Signs He Wants To Date You, Not Just Hook Up With You
Aaron Carter Says He's Not Interested in Dating Men, But He's 'Still
you two have ongoing sex in any form , have respect for yourself as well as her and anyone else you are whispering to in bed – and either become exclusive if its going well or let her find a man who knows her worth and would like to share life with her. he says he doesn’t want to rush things and does not just want to date anyone, he is dating to find someone to marry and wants to be sure. and for many the identity and behavior seem more driven fetish, narcissism, money, attention and/or self-rejection or internalized homophobia than actually having genuine and substantial sexual attraction to men and women or actually viewing both men and women as fo’ real potential romantic and life partners. whenever he said he would call or text, he did, and in situations when he was held up, he would always let me know.”later that same day, tmz found carter out on a date with his girlfriend porcelain black, an up-and-coming pop singer. all that wasted time waiting for him to make the right choice only to have him start dating someone else. i recently started seeing this guy and we met through an online site a long time ago but we just started talking through facebook. i asked him if the text was for me & told him to call me. asked me about it in person i said i was checking his profile.. ladies, be smart about this, like a previous poster said, respect yourselves, love yourselves, and have enough confidence to kick his azz to the curb if you have to… one day he will realize what he had and how he messed it up, may not be tomorrow but one day he will! don't buy into the idea that a person only likes you if they're ignoring you or being mean to you. we laughed so much, i couldn’t even remember when a guy made me laugh like that! met my current boyfriend online a couple months ago, he kept mentioning thing about me being his girlfriend so 2 weeks ago i asked if we were together and he said yes. about 2 weeks after we met, i cancelled my match account, and closed out my pof profile. know it is difficult to address this issue but i do worry that if you don’t, in the long run your daughter could be hurt more, not less. she clearly let me know how much that hurt her. i want to give him the benefit of the doubt but the miles between us and the unknown are really bring out the jealousness in me and i don’t like it. i have already backed right off and only texted him yesterday after not hearing from him since my birthday which was 4 days before. the assumption that guys see things just as women do is risky business…especially if you are rapidly ending relationships based on that assumption. (i dont think so cos we hav met without sex and because we tlk about everything for months now). furthermore, i’m in the minority of guys that will actually admit it – not just to others, but to themselves as well. he wanted to meet me on sunday evening but i couldn’t and then i was shocked to see that he had repeatedly logged into his account. have absolutely no clue what to do and i hope you can help me. that’s besides the point really but it’s still true. we tlk veryyyyyyyyyy veryyyyyyy often and i guess i havent mentioned being official in maybe 7 months :s maybe i should again? he even said never look a gift horse in the mouth’ and i asked who is the gift horse, you or me? look for: random texts centered around hook up days and/or specific times. ever since then i can’t think about anything else and i still feel sick to the very core, i just want to know why he would do this! his response was “that the site is for friends, just like facebook” i said him he has got to be kidding because it is a dating site not a friend site and what would he do when girls want to meet him?’m still very interested to hear your thoughts and advice. comment, “i wish my brain would just stop” reminds me of advice my dad gave me when i was growing up: often the best way to get over someone is to find a new someone.. she says shes only open to a convo but nothing more than that. from my snooping, it seems that he’s been talking to another guy that day i wrote that message. we can’t meet up often because we don’t have cars, so that plays an even bigger role in me worrying. he told me he was going away for 2 days for work (this is true), so i took that as a hint not to text because he was busy. i just started working full time and could not show enough income on paper to get another apartment that fast. he asks me out every weekend and also at least once during the week. and with that, people might have different motives for being on there. he wouldn’t make out with me that night – he said ‘i don’t want your friends to think i only come over for one thing’. it has been another 2 weeks after that conversation and his profile is still active. just as some people have trouble committing, others are far too quick to try to do so. it doesn’t matter if there are a hundred other wonderful things, without trust, there is no sustainable foundation. but if you find yourself having in-depth, meaningful conversations, then you might be on the right track. i do think that’s enough time for him to know where he stands. maybe you should join all those dating sites just to piss him off! we went a few days without talking over the last 2 weeks.. major warns that those late-night texts should be taken with a grain of salt. if being online and chatting to other girls was face to face lets say and you met a man in this way.! as a man could you tell me if a man can go from friendship to serious relationship? i told him i’d rather talk for 10 min than text for hours. we have been itimate and he