pub with him. easier access to women and men verses the old fashioned way of courting and meeting. i let him pursue me and after two and a half months of being with and seeing eachother every single day and night we decided to be together in a relationship. where has all the trust gone, now i feel he’s been doing this the entire length of our relationship? friend of mine said that he is a pisces and thats just the way they are. it’s march 2015, and he brings up the topic of moving in together. say the most magic word in dating, ‘next,’ and move on. someone who will be bold and brave and make you feel like you’re living within the pages of a lavish love story, and not an advert for insurance where someone absent-mindedly pats a dog on the head. i guess you could mention to him that your friend told you that she saw his account was still up and you could let him know that you’d feel much better if he hid it. day 3 he texts me and apologizes for his coldness and tells me that i don’t deserve that. – that’s its okay to continue chatting and even dating online while dating and building a relationship with one of us. doesnt seem like he is committing to the relationship or caring about my feeling the past few days. finally bothered me so much that his profile was still active that i asked him about it. never apologize for checking up on a person who has lied to you and promises to do better. it was identical to the match account he had (still has actually, but there’s been no activity for months). “when a guy is asking me personal questions or shows an interest in what i'm thinking about, how i'm doing that day, or just my life in general, it shows that there's more to it than him just being nice,” she says. the worst part is that he is doing this while i am sitting in the same room, but hides what site he is on! i suppose that is were trust comes into place, and mine is a bit shaken. and then he asked me to accompany him to his brother’s girlfriend’s b’day. has his ego been hurt that i was online when he had removed the earlier account? i work so we are together when i get home in the afternoons. i am not sure if i can handle knowing that he is with me and others. i guess i’m writing because it seems like we have a good connection and that he likes me (he even told me so) but he hasn’t made a move to discuss exclusivity and he doesn’t seem like he’s interested in giving up his profile. i asked him playfully several times if he’d take the profile off he never gave answers. i’m happy to say i accomplished all those things and with support from my best friend, decided to start dating again – but i was certainly not looking for a relationship or to get serious. literlally with in mins of saying good nite to me he was online, he disappeared for a few min and then came back up and now his profile was saying he was looking for a relationship, so it went from nothing serious to looking for! i need a break from online dating so i’ve hidden my profile. i should probably mention that i began sleeping with him very early after first meeting each other, but that did not mean i was serious about him or wanted a commitment. as it turns out, he continued to see his fwb through mid december, sometimes he was ‘with’ both of us on the same day! on friday (13 jan) he tells me that he was going to his mates place for dinner so if i’d like to join. i felt sick and angry but said nothing… i calmed down and spoke to a friend next day and she was like, u need to say something. expected to hear from him more, but i heard less from him. i find this truth out many many months after dating when she kept walking up into his house and always there when i came over. he kept his profile online and then during a period where he was busy he removed the profile. ive been very patient about the situation because hes so good to me and my daughter he cooks for us every single day, and hes told me that he saw me as wife material and introduced me to a lot of ppl in his family. thus, on occasion i sense her guard is up a bit. i am going to do what i want because he is surely doing what he wants. did a very filtered search on the website and discovered a replica account without a public picture. would you be amazed by the love i have for my wife? he totally denied that he was on the site and could not see how the picture got on it. on, my now boyfriend and i started dating and it was casual dating for both of us. i want to be with you if you want a relationship with me, i don’t want to be with you if you’re only deleting it to have sex with me and he goes “of course not” and i said the whole match thing adds a lot of confusion to me., as an adult, i'm absolutely certain that every person who ignores me, treats me like sh*t, and abandons me is secretly in love with me, but doesn't have the courage to say it out loud. it’s early may, and we’re spending mothers day with his parents. he is still getting messages from other women on there and i told him that she accidentally hit it (i didn’t even act mad) and he turned it around like it was me and said i was probably snooping (this time i really wasn’t!
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    i’ve planned to take her to do painting of an ocean area with an artist and then a picnic. if you’ve read a lot of my advice you’ll know that i do see dating one person at a time as problematic. i, the obsessor that i am when i genuinely have feelings for someone, made a fake profile and emailed him “hi! his status updating from:“interested in meeting women for dates”. we treat our smartphones like they’re a third hand. after a relationship shouldn’t he spend time with himself instead of taking girls for a ride? i don’t know what to do, put my profile back up, question him again or what. he might already think of the two of you as exclusive (at which point you’d want to talk about taking any profiles down if you want to be exclusive as well). this after he had spent friday with me & had told me he never shares his bed with anyone.***ladies please,i know this is very hard to understand and comprehend and digest, but plain and simple if you have been in a relationship with a guy and it has been over 2 months or so and he has told you that you are exclusive and that he does not want to be with anyone else, yet he still keeps his profile up even after you have confronted him… plain and simple, the guy is not that into you! he’s a great guy, doesn’t have much friends but come on… i’m not sure if i’m being too stubborn. i thought everything was great his parents know all about me i’ve met his friends and some family. this point i don’t want to even mention to him that i’m aware he’s quite active, especially on match which my sister says allows for various forms of communication with people unlike the site i’d met him on, where his original profile remains active. he responded with the patent ‘interested & looking forward to your email’. because surely if he was into me he wouldn’t even think about pursuing other options…. i was quick to let you know how much i loved my wife but every time i told you this i also punched her in the face. friends will tell you she's a a self-proclaimed grey's anatomy addict, she can't just watch a movie once, and is a firm believer in never having too much chocolate. today comes by and not one text from him all day. i even told him i had to get his confirmation because i have trust issues with previous guys cheating on me., as i’m getting this question more and more often, i’m hoping the details i’ve included here can help you reach the point where he realizes there is no reason for him to keep his profile active any longer. someone who doesn’t care about a proper relationship with you will, if pressed, say “um, dunno. i know it hurts right now but i suspect it will be for the best in the long run and i’m glad it didn’t go on any longer than it did if he’s (finally) being honest with how he feels. to elite daily's official newsletter, the edge, for more stories you don't want to miss. since i see he’s on, i browse my matches but very rarely wink at anyone and don’t message people back (in all honesty, i kind of got sick of online dating and had just tried it because it seemed novel until that feeling wore off). i had a dinner date that evening & due to some sudden dramas it didn’t go ahead – i came home & realised i couldn’t find my mobile. how many girls he’d been with sexually and not: not many, and if he was dating anyone else: no, and if he was what i like to call a serial dater, dating many at once. he says wow u look jus like my friend, are you her! i reacted instantly – saying the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results (i was talking of myself) and of course a few other choice words……. i told him since he wanted to keep things casual i didn’t know what to do. can’t really speak to how much hope there is in this situation but maybe instead of walking away, you just open your options as well? – it seems like you feel there are two options: deal with things the way they are or push them forward. he’s said it takes him longer to commit to someone. long story short, he came and picked me up from the club i was at and he knew i was upset with him.” so i admitted what i had done, he got mad that i didn’t trust him, and i got mad that he was still on there. i’m assuming it’s been decided that you would date each other exclusively if he’s saying that he loves you. his response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile. he has met my family and gets along great with them, i have met his mom and some of his friends. i was able to get a hold of his phone last week and saw that he had the dating site application on it. the dating blog 30 dates, miss twenty-nine describes a now-platonic friendship with a former tinder interest, who revealed to her upon finally meeting as friends that he saw the app as little more than a game. is the thing… when we met online, he stated that he wanted long term, his “last best friend “, or something along those lines. in my heart i feel that when a person man/woman is in a serious relationship on line dating sites should be out. now whether you really talk with other guys is up to you…but honestly, i think it wouldn’t be a bad idea to actually do so.‘i’ stands for integrates, as in, does he or she integrate you into other areas of his or her life? “if he texts you repeatedly before you’ve answered his text, he’s feeling anxious that you don’t like him.. i’ll summarize the positive and negative of what i found:He had not been texting or emailing other women since over a year ago (at least from what i could tell). i had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active. his job is stressful right now, but in my mind, if you like someone a minute or two to send a quick hello is not a big deal. met this guy online and we exchanged numbers and texted each other 2x a week for a month. i got really sad about he still having it up and went into my zone for the rest of the night. when we’re together he shows everyone that he cares. he is sending me all these confusing messages and i am afraid to bring it up again since we already had the talk. i have no idea how he’ll respond and whether he wants to keep seeing other people, as he had stated his doubts about our relationship before when we broke up. i was getting player’ vibes from him by this time. i was on my way home when he texted & told me where he was late on friday. i then said well, it is partly because of you, i am not interested in talking to anyone else while i am getting to know you. everyone and a while i would get on his phone or computer and check. while the ones that do have real relationships with guys seem to just be desperately trying to hold on to some sense of hetero-normalcy and holding to getting some type of attention from women. there’s no doubt in my mind she is someone i want to date, be part of my life and take it from there and see where im this goes from there. he seems genuine but he won’t take his profile off & commit. set up some boundaries to lessen (not eliminate) the likelihood of this happening to me again. he’s military, so his schedule is pretty screwy, but since my work schedule is easily manipulated, he proposed that i get it to match it as closely to his as possible so we have the same days off. why did he feel the need to tell me it was down? or he could tell me that he isn’t ready for a serious relationship. then i can still look online and see that he is on those sites almost everyday.. they set you up with their friendssomeone who likes you does not want to see you hooking up with their best buddy. this might provide him time to come around while at the same time giving yourself a chance to find someone who’s looking for the same thing you’re looking for. by contrast, if a man takes more time than is reasonable to reply to your messages and constantly apologises for his tardiness as he sends a swift, rushed response, i’m afraid he’s just not that into you. off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me. true, we did not discuss what sleeping together meant, but i did not think it was necessary to have the same conversation i might have had with a 30-year-old. we haven’t talked about exclusivity yet, because i think that it’s too early to talk about it and that i might be putting pressure on him, but i don’t want any games or be fooled. there are times when we could hangout mor, but he doesn’t want to like i do. i mean i just met the guy, who am i to say that he cant. – i guess i don’t understand what the difference is between being exclusive and being boyfriend/girlfriend. the first time i asked he claimed to answer an email without logging in to a woman who asked him a business related question. we actually met up about a month ago and got along great and have a lot of fun together. so i would hope her relationship with him would encourage you to be more aggressive about understanding what he’s doing.. lieberman says that even the dumb texts he sends can be a good sign. does he really think that i will be happy to settle for being his ‘she’ll do in the meantime’ girl?, the not knowing how to deactivate the account doesn’t fly and i bet if you deactivated it for him he’d get upset (well, from what you describe…that’s just a guess). i have only been seeing this guy for three weeks. you're told that person who punches you in the arm at school would much rather be kissing you — they're just too scared to say it. the fact that he changed his profile means that he still uses the site. same lie as before he didn’t know how to delete. well after we had sex and all he is still interested cause we went out again and i told him i had my period and he didn’t care. you both have a profile on match and have been intimate on more than one occasion, one or both of you should step up to the plate and discuss the options.” ( he’s talking about my profile) so that bothers me since we haven’t had the talk yet. also, speaking as someone who doesn’t like talking on the phone all that much, i think avoiding phone calls in itself probably isn’t a red flag if he actively communicates with you in other ways. i like to stay chill, but it’s hard when the person i deeply like and have put a lot of time into isn’t willing to sacrifice his current dating life while i am. low and behold, he had been online sometime in the last week, and had added new pictures. we enjoy the challenge – the chase – and we also enjoy the attention. completely deleted my profile dont know if i should make a new one or what. i expected to see the original profile from when we first meet but this one was different and his profile picture was a picture of him and his daughter that we took after we moved in and decided to take family portraits to hang around the house. we are at the point when we say i love you every day and we are often talking about marriage. and i think what you’re saying is that what really bothers you is that as soon as you’re done spending time together he’s on the site, right? yeah, a deleted profile would be best (or updated text) but at least he has it heading in the right direction. i feel as though you don’t care about the way i feel and that makes me wonder…. i told him am busy & he sent me a text that was obviously for someone else. i’ve met his family and friends, he takes me out everywhere and even wants to book time off with me. then in febuary, i was at home and i needed to use his computer to chek and email. as it turns out, he was talking with other women – don’t know if he slept with any of them, but he was definitely out on the hunt. i don’t know of anybody who would let someone follow their every move, so it must be heading towards something serious… what do you think? this required him to travel like 3 hours to visit me where i was at that time…. i couldn’t but told him to drop by the club where i was going with my friends. i never gave the guy a chance to make any changes. that weekend we texted each other every day and spoke about every other day, since we both have time consuming jobs. he was right where i was with my opinion, so again – a match. that evening me and my friend were going to move to another location and i texted him to let him know. he met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. if he’s the guy for you then he’ll follow suit and step up to the task. i want to trust him, and i have… but i found out that he still visits his datig profile regularly. one thing bothers me though, his profile in the dating site is still active – though he told me before that he rarely checks or chat with women in it. the goal is to find a guy who will both say and show that he cares for you. he then when he was at mine told me he wanted to keep me satisfied so i didn’t go elsewhere! that said, it’s honestly hard for me to guess as each situation can vary so much! my ‘dating’ experience had been extremely limited, despite being married and divorced twice. was really keen to see a pic of me so i showed him a few not too close up, he kept asking for closer pics………….’s also important to see how he acts during these conversations too, because not all guys are conversational, but there’s a difference between being shy and not into it. monday he contacts me and asks to lock in a time and date. if it was important to her that you let her know the first time, i’d think you would tell her again. a text with a friend he hadn’t spoken to in a while, the buddy asked him if he had a girlfriend, and he responded ‘sort of. later in the week he asks if i had any cancellations and i told him i hadn’t.’ve been talking with a man i met on a dating site for a couple of months now. i have dated my share of immature guys and he sound like one in my book. i met a man on match about 4 months ago, and things have been wonderful. i can totally understand having caution after being cheated on, but at the same time you don’t want to wait months and months only to find out this might not go anywhere. then i said how about we just put this off till next week but he seemed eager to see me cause he said no let’s meet on saturday. when i text him, he always replies right away and we text until i get tired. yet after telling me he loved me, i guess i just figured we were forming a more serious relationship. should i be worried or should i just take it easy, breathe, and see how the next 2-4 weeks go? a day or so later i really kind of had a moment where i texted him asking him if things were ok between us because he was being distant. he really thinks the two of you aren’t “bound”, then i think you should let him know that because of that, you’re going to begin to talk with other men.. major says there are some key signs to look out for. he told me that he would like us to be in a relationship, but because we were approaching his busiest time of the year at work, that he would like to wait until things calmed down a bit…he said 2 of his serious relationships ended over it in the past. i mean, if he meets someone else online it’s not as if you’re exclusive any longer. he says he really likes me and is into me and still getting to know me. he wanted to meet my girls while we were having after work drinks but i told him it’s not a good idea since it’s our girly ritual & we don’t get guys in there. guess my queston is why does it seem like we are playing house with no real commitment? to me, he sounds like a guy who can’t admit when he’s found a good thing and wants to keep his options open…but this sort of thing is only going to make his life (and yours) more difficult.!2 days ago i checked to see if he had taken his pof profile down (along with another one i had found several months ago – sexsearch dating site). he’s mentioned having a vested interest in me, has talked about future (unplanned) visits, we text daily and talk almost every night. find someone who makes things easy for you, not hard and stressful. i doubt asking him about being friends would scare him off but at the same time you wouldn’t want to repeatedly make him uncomfortable about where you stand so i’d recommend just accepting things as-is for now. he was sent to them as a mutual match and it showed that he was online that day within one hour after he had with me in bed the night prior. he brought up my fake profile but i told him i did ‘t want to talk a put it cos i am still hurting. so i told him we should try not to bring it up again and that since he’s a mature person i’ll leave it on him. or am i a time filler till he finds something better. he said that when he’s feeling down he can’t go to the doctors, as it will go on his medical records that he is depressed, which will affect the court case currently happening with his daughter. and how on earth do you even start that kind of convo without sending guy running for the hills? i do think the exclusive conversation could be very tough before you meet, but if you find you keep worrying about it and you think you’re at a place where he’d be open to it, i’d bring that conversation up. me, if a month goes by after you’ve expressed your concerns and he is still refusing to remove his profile then setting ultimatums seems more reasonable. again 🙂 just clarifying that the part i wrote about him telling his buddy he ‘sort of has a girlfriend’ and that ‘he is trying to behave’, was over a year ago – that conversation did not happen 4 months ago, i got my dates wrong…too much confusion, right! its long distance so we met for the first 2 weeks after talking and the date went perfectly, she even bought me dinner! but he’s open to me talking to him about it when i feel the need to. out of the blue, i got a curiosity about the profile situation.
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you two have ongoing sex in any form , have respect for yourself as well as her and anyone else you are whispering to in bed – and either become exclusive if its going well or let her find a man who knows her worth and would like to share life with her. he says he doesn’t want to rush things and does not just want to date anyone, he is dating to find someone to marry and wants to be sure. and for many the identity and behavior seem more driven fetish, narcissism, money, attention and/or self-rejection or internalized homophobia than actually having genuine and substantial sexual attraction to men and women or actually viewing both men and women as fo’ real potential romantic and life partners. whenever he said he would call or text, he did, and in situations when he was held up, he would always let me know.”later that same day, tmz found carter out on a date with his girlfriend porcelain black, an up-and-coming pop singer. all that wasted time waiting for him to make the right choice only to have him start dating someone else. i recently started seeing this guy and we met through an online site a long time ago but we just started talking through facebook. i asked him if the text was for me & told him to call me. asked me about it in person i said i was checking his profile.. ladies, be smart about this, like a previous poster said, respect yourselves, love yourselves, and have enough confidence to kick his azz to the curb if you have to… one day he will realize what he had and how he messed it up, may not be tomorrow but one day he will! don't buy into the idea that a person only likes you if they're ignoring you or being mean to you. we laughed so much, i couldn’t even remember when a guy made me laugh like that! met my current boyfriend online a couple months ago, he kept mentioning thing about me being his girlfriend so 2 weeks ago i asked if we were together and he said yes. about 2 weeks after we met, i cancelled my match account, and closed out my pof profile. know it is difficult to address this issue but i do worry that if you don’t, in the long run your daughter could be hurt more, not less. she clearly let me know how much that hurt her. i want to give him the benefit of the doubt but the miles between us and the unknown are really bring out the jealousness in me and i don’t like it. i have already backed right off and only texted him yesterday after not hearing from him since my birthday which was 4 days before. the assumption that guys see things just as women do is risky business…especially if you are rapidly ending relationships based on that assumption. (i dont think so cos we hav met without sex and because we tlk about everything for months now). furthermore, i’m in the minority of guys that will actually admit it – not just to others, but to themselves as well. he wanted to meet me on sunday evening but i couldn’t and then i was shocked to see that he had repeatedly logged into his account. have absolutely no clue what to do and i hope you can help me. that’s besides the point really but it’s still true. we tlk veryyyyyyyyyy veryyyyyyy often and i guess i havent mentioned being official in maybe 7 months :s maybe i should again? he even said never look a gift horse in the mouth’ and i asked who is the gift horse, you or me? look for: random texts centered around hook up days and/or specific times. ever since then i can’t think about anything else and i still feel sick to the very core, i just want to know why he would do this! his response was “that the site is for friends, just like facebook” i said him he has got to be kidding because it is a dating site not a friend site and what would he do when girls want to meet him?’m still very interested to hear your thoughts and advice. comment, “i wish my brain would just stop” reminds me of advice my dad gave me when i was growing up: often the best way to get over someone is to find a new someone.. she says shes only open to a convo but nothing more than that. from my snooping, it seems that he’s been talking to another guy that day i wrote that message. we can’t meet up often because we don’t have cars, so that plays an even bigger role in me worrying. he told me he was going away for 2 days for work (this is true), so i took that as a hint not to text because he was busy. i just started working full time and could not show enough income on paper to get another apartment that fast. he asks me out every weekend and also at least once during the week. and with that, people might have different motives for being on there. he wouldn’t make out with me that night – he said ‘i don’t want your friends to think i only come over for one thing’. it has been another 2 weeks after that conversation and his profile is still active. just as some people have trouble committing, others are far too quick to try to do so. it doesn’t matter if there are a hundred other wonderful things, without trust, there is no sustainable foundation. but if you find yourself having in-depth, meaningful conversations, then you might be on the right track. i do think that’s enough time for him to know where he stands. maybe you should join all those dating sites just to piss him off! we went a few days without talking over the last 2 weeks.. major warns that those late-night texts should be taken with a grain of salt. if being online and chatting to other girls was face to face lets say and you met a man in this way.! as a man could you tell me if a man can go from friendship to serious relationship? i told him i’d rather talk for 10 min than text for hours. we have been itimate and he told me he hasn’t been with anyone since he broke off his engagement last summer. so, while perhaps this seems immature, i got gussied up big time and decided to go out that night, knowing we were supposed to go out together later on. and that he stays online because he is afraid of closing all doors and just be with me, the first woman. may not like the answer you get, but i think being 100% clear on what you’re hoping for in the relationship (especially since you’ve dated for 5 weeks) will be better than trying to be sneaky. the risk of being lied to is higher online because it is a catalogue of sorts. i wonder why dating is so hard for myself but seems so easy for others. gatherings out of state, day outtings with his kids, hanging with his other friend couples (he has always introduced me as his girl), spending long weekends together…. convo with me, pretending to be another woman was not flirty, it was more obscenely friendly tbh and he was keen to open a convo, be friendly, (overly maybe) ask for msn or skype…. 6months we decided to meet up again finally and it was just incredible! dezi – i would say giving it a bit more time wouldn’t hurt (only because it would be nice for him to bring the idea up). but i just dont know how to really tell if his idea of a relationship is the same as mine or if he just wants to date. so i checked online later monday and low and behold he created a new profile recently online and he was on that day. i replied no worries, but that i trust that he wouldn’t play games with me because that would be unnecessary. if i trust her the way i should then i need not to worry. things had been going wonderfully, we spent a lot of time together, almost every other day, and texting/phone conversations every day. but a girl he barely even knew…that makes it easy. (this is because my 20 yr old is here still and this way we can have alone time. he was moving the relatiosnhip way to fast wanting to move in etc. i have to add that i am 41 and he is 36, but he said he doesn’t care and neither do i. that being said, i’d still be cautious – it takes 5 minutes to take your profile down so his excuse doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. it seems to have disappeared overnight and i feel lousy and worthless. after a few hours, i tried to message him and he ignoring me and didn’t reply it at all. we actually had a very serious conversation about the future last weekend, and ours seems bright. he say’s ok, but another few weeks go by and nothing. and he said that we are always together and i am always there, so he just started loving me i guess. mine is pretty similar however, like most others, i really don’t know how to handle it. this morning i texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. it’s clear he’s online but not yet dating anyone. he did and had no problem giving me his number!! such a great gift for valentines day 🙁 if he does try to sweet talk me in the future what should i do? yet my gut says there is something not right about his profile being up still. i don’t know if i should give him more time or move on to find someone who is more committed to me. i know he’s someone i’m ready to commit to, to explore a relationship with. he asked if we could pick up where we left off…., as with other situations discussed here, i think it’s totally reasonable to expect real commitment at a certain point and it sounds like you’ve reached that based on what you describe. i think doing this can be beneficial because a) you might find a great guy who does want to commit or b) he might realize how much it sucks to have the person you’re dating to be open to dating other people. john johnson i would assume that at least 60% of men in hollywood/entertainment industry get head from dudes or give head to dudes sometimes. so i took a week to decide if this was someone i really wanted to be in a relationship with because we both have kids, and i wanted to make sure that if i commited i am doing so with the intent that i will stick around for awhile knowing we will start to integrate with the children. i think in many of the cases listed here, if the woman waited for the guy to make a commitment…well, it might never happen!, and yes, i am angry, justifiably, moving preparations are expensive and time consuming. so we met and he told me he was glad i had pushed him out. he was so into me and i was into him, too. after about 6 weeks he freaked out and said he wanted to feel more “single” and that he wasn’t sure we were right for each other. he’s opened up to me about lots of deep emotional things. “if he texts you for no special reason or for reasons that are lame, he’s looking for ways to connect,” she tells us. both accounts are still “active” technically, but there hasn’t been any activity on either. one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums. he is introducing me to his dad (who lives out of state but is coming to visit) next week, so thats kind of a big deal but yet he is still doing this…help please! giving awesome vintage haircuts will inspire you to follow your dreams. for the past 2, months we continued to text just as much, we talked on the phone a lot less due to our now conflicting schedules, and we saw each other once every 2 weeks give or take a few days. they’re both in the same college so and both haven’t returned to the site since that day. is fabulous to have a weeded out process available in this day but the downside is evident. i would just be concerned that this type of game could continue for years. and lets just say that because i went out for a girls night instead of hangin with him, that he responded to this other woman. do not trust online dating anymore too many bad experiences and too many shady characters. this online dating drama made me push him & drove him ‘crazy’. Homeonline dating bloghis dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? he didn’t say marriage, but his intentions are long term with me and he is excited to see a long term future together. along really well communicate during the week and he comes over even when he is exhausted just to see me wants to meet kids and his kids we have had 6 dates and wants to go out from the beginning not to b too serious go slow and asked me two weeks ago to settle down didn’t really answer him but told him i like him. i apologised for my amnesia and told him i’d be hanging out with a friend at a pub after work and if he dropped by i could get him a drink to make up.’ translation: ‘are you available to come over for a last minute hook up?. my friends usually ask me for advice and yet i can’t seem to think clearly for myself. – sorry for the slow response but i would agree with rachel. any insecurities i had were short lived – he has proved to me through his actions that i can trust him. i then asked if he was still on the dating site and he said yes. for the last few months this has been by far the question i’ve received most often from readers. shed some light on thisand please tell me what i should do. over the past few weeks we’ve been out a couple of times which has been nothing short of fantastic! its a similar situation to the above scenarios – he really has his act together and has made it very clear that he is sure that he wants me in his life (so he doesn’t say anything like “i’m not sure” or “i can’t commit”). we went on a road trip together, he paid for everything, went to the beach got a really nice room.) – i’m glad my thoughts were helpful but at the same time i don’t want to come off as if i was saying you were “wrong” in your approach. the more awareness and visibility about bisexuality out there, the better., i met a guy on match we were emailing back and forth for a week and then we exchanged numbers. he has not only changed his profile picture, he has added a picture from our trip, a picture that i took of him. his last message though was that he was going to message me the next day. in some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly. ive taken family vacations with him and his father so im thinking things are just fine. six months later and we now live together, he was new to the city i live in and hes been having trouble finding a job. on the other hand, if he’s simply trying to arrange a date without really wanting to know anything about you, he’s only in it for one thing. my biggest worry is my daughter, she is very attached to him and tells him that he is her best friend and she loves him, and he tells her the same. have been dating a guy for 5 weeks, been out 12 times w/a couple of overnights. i have only been dating him 3 weeks, but i don’t want to be with a guy who just wants to string me along so i will wait maximum 6 weeks for him to mention something. they like to look and the crave for attention from the opposite sex. its called self control or let her go find someone who will value himself and her enough to not open those tempting emails and winks. its been a month since we spoke/saw each other. had trouble getting her on the phone as thats something shes uncomfortable with and shes unsure about being able to visit cause of money going towards a course. we have yet to have a real exclusivity talk and have not talked about our dating profiles. am surprised to hear so many experiences similar to mine. Blogs and Daisy Buchanan explore the different factors concerned when a guy just isn't that into you. once that talk is done, i think it’s much easier to get a real feel for how much respect (or lack thereof) a man is showing. he told me he’s ready to settle down but just got out of a near eengagement so needs time to process the break up. thing is in the begining he was referring to our future hopefully it would lead toi marriage and refferred me as his wife, love etc. there are going to be ups and down, good and bad – you just have to be willing to put forth the work. again, i calmly asked him about this, and he seemed genuinely confused. said, i’d be careful to really be sure that he owns that profile. giving awesome vintage haircuts will inspire you to follow your dreams. he told me “let’s go inside and delete it right now, together” we tried but the site was having an error. he was dating and sleeping w/ tons of women – that doesn’t really concern me too much, as i can’t say i wasn’t doing a little of the same, and we had not declared exclusivity at that point. he starting to show signs that he is interested in me and i am meeting his friends already and its been 2 weeks of dating. i was told once, when a dude knows he’s got you, you are screwed cause he will not invest then. we just did our first vacation together, and he brought up that how can i not trust him after we just did all that, and we’re so close bla bla bla, we’ve come so far…. if i couldn’t get that, i would move on (easy for me to say, i know). lindsay just spilled all the tea on her feud with fellow 'bachelor' contestant vanessa grimaldi. so my question is should i be concern about his profile is still up and he’s still checking it, since i never mention or ask him to take it down.