told me he hasn’t been with anyone since he broke off his engagement last summer. so, while perhaps this seems immature, i got gussied up big time and decided to go out that night, knowing we were supposed to go out together later on. and that he stays online because he is afraid of closing all doors and just be with me, the first woman. may not like the answer you get, but i think being 100% clear on what you’re hoping for in the relationship (especially since you’ve dated for 5 weeks) will be better than trying to be sneaky. the risk of being lied to is higher online because it is a catalogue of sorts. i wonder why dating is so hard for myself but seems so easy for others. gatherings out of state, day outtings with his kids, hanging with his other friend couples (he has always introduced me as his girl), spending long weekends together…. convo with me, pretending to be another woman was not flirty, it was more obscenely friendly tbh and he was keen to open a convo, be friendly, (overly maybe) ask for msn or skype…. 6months we decided to meet up again finally and it was just incredible! dezi – i would say giving it a bit more time wouldn’t hurt (only because it would be nice for him to bring the idea up). but i just dont know how to really tell if his idea of a relationship is the same as mine or if he just wants to date. so i checked online later monday and low and behold he created a new profile recently online and he was on that day. i replied no worries, but that i trust that he wouldn’t play games with me because that would be unnecessary. if i trust her the way i should then i need not to worry. things had been going wonderfully, we spent a lot of time together, almost every other day, and texting/phone conversations every day. but a girl he barely even knew…that makes it easy. (this is because my 20 yr old is here still and this way we can have alone time. he was moving the relatiosnhip way to fast wanting to move in etc. i have to add that i am 41 and he is 36, but he said he doesn’t care and neither do i. that being said, i’d still be cautious – it takes 5 minutes to take your profile down so his excuse doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. it seems to have disappeared overnight and i feel lousy and worthless. after a few hours, i tried to message him and he ignoring me and didn’t reply it at all. we actually had a very serious conversation about the future last weekend, and ours seems bright. he say’s ok, but another few weeks go by and nothing. and he said that we are always together and i am always there, so he just started loving me i guess. mine is pretty similar however, like most others, i really don’t know how to handle it. this morning i texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. it’s clear he’s online but not yet dating anyone. he did and had no problem giving me his number!! such a great gift for valentines day 🙁 if he does try to sweet talk me in the future what should i do? yet my gut says there is something not right about his profile being up still. i don’t know if i should give him more time or move on to find someone who is more committed to me. i know he’s someone i’m ready to commit to, to explore a relationship with. he asked if we could pick up where we left off…., as with other situations discussed here, i think it’s totally reasonable to expect real commitment at a certain point and it sounds like you’ve reached that based on what you describe. i think doing this can be beneficial because a) you might find a great guy who does want to commit or b) he might realize how much it sucks to have the person you’re dating to be open to dating other people. john johnson i would assume that at least 60% of men in hollywood/entertainment industry get head from dudes or give head to dudes sometimes. so i took a week to decide if this was someone i really wanted to be in a relationship with because we both have kids, and i wanted to make sure that if i commited i am doing so with the intent that i will stick around for awhile knowing we will start to integrate with the children. i think in many of the cases listed here, if the woman waited for the guy to make a commitment…well, it might never happen!, and yes, i am angry, justifiably, moving preparations are expensive and time consuming. so we met and he told me he was glad i had pushed him out. he was so into me and i was into him, too. after about 6 weeks he freaked out and said he wanted to feel more “single” and that he wasn’t sure we were right for each other. he’s opened up to me about lots of deep emotional things. “if he texts you for no special reason or for reasons that are lame, he’s looking for ways to connect,” she tells us. both accounts are still “active” technically, but there hasn’t been any activity on either. one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums. he is introducing me to his dad (who lives out of state but is coming to visit) next week, so thats kind of a big deal but yet he is still doing this…help please! giving awesome vintage haircuts will inspire you to follow your dreams. for the past 2, months we continued to text just as much, we talked on the phone a lot less due to our now conflicting schedules, and we saw each other once every 2 weeks give or take a few days. they’re both in the same college so and both haven’t returned to the site since that day. is fabulous to have a weeded out process available in this day but the downside is evident. i would just be concerned that this type of game could continue for years. and lets just say that because i went out for a girls night instead of hangin with him, that he responded to this other woman. do not trust online dating anymore too many bad