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.what am i going to be with you, sleep with you, & be wondering whats going on; on the side with the dating site…., if you sent him a short email saying you were going to be in his area soon and you’d love to grab a coffee with him, i think that could work. do think that approaching this with caution is a good idea…you don’t want to come off as if you’re obsessing. about a week ago, i noticed that he had the pof app installed on his phone, and he just got a new phone a few days before that – so i calmly asked him about it. but he said we were going to hang out all day but now we cant. he was like im sorry, i should of told u that i changed it as he was getting lots of messages and girls asking him out, so he decided to change it! at the end of the day, i think everyone needs to make decisions that they feel are best for their own situation., why not hide your profiles so other people won’t contact either of you? but if he realises he’s not in for an easy ride and disappears shortly afterwards, then unfortunately you’ll have your answer. we are 4 months into the relationship and he still says he’s scared of commitment. opened a convo, i spoke to him like i normally do and we got on so well but he did notttttt kno it was me! a person likes you, you'll know, and you shouldn't settle for anything less. westbrook, a junior at the university of south carolina, says that interesting conversation is how she knows it’s more than a placation. took 6 months to tell me he loved me, but still has his profile up even tho its hidden…and i just grew on him like a comfortable old shoe…lol. i mentioned before, i assumed we were exclusive when we had that talk and worked things out (in late nov 2013). i would also like to include in here that she has sent him text messages from her phone, and is talking about setting up a date with him. however, it sounds like you’re going to want to move the relationship to a bit more commitment sooner rather than later. he said he wasn’t seeing anyone but me at present, but he wanted that option open. is a huge telltale sign, because it’s a way of telling you how he feels without actually saying anything. i am not asking for a commitment or exclusivity but when he knows how much it’s hurting me why is he not turning it off?’s a situation i’d appreciate your perspective:Have been doing the match thing for a few months. it’s difficult because i have a daughter from a previous relationship and he wasn’t too sure about that, but was attracted to me.”the singer continued: “when it comes down to it, really, i had an experience when i was 17 with a guy, but now as an almost 30-year-old man, i’m going to be pursuing relationships with women. he said that he doesn’t use it and doesn’t care about it and was planning on taking it down. then this past month the texting died down a lot. i am a little upset so a few days i set up a fake profile with photos of another friend he has never met and messaged him. he acts very much like a boyfriend but wait a minute he refuses to acknowledge the gf/ bf thing. no wonder so many lose faith in the online dating venue. if he sent it that would be more concerning to me. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. do you think that would be the wrong way to go about things? if he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off. have to admit, it’s been a bit tumultuous for me emotionally sometimes. we met on a dating site and i knew when we started dating his profile was hidden ( i wanted to show my friends who he was but couldnt find it! if hes searching for something better which i feel is the case as much as it hurts me im not afraid to be alone. he then said, “maybe i am looking for a committed relationship and i just haven’t found the person to have that with yet. ive been with my boyfriend 3 months, we spend every weekend togther and plan to do things. – it sounds like the confusing areas in your relationship might go beyond just the dating profile. his excuse was he did not have a computer, only his phone to access, and there is no way to deactivate from a mobile device. deciding on how long to reply, what to say and “to emoji or not to emoji” are very real issues. are you ok with easier opportunities via online dating while shagging her? first and foremost though, you need to decipher his texts and understand what he’s trying to get out of this modern day form of communication. i wouldn’t want to be with someone who treated me the way he’s treated you and because of that, i do think you should start looking to date someone else. i know you can hide your profile when you have an active subscription because i’ve done it so don’t let him try to convince you he can’t do that either. believe filtering their motives from what they do and say is easier than you would imagine. i believed him, and told him not to test me like that again – be honest with me and talk to me about what he wants to know. heard from him twice while away – one sentence texts, with no greeting or emoticon – i answered and then he never responded – both times were like this. you can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here. i was kind of shocked – as i was never part of this ‘game plan’ discussion, in fact he had not discussed anything further with me about living together!.he wasn’t being extra sweet to me in his texts…one night from my hidden account i looked on match and noticed he had his profile up, he even uploaded a picture i took of him. 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time. he may have secretly been hoping for a commitment from you after having this conversation and when that didn’t happen he’s now not sure the relationship is going where he had hoped it would. he said that i have trust issues and that he is not doing anything or talking to anyone else. but what if he doesn’t… i cannot go on for years knowing the profile is there. i started by telling him i wasn’t ready to move in together and needed more time. till that time though we had exchanged numbers but he had not texted me. the time august 2014 (now one year of dating), he was spending every night at my house, we practically lived together, even though he still had his own home.‘k’ stands for keep, as in, does he or she keep you in mind in both the present and for the future? it’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case. on one hand i am his emotional outlet person but he won’t commit. the 2nd time i had a little too many and it got a little too late and we ended up going back to his place and well you can guess what happened. the earlier you can see that it’s not meant to be, the sooner you’ll be back on the path to finding the perfect person. situation is very similar to what had been described in a few of the comments earlier. past 3 days have been really wierd, we were suposed to go see a movie together after i was off work and i hadnt heard from him since noon, had texted him quite a few times with no response. then again, that might be a little extreme, but still, in most situations it seems like you either wait forever to make a move or it just fizzles out. we are both very well established and pleasing to the eye. he also said he has friends he talks to but no one that he is seeing or dating. seemed we were perfect together with him professing his love and talking of marriage. i have read what you have written on this subject and i know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it? i got another funny feeling one day, agian while waiting for his text. i’d say that long of “exclusive” dating should be long enough for someone to know if they’re ready for that step. he has been a total gentleman and he even went into a “domestic partnership” with me on facebook (haha). i’ll replay some of the ugly stuff i learned about him like a broken record in my head and it gets me all tied up in knots again. there are some great guys using dating services but sometimes it takes having a good deal of patience to find them. plenty of guys will lie and lie and lie when caught.! he then texted me & lashed out saying he had had a bad day & that he felt he was being ‘witch-hunted’ & that he had spent money contacting my ‘friend’ & felt he’d been sucked in. told me he isnt keen on that idea but at the saem time how he doesnt want to make them unhappy. i asked if there was anything missing from our relationship as that would be the only reason why i would go on a site. he said that he had taken his match account down, and i believed him. i don’t want to be walked over, and i don’t want to turn into one of those girls who checks up on him…. i understand not wanting to fight and dropping it but his excuse for being on the site was pretty weak…. just looking for a suggestion on how to handle this is all. us popularmeet 12 of the uk’s most promising new drag queenswhat the f*ck is killing our gay bars, and is it our own fault? thoughts are that yes a girl makes this decision more quickly – instinctively not wishing to harm the budding relationship. he told me had a b’day but could manage to meet me for a bit and a drink at 12pm. he really loves you and agrees you are exclusive, the profile needs to come down. whether his behavior was “just” ego-stroking or serious looking doesn’t matter–i found it repulsive and a waste of a mature person’s time., often online dating doesn’t match the real world and i think that in some cases waiting for the commitment/respect to happen naturally is going to be a frustrating experience. ren – at this point i’d suggest giving him a bit more time. so, again, not defending him but i prefer his response over a lot of other responses i’ve seen.”, he says he was already feeling that way for me, but this whole incident deepened it for him. i know he got my messages yesterday i messaged him on facebook and it tells you exactly when he read it which was this morning around 8. even if a woman had been cheated on, the message would still be “i’d like to commit to dating you”. he has continually helped me out, he surprises me with gifts along the way. i check his page (because it’s viewable to the public) and he’s made several modifications today. they also indicated that to open an email or wink from the service from the associated account would show them as online. he kissed me and looked at me for a second and said, “hell no! he says he loves me, yet aout three weeks ago i asked him where he thought our relationship was headed. i’d hope that if there was real chemistry, things could work out (cars or not). – that he could go back online without telling me – this feels like he is going behind my back in some way – though the forum is public so of course i then think the act of going back online means he is making a massive statement that he is no longer interested instead of having the respect and courage to say so to my face… if you know what i mean. i now realise that i never actually asked outright for any of them to take down their profile to be with me exclusively. he said he was extremely hurt as well and he still cares for me a lot, but wants to take it slow. he said he was checking for my profile and was curious. is one of the most important social signs to pay attention to because it can determine how serious someone is about you. i asked him if dating or seeing somebody and he replied he is dating here and there and kinda seeing someone but nothing serious. i talked to him about it that night, asked him if he wanted to date other people, etc… all the questions other women on here have said. once you start getting attention from a cute guy, you immediately start wondering if he’s into you or just being sweet.”surprisingly, though, if someone likes you, you will know it. though he already told me he wasn’t interested in dating other people, and we had both disabled our profiles a week or two before. have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. i asked him if things were still good because i really wanted things to work out between us. person who likes you will give you real compliments — ones that don't make you feel bad about yourself or rile you up in order to get a response. in the browser history i was looking to see if he had been viewing porn websites when i noticed a dating website there. i just asked if i had anything to be worried about and he said no. then he gets an email from an interested woman and he says, “oh wow, i need to update my profile”. a married man let me tell you even after years and years with a woman i love, i still rarely know what’s going on in her head. the only interaction i have had with match is when i open to delete the wink/emails sent to my personal yahoo account. i’m sorry, but it does sound like it’s time to move on. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days.é proves she's a great friend by lifting lady gaga's spirits during her chronic pain struggle.” today, i emailed him and asked him if he is dating people from the site and that we should both take our sites down and focus on each other. cause unfortunately in my world if you like me, well that makes one of us. i told him ill give him space but at the same time i wont wait for him.” it's when someone gives you a backhanded compliment in the hopes of getting your attention, invoking a response, and sucking you in by making you want their approval. many times she ‘broke up’ with him via text, and then would come over later that day and have sex with him., if he’s going to say things like “you are not bound to him”, that makes me a bit nervous for you. so he can see if he knows someone…and then what? this infuriated me, and to my utter shame i called him out immediately. horrifying ‘dragula’ season 2 cast is here, and we’re both terrified and excitedthat trans trump supporter just dumped her hot husband, so let’s all lust after himsofia vergara’s son is looking mighty fine in these 20 sexy shotsfollow these 10 sexy gay yoga masters on instagram to find your inner chiadd jane fonda to the list of people who regret going on megyn kelly’s new showwith her ‘will & grace’ comment, megyn kelly proves she’s still annoying afrecentthis gay porn star graphically details his violent experiences with chemsexperez hilton tells kylie jenner she should’ve gotten an abortiontransgender teen viciously beaten at high school in new jersey (video)horror and more: what’s coming to netflix, hulu and amazon in october 2017video games helped carlos maza become an online video starthis week’s must-haves: mdna skin by madonna, taco bell apparel and a rocketshipstarting this weekend, same-sex couples can legally wed in germany (video)here’s the real reason why ‘sex and the city 3’ won’t be happeningfacebooktwittertweets by hornet. i do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy:My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, i check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.. major also reminds that conversations shouldn’t be too superficial “the more he gets to know you the harder it’ll be to drop you so if he’s planning on doing that soon he won’t want to know much about the real you,” he tells us. feel like many women want the commitment/respect to happen naturally and i understand that desire. while he’s not being asked to marry or make babies, he is being asked to stop looking to date other women. i did that, but no response…he claims he fell asleep. i don’t like to come across as the vulnerable one & dating commitment phobes in the past has made me tougher so i don’t want to bring up a conversation of where are things going or mention his profile still being up. my feelings for him were getting so deep and i wanted to be his gf. if they never message more than two sentences, or get in touch just to say they’re thinking of you, it’s time to stop thinking about them. i have met his family, he has met mine and i have come to love his 2 children ages 6 & 9. i told him i like the idea of living together, but seriously needed to talk about things before it could actually happen. when they don't text or call, make plans, pay attention to you when you're out in public, or engage in conversation, then most likely, you aren't a very high priority for them. i think you getting your profile down and then asking him where he sees things going is the best thing to do. he actually emailed my fake profile on friday & then on sunday. while it does look like he may be being a bit dishonest with you, there is a chance that he may, for some reason, think you’re not interested in a serious relationship.)anyway,i said, so i am just going to enjoy this while we’re here. my sustainable and substantial sexual attractions, passion and desires are with men. during that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. part of me thinks it just his response to getting caught but i’m really in no place to judge him. all that doesn’t work, i’d say at some point you should just say: “so-and-so, i really enjoy spending my time with you but i worry we might be looking at our relationship differently. i confronted him about and he said he was deleting it and,and i better start acting right. if you can’t get a guy to commit to date you exclusively (and especially if he then lies about it), he may be a giant waste of time., it is possible that he just likes getting emails to stroke his ego and isn’t looking for a relationship. his last message was that he was going to send me a message the next day…but he didn’t. – i’m guessing here but if i were going to tell a woman i was dating that i had taken down my profile, it would normally be because i would be hinting to her that i want to date each other exclusively.

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i confronted him with it, he did not just blow me off…. either way, you can tell when he cannot be bothered. i am protecting myself from a man who had to answer an email to some woman on a dating site to be respectful. we were very intense the first month seeing each other all the time and every weekend. almost everyone who has success with online dating will have some time where they have a subscription but aren’t using it…assuming they meet someone. needless to say, he has trust & commitment issues and i am understanding and patient…. if he can’t answer where you stand after your first conversation don’t go and demand to know by such-and-such a date. and a few times i saw that he had cancelled plans with me, in order to be with her – of course he had lied about why he canceled with me. texted me when he was out with friends, letting me know where he was and that he would call me once he got home etc. in my mind the matter is so simply about respect and i find it difficult to understand how to tolerate the ‘continues to actively online date’ thing…. he had a couple of messages received – one of which was from my fake profile. recently, another woman is doing the same thing on his facebook and it makes me wonder if he’s doing the same thing to me yet again. have read your story and the fact that he is a picses has nothing to do with it. live in hope that not everyone is the same and that there are genuine men out there. we played around in the snow like little kids, cuddled, watched a movie at the theater, and got shakes. maree – i think from a guy’s point of view it can be, at least in some small part, a commitment issue. will try to keep this to the point and as brief as possible which may prove to be difficult since i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. i know you may not want to for fear of what the answer will be but in the long run it’s better to know sooner rather than later in my mind. you care for him and while some of his actions declare he feels the same way, other actions make things less clear. i didn’t ask him if he was going to delete his, i assumed that of course he would. i confronted him about it and told him how much it confused me and hurt me, since i thought we were still good, and that he wanted things to work out. i’m headed to a wedding across country and he’s not happy with the fact that i have a date. i am such a great catch then why lose me? or just let it go and don’t make a big deal of it and just focused on our relationship? he claimed a guy he worked with asked him to check out and see if his wife was messing around. so anyway, i message him and he message me back. just finished it on the assumption that he had had plenty long enough to decide if he liked me a little bit or not. he was very interested in asking me about my life, my opinions, my family, my experiences and he genuinely seemed to care and to want to listen. i ended communication with all other guys, hid my profile and gave this guy my full attention because that’s the kind of woman i am. he just got out of a marriage filled with anger. the funniest thing’s that i asked him directly if he was seeing anyone or sleeping with anyone & he denied both. if a woman continued intereacting with men she was meeting online, the man she’d been planning a future with wouldn’t dismiss it as innocent. before i proceed let me give you a bit of a background i had broken up with my ex 2 days before xmas since he had been mia for 2 months which drove me insane. except the fact that my bf wanted to date me and see me, but still thought there was someone else out there “better” for him, so he kept the site up. half of the time i am the one to initiate the conversations even though he responds and we talk but he doesn’t really ask my a lot and also he doesn’t write much. someone likes you, they'll want to talk to you and spend time with you, and they'll make an effort to do so – without question. he texted me as soon as he got home and i thought things will progress. he wanted something casual at the moment’ but wasn’t sure if he wanted to see others. as i’ve recommended to others, it may be best to talk with him about where he sees things going. i was heart broken when i saw it, and i text him right away confronting him about it…. i guess my question is, if it’s almost been a year and his feelings haven’t changed since we first started seeing each other and he’s still going on dating websites, should i even try to thinkta he would someday want a relationship? the next morning i asked why he always tried to meet me during weekdays and he said it was just a coincidence cos his weekends would get so busy. he had not dated anyone else, and i believe him. he’s told me his biggest fear is missing the boat’ as in not getting married and having kids at a decent age. is a writer with bylines at vice, refinery 29, xo jane, hello giggles, and fashion canada. i think that might be a next step: to let him know that you’re very unhappy that he keeps his profile up. no one wants to feel like they are being bullied into a relationship. i can be rather forthright in these matters – the usual sympton of having been hurt terribly in the past and made a fool of etc.’m definitely not defending what he did (i disagree with it and think it was wrong of him to do so) but you did get a much better response than many women: he removed the profile quickly and i think he was a lot more honest than most guys in admitting that creating it made him feel better. he lied when he told me he hadn’t been with anyone else in a while, which turned out to be about 7 days… and he told his fwb girl that he hadn’t been with me in a really long time – which actually was like 3 days..I add him on a new account and he gave me an email address i didnt even kno about. are you ok with having sexual relations with one another while your profiles are active? i have been told by a close friend (who is male) that i need to be chased and show him that i am not at his beck and call. – would you feel comfortable telling him you want to take your profile down and ask him if he would do the same? things were going great and he asked me to meet him on thursday. all that being said, i do have some family issues in my life, i have a brother who has a drug/alcohol problem who is always getting in trouble that i have to look out for, my mother passed away 5 years ago but it still feels like yesterday. perhaps a taste of his own medicine will wake him up to what he’s doing…but honestly that’s not the point or the goal. they’d rather go out with no jacket and get hypothermia than leave something in your house and have to retrieve it. who’s to say there aren’t other profiles out there that i am not even aware of? i don’t get why he texts me those things saying what he says and then not give me the time of day. he says he is, yet i’m not so sure at this point. i think it’s reasonable for you to be concerned based on what you’ve found and i think it’s reasonable for you to let him know that.. they flirt with your friendsi used to think that if my crush was flirting with my friends, it was only as a way to make me jealous because they actually liked me. ok he says, let’s talk about it, then we get interrupted by one of the kids and never come back to the topic. these actions tel me that he likes me and is trying to have a serious relationship with me. are some things you may think indicate your crush likes you, but actually show they're not interested. and no a guy views dating so differently to us that it can only be expected that removing his profile is repeatedly a delayed occurrence. How do you tell if he is interested in dating you exclusively? he is in the army and when we first met he only had a couple days before he went to do a month worth of training. but i never made it past 2 months with anyone because each and every time the guy would continue with an active profile i would feel disrespected, lose trust and belief in the guy’s intentions and force a swift ending one way or another. i’ve don’t a ton of research on this and cannot find any explanation of how a dating profile can show recent activity if the user has not been on for supposedly over a year. i’ve met his parents and extended family and he has met my parents.