experiences and too many shady characters. this online dating drama made me push him & drove him ‘crazy’. Homeonline dating bloghis dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? he didn’t say marriage, but his intentions are long term with me and he is excited to see a long term future together. along really well communicate during the week and he comes over even when he is exhausted just to see me wants to meet kids and his kids we have had 6 dates and wants to go out from the beginning not to b too serious go slow and asked me two weeks ago to settle down didn’t really answer him but told him i like him. i apologised for my amnesia and told him i’d be hanging out with a friend at a pub after work and if he dropped by i could get him a drink to make up.’ translation: ‘are you available to come over for a last minute hook up?. my friends usually ask me for advice and yet i can’t seem to think clearly for myself. – sorry for the slow response but i would agree with rachel. any insecurities i had were short lived – he has proved to me through his actions that i can trust him. i then asked if he was still on the dating site and he said yes. for the last few months this has been by far the question i’ve received most often from readers. shed some light on thisand please tell me what i should do. over the past few weeks we’ve been out a couple of times which has been nothing short of fantastic! its a similar situation to the above scenarios – he really has his act together and has made it very clear that he is sure that he wants me in his life (so he doesn’t say anything like “i’m not sure” or “i can’t commit”). we went on a road trip together, he paid for everything, went to the beach got a really nice room.) – i’m glad my thoughts were helpful but at the same time i don’t want to come off as if i was saying you were “wrong” in your approach. the more awareness and visibility about bisexuality out there, the better., i met a guy on match we were emailing back and forth for a week and then we exchanged numbers. he has not only changed his profile picture, he has added a picture from our trip, a picture that i took of him. his last message though was that he was going to message me the next day. in some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly. ive taken family vacations with him and his father so im thinking things are just fine. six months later and we now live together, he was new to the city i live in and hes been having trouble finding a job. on the other hand, if he’s simply trying to arrange a date without really wanting to know anything about you, he’s only in it for one thing. my biggest worry is my daughter, she is very attached to him and tells him that he is her best friend and she loves him, and he tells her the same. have been dating a guy for 5 weeks, been out 12 times w/a couple of overnights. i have only been dating him 3 weeks, but i don’t want to be with a guy who just wants to string me along so i will wait maximum 6 weeks for him to mention something. they like to look and the crave for attention from the opposite sex. its called self control or let her go find someone who will value himself and her enough to not open those tempting emails and winks. its been a month since we spoke/saw each other. had trouble getting her on the phone as thats something shes uncomfortable with and shes unsure about being able to visit cause of money going towards a course. we have yet to have a real exclusivity talk and have not talked about our dating profiles. am surprised to hear so many experiences similar to mine. Blogs and Daisy Buchanan explore the different factors concerned when a guy just isn't that into you. once that talk is done, i think it’s much easier to get a real feel for how much respect (or lack thereof) a man is showing. he told me he’s ready to settle down but just got out of a near eengagement so needs time to process the break up. thing is in the begining he was referring to our future hopefully it would lead toi marriage and refferred me as his wife, love etc. there are going to be ups and down, good and bad – you just have to be willing to put forth the work. again, i calmly asked him about this, and he seemed genuinely confused. said, i’d be careful to really be sure that he owns that profile. giving awesome vintage haircuts will inspire you to follow your dreams. he told me “let’s go inside and delete it right now, together” we tried but the site was having an error. he was dating and sleeping w/ tons of women – that doesn’t really concern me too much, as i can’t say i wasn’t doing a little of the same, and we had not declared exclusivity at that point. he starting to show signs that he is interested in me and i am meeting his friends already and its been 2 weeks of dating. i was told once, when a dude knows he’s got you, you are screwed cause he will not invest then. we just did our first vacation together, and he brought up that how can i not trust him after we just did all that, and we’re so close bla bla bla, we’ve come so far…. if i couldn’t get that, i would move on (easy for me to say, i know). lindsay just spilled all the tea on her feud with fellow 'bachelor' contestant vanessa grimaldi. so my question is should i be concern about his profile is still up and he’s still checking it, since i never mention or ask him to take it down.
Is He Interested In Me? Not If He Does These 4 Little Things
.what am i going to be with you, sleep with you, & be wondering whats going on; on the side with the dating site…., if you sent him a short email saying you were going to be in his area soon and you’d love to grab a coffee with him, i think that could work. do think that approaching this with caution is a good idea…you don’t want to come off as if you’re obsessing. about a week ago, i noticed that he had the pof app installed on his phone, and he just got a new phone a few days before that – so i calmly asked him about it. but he said we were going to hang out all day but now we cant. he was like im sorry, i should of told u that i changed it as he was getting lots of messages and girls asking him out, so he decided to change it! at the end of the day, i think everyone needs to make decisions that they feel are best for their own situation., why not hide your profiles so other people won’t contact either of you? but if he realises he’s not in for an easy ride and disappears shortly afterwards, then unfortunately you’ll have your answer. we are 4 months into the relationship and he still says he’s scared of commitment. opened a convo, i spoke to him like i normally do and we got on so well but he did notttttt kno it was me! a person likes you, you'll know, and you shouldn't settle for anything less. westbrook, a junior at the university of south carolina, says that interesting conversation is how she knows it’s more than a placation. took 6 months to tell me he loved me, but still has his profile up even tho its hidden…and i just grew on him like a comfortable old shoe…lol. i mentioned before, i assumed we were exclusive when we had that talk and worked things out (in late nov 2013). i would also like to include in here that she has sent him text messages from her phone, and is talking about setting up a date with him. however, it sounds like you’re going to want to move the relationship to a bit more commitment sooner rather than later. he said he wasn’t seeing anyone but me at present, but he wanted that option open. is a huge telltale sign, because it’s a way of telling you how he feels without actually saying anything. i am not asking for a commitment or exclusivity but when he knows how much it’s hurting me why is he not turning it off?’s a situation i’d appreciate your perspective:Have been doing the match thing for a few months. it’s difficult because i have a daughter from a previous relationship and he wasn’t too sure about that, but was attracted to me.”the singer continued: “when it comes down to it, really, i had an experience when i was 17 with a guy, but now as an almost 30-year-old man, i’m going to be pursuing relationships with women. he said that he doesn’t use it and doesn’t care about it and was planning on taking it down. then this past month the texting died down a lot. i am a little upset so a few days i set up a fake profile with photos of another friend he has never met and messaged him. he acts very much like a boyfriend but wait a minute he refuses to acknowledge the gf/ bf thing. no wonder so many lose faith in the online dating venue. if he sent it that would be more concerning to me. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. do you think that would be the wrong way to go about things? if he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off. have to admit, it’s been a bit tumultuous for me emotionally sometimes. we met on a dating site and i knew when we started dating his profile was hidden ( i wanted to show my friends who he was but couldnt find it! if hes searching for something better which i feel is the case as much as it hurts me im not afraid to be alone. he then said, “maybe i am looking for a committed relationship and i just haven’t found the person to have that with yet. ive been with my boyfriend 3 months, we spend every weekend togther and plan to do things. – it sounds like the confusing areas in your relationship might go beyond just the dating profile. his excuse was he did not have a computer, only his phone to access, and there is no way to deactivate from a mobile device. deciding on how long to reply, what to say and “to emoji or not to emoji” are very real issues. are you ok with easier opportunities via online dating while shagging her? first and foremost though, you need to decipher his texts and understand what he’s trying to get out of this modern day form of communication. i wouldn’t want to be with someone who treated me the way he’s treated you and because of that, i do think you should start looking to date someone else. i know you can hide your profile when you have an active subscription because i’ve done it so don’t let him try to convince you he can’t do that either. believe filtering their motives from what they do and say is easier than you would imagine. i believed him, and told him not to test me like that again – be honest with me and talk to me about what he wants to know. heard from him twice while away – one sentence texts, with no greeting or emoticon – i answered and then he never responded – both times were like this. you can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here. i was kind of shocked – as i was never part of this ‘game plan’ discussion, in fact he had not discussed anything further with me about living together!.he wasn’t being extra sweet to me in his texts…one night from my hidden account i looked on match and noticed he had his profile up, he even uploaded a picture i took of him. 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time. he may have secretly been hoping for a commitment from you after having this conversation and when that didn’t happen he’s now not sure the relationship is going where he had hoped it would. he said that i have trust issues and that he is not doing anything or talking to anyone else. but what if he doesn’t… i cannot go on for years knowing the profile is there. i started by telling him i wasn’t ready to move in together and needed more time. till that time though we had exchanged numbers but he had not texted me. the time august 2014 (now one year of dating), he was spending every night at my house, we practically lived together, even though he still had his own home.