‘c’ stands for cares, as in, does he or she care to know your thoughts, opinions and feelings? but revenge wasn’t sweet as he then sent me an email about his lack of self confidence and his poor self image and how it gave him such an ego boost as his mother never loved him blah, blah, blah, blah. feel like there’s a lot i left out, yet it’s hard typing on my tablet… and trying to sum up feelings and experiences to a stranger. i just want to share another way of looking at it…so maybe you need to change but maybe not. so if your crush is trying to set you up with someone else, then i'm sorry, but they don't envision you as their soulmate. i guess my thought is that some more time together could help convince you both that it’s a good match (or not) and then all the wondering wouldn’t be required. i said, “dare i ask if we can see other people? you can continue to hang out with him but start looking to date other guys as well? when we were a month into our relationship i told her i was not going to renew my match subscription because i only want her. i have told my parents and he has claimed that he’s told his as well. i don’t wanna pressure him, as i want him to make the choice on his own, but it’s still so annoying that he lied, twice actually. the daily matches argument/excuse is about as weak as they come. have had a 5-6 really great dates, chemistry off the charts, met his daughter, spent a weekend with him. met a coupld more times and then slept together, its not something i do easily at alllllllllll, it just felt right at the time. if we are “exclusive” (without titles that express commitment), than why the need to continue prospecting? and then he said “i’m not sure i see it going anywhere. we met on a chat room site back in june. i get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people i could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not remove the profile so all those women don’t have to “work hard” in the first place? (although i think aaron was bragging about getting head from his date not from men). drop dark hints about their unreliability, commitment issues and hereditary tendency to get rashes. defines it like this:‘p’ stands for prioritize, as in, does he or she prioritize you? we were casually talking about something and he slipped something about the site and i asked him: “wait, are u still on the site” he answered that yes he’s still on it but it’s “just there”. i get that i hurt him, and we obviously had some sort of miscommunication about what i ment by needing some time to think. it’s the garden of eden and you’re adam and eve, or steve. he had asked me to meet his mom a few months ago, but we had to cancel and it has yet to happen. the thing is he goes on his match account every day. a few weeks later we broke up for 5 days i activated my profile and gave a guy my number. don’t over react but do not ignore the nagging inconsistencies.! week four, another i love you, and a few more fun filled evenings. he said he is so excited to date and see me, and already planned where our date would be. i think if you start to have those conversations it might lead more naturally into an “exclusive” conversation. btw, he told me today that he would need my parents’ consent and then we both just changed the subject. i reminded him how his friend spied on me – he now says it wasn’t his friend but he himself. are just guesses but the fact that he took it down in the first place is the most interesting part to me. a few days after i posted, he and i went to lunch and had a serious talk about it. it wasn’t just becuase of him but out of 8 guys i met everyone lied aobut martial status & job among having 10 year old pictures up. i let it slide since it hadn’t been in use since 8 jan which was before we had met. he is gone the third day only, and when he arrived there he texted me that getting a wifi hotspot is problematic, but that he would figure it out. might not be helpful but at the end of the day you can only control your choice. "no guy likes being the guy who treated a nice girl poorly. on monday he asked if he could see me on tuesday and i told him i wouldn’t mind but i wasn’t getting intimate since i didn’t like the idea of him flirting and dating other women. i confronted him about it, we broke up, and then he came crawling back to me 2 weeks later and deleted his okcupid profile. are tricky conversations and can be difficult to work your way into.? anyway we end the goodbye on some jokes and pull funny faces at each other as i drive off. ish major, psychiatrist, author and host of wetv's marriage boot camp reality stars, jasbina ahluwalia, relationship expert, matchmaker/dating coach, radio show host and founder of intersections match, a matchmaking firm, and dr. free dating website is going to attract a significantly different clientele than a subscription site. tell me, am i just being used until something better comes along? we had a look and he has changed his profile to looking for women for friends. he seems to be just perfect, everything i was ever looking for. so when he walks by you and brushes your arm, you immediately think he was sending you a sign, when in reality he might literally just be walking by. i wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). good thing is, it doesn’t sound like you’re approaching this situation in a demanding sort of way. also that he got to go and wished me a great day and that we would talk soon. but i hate it that he responded to her like that. he said that he wants to continue dating me and that he wants to work on things. i i mean gee, is it really necessary to say that after you just told me you loved me? he even offered to show me the “fake” account he was using to help his friend. – it sounds to me like you were exclusive at some point (at least in his mind) and then later, without you knowing exactly why, you stopped being exclusive (again, at least in his mind). i told him i didn’t understand this plan since we had not talked yet. maybe i just answered my own question and it’s just hard to let go of something that seems to great. i told him i was hesitant to live together as that felt very committed and serious, and i didn’t actually know for sure what his intentions were with me. i suppose if she’s just dating you casually, it may be less stressful to think that you might be cheating on her. i took mine down right away and i just figured he always had his up. i have also noticed that on his computer he is getting on another site and looking at personals, mostly from other states. is now day 3 i havent heard from him at all today. you say to find someone who makes things easy for me — but relationships are not easy, and if they are, they aren’t real. he is the younger brother of backstreet boys alum nick carter and has previously dated two famous actresses and singers: hillary duff and lindsay lohan. the next morning he begged to meet me and we agreed to brunch on sunday (9 jan). i never saw another email, there were no text from random girls, or phone calls that seemed weird. he even had me add a tracking device on my phone so i can see exactly where he is at all times. yes first time i get an invitation to his place. they keep going on about a grown up gap year, and that they’re saving up for six months in thailand “in a year or so” move on, before you get hurt. actually i have some of my toiletries in his bathroom and he’s fine with that.. i brought up the subject and he insisted it was nothing that he had an app on his phone and would click on it when bored but that he would remove the app. when we were saying goodbye i told him i would miss him and he said i am already missing you’. after work he did call me and told me that they are being deployed to turkey for about 50-90 days. i was hurt but more disappointed because he told me that he would never hurt me like my ex s did or any man before him. we agreed that we’d tell each other as soon as we slept with anyone else for health reasons. we have fun when we’re together but i just don’t know if i should trust him. if you’re two months in and his profile is still up, it’s time to get your profile back up as well. we have a great time laughing, joking, talking and we both have told each how much fun we are having and how excited we are to see each ofher again. which privately causes me to panic…but i told him i was open to the idea and to talking about it further.

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that aside we normally go out at least once a month or every other month. he was very attentive towards me & was making plans to go to football games with me. another problem is that a few times he had informed me that he is confused and do not know what he wants in life or keeps on changing his problem which makes me feel so confused and disappointed. you actually like someone, don’t be a pushover in the hope that he’ll like you more for it. so looks like he pulled one over on me and is still online. i agree men need women to tell them how and what they feel since men aren’t mind readers but then, neither are women.’s tricky to suggest an amount of time set in stone for when you should expect things to move forward as every relationship is different. i am not checking up on him anymore cos that upsets me. but he still checks it daily so im kinda confused. time i finally felt angry that he couldn’t say to me ‘i am not sure about us’ – respect! stop fooling one another with the notion that we should not have expectations. try to pick what feels like the best opportunity to talk about it, not the first opportunity. as i discussed above, i would recommend against being aggressive or angry. i took some time to reflect and by the end of the week i realized how much i missed him. i assumed he got cold feet and freaked out about the ‘exclusivity’ talk we had. a few days afterwards i got a text telling me that he got crazy news and that he couldn’t tell me now but would call me after work. that text he sent to me by mistake screams that messing up with me bothers him. from thoroughly bloody nice chaps, to suave gentlemen with varying motives, to lotharios with questionable morals, to downright cheating rats, and their motivations for dating vary as well. brad, do you think what we have now can get more serious – become exclusive and enter into a relationship? when he says he’ll take it down when the time is “right”…well, if you’re dating someone and you keep telling her you’re not going to date anyone else then the right time is now! i stupidly rang him and asked if he wanted to be with me. i checked the messages tonight and it said he was online now so i messaged him with hi how are you, he didn’t respond. of the most difficult parts of dating in 2016 is that sometimes, it can feel a little bit too casual. the next day he says he went online and couldn’t find me. he says that if “he [doesn't] talk about himself much. the same story on above, i had the same story. jackie – as with the other situations, i can’t say exactly why he would keep his profile up. me, this guy is saying he loves you but he is not showing it. there is no shame in publicly searching as a guest when he has or she has already lied or had been interested in emails and winks from people on there once exclusive.. i put his hand on my chest and said ‘omg! well, he apparently took me requesting time to think as pretty much a break up. admit the date was perfect but i had bit of committment issue to because i got hurt in the past and due to this i dumped him on the third date but we quickly patched things up. however, if we use your examples of the real world versus online dating (and really a case that you appear to make that they should operate more similarly): if it were the real world instead of online dating wouldn’t you have been more firm that he shouldn’t be talking to another woman/making himself available to other women? still, these are areas you will need him to define. was pretty angry at my outburst……that friday i wrote him, apologizing for acting instantly rather than sitting with my feelings and just blowing up on him. in fact, he has since told me that he is actually glad i went through his phone and handled it the way i did with him (holding him accountable to it, ready to dump his butt, but didn’t attack him like the tasmanian devil). a couple of weeks went by and he still hadn’t taken it down. i am a relationship girl – cannot do this casual/fwb stuff! slept together after about 5 dates and it just felt right but neither of us mentioned about being exclusive, i think we both took it we were only seeing and sleeping with each other, at this point he was still active on site but my time on there was becoming less. erica – i’m honestly not sure how you could get him off the sites barring getting more aggressive with him about it. he always will have one job and continue to look for a bigger and better job even if he has no intention of leaving the one that he has. then i saw just two months ago he was texting w/ his buddies about have spring time itch again. during those 6+ years, i focused on raising my two sons, building my career, healing and finding myself and my own happiness. the keep saying they will hav a good future together and will make them proud if they get married one day. so read on to find out if he’s feelin’ it or just not that into you. i understand we never comitted ourselves to each other, sohe has every rigt to. and i hope it goes without saying that when you enter a relationship where you both are only interested in each other, at that point the multiple dating would stop! guys can be just as insecure as women can, and knowing there’s a woman interested in you, let alone a number of them, is a great ego boost. i texted and welcomed him back and told him to enjoy. do you think he will change, or should i just move on and find someone else? it proved to me this is someone i really want to be exclusive with. to know if sexyhotforyou has something alluring to say in an email to you that might up the ante of the lady you supposedly are crazy about? recently, we met up for the first time and we hit it off pretty well. he asked me if he should take his profile down? at this point in time it is not wise to promise exclusivity to any man without a proposal. so someone else will get to reap the benefits of my work 🙁. i said i just needed some reassurance and he told me to be reassured. he suprised me first thing in the morning with an execpected visit, we went to a braves game that we had scheduled a week before and then he invited me to spend the night at his place.’m curious though, maree: when you forced a “swift ending one way or another” with these guys (prior to the last) did you ever first force the “let’s be exclusive” talk or did you just end things? didn’t see an email from you yet, but i know i’m being anxious and impatient 🙂 thanks again for your great blog. if a woman had emailed me after i met my wife, i probably would have looked at the profile even though i knew i’d met “the one”…i think sometimes it’s more about wanting to know who was interested in you as opposed to pursuing them. i told him again that it makes me feel as though i can’t trust him if his profile is still visible because that means he is still single. on sunday (and i knew he was going to do this) he cancelled saying he had to go to meet his folks for lunch he didn’t even reschedule. saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, i went to visit him this time. i can’t say which one it is but i do think if he’s keeping his options open you’ll really want to do the same thing (and not just saying you are to convince him to stop). contrast, if your potential suitor makes an extra effort – perhaps remembering some small detail you mentioned in conversation, or tailoring a date to your tastes or personality – it is these things which guys don’t usually do that make it obvious he’s really into you. he seemed to show a lot of remorse, and made the comment that ‘he was a dirt bag’. he, not me, started talking of baby names with me. i never had the impression that he just wanted sex, since he didn’t exactly initiate it, it just happened while cuddling on the sofa, watching a movie together. the fact that you had to fight about it for weeks is a really bad sign too. or what should i say to him to make him answer me and we become like we were used to. mean we are just getting to know each other, and it’s still very new, but since i had asked him if he is still on dating sites or talking to other women, i feel like he wasn’t sincere by telling me he wasn’t. how can a man give me a stupid meaningless ring and tell me he can’t to get married to me etc and then do something wreckless? that being said, i believe a month of spending time together is a good general time frame to expect some concrete definition to your relationship, especially when you’re going out of your way to interact with each other every day. he’ll be open to you, facing you directly or naturally in close proximity. he even introduced me as his fiancee once, and all his friends know about me. he was suddenly not wanting me to meet his friends. – let’s imagine you met my wife and i for dinner. they don't ask you if you like their college roommate just to test you or because they love you so much — they feel they just have to pawn you off to someone else. i removed my profile at the end of the first week or so explaining to him that it was my personal preference/instinct and that it placed no pressure or expectation on him. if we are “monogamous” should we even have these sites up? we act like a couple when we are in public and he loves pda. he’s never given me a reason to not trust him, when we aren’t physically together he calls and tells me where he’s going and what he’s doing, we talk and text daily, and he’s told me that i make him happy. before all this i knew we have a whole lot in common and there was a lot of chemistry and sexual tension plus i really like him. to make a long story short, he and i are perfect together in every way but, there won’t be a fairy tale ending where we live happily ever after, not after tonight. i could honestly envision us together for a long long time, and it just came as a blow. but, last weekend over in the same friends house she told me that his profile is still there. to repeat the same thing, just wanted to see if you could help me a little. if it’s not, you might want to have a more direct conversation regarding it…. i knew it was going to be tough but hey, it was only for a few weeks, and we promised each other that everything would be fine, that he would be fine. doesn’t sound like a great catch to me to be honest and i imagine there’s more going on than he wants you to know. i would be as kind as possible if you decide to have this talk with her: you’re not trying to punish/reprimand her, just letting her know where you stand. he told me he would try to meet me somewhere if he could get some stuff done for work and some family things, he told me to txt him in an hour or so and see where he was at with being finished. anyways, we still met up and spoke very very regularly over the next 6 months. i said it was up to him (i want him to take it down because he wants to not because i want him to…) i did say that him keeping his profile active made me feel that he wished to keep his options open and that if he wanted me to feel that way then to carry on. she said all the right things and we spoke of only being interested in each other. and does one sexual encounter at the age of 17 make anyone gay, straight or bi? i then said: ” i am the other girl” the look on his face was priceless especially when he realised that all of the stuff he had written (and there was pages and pages of very intimate stuff) was all sent to me. you been dating exclusively for 3 months or have you not had a talk on being exclusive? if he’s not talking himself up in your presence, straight up boasting or even bashfully so, he’s not trying very hard to win you over. basically i met this guy on a marriage website and we got to know each other of the basic stuff. when i quizzed him, he said casual meant no rules & includes going on dates. he goes out of his way to text me just to say hi, good morning, or see how my day is going. so it concerns me when i found out that his profile is still up and he goes online like pretty much everyday. though Aaron Carter recently came out as bisexual, he revealed he's not interested in dating men and will be pursuing relationships only with women. i feel like i’m just there and he is still looking for something better and it makes me feel bad. i was shocked and sad about it, of course, especially since we just had spent a great weekend together but only met twice so far. i keep chat with him, he just read it until i block him. six weeks ago i met a guy from an online dating site. your situation is a little different because it sounds as if he didn’t have a dating profile when you started dating but now he has one (? may (2014) he got an out of the blue text from his ex (fwb girl), saying he should come to a party she is having in june. he will however be stood up by the imaginary women, then the following day, i will tell him that i am no longer interested in seeing him. have been dating this guy i met from online for about 3 months now, everything was amazing in the beginning. i think you should let him know that in the next few months you need the relationship to change: either he needs to fully commit or the two of you need to go your separate ways. relationships are unique things and you’ll need to decide when it is best in yours to start demanding more…but at some point he will need to commit or you will need to move on. of course, you should only do this if you could be comfortable with it. i just don’t want to him to like someone more than me. on the other hand i don’t want to continue to put a lot of time and effort into this relationship if she’s looking for something else as i don’t want to be the fallback guy either….’m concerned telling her this may rattle her a bit givien her prior experience and scare her off. we had the exclusive talk, and we both agreed to not see anyone else – but we aren’t exactly “official” yet because of the uncertainty of his job (he’s at risk of being sent overseas for a minimum of 2 years). and i don’t feel like i wanna see others either. and if the car situation didn’t exist, is it likely you’d find another reason to worry? i was thinking of sealing the deal the second time we see each other. any effort less than that is just that, less than, and not what you want. i began dating, i realized what fun i was having with it, even if a date wasn’t great, i just loved getting out there and meeting new people and discovering things about myself and relationships that i hadn’t before. i know he was clearly a player – is it possible he is a reformed player? if anything, the attention and time he spends around you are key for determining his level of interest. even after three discussions and several screenshots as well as telling him how to delete his account and how to bury his cookie email tracks, he still could not resist. i don’t think you should feel stuck though – obviously this is a relationship you should work on getting away from (but i understand your concern given his response). he knows that i will soon live where he lives because that is my future plan (even before i met him) – which is four months from now. we met on a dating site and were surprised to find that even though we live in a small town we had never met. he also tells me that he hasn’t told any women that he loved them since his ex wife – and they have been divorced 11+ years at this point. sure, there is a degree of romance in having the guy take down the profile on his own. my landlord gave me (not kidding)a two week notice to move out. men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”. i struggled with myself whether to bring it up or not about what i had found out, but then i decided to confront him. i have not confronted my boyfriend about this online dating profile yet.’ve been dating the same guy for 4 months and today i asked him where i stand and he is not answering me back is he hiding something from me. i brought up the online thing & he said he was emailing 2 girls – ‘nothing interesting’. you see, i have been “that guy”, leading women along for whatever selfish reason or motive i had at that particular time. we were meant to get married next month and now it’s been pushed back to easter. he came all the way here (drove 40 minutes in practically a blizzard), and his birthday was three days ago so i made him a cute blanket.. they play too hard to getif they're playing really hard to get, then sorry, but your crush is just not that into you. i once again bring it up because i’m hurt and he proceeds to say he honestly thought it was nothing and had deleted the app and proceeded to even cancel his subscription in front of me. mild apathy is the order of the day, and we can waste months asking our friends about the hidden subtext of a message that just says “‘sup? maybe he’s that guy, but maybe he’s not.’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising. at least some of the guys will admit they’re keeping their profile online updated or keeping their options open. because we live on different hawaiian islands, we didn’t meet in person until about a month after emailing and talking. that h honestly doesn’t know if he can give, recieve or feel love again due to the divorce. i’d be careful: if he’s now dating another girl and things don’t work out with her, he’s likely to try and come back and make you feel like everything was fine and you were overreacting. so i never talked to him about the dating site but i found out that he isn’t using the site we met on anymore but that he has set up an account for a totally different site and tried to hide that it’s really him so that no one will know. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. this whole situation sounds to me like him trying to have his cake and eat it too.

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can be tricky to decipher because in social situations, the whole point is to be social. shares so much about himself with meso why is he pushing me away like this. you decided to meet and on your first date things go great. i found he was still on there, not just on there, but online now and he had added a new picture with a shirt that i got for him for christmas.’d suggest talking with him and encouraging him to let you know when he’s feeling down or tempted to create a profile…but you need to be open and understanding if he’s going to be that honest with you (so no attacking if he admits he’s feeling that way).” they are so worried that you’ll ask where things are going that they’d fake a power cut if they found you watching say yes to the dress on tv. if he still doesn’t make the right decision (taking his profile down), i think you may want to consider putting yours back up as well to see if you can find other people to date. i wish you the best of luck – whether he changes his mind or not! not ask it through time spent together or the hope that he’ll make the right choice or through milestones that make it obvious to you that the two of you are exclusive. retain some reality, because being online is so surreal and the rules of engagement so different to real life that some surely find it unbalancing. i realize every situation i’ve read is similar but i also know the answers will differ i appreciate any insight you can offer. anyway, last week his sister had been awful to me and i was home alone and upset. i gave him about a one-minute explanation over the phone, broke it off, and have not looked back. dave – you might try sending her here to see that others have dealt with the problem. he then said that he was going out at that time. to turn things around he tells me he likes me very much and misses me when he’s gone. ali – doesn’t sound like good news to me unfortunately. at the same time i don’t want to be a mug. about a month into dating, i knew i really liked him and wanted to see where it was going to go. i saw it two days ago i felt sick to my stomach but i decided to not bring it up until my emotions have cooled a bit and i can think rationally. he said he hates the fact i always have to leave and wishes i could stay at his place all the time.’m confused because things haven’t changed since we met. he still makes updates to his site and says he is single and “looking for long term and short term dating. i find it difficult – impossible – to continue with someone who isn’t sure about me. sent the email not as an ultimatum but just as an fyi… and i am sure he will stay on line until he decides what he is looking for and if in fact it is in me. i’m so confused, but over thisyear our conversations and time spent together hs allowed my heart to grow. is it too late to salvage anything…or was there anything to salvage?’m gonna see how it goes over the next month, if he’s still going on then he doesn’t care about my feelings and i’d prefer to be someone’s one and only, not their until something better comes along! in the first few weeks we were together i was worried about how my daughter would react to being around a new guy. again he didn’t pay for me he has never paid for me and i don’t run up big bills max but he won’t. started talking to a girl for around 2 weeks, we met on a dating website and have been talking daily. the reader above waited six weeks and i think that is very patient. figure with all the things he has done it sounds like he is interested in me. carole lieberman, beverly hills psychiatrist, you’ll be sure to find all the answers to this age-old question. overall, there should be some consistency, if he texts you once a month, that’s probably a red flag. sum it all up: i would expect that within the first month of actively dating each other that you should have an idea of where you stand and i would expect his profile to be down. 6 months into the relationship, i told him i needed a break – that seeing him searching for the next best thing (as i saw it) was hurting me. then necxt evening, when we arer leaving, we hav an odd goodbye, but then i guess we always do. – was he the one who sent the text or did he receive that text? he replies within a min and we text for hours until i get sleepy and tired. there were a lot of other things said, and over the course of numerous conversations. forward to today……the last month and a half, we have been spending a lot more time together…. he didn’t get mad at me all, even for snooping. start small and work your way up if you’re truly afraid you’ll come on too strong. when we are together his behavior to me in without fault and amazingly caring. he said his profile was up but that he hadn’t been checking it and he hadn’t found time to take it down. you don’t have to be aggressive when you talk with him about this but i would be direct and ask him straight out where you stand and explain the confusion he’s creating for you. it’s possible to send a lengthy text from a train or a toilet. i have tried to keep my “option open” by staying on the site – but it just makes me feel bad…. it does make it harder him living in london and myself in suffolk as we don’t have what i would call a normal dating relationship which does make it harder. if most of your conversations revolve around what you did last night, then it might just be casual conversation. seems he wants me on his terms but doesn’t want anyone else having me. have read that many complaints from match is the status option is flawed and can be triggered from simply receiving and deleting a email from match in your personal account. seems really into me, seems genuinely happy to hang out with me and to really want to hang out but we haven’t had the exclusivity talk and i am honestly not going to go down that road and fish for information for another 2-4 weeks. last week, while just hugging and feeling so happy being there, my heart was racing with emotion that it actually startled. he has had it rough…a lot of ups and downs with his ex who has refused to let him see his babygirl. we had a mild argument about what was going on, and what it came down to was i told him don’t take me for a fool, and don’t take me for granted. we have been calling/texting each other about everyday since we met online.!First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating. if you don’t get a response to that you’ll definitely know something is wrong. first off, he has significant commitment and some emotional issues. it’s been a wonderful week and i decide to see if he’s up to anything else and low and behold i find him a jdate, jwed, passion, hotmatch, and zoosk. it’s a good idea to let him know that the active profile is the source of much of this feeling (leaving this out could leave many of us guys, who can be dense when it comes to relationships, confused or surprised). when i didn’t hear from this guy till friday afternoon, i was in no mood to wait and was not happy and you can understand why since i had spent all my patience with my ex. a month ago, i complained about his dating profile still being active. – i don’t think expecting someone to be honest is being “needy”. and he announces to them that we are moving in together. or that he just wants to get his numbers up. however there are more things apparently he’s saying that i didn’t tell him “i love him” during sex which was odd to me because i have in the past, i even brought him breakfast the last time i saw him…. i replied next morning and told him i had other plans since i thought we were on a break. there was all these messages from the dating website that we meet on. we both want to get married, so this site and our culture is the norm for that.”carter came to fame as a child pop star during the late ’90s and early 2000s. i’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now, we spend every weekend together. across the country, today is the first day i haven’t heard from him at all, even though i’ve made several attempts. if he really cares about you, being open and honest like this shouldn’t bother him. this might come off as being too ‘charming’ or ‘player-like’, but it’s actually not. the other day i did have to make a little remark where i said, you know…i know you arent in this for the long hall, (i only said this because when he told me he loved me, he also said…”this doesnt mean i necessarily feel i want to spent the rest of my life with you…wtf?, there is a caveat to this somewhat foreboding tale – men vary. i know he was aware that i disabled my profile because he can check it. a little reminder on what they’ve already found could do some good…and if it doesn’t at least you can be confident that you need to keep looking for the right guy. i understand his schedule because of his work demands as a nurse, but there’s this feeling inside me that makes me feel a bit sad and worried because it’s been almost a week since he last called me. this doesn’t bring me shame, just a weight and burden i have held onto for a long time that i would like lifted off me. major, his texts should be spontaneous and happen during varying times of day. not that you can’t find success, but often this approach mentally “locks” us into continuing to pursue a relationship even when it isn’t that great (and there are lots of other reasons to date multiple people in my mind, but i’ll not go over all that again here).. major also has some advice that might actually contradict what you thought you knew about reading a along along he was active and looking for talking to, meeting up with other woman.’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months but he continues to be active on dating sites. i didn’t realize that by cancelling an account it just meant that your subscription wouldn’t renew, not that your profile wasn’t still active..the “needle in the haystack” ohh that makes me so mad. when you bring up the fact that his profile is up, do you tell him that it bothers you? a lot of guys (this one included), the clarity at which a woman is able to say something exists isn’t clear to us at all (and i speak as a married man who has conversations like this from time to time with an exasperated wife who just doesn’t understand why i don’t get the obvious). he said the past few days had driven him crazy & we should cool it. he’s an adult and for whatever reason, this is the choice he’s making right now. he came back all defensive asking me why i would say such a thing and of course he is. if you think this is annoying i definitely understand but i would still encourage tact when you try to resolve this issue. if you can figure out how to log in, update with new pics and stuff, you can figure out how to do other stuff. accidentally discovered that my bf had recently logged into his online dating profile. i deactivated my pof online dating acount 2 weeks ago as soon as we discussed that we were dating. we haven’t gone on a real date yet because he lives in a different country than mine. i don’t know if i believe him or should believe him. i’ve talked to a lot of women where this type of situation can drag on for months only to see the man start dating another woman. this gives me one more reason to suspect that carter is just trying to use the lgbt community for some press. i noticed that he was not his normal self around me. when i was stepping out for a smoke he told me ‘if things gets serious, i’d like you to quit’ & i told him i’d do it for him. person would drag you into a bush before they let you bump into their own mum. surely… surely it means he is ‘not really that into me’ etc. so this was just the tactic he needed to reel me in hook line and sinker! met a guy online from okc in january 2014, i was evicted 6 weeks afterwards for violating my lease after letting family members stay with me. he began texting numerous other women, and even had a one night stand with a younger woman while he was out of town. but, i suddenly asked him about his still online in online dating or not? we were going to hang out all day but he told me yesterday that it’s his friend’s birthday on saturday, i mean how do u forget that?” he told me i was being needy but that he wanted to continue seeing me, but not be exclusive. but he’s still so kind to me to help me in my time of need. after almost 4 months, i was really falling for him, and had stopped dating other guys after month 3. i bring it up, he says ok let’s talk about, and bam. so it’s been three weeks now since we agreed to be exclusive but he still have his profile up and checking it., we’re here to make the guessing games a little easier in the future with some tips from some fellow students and three love-life experts. that or i would just cut him off… the guy i used to see from okc has a new gf supposedly but he is still on there. it’s a sacrifice i’m willing to make for him – something i never would have done for anyone else..if you need to lie, perhaps its time to keave. he takes out so much time from his busy schedule to skype with me, which he initiates a lot, and he drove to see me and paid and was a huge gentleman. i will add that he texted me at the end of our first date to say he had a great time and proceeded to text me everyday after that. he even had the brashness to say in his email to this imaginary girl (who was me): ” i am also very honest with my partners, nothing can be built on lies…. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot. for example, he’ll ask you to tell him about your major and why you chose it, your favorite music artists and what you like about them, and your opinions about things in the news. a guy checking his dating profile isn’t always a sign that he’s unhappy and based on your agreement i guess it’s fine for him to do so. he did many kind and loving things…though he no longer does them. we ended up sleeping together and he spent the night at my place. – i would generally expect that a man telling a woman that he would like to date her exclusively would be received positively. he’s spoken a lot about his parents and himself and his friends and his work. we were out for 10+ hours and he was telling me he hasn’t been out in a while or on a real date in almost 5 years. we met on a dating website, and the relationship took off right from the start., forgot to mention, i go over to his place a lot and everytime i leave, he begs me to stay and says he hates that i have to leave. it hurts me that he denies our relationship to people he know but is all about it in private. i just immensely like him, and i haven’t felt this way about anyone. when a day ago he made a point in asking me how it was going on the site., i think you should have been more honest with your guy. so, i put my profile back up today and i am not going to tell him. at this point, assuming you’re right, i’m not sure what other options you have. when he tried to confirm, i told him i hade forgotten we had a date and promised lunch to a friend. i have checked a few times by searching users on pof and each time i see his profile it says he has been on that day. he hasn’t asked to meet since i just nodded at his suggestion. after 6 weeks of talking non stop via text, a few phones calls a week, and seeing each other no less than once a week i brought up the “where is this going” talk….” but i wouldn’t fault him much for looking at the fake profile..and during all this, we are both still active on the dating sites…. about a week or so ago i ask him what we are. days ago i was having one of those days where i was thinking about it all too much and letting it get to me again. i’m not saying this is what is happening but i would argue he seems to deserve a little more benefit of the doubt than some of the other guys discussed here. so, after two months and three weekend-long visits/dates, but knowing that he is slow to commit, when is a reasonable time to have “the talk”? i recently met a man i like very much – we met for drinks/appetizers, had a great time, lots of laughter and connection, nice goodnight kiss as well. plus, it doesn’t help that most guys aren’t like ryan gosling in the notebook and hang from ferris wheels just to get a date. the next day, he disappeared and went totally dark on me. in other words, in many of the cases described in these comments the woman is put in a situation where she needs to force the “let’s be exclusive” conversation.