‘k’ stands for keep, as in, does he or she keep you in mind in both the present and for the future? it’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case. on one hand i am his emotional outlet person but he won’t commit. the 2nd time i had a little too many and it got a little too late and we ended up going back to his place and well you can guess what happened. the earlier you can see that it’s not meant to be, the sooner you’ll be back on the path to finding the perfect person. situation is very similar to what had been described in a few of the comments earlier. past 3 days have been really wierd, we were suposed to go see a movie together after i was off work and i hadnt heard from him since noon, had texted him quite a few times with no response. then again, that might be a little extreme, but still, in most situations it seems like you either wait forever to make a move or it just fizzles out. we are both very well established and pleasing to the eye. he also said he has friends he talks to but no one that he is seeing or dating. seemed we were perfect together with him professing his love and talking of marriage. i have read what you have written on this subject and i know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it? i got another funny feeling one day, agian while waiting for his text. i’d say that long of “exclusive” dating should be long enough for someone to know if they’re ready for that step. he has been a total gentleman and he even went into a “domestic partnership” with me on facebook (haha). i’ll replay some of the ugly stuff i learned about him like a broken record in my head and it gets me all tied up in knots again. there are some great guys using dating services but sometimes it takes having a good deal of patience to find them. plenty of guys will lie and lie and lie when caught.! he then texted me & lashed out saying he had had a bad day & that he felt he was being ‘witch-hunted’ & that he had spent money contacting my ‘friend’ & felt he’d been sucked in. told me he isnt keen on that idea but at the saem time how he doesnt want to make them unhappy. i asked if there was anything missing from our relationship as that would be the only reason why i would go on a site. he said that he had taken his match account down, and i believed him. i don’t want to be walked over, and i don’t want to turn into one of those girls who checks up on him…. i understand not wanting to fight and dropping it but his excuse for being on the site was pretty weak…. just looking for a suggestion on how to handle this is all. us popularmeet 12 of the uk’s most promising new drag queenswhat the f*ck is killing our gay bars, and is it our own fault? thoughts are that yes a girl makes this decision more quickly – instinctively not wishing to harm the budding relationship. he told me had a b’day but could manage to meet me for a bit and a drink at 12pm. he really loves you and agrees you are exclusive, the profile needs to come down. whether his behavior was “just” ego-stroking or serious looking doesn’t matter–i found it repulsive and a waste of a mature person’s time., often online dating doesn’t match the real world and i think that in some cases waiting for the commitment/respect to happen naturally is going to be a frustrating experience. ren – at this point i’d suggest giving him a bit more time. so, again, not defending him but i prefer his response over a lot of other responses i’ve seen.”, he says he was already feeling that way for me, but this whole incident deepened it for him. i know he got my messages yesterday i messaged him on facebook and it tells you exactly when he read it which was this morning around 8. even if a woman had been cheated on, the message would still be “i’d like to commit to dating you”. he has continually helped me out, he surprises me with gifts along the way. i check his page (because it’s viewable to the public) and he’s made several modifications today. they also indicated that to open an email or wink from the service from the associated account would show them as online. he kissed me and looked at me for a second and said, “hell no! he says he loves me, yet aout three weeks ago i asked him where he thought our relationship was headed. i’d hope that if there was real chemistry, things could work out (cars or not). – that he could go back online without telling me – this feels like he is going behind my back in some way – though the forum is public so of course i then think the act of going back online means he is making a massive statement that he is no longer interested instead of having the respect and courage to say so to my face… if you know what i mean. i now realise that i never actually asked outright for any of them to take down their profile to be with me exclusively. he said he was extremely hurt as well and he still cares for me a lot, but wants to take it slow. he said he was checking for my profile and was curious. is one of the most important social signs to pay attention to because it can determine how serious someone is about you. i asked him if dating or seeing somebody and he replied he is dating here and there and kinda seeing someone but nothing serious. i talked to him about it that night, asked him if he wanted to date other people, etc… all the questions other women on here have said. once you start getting attention from a cute guy, you immediately start wondering if he’s into you or just being sweet.”surprisingly, though, if someone likes you, you will know it. though he