5 Signs He's Not That Into You

have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. i said that he really should think about changing that if his goal is simply to date around. guess i’m wondering if he’s interested or not. he invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. that i will want to continue in the same way knowing he is looking/browsing for someone else? as i’ve said previously, if you can do this without anger or making him feel threatened, i think it will go better. first, the idea that you calling his phone or texting him would drain his phone battery is a lie, although i imagine he’s going to use that event if pressed on why he’s not talking to you. after everything this guy has done for me…i just don’t get it…commitment issues? he told me the thing’s he told my fake profile weren’t true – ‘i was obviously trying to pick her up – would i tell her i am seeing or sleeping with someone? she showed me the profile and it said he was interested in meeting women for dates. i have never done online dating myself but because of my boyfriends profile i now log in under a fake profile every day to check his activity. this morning i decided to reciprocate the photo txt, and i sent him one (nothing i would be ashamed of though if someone else saw), and i sent a message along with it that said good morning 😉 it’s been a good 20 minutes since i’ve sent it, and in another 15 i know he’ll be at work and therefore wont text me. so i know this is wrong but i decided to make a fake profile using my sister’s photos since she lives in another country. and if i do, i’ll have to tell him it’s a real relationship or nothing. i know he likes me cause his actions shows it..he said no, just that he is struggling at the moment. told him i understood as he is just newly ‘out there’. finding out the basement roommate and he actually did have an intimate relationship after swearing up and down since july that he never touched her was the final straw of many in the red flags and numerous chances to be honest. since our relationship has been a bit all over the place for these months, should i have even brought up the topic? he’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them. i texted him yesterday and he said that he “saw” my text but was “super busy and forgot”. there where little things that happened when we first started dating that i didn’t concern myself with too much at the time, but now i felt like i had to get resolution about those things if i was really going to make a big commitment like this with him. if you can share your body through sexual contact (which is clearly intimate contact), then you should be comfortable enough to have the talk about expectations. he never checked to see i made it there or home safely, and hasn’t really been in contact the way he was before i left. the online dating profile is tellng me that he is still keeping his options open just incase. i am really confused cos y’day he was online 3 times i haven’t even gone into my account. lieberman says, “one big clue that he’s not interested is when you’re in social situations and he keeps looking up at every pretty girl who goes by, or if he’s making an effort to let others know that he’s not really with you in a romantic sense. he had planned romantic trips for the two of us, we were together practically every day, we went on family camping trips, i met his parents several times, he was talking about future stuff with each other. 5 days later – screen shots proved he had just been online and active. this morning, page six reported that a notorious hollywood publicist may behind carter’s recent drama. but it was shocking to see what all he had been doing during that time and i was completely in the dark about it. if you guys are planning vacations and are seeing each other soo frequently, he should have more respect for you and not have any active accounts. since i feel that really good advice would require me to understand the relationship on some personal level, i can’t tell you exactly how to approach the situation., based on his responses to your previous questions, i get the feeling if you were able to prove he was using the services his response is going to be a strong one (and to me it seems like the wrong person is getting angry! i just think i could get hurt if i asked him where things are going more so than if i just moved on, perhaps if i contacted him less he might get the message….! this after he tells me he’s the luckiest man to have a great catch like me. last week we went out for meal, he came back to mine, we slept together again, he went home that nite, he txt me as usual to say he got home, we said it was a lovely nite and then good nite to one another. he could’ve at least told me upfront instead of brushing me off and beating around the bush. if he can’t bring himself to take his profile down no matter how much you talk about it, i think you need to consider keeping your options open as well. im not sure what site i met him on or if he is even on a dating site now. this article has been very helpful but i want something a little bit more specific. if you do it without anger, i can’t see how he would object (although i think your anger was appropriate before). they’ll probably never go, but it’s a signal that they’re not serious about including you in their future. he also said that he would fetch me in the airport. that said, she is regularly active on match and i’m a bit concerned putting myself out there with her she may not be ready more given the whole cheating matter she had to deal with. along with many of my personal friends have reiterated your story to me through tears and hugs. i try not to pressure him about it and he hasn’t been dishonest with me.” he said he doesn’t like being told what to do. – have you tried talking with him about this more aggressively? so i began “snooping” and found that even though after 6 months he was still using the dating site that we met on, but he is doing it from his phone so that i can’t check. that we are at different places in regards to what we want at the moment, although we do want the same thing in the end, a loving, solid relationship. his recent words are problematic, and they can’t help but make me wonder if he’s just doing all of this for the notoriety. wanted to write you before i did anything to freak him out the way females usually do. am not brad (obviously) but if you read my post, which is right before yours, you can see i was almost in the same situation. think i’d try to shrug it off for now. and this was the first time in my life that i had actually dated a variety of men at the same time. we were seeing each other multiple days a week, but enjoying every bit of it. nevertheless, i was shocked and disappointed when he told me one morning that he had been on a date. went to a spa, it was beautiful and we ended up staying the night together……. she says he’s on it regularly and this evening while he’s texting me on the phone, she calls and says, “he’s online at match right now”. but it was apparent that he was really hung up on her. we spent our first valentines together and he met my family. i told him he shouldn’t be taking his frustrations out on me & that he can date my ‘friend’. it’s one thing to say someone is the only one for you, it’s another thing to actually live that out. they are not looking out for you if they still are checking out the menu while proclaiming they are crazy about you. said he is only seeing me and i shouldn’t worry…but…should i? it’s just what always happens to me and i really would appreciate it if you would tell me what my next move should be and how this should turn out/how he feels and what he may be thinking. i was very worried because i knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. i think for now, you might want to hide your profile in the off chance that he’s keeping his profile up because he still sees yours is up. he said the only reason he was on it was to try to figure out why they took out of his account. i messaged him on my friends proflie and he answered very nicely that i was pretty and he was still looking for a relationship. or maybe he’s doing this to get my fake profile girl. and barely said much at all…this past week i got a bad feeling so checked the dating site where we met, and his profile (which wasn’t there a week before) was back up. would it really make you feel better if he waited until the next morning? at this time he posted that he was “single” on ok and so did i. i get that you can view profiles for free… but my thing is that if a person is into you seeing you more than once a week – nine times out of ten you have nothing to worry about… dating more than one person is not something most guys are good at and let’s face it… it is too damn expensive. i know that when you are dating you should do this but i just can’t and he said he was the same. brought it up and he told me that he thinks there is someone else better out there for his “lifestyle. if he can’t give you a straight answer, tell him where you’d like the relationship to go and ask him what he thinks of that. he said that it was everything about me that turned his heart around and brought out the person he used to be a long time ago, and that he absolutely did not want to lose me. we are planning a tropical vacation in a few months, we’ve taken several weekend trips together, we’ve brought up the subject of moving in together if he doesn’t get sent away, and i’m seriously falling for him. now im starting to question if i should stay in this realtionship or go. everything i’m hearing is that if you open the email (even to just delete it), match will now show you as active. he did, when we spoke i said i was upset, i just seen his profile and how it changed and we were literlally with each other hours ago. i got my revenge though and set him up by using a friend’s profile to catch a great big rat (and even though it was me he was writing to he still lied and lied and lied) and i caught him out big time. someone who likes you will want to make you feel as though there was never anyone else for them. i can see why some people might not like their friends reporting on this sort of thing regularly…but if you’re close, she would probably appreciate it., i find really annoying is when he informs me that he is not cheating on me but why is he still on the dating site. there’s evidence that he may be talking to an ex…. i am trying my hardest not to bring this up again, but the recent picture really has me thrown for a loop. do like that you’re reading the 5 love languages together. we havent spoken properly about this as this was late last night and when i rang i woke him. we have a lot of common interests and have so much fun together, but have had a couple of awkward conversations about exclusivity and where this may be heading. would then suggest that if things are still going well between the two of you in a few weeks that you let him know that you would like to be girlfriend/boyfriend and see what his response is. i think you should make sure some others in your life are aware of what’s going on…i don’t feel very equipped to help you very well if things are turning abusive. non the less i started to warm up to the idea. so when i met him on thursday i asked him why he was online if he so wanted to get off. she's currently the beauty editor for her campus and the editor-in-chief of hc south carolina. very sad to see all the comments on here about the hardships that everyone is experiencing. online dating was an avenue i hadn’t tried and i was curious! while i agreed to casual & laid back – and only cos he said he’s just come out of a relationship & doesn’t want something full on (and i have too but i am ready) i did not saying anything about the seeing other ppl business. although you might associate bragging with douchey-ness, it's actually a way for him to impress you. i mean he seems like a decent guy and all but i guess i’m just worried. few days later i log back onto the online chat room we met on seven moneths ago, i made a new profile and he was online…………. whether he’s just checking until it expires or he renewed after he showed me the cancellation it still means he clearly isn’t that into me. i am aware that there is a 30 minutes lag off in okc, like you will still appear online even though you already logged out. but my daughter has this thing where she loves to look at his pictures and since his phone is touch screen and she is only 3 she sometimes hits other buttons, well about a week ago she opened his browser and ended up on the exact dating site i am talking about. my profile was still up i did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago. let’s just say that hypothetically speaking another attractive women sent him a message to his profile. unfortunately it seems that at this point you should have a conversation with him about this and where he sees things going…i’d hate to think that he’d be using you for a place to live (and hopefully that’s not it). there were quite a few other things we talked about, but that was truly a big one for me. i asked about it and to his credit -it is an old flame and he hasn’t been on the site since april. he changed the city to the town he used to live in, shrunk his height by 2 inches, and hasn’t put up a picture. it’s almost like the allure that a casino has…you might win big but something make you want to stick around and try a little longer. he said he could ask me the same thing and that i had blown up his phone all day until it died. he finally set up some time for us to talk, but i was frustrated that at this point, he had already given his landlord 30 days notice. don’t think i’ll ever hear back from him.” while it might seem like teasing or flirting, someone who has pure intentions is not going to interact with you this way. jenn – i actually touch on this issue a bit in my article on when a guy disappears after a few dates. after the first week he was asking me to be his girl. i love him but he wont commit, using this family thing as an excuse i guess, but then he still is online tlking to random women whilst keeping me in and out of his life? i’ve been dating a guy now i met online for almost four months now. most of these unapologetic “proud to be bi” men have zero interest in legitimately and truly dating men (unless money and/or opportunity is involved). here we are, i have doubts and feel uneasy about the whole thing. i could see that most of the time he would try to set up a date with her first, and then me when she couldn’t. you’re not sure how to approach it, i’d basically let him know what you told me: you feel bad for snooping but you were suspicious and now you’re very hurt by what you found., i’m in a similar situation to most on here. the subject is in your email subject line and says: so and so sent you an email. i have been seeing this guy for two months and we’ve gotten fairly close. we were out with his family and friends yesterday and i just happened to catch a text message on his phone that said “what are you doing babe” to the very same girl.. which is solely his decision… however i have the right to vocalize my thoughts which is what i did… i would never tell him to close his account and also to those of you that are upset that you man has his account out there… how do you know unless yours is out there or you are still online? is a writer with bylines at vice, refinery 29, xo jane, hello giggles, and fashion canada.. when i think back i am surprised to find that each and every time it was i who decided when he should have an opinion about me, i decided when he should take down his profile and actually i decided everything about timing etc based on my instinct and my feelings. it’s hard to judge why his profile is up otherwise – it might be because he’s still looking to date others or it might just be that he’s forgotten about it. no matter how much you think you like someone, it’s really only worth pursuing them if they’re going to pursue you back. i still had my profile up and so did he. we both want a faithful and loyal partner, and since his last girlfriend cheated on him constantly while he was deployed to iraq (3 times), he said he really doesn’t have time for games. his parents are apparently reaaaaaaaally keen on this idea and so are hers. maybe once you know where he stands, it will make it easier for you to make a decision? it’s the first time i’ve met someone like him. only problem is that i now trust no-one and everyone i meet on the net is suspect, although now i keep my profile up (even though i do not use it) so at least they know i my profile is still active. i asked if we were exclusive and he said yes. am so confused…i felt the connection…how can he now say there’s no spark. no shame in protecting your biggest investment: your self esteem and right to know who you are in bed with…. he said we are not dating but we couldn’t establish any status quo. i called match to make sure i did not falsely accuse him of being online if he was not. should i wait a little bit until we get more serious? we had the most incredible night (no intimacy) and i felt so so so comfortable. so based on my observation i am assuming that he was checking his profile for a minute or two then logged out. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. he wants to spend all of his free time with me and i feel that due to the fact that hes new to the city that’s mainly because he doesn’t know a lot of ppl. i am comfortable raising a family with a man (which is what i’m currently doing). you are old and wise enough to read the tos and have basic respect.