already told me he wasn’t interested in dating other people, and we had both disabled our profiles a week or two before. have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. i asked him if things were still good because i really wanted things to work out between us. person who likes you will give you real compliments — ones that don't make you feel bad about yourself or rile you up in order to get a response. in the browser history i was looking to see if he had been viewing porn websites when i noticed a dating website there. i just asked if i had anything to be worried about and he said no. then he gets an email from an interested woman and he says, “oh wow, i need to update my profile”. a married man let me tell you even after years and years with a woman i love, i still rarely know what’s going on in her head. the only interaction i have had with match is when i open to delete the wink/emails sent to my personal yahoo account. i’m sorry, but it does sound like it’s time to move on. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days.é proves she's a great friend by lifting lady gaga's spirits during her chronic pain struggle.” today, i emailed him and asked him if he is dating people from the site and that we should both take our sites down and focus on each other. cause unfortunately in my world if you like me, well that makes one of us. i told him ill give him space but at the same time i wont wait for him.” it's when someone gives you a backhanded compliment in the hopes of getting your attention, invoking a response, and sucking you in by making you want their approval. many times she ‘broke up’ with him via text, and then would come over later that day and have sex with him., if he’s going to say things like “you are not bound to him”, that makes me a bit nervous for you. so he can see if he knows someone…and then what? this infuriated me, and to my utter shame i called him out immediately. horrifying ‘dragula’ season 2 cast is here, and we’re both terrified and excitedthat trans trump supporter just dumped her hot husband, so let’s all lust after himsofia vergara’s son is looking mighty fine in these 20 sexy shotsfollow these 10 sexy gay yoga masters on instagram to find your inner chiadd jane fonda to the list of people who regret going on megyn kelly’s new showwith her ‘will & grace’ comment, megyn kelly proves she’s still annoying afrecentthis gay porn star graphically details his violent experiences with chemsexperez hilton tells kylie jenner she should’ve gotten an abortiontransgender teen viciously beaten at high school in new jersey (video)horror and more: what’s coming to netflix, hulu and amazon in october 2017video games helped carlos maza become an online video starthis week’s must-haves: mdna skin by madonna, taco bell apparel and a rocketshipstarting this weekend, same-sex couples can legally wed in germany (video)here’s the real reason why ‘sex and the city 3’ won’t be happeningfacebooktwittertweets by hornet. i do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy:My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, i check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.. major also reminds that conversations shouldn’t be too superficial “the more he gets to know you the harder it’ll be to drop you so if he’s planning on doing that soon he won’t want to know much about the real you,” he tells us. feel like many women want the commitment/respect to happen naturally and i understand that desire. while he’s not being asked to marry or make babies, he is being asked to stop looking to date other women. i did that, but no response…he claims he fell asleep. i don’t like to come across as the vulnerable one & dating commitment phobes in the past has made me tougher so i don’t want to bring up a conversation of where are things going or mention his profile still being up. my feelings for him were getting so deep and i wanted to be his gf. if they never message more than two sentences, or get in touch just to say they’re thinking of you, it’s time to stop thinking about them. i have met his family, he has met mine and i have come to love his 2 children ages 6 & 9. i told him i like the idea of living together, but seriously needed to talk about things before it could actually happen. when they don't text or call, make plans, pay attention to you when you're out in public, or engage in conversation, then most likely, you aren't a very high priority for them. i think you getting your profile down and then asking him where he sees things going is the best thing to do. he actually emailed my fake profile on friday & then on sunday. while it does look like he may be being a bit dishonest with you, there is a chance that he may, for some reason, think you’re not interested in a serious relationship.)anyway,i said, so i am just going to enjoy this while we’re here. my sustainable and substantial sexual attractions, passion and desires are with men. during that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. part of me thinks it just his response to getting caught but i’m really in no place to judge him. all that doesn’t work, i’d say at some point you should just say: “so-and-so, i really enjoy spending my time with you but i worry we might be looking at our relationship differently. i confronted him about and he said he was deleting it and,and i better start acting right. if you can’t get a guy to commit to date you exclusively (and especially if he then lies about it), he may be a giant waste of time., it is possible that he just likes getting emails to stroke his ego and isn’t looking for a relationship. his last message was that he was going to send me a message the next day…but he didn’t. – i’m guessing here but if i were going to tell a woman i was dating that i had taken down my profile, it would normally be because i would be hinting to her that i want to date each other exclusively.