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my situation he is now an ex for a reason. if i want to check on someone i just use a friend’s profile to see when they were last online. he didn’t reply to that one anymore because he obviously had gone offline already. towards the beginning, we decided to go withthe flow and see where this relationship would go. saw texts between him and his hockey buddies about how he wants to f*% everybody and how we was getting that ‘spring time itch’ really bad.‘c’ stands for consistent, as in, is he or she consistent in both words and actions?! i said i really like you and have knocked back dates from others too as i was seeing and sleeping with him, he said, he knocked back dates too! however, i do worry that the next time he tries dating someone else he might find himself interested in her and then you’ll find yourself alone. he always tells me that he has a great time with me and i’m his favorite person, but that he never dated much when he was younger and thinks he owes it to himself to date around now. – i need to wrap this up, it’s way longer than i meant for it to be! ultimately he said he thinks we need a break for a week or two – that things were getting messy & the last thing he wanted is to hurt me. has got to alter in this “bi-guy” movement, especially from a celebrity standpoint. it seems that this was the choice he was making prior to you making an issue of it so i really don’t think your actions need much scrutinizing.. texts might mean he’s interested, but that doesn’t mean he’s ready to date. sarah madaus, a sophomore at temple university, says, “if he seems disinterested in your conversations, or even when he asks you a question, he’s probably just trying to be nice. i had asked him about this issue a few times and each time he just informs me that he is not cheating on me or dating anyone else. think that many guys who use internet dating think of it as a “smorgesbord” and feel that it is their right to taste everything on offer!’v egot the same problem on ly mine is a little different. i met my boyfriend (i think) on plenty of fish in july and we’ve been hanging out, having fun since. gaining my trust, after my past, is not an easy task and he has managed to do it. the end, i chose to believe him, forgive him, and continue our relationship. then he tells me since he had been in relationships up until now, he’s just not ready for a full on relationship’ and that he likes checking when he’s bored. after reading many of these stories i have somewhat of an undertstanding that this is not uncommon. after 2 months he asked me to be his girlfriend – actually an old college friend of his we met on the street asked if i was his gf and then a few mins later i told him that i did not want to continue to see him unofficially so he asked me to be his girlfriend and said he’d tried to ask many times but was too shy. he tells me how lovely a time he had and how he doesnt kno if we will definately be able to meet again due to the situation. but he didn’t pay for my lunch just gave me the change for his coffee. i recently signed up under a fake profile and tried to wink and favor him. you could continue to date him if you want, but if he says that he loves you but refuses to take down his profile even when he knows it bothers you…well, i find that very concerning.. i also haven’t heard from him all day yesterday, but i didn’t think anything of it until i found out about the badoo thing. he told me that i really hurt him and that it will take some time to repair the hurt. let him mess you around – only see you on his terms, sleep with you and then make excuses to leave shortly afterwards – and he’ll do it. he was bored, and it made him feel good about himself. i still think that’s a fine thing to do but more recently i’ve found myself encouraging women to be a bit more pro-active or aggressive (whereas changing your photo is rather passive-aggressive). he asked me a month into the relationship to be his girlfirend ive met his family and friends. but again, maybe i misunderstand what exclusive means in this case.’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but that tinder user was in fact me., he is still active on the sight and logs in. i asked why and he said he wasn’t really feeling the site etc. no reaction from him but when we were talking about the weekend it was clear he had no dates. i am only asking – in these early stages – for respect enough to put all the other girls aside for a moment… is that really too much to ask? initially he asked me out first few times and then ive been doing it since. we had plans for friday but he said the weekend was best spent with friends. the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, i would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.’m realizing that the bottom line is, i don’t trust him anymore. i’ve developed some very strong feelings for him and i feel that i am making the right move in continuing to see him. i’ve been to a work picnic once but haven’t met his friends . where he stands may not be where you hope, but he should still know where that is! that’s like saying, “the 0 i spent on my subscription is more important than what i have with you”. i asked why he was online recently, and he said it had to be a mistake, that he must have accidentally pushed a button on his phone that logged him on without him even realizing it. he keeps saying he just gotten out of a relationship & do is not ready. know this has become a long message, but i really hope you find the time to reply. i kinda don’t want him to see other guys in between the next time we meet up again. they’d go five miles out of their way to find a library before they’d borrow a book from you, just in case they have to commit to staying with you while they read it. 3 months in is when i saw he was still logging in……it upset me…. many men are seeking wives, not playmates and they’re up front about it because they sincerely don’t want to waste time with women who aren’t interested in long term commitments. as far as the deployed thing, he is getting deployed in a few months, and this is something i knew about not long after we met.. and then back to the sex thing he thinks he was going to get some from me but i told him not till “the break is over and the sites are deleted” (this is all texting btw) and he goes “you’re demanding stuff because you said were not going to have sex till i delete match”…ummm duh… i said yes and i have a good point to, that don’t you think? he asked me to come to his area next time and i just nodded. that being said, are there any creative ways where you could spend more time together even though you don’t have cars? notice shes still going on this same dating website we met on ( i had taken mine off since we met) but this worries me so much that i asked if she still went onto the site and she said she did. he told me he was the luckiest guy in the world to have a great catch like me’. i doubt gay men anywhere are really upset by this news. we chat/txt evey day without fail, he has been to my house few times now but i’ve never been to his. i relaxed and began to enjoy the journey, tentatively falling a little by little for him. is why although i am inherently bisexual i choose to identify as “homo-dominant” instead. we both said that we had a great time after it was over. he tells me to look after myself and tries to make the goodbye casual and jokey….” so obviously, i creeped today and you can see (even if you’re not a member with a profile) if a username of a profile exists. i played stupid and said i had thought that was the plan from the start. but if he shows initiative in texting you and trying to talk, then that definitely shows interest. don’t start making a demands on the 30th day just because i suggest a month as a good measurement. begin to open up more about how you feel but with no expectations or demands (at least not in the beginning). brings me back to what i said at the start. we all know that what a man does speaks louder than what he will ever say. if you want to take a stand and draw the line at 6 weeks, i’m okay with that. on sunday he told me he thought it was harmless to email though he was only seeing me. especially to the lady who’s heart they’re trying to win! he called me his girlfriend and said that he doesn’t see anyone else. he gave me a key to his place also and told me to stop by whenever. to get to the point here just like many of these other stories i felt something was off with him, i wasn’t getting the morning texts anymore. our emails were immediately riveting and he even told me it seemed like we knew each other for ages. both of us even changed our status to “seeing someone. he will be turning 30 soon and i am 6 years younger. someone is flirting with your friends, it is because they don't like you. i stopped answering and next time i saw him i asked him if he was still on the site and he answered and said: “yes im still on there and actually last week someone messaged me on there, and i’m pretty sure it was you. maybe wait a week or so and see if the profile comes down on its own. and he replied with a nice good morning text as usual, apologizing for not texting yesterday but he didn’t go to the wifi place but went to the base and finished settling in and going to bed early. that being said, almost 100% of the time when i talk to women in this situation they want to follow the advice your friend is giving you: lay low, wait it out. but i knew i had to be supportive and not dwell on my fears, so i did the best i could to cheer him up and not burden him with my worries. i treat him so well, cook, clean, and care for his kids but yet i seem to have no standing with him. major reminds us that “ultimately ladies, it’s up to you to set the expectations immediately and openly for your relationship. he opened an email and my friends said he was online within 24 hours. i did confront him to discuss it but now i realise i did so – not to understand him – but only with a view to declaring that he had failed, that i don’t ‘share’ and therefore we couldn’t continue in this state. lots of dates, exchange of christmas gifts, meeting family and a lot of his friends. i texted him that i missed him, i havent mentioned anything to him about deleting his profile, i told him i deleted mine and he said he cant delete his from his phone. i deleted my profile ages ago, but this afternoon i had a look and he is still using it. i added however, i know he wouldn’t take advantage of my kindness, and that i want him to feel hugged and to stay safe and alert out there.. i ask for a proper goodbye and he hugs me and hesitates to kiss me……. hours from where i live, so we knew that dating each other wouldn’t be that easy, but we also said to each other that we would make it work. are key indicators right from the start in the dating world – clues to identify what a guy really wants from the outset. it sounds like he’s assuming you’d continue to date other people because you spent the money even if you found someone you wanted to date exclusively and that makes no sense to me. up until meeting up, we messaged once a week, usually i messaged but he also did if i didn’t. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot. i did bring up exclusivity but he said isn’t it too early? i’m really freaked out about commitment – i love this guy and have a relationship with him like no other, he accepts everything about me, he adores me, is kind, gentle and makes it his daily goal to do things that make me happy. he did & told me his dad’s very ill – he seemed so upset. he mentioned twice that nobody comes to his apartment but me. they’re replying with one word answers, they’re not busy or mysterious – they just don’t want to have a conversation with you. then today i searched again and it said active in 3 days. he even told me that he’ll fetch me at the airport. met him on pof in august 2013 and to be honest, i had just started dating again since my divorce 6 1/2 years earlier. he asked me to cancel the recurring payments in paypal, which i did for him (english is his second language and he’s not terribly computer savvy). should i have her make a date with him and me show up?, i thought i was the only one in this situation. i understand his availability issues because of his work as a nurse, but i’m feeling this sadness and doubt inside me because it has already been almost a week since he last sent me a message. during the date, he continued to say the same things that he’s been saying to me and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. that is the case, hard pass and make sure your friends don't buy into it either. i asked him on sunday and he said he was in there cleaning up his inbox before deleting. have been seeing a man i met online for almost a year now. i have checked simply out of curiosity and really to keep myself from getting to attached at this point. he then texted me and said he too tired was but i saw he was on his match account. and as i touched on earlier, i do think it’s reasonable to demand respect from these guys. hmm…i don’t think you should be looking for a way to blame yourself for his actions. you enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. he can get you a hotel room and take you on a road trip but logging into a website and removing his profile is beyond his time and resources? occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. if you feel horrible as you’re doing it, then just stop. he actually messaged a friend asking if she wanted to chat and that she was the only woman he was talking to. but he did cancel on an invitation to join me at my friend’s farewell on sunday. he doesn’t have a problem with it and i obviously don’t either. trouble is that it’s hard to know whether the person you like is playing it cool, or simply not bothered. and today when we were texting i said (in response to something), “i mean i like you enough to know that i don’t wanna see others. the 2nd day away, he sent me a pic of himself in a towel. i realize she’s already reached that point where it would be devastating for her to lose him but allowing it to continue only to have things end over this a few years from now isn’t going to improve things for her. if he’s introducing this way to some people but that way to other people, i think you have a right to know where you stand. logic aside, i would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing i asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you exclusive and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other? so as our conversation goes i knew he was referring to me the girl he was seeing. i want to pull back from him and stop seeing him, but it’s so hard to do when you like someone. i told him it was iffy and i had hidden my profile because i’m not sure about it all together. could you tell me where you see our relationship going??Any suggestions on how to deal with this now am i just wasting my time and just move on? he told my fake profile in his last email 2 days back that there was no spark between us & that’s why he kept it casual.’d try not to worry too much at this point. you were a bit persistent while i guess i didn’t help matters! on last friday he said in case i was out late to let him know. spent most of the night talking to be honest with you. we have gone on trips, and had wonderful dates, he told me i’m just the girl he’s dating. strange thing is, while i deleted my profile from the site on which we’d met, he hadn’t and i assumed he’d just cease using it or hide his profile and not renew his subscription but, turns out he has a match membership discovered by my suspicious sister whose brought it to my attention. curiousity always killed the cat and i checked to see if he was still active a couple weeks ago and he was. i’m having doubts if he’s still interested but i view his page anonymously and he hasn’t been active for 2 weeks and also removed his pictures. i know its him because of the wording he used and the things he is looking for. its been like 2months together and he is really great guy if i have to be honest and i do have my moments too in annoying him too. and he said he had logged in to show his friends my picture that i was the highlight of the weekend. we dated for two months before we became intimate and i just assumed that we were exclusive.

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we talk on the phone most nights since we are busy and live about 45 minutes away from each other. have been on 5 dates with a guy who i met online, i really like him & feel like we have a good connection, but he has not yet mentioned exclusivity & deleting our profiles. i did ask him two months ago to tell me if he wasn’t interested in me he just had to tell me. i can honestly say it was incredible for us both 🙂. brad, i really enjoyed the post and seems that many of us experience the same issue. i even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up. then today he calls me like nothing’s wrong and when he could tell i was uneasy talking to him he made a big fuss and said ‘well i can tell you’re in a bad mood so bye. said u were on there he replied with yea but he has 2 mutual friends. frankly, don’t care for it for a multitude of reasons but it has been a good vehicle in which i have met some terrific people. with a few men but didn’t have the desire to take it further than friendly chat……. 20 minutes later he texted and told me i was far hotter’ in person. i txtd him the next afternoon when he said he was done work, and asked him if he could meet me somewhere because i needed to talk to him, i was having a bad day (it actually wasn’t about him, rather than my pseudo grandfather had fallen ill, and i just needed a shoulder to cry on). i was able to see his messages and as of today it shows that he had logged in and there were messages from women in which he had responded to just a couple of hours earlier before i came home. you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, i recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period. curious of anyone’s thoughts on this…been going out with a guy i met online. said ok, that i would hang in there, but i asked him to please be straight up with me the second he doesn’t feel like this will go anywhere and he promised he would. i have a question, i have been dating a guy that i was introduced to by my sister. i said i had made an account and saw him on there. i do hope to hear back from you about my situation, you seem to have solid and sincere advice. he got angry and said he wasn’t doing anything like that and he would take it off when he thought the time was right. he has no idea that i know about this site. don’t attack him about it – show genuine curiosity and i hope he’ll realize that even if he thinks it’s not a big deal that his profile should come down/be hidden. i finally told him he need to set up a specific date with me where we could go out and talk about this stuff together and privately. that might seem like semantics but i can see where a guy is coming from if he felt like it was commitment. the responsible party is the man or woman who has to open those emails to stroke their ego or satisfy what they think is a harmless curiosity. he says hes not dating/sleeping with anyone else but why is he still online? two days ago, someone brought his pof account to my attention, knowing that we were “together”, so i got online and checked it out. we dated for a year and then we moved in together. he kept me in the loop of events for the following days until he finally left for turkey, and we spoke before he actually got on the plane. i didn’t evern take him seriously on the date (even though i thought he was hot), i was joking too much to get rid of him but he seemed to like me alot and wanted to see me more. i would rather have someone that challenges me and pushed me to be a better person every day, and i intend to do the same. a healthy normal relationship should consists of time together and time apart. he has a difficult time discussing a lot of emotional things. and just to make it clear, my sister isn’t creating suspicion with me, i’d noticed how all along, he’d be texting me and suddenly stop with no goodnight, see ya, nothing, just stopped in mid conversation. i think there might be a third option which would be to do a little of both. and that’s most often how the “real” world works: the days of grade school where we are forced to ask someone to “go steady” are behind us. are you ok that you may hurt both of you because opportunities come easier and in catalogue style online? i took time to respond to their messages, but i was deliberate with all of my interactions and made sure not to let their interest wane. met a guy online we hit it off really great. they like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable.“i’ve been hearing a lot of negativity too… like prejudice and slurs, and remarks that i don’t deserve,” the 29-year-old pop star told tmz. he even told me that the first time he saw me he knew he’d marry me one day. are some very interesting posts here and you give great advise. we lived together over a year later and then he one day just moved out. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. i kept refreshing the search everyday i don’t know why and then last friday morning i was shocked when i saw that not only had he been online but he had uploaded his picture. he pointed out to me the other day that he has a hard time showing affection and was asking why i stayed with him. so i went into my whatsapp (that’s how we communicate) and checked when my messages to him were actually read (i normally don’t pay attention to this), and it came out that he seemed to have been online at times when he told me that he didn’t have wifi on his phone. up for our newsletter to get the best of hc delivered to your inbox. if he is honest and admits to having a commitment issue, could you give him more time? i generally do believe he does like me but he is just either not wanting to be hurt again so taking these easy or he is seeing other women. week two came and i found that while i was waiting for him to respond to a text i sent (45mins) he was on the dating website from his phone. he cuddled me beautifully the entire night – it was sweet. i’m no saint though i go on match too but i’m different and it bothers me he uses it that much. if after a week his is still up, you could try dropping hints: maybe mention that you took your profile down or talk about how you enjoy spending time with him. you just never know but i have given up on online dating. in about another month or so, he will know for sure if he will stay here or be sent away, and we have agreed to talk about being officially exclusive at that time. yesterday morning i checked again and it said ‘online now’ to say i felt sick was an understatement but i didn’t want to go wading in and accuse him when i didn’t know the story. the b in lgbt is often silenced, and there is still a lot of bi-phobia in the gay community and the straight community. i expressed the same feelings and we planned to move in together two weeks from now. well…i don’t think it’s a *good* thing that he’s still logging in.? i felt suspicious but right away he said he wanted to do friday or sunday. connecting with people has never been easier, but we have so many options and opportunities that it makes sense to spread out our energy and keep things low key. it seems to me that many people want to be open to long distance relationships but then when they get in one, they decided to keep their options open for something closer. we’ve skyped almost every night for 4+ hours a night, and we text all day. then a day later i saw him driving around, i called him not to initially bring anything up, but when he didn’t answer we got into it and he said that he does want stuff to work but i can’t be so paranoid. if he’s going to be around you, force him to get to know you. i am not asking the guy to committ to me and plan weddings and babies. i don’g want to pushtowards anything, because i feel as thoughhe will if he wants to…but am i wasting my heart on someone whois using me as plan b or using me as a passing fancy? my problem is when i date i can only focus on 1 guy and 1 guy only. is not a river in egypt and you can do a non member search to check if he or she has lied to you before. 4 units so busy but he bought it to my attention that he saw me online previous day. you might try to justify it by saying they're nervous around you or they don't want to be too obvious about their very serious, very real, and incredibly intense feelings toward you, unfortunately, that's usually not the case. i told her i recently gotten an email and deleted it but i have not been on in a long time.. he told his fwb girl ‘love you’ in a text, and that was a little over a month after we first met. we slept with each other again, and we also hit it off in that department too 😉 so everything was really awesome and i just thought “i hope it’s not too good to be true! fortunately, things have been wonderful and things just keep getting better between us. went on a few ‘one date wonders’…lol…he reached out to me…. then even though my fake profile kept telling him i wasn’t interested he kept asking telling me i (real me) was ok with this since he’d been ‘honest’ with me. have said to him that if he likes, he can continue dating but he needs to tell me, so that i can do the same. he texted me later & said the following: are you ok? neither of us had an official discussion about bf/gf labels yet, but i wasn’t in a hurry for all that stuff, as everything truly felt great and was going so well. soon after he tells me his parents want him to start thinking about seeing a family friend’s daughter from the same background as them. upset, he asked me later what was wrong and i told him. – i think you should gently ask him about it but not attack him about it. he’ll smile and not look bored (because he’s not; he’s excited to be there with you) and he’ll actually nod and lean in while you’re talking (because he’s actually listening to what you have to say and not simply politely waiting to respond). i’ve stopped responding to these emails from the fake profile. and then he texted me out of the blue and said he was drinking not too far from where i live and was wondering if we could meet up to which i said no way cause i had plans and he was bummed about my answer. saw each other every weekend and we would stay the night at each others house…i trusted this guy, he made me feel loved by his actions. once the “exclusivity” talk came up (from my end): i asked if he was still on that dating site, because i took my profile down about two weeks after we met. have been dating this guy i met on okcupid for a few months now.?Recently, i started dating a man i began to realise i really really liked. i slightly said some of my concerns today (coming off as joking) and he lied and said he hasn’t been online since the time of our date to take his profile down..but between the texts and the online dating profile still being live i am not sure what to do. he’s been too busy to delete it and also his friend is using it to find women. how do i let what would normally be a wonderful relationship (if it were not for his dating profile) progress, or how do i let it go?. i guess cos he doesnt want to be too attached? was/am in the same situ, whatever happened in your situation? i’m afraid if i put my profile back up that it will make the situation worse, plus i really don’t want to. almost feel as if i am growing walls around my heart so i don’t come out……don’t people build walls to not let anyone in? my friend asked if i check to see if he had gotten on his profile, so i did, and that sunday night he had been on. all else fails, ahluwalia says to use the acronym picck, which stands for prioritize, integrate, consistent, cares, and keep, to see if the interest is there. in the article above i recommended that you update your profile to show him you’re still active. i in your situation, i would make it clear to whomever i was dating that absolute commitment was of the utmost importance to me.! snatched my phone out of my hand said he would ” f me up” if i went on a date with another man even though we’re broken up! he asked me to be his girlfriend shortly after we got the apartment. the same is happeningto me again so maybe next time i will try meeting someone who doesn’t have a computer as i am rapidly losing faith in meeting someone who is honest and loyal and can commit to one person. am his first relationship since a divorce from a 16 year marriage from a woman who had cheated on him. if he likes you, he will make the effort to meet up. we’ve had this dang conversation at least 4 or more times! there’s the possibility of a move for him in the future after his military career ends, and he has asked me to go with him if that possibility becomes a reality – i accepted. well he blew up and i blew him off for three days till he finally manipulated me back into seeing him through constant texting.?Now it’s been 4 months and i wanted to see if he’s being true to his promises and i decided to check. so if he doesn’t take it down within the next week, and i approach him about it again, wouldn’t it come off as pushing? might be something relatively harmless (such as an ego thing and nothing more). jessica – i think it would probably be best to ask him what he’s looking for in a relationship since that conversation hasn’t come up. he did not introduce me as the “girlfriend,” but simply by name. i asked him about going to the movie again and never heard anything back. i have also made myself avaible for this same night. i also took more time to look at his profile than i originally did the last time, and i noticed that at some point he uploaded a recent picture that he actually just posted to facebook back in april. after spending the last 5 months with him, i’m decided that i made the right choice. we talked for hours and both expressed how comfortable we felt talking to each other about any topic that you can think of. he then says, oh, i thought it was because of me. each time i saw/found out my guy went online after going out with me for a while i felt sick, duped, confused about where i stand, no longer confident about how he felt about me or what i thought the relationship was, suddently totally insecure and worst of all foolish…. oh, and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend in february. also, he is seeking a long term relationship and he loves love as i do (from what he’s told me). have for the most part what i tell my friends an “effortless relationship”. everything is great so far, we go out for dinner, watched movies, sometimes just stay in his apartment and ordered pizza and cuddle on the couch and watched a movie. i feel that it is his way of letting me know that he is not doing anything behind my back and is totally honest. jane – unfortunately, i’m not sure there’s much help to give here. his title on the site is “just looking” but his goal is to “fall in love”…. in the morning things were as usual great – he asked for my advice about some property & financial matters & we talked about everything under the sun. i know you make a case for not doing this in your comment but i worry that there is some risk in expecting a man to recognize:The moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally). i also had a gut feeling as it had happened to me previously. he wants to keep talking to other women, which could eventually end your relationship, but in the mean time he wasn’t to continue with you. to be honest, i’m not convinced that all the guys doing this even understand why. so i know he is not in it for the sex. i met a guy on plenty of fish in june. i think that’s a great book but it will only help if you take what you learn about each other and apply it. now 5 weeks later i will be meeting his kids and going to a family gathering soon but he is still online. had not been on my profile since nov when we had the talk, and neither had he, but we didn’t discuss hiding or removing our profiles., i’ve dated a few girls who i liked so much and thought they were so significantly “out of my league” that i was very strict with myself not to come across as too keen. however, i know has has a dating profile because a few weeks after we started dating my friend who uses the site told me she saw a profile for him. a guy will actually appreciate you more and respect you far more as a person if you’re straight with him. it started with us emailing back and forth a few times a day for a couple of weeks, then it progressed to phone calls – some of the calls lasted 4+ hours. i mean, when is the point where he would take his profile down? why is he window-shopping for other women when he says he wants to marry me? monday i texted him and we texted the whole day. in your case, he asked you to be his girlfriend…he needs to cut out the unnecessary continuation of online dating now. i got a strange feeling in january 2014 that something was just ‘off’. second, i believe the following guidelines can help when having your conversations:Be honest. and i have the ability to love and commit to a man. you do not know after a month of seeing someone if you would like to eliminate the rest to give her a fair shake, recognize that there is something that is not resonating for you and the best course of action is to be direct and tell her. abruptly changed his mind because he suddenly “didn’t feel it” with me, i had a sneaking suspicion something.