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i confronted him with it, he did not just blow me off…. either way, you can tell when he cannot be bothered. i am protecting myself from a man who had to answer an email to some woman on a dating site to be respectful. we were very intense the first month seeing each other all the time and every weekend. almost everyone who has success with online dating will have some time where they have a subscription but aren’t using it…assuming they meet someone. needless to say, he has trust & commitment issues and i am understanding and patient…. if he can’t answer where you stand after your first conversation don’t go and demand to know by such-and-such a date. and a few times i saw that he had cancelled plans with me, in order to be with her – of course he had lied about why he canceled with me. texted me when he was out with friends, letting me know where he was and that he would call me once he got home etc. in my mind the matter is so simply about respect and i find it difficult to understand how to tolerate the ‘continues to actively online date’ thing…. he had a couple of messages received – one of which was from my fake profile. recently, another woman is doing the same thing on his facebook and it makes me wonder if he’s doing the same thing to me yet again. have read your story and the fact that he is a picses has nothing to do with it. live in hope that not everyone is the same and that there are genuine men out there. we played around in the snow like little kids, cuddled, watched a movie at the theater, and got shakes. maree – i think from a guy’s point of view it can be, at least in some small part, a commitment issue. will try to keep this to the point and as brief as possible which may prove to be difficult since i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. i know you may not want to for fear of what the answer will be but in the long run it’s better to know sooner rather than later in my mind. you care for him and while some of his actions declare he feels the same way, other actions make things less clear. i didn’t ask him if he was going to delete his, i assumed that of course he would. i confronted him about it and told him how much it confused me and hurt me, since i thought we were still good, and that he wanted things to work out. i’m headed to a wedding across country and he’s not happy with the fact that i have a date. i am such a great catch then why lose me? or just let it go and don’t make a big deal of it and just focused on our relationship? he claimed a guy he worked with asked him to check out and see if his wife was messing around. so anyway, i message him and he message me back. just finished it on the assumption that he had had plenty long enough to decide if he liked me a little bit or not. he was very interested in asking me about my life, my opinions, my family, my experiences and he genuinely seemed to care and to want to listen. i ended communication with all other guys, hid my profile and gave this guy my full attention because that’s the kind of woman i am. he just got out of a marriage filled with anger. the funniest thing’s that i asked him directly if he was seeing anyone or sleeping with anyone & he denied both. if a woman continued intereacting with men she was meeting online, the man she’d been planning a future with wouldn’t dismiss it as innocent. before i proceed let me give you a bit of a background i had broken up with my ex 2 days before xmas since he had been mia for 2 months which drove me insane. except the fact that my bf wanted to date me and see me, but still thought there was someone else out there “better” for him, so he kept the site up. half of the time i am the one to initiate the conversations even though he responds and we talk but he doesn’t really ask my a lot and also he doesn’t write much. someone likes you, they'll want to talk to you and spend time with you, and they'll make an effort to do so – without question. he texted me as soon as he got home and i thought things will progress. he wanted something casual at the moment’ but wasn’t sure if he wanted to see others. as i’ve recommended to others, it may be best to talk with him about where he sees things going. i was heart broken when i saw it, and i text him right away confronting him about it…. i guess my question is, if it’s almost been a year and his feelings haven’t changed since we first started seeing each other and he’s still going on dating websites, should i even try to thinkta he would someday want a relationship? the next morning i asked why he always tried to meet me during weekdays and he said it was just a coincidence cos his weekends would get so busy. he had not dated anyone else, and i believe him. he’s told me his biggest fear is missing the boat’ as in not getting married and having kids at a decent age. is a writer with bylines at vice, refinery 29, xo jane, hello giggles, and fashion canada. i think that might be a next step: to let him know that you’re very unhappy that he keeps his profile up. no one wants to feel like they are being bullied into a relationship. i can be rather forthright in these matters – the usual sympton of having been hurt terribly in the past and made a fool of etc.’m definitely not defending what he did (i disagree with it and think it was wrong of him to do so) but you did get a much better response than many women: he removed the profile quickly and i think he was a lot more honest than most guys in admitting that creating it made him feel better. he lied when he told me he hadn’t been with anyone else in a while, which turned out to be about 7 days… and he told his fwb girl that he hadn’t been with me in a really long time – which actually was like 3 days..I add him on a new account and he gave me an email address i didnt even kno about. are you ok with having sexual relations with one another while your profiles are active? i have been told by a close friend (who is male) that i need to be chased and show him that i am not at his beck and call. – would you feel comfortable telling him you want to take your profile down and ask him if he would do the same? things were going great and he asked me to meet him on thursday. all that being said, i do have some family issues in my life, i have a brother who has a drug/alcohol problem who is always getting in trouble that i have to look out for, my mother passed away 5 years ago but it still feels like yesterday. perhaps a taste of his own medicine will wake him up to what he’s doing…but honestly that’s not the point or the goal. they’d rather go out with no jacket and get hypothermia than leave something in your house and have to retrieve it. who’s to say there aren’t other profiles out there that i am not even aware of? i don’t get why he texts me those things saying what he says and then not give me the time of day. he says he is, yet i’m not so sure at this point. i think it’s reasonable for you to be concerned based on what you’ve found and i think it’s reasonable for you to let him know that.. they flirt with your friendsi used to think that if my crush was flirting with my friends, it was only as a way to make me jealous because they actually liked me. ok he says, let’s talk about it, then we get interrupted by one of the kids and never come back to the topic. these actions tel me that he likes me and is trying to have a serious relationship with me. are some things you may think indicate your crush likes you, but actually show they're not interested. and no a guy views dating so differently to us that it can only be expected that removing his profile is repeatedly a delayed occurrence. How do you tell if he is interested in dating you exclusively? he is in the army and when we first met he only had a couple days before he went to do a month worth of training. but i never made it past 2 months with anyone because each and every time the guy would continue with an active profile i would feel disrespected, lose trust and belief in the guy’s intentions and force a swift ending one way or another. i’ve don’t a ton of research on this and cannot find any explanation of how a dating profile can show recent activity if the user has not been on for supposedly over a year. i’ve met his parents and extended family and he has met my parents.‘c’ stands for cares, as in, does he or she care to know your thoughts, opinions and feelings? but revenge wasn’t sweet as he then sent me an email about his lack of self confidence and his poor self image and how it gave him such an ego boost as his mother never loved him blah, blah, blah, blah. feel like there’s a lot i left out, yet it’s hard typing on my tablet… and trying to sum up feelings and experiences to a stranger. i just want to share another way of looking at it…so maybe you need to change but maybe not. so if your crush is trying to set you up with someone else, then i'm sorry, but they don't envision you as their soulmate. i guess my thought is that some more time together could help convince you both that it’s a good match (or not) and then all the wondering wouldn’t be required. i said, “dare i ask if we can see other people? you can continue to hang out with him but start looking to date other guys as well? when we were a month into our relationship i told her i was not going to renew my match subscription because i only want her. i have told my parents and he has claimed that he’s told his as well. i don’t wanna pressure him, as i want him to make the choice on his own, but it’s still so annoying that he lied, twice actually. the daily matches argument/excuse is about as weak as they come. have had a 5-6 really great dates, chemistry off the charts, met his daughter, spent a weekend with him. met a coupld more times and then slept together, its not something i do easily at alllllllllll, it just felt right at the time. if we are “exclusive” (without titles that express commitment), than why the need to continue prospecting? and then he said “i’m not sure i see it going anywhere. we met on a chat room site back in june. i get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people i could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not remove the profile so all those women don’t have to “work hard” in the first place? (although i think aaron was bragging about getting head from his date not from men). drop dark hints about their unreliability, commitment issues and hereditary tendency to get rashes. defines it like this:‘p’ stands for prioritize, as in, does he or she prioritize you? we were casually talking about something and he slipped something about the site and i asked him: “wait, are u still on the site” he answered that yes he’s still on it but it’s “just there”. i get that i hurt him, and we obviously had some sort of miscommunication about what i ment by needing some time to think. it’s the garden of eden and you’re adam and eve, or steve. he had asked me to meet his mom a few months ago, but we had to cancel and it has yet to happen. the thing is he goes on his match account every day. a few weeks later we broke up for 5 days i activated my profile and gave a guy my number. don’t over react but do not ignore the nagging inconsistencies.