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but i was extremely bothered by it, it didn’t sit well with me at all. he talks marriage, knows my ring size, and talks about our future and potential children. i was thrilled 🙂 but then, he was charged with another 6 month subscription – despite the fact that he had cancelled. he asked for my msn and said he is getting on with me shockingly well………. questions to you are these, one thing that sort of bothers me is that we are exclusive, however he only hid his profile. “the trick ladies, is to not let your heart hide what your eyes can clearly see,” he says. last night i didn’t hear from him at all. he said ‘no’, he said he had posted those pictures to see if i would notice, and because he was curious to know if i had been online lately, which he saw that i hadn’t. i told him i’m a straight up woman if he wants to explore to just tell me and that i hoped he finds what hes looking for and someone who loved, respected and appreciated him as much as i did, this set him off right away…. but for some reason – i am resistive to be ‘all in’., we went camping last week and i noticed he was texting another girl while i was curled up next to him but i didnt say anything, i didnt really see what they were talking about it but it made me kinda concerned. do text and talk on the phone quite often but i had came to realise that its already been 3 months and his profile is still active and he goes on it quite often. don’t try to force these important conversations even though every bone in your body may want you to talk to him about it as soon as possible. it hurt so badly, and it made me feel extremely dirty and disrespected that he would mess around with me and talk to others the same day. he told me he would remove his profile and that he was so sorry he upset me. they’re not doing a marie kondo life declutter – they just don’t want to leave a trail of evidence that indicates you were ever together. i want to take it the relationship slow too but i also don’t want to be seeing a guy that is looking for the bigger better deal. i would talk to him: let him know you want to be exclusive and see what he says. it is hard for me to see him everyday cause of my busy schedule and i always work on weekends. to hear your experience went that way kelly…i promise not all guys are bad though! i only work 5-6 hour days, and then i was back to staying at my place but we were still constantly seeing each other.! i just found out today he has another profile on pof i want to date other men but now i feel stuck….’m so grateful to have come across your article here and am impressed by the fact that you’ve continued to respond to commenters for over 4 years now, wow! while we were saying goodbye he asked me out and i agreed. it may be that he’s being honest and he’s only seeing you but the whole “actions speak louder than words” thing isn’t doing him any favors and were i in a situation like yours i would want to let him know that. doesn’t mean that he always has to be the one initiating conversation; you should definitely feel free to text first on occasion.’m not sure i follow cathy – did you meet him a long time ago on a dating site but now he’s forgotten? i made it clear that i was not looking to settle down, but did want to continue dating him to see where it could lead, but could only do it if neither of us were going to continue to see other people. my sister looked on her computer from he account as she is on there, too. a fear of commitment, soaked with very, very committed conversation and feelings? since we see each other daily (he gets mad if we don’t) i just don’t know how to deal with this anymore and its taking its toll on me. he also told me at night that he’s missing challenge in his life. we hit it off and are still seeing each other. realistically i believe that whether or not he has paid for a subscription, if he is interested in me – then he shouldn’t be using it! for when a guy knows that he has you, you’re screwed…i think that can work both ways. lol but then proceeded to tell me that i “grew on him”. now the only reason i knew to look and see if he was on there was this gut feeling that i got. he is affectionate and kind, all the traits i was looking for. have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice. have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him. you had left a comment in another post saying that he expressed surprise when you told him you only date one person at a time, so i think he is coming at the relationship from a different starting point. however, now that he’s made the commitment i think it makes the next steps easier.!, conversation was boring and didnt amount to anything so i just blanked him and deleted profile. yes, it might feel slightly awkward—come on, when aren’t first convos awkward—but it should also be engaging and interesting. it is being wise and mature to set clear concise boundaries to value and protect your emotional sexual health. for example, if a guy messaging you on a dating website is prompt and regular with his responses, this is a sign that he’s genuinely interested. the things that probably happened to you this thanksgiving eve. i’m nervous that if i were to message him from that fake account he would indeed respond. he really truly think that its going to be okay with me? evan clark, a junior at the university of south carolina, says that “if you text each other or hangout, it can't always be the girl initiating. ideas on how i can get her to talk to me?) last night i went on (my profile is hidden) and his profile is active for everyone to see. until now, nothing about him has bothered me at all, and i would hate for this to ruin what could be a great thing. i sent one text on that first day, and one on the second day, and decided that was it. i’m pretty sure that my wife would be upset if i flirted with other women and told her it didn’t mean anything or that it was an ego thing. after quite a bit of texting we couldn’t meet up. said, she has let me know her prior bf cheated on her the whole time they were together. he asked to meet so i suggested lunch on saturday – since that’s a harmless, friendly thing! we continued to date and then on valentine’s day we broke up officially. we met online mid june and became sexua lly active early august. he answered back telling me that he knew i’d been online too. – i can’t really speak to what’s going on in his head. he might just be hiding that he’s not ready to commit. i checked, and again i was right on the money (i should have read this blog before so i did not do what i did again) i called him out, this time he flat out lied and got verbally abusive. after a couple of weeks i told him that i had deactivated my profile and he told me that he had cancelled his subscription. if any of the following signs apply to your current relationship, it’s time to look elsewhere. have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. we’ve even been to a festival and just went away for the weekend together. it’s so frustrating for me that the website charged him (earlier than they should) and after he had cancelled his sub. he said he wasn’t doing any of that on purpose and i was wrong to think he was intentionally doing those. he didn’t like it at all and only thought of me. i definitely can not be physical with him if i know he is talking to other people. i know that’s easier said than done but if you do end up dating him again just be very cautious…sounds to me like he would have cheated on you if he would have had the chance. i just don’t know how to deal with the pain. ms curious – i’m not sure anything is jumping out at me here as requiring a lot of worry.! now i’m really starting to panic – so without hesitation and with some authority, i look him straight in the eyes and tell him in front of everyone – ‘that is not a for sure thing yet, as we still have not talked about the details’. i guess it could but it might just be a schedule or habit thing (like something he does before bed) so i’d try to not read too much into the timing. would you be at ease knowing that if you are looking online you cannot give the relationship a chance? i met my boyfriend on an online dating website years ago. just understand that will be what it is and expecting more may just disappoint you if you’re looking for something more long term.” so i told him i was going to start seeing other people…. not by his charm or anything, but by the effort he puts into being with me and everything.” i then printed this section out and asked him again if he was cheating on the internet and he looked me straight in the eyes and said: “definitely not”. am a woman in my early 50’s and i have been dating my boyfriend who is a year older than me for about 8 months. would it be acceptable if he continued to go along to such events and chat and flirt with other girls? i have no shame in making sure after i had been lied to once to check again to be sure. so i said i cant speak now can he call me later. he once said to me that he loves sex with me but that a relationship shouldn’t be based on sex. men have been in the frustrating situation of being involved with a woman but not being honest enough with themselves to admit that they’re stringing her along.’s the absence of the obvious that tells you he’s not that fussed. i also said that i wanted to be there for him and support him, and that what he gets from me is honesty and loyalty, but that i require the same. am struck by how similar my experience is to so many others. i’m afraid that i’m starting to fall for him. however, if you go another month without any change, i think you might want to keep your options a bit more open as well (and be sure to let her know this in a gentle way as she’s going to be sensitive to feeling like she’s being lied to). he promised that was not his intention and again said he would take his profile down, but needed help because he couldn’t figure it out. he introduced me to some guy as his girlfriend but tells everyone else i am his friend.? if this is the case, then ill do the same thing hes doing to me. am thinking of giving him a few weeks and see what happens but at the same time i am concerned as well and confused as to why his profile is still active and he often logs on. i feel like i maybe scared to trust him, cause i am just so tired of a heartbreaks. he also said that i should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. i thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch! there is no cure but an expensive therapist to sit with you for several sessions for emotional damage – to help re establish your self worth and value that was destroyed by one person who had the audacity to demand no expectations while you jump to his cool as heck laid back beat. try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him. i love him so much but it seems that he keeps making these promises that mean nothing.’ if you’re cool with that then go for it. he said that’s fine cos him & his friends would go back to the city in any case.. i think it’s all because of the recent stuff with my brother…. a couple of weeks ago, i think it sank in with me how fast we were moving and i asked him for some time for me to think. said he was hurt that he’d hurt me and that he never had any intention of actually meeting anyone. i really do appreciate the advice but it’s not going to work out. similar story met a guy online 2 months ago we meet once a week on the. – it sounds to me like she’s keeping her options open and i’d recommend you do the same. ‘dated’ a few guys when i decided to try the online forum. i try to kind of ask, but he always makes me feel so stupid for asking, as i should (and think) i trust him. i was not satisfied with his anwser so i kept a close eye on things. in many of the other cases, the guys don’t clearly commit or label the relationship. you’ve made a commitment to each other, it’s pretty clear to me. i’m not too sure because he was willing to have a baby with me if i let him, deff not ready now! | your chances of dating newly out bisexual aaron carter have recently increasedafter stating his love for all of his fans, carter wrote: “there’s something i’d like to say that i feel is important for myself and my identity that has been weighing on my chest for nearly half of my life. may be hiding something…although it may not be that he’s looking to date other women. don’t know what to do at this point – my friends say just lay low, wait it out, don’t contact him anymore and see what happens – my gut is leading me into the mindset that he found someone else while i was away, or just decided he went too fast and is now backing off way too much. went through this with my now ex bf i met in july 2011 from match. to me, it sounds like another guy who isn’t necessarily cheating but is struggling to commit. but i do remember in the summer we seemed very close. i confronted him about it and said that it bothers me that you still have your profile up on match. initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. how he hates the fact he makes me feel the way i do with all this., if you let your account expire and can prove that to her, that means you can’t read or reply to any communication so there’s really no risk of your profile being there. but i like him alot so just waiting to see if he’ll make contact. again, not with any type of ultimatum, but i’d let her know that you’d be interested in concentrating on dating each other exclusively. in looking back, he never specifically agreed to be exclusive – i made that assumption that since we talked about it, and then continued to see each other, then that was the agreement. i know he’s been feeling unwell & low lately and my sister doesn’t help the cause. what he did is not right and you did not deserve to be hurt like that. then a few days later he once again “ignored” a text. he always tells me that he loves me deep down but i just don’t know what to do anymore. i still think its about respect… and not so much about committment. he is now back on the dating website daily again. sure, it may seem that he’s just playing it cool to start with, but if it is prolonged, i’m afraid he’s not that into you. find it very difficult to give advice on this topic because there are often so many things going on that i can’t really predict. thing about the advice above is that someone women will want to start this process immediately after the first date. how am i supposed to trust him when he makes empty promises? that he would go to the place we had dinner at on monday since it was ‘so so good’.! yes he needs to appreciate what he’s got instead of fretting about what he’s missing out on. i am going through something similar and i really hope that you may be able to give me some words of wisdom, advice, anything! that for the first time since his divorce, he is ready for a full on commitment, and that it just took him a really long time to get there. he is super attentive when we are together, has introduced me to all of his friends who have warmly accepted me into their circle as one of their own.. i hope it’s not too late to get a response. i think it’s more likely he still wants attention or that he’s lying (unfortunately). met an amazing guy about 2 months ago and we decided to only see each other. what if this other guy he sees has a car and they meet up regularly? yeah, it would be nice if when he got the “hi” email if he would have said to himself, “oh, that reminds me, i should hide my profile! only that, but the sexsearch profile showed that he had been active on it in the last 5 days. not in that place to talk about exclusivity but one thing that i find bothersome for me is when i see he is online immediately after i’ve left his place or he’s left mine. i am sorry i know it is painful to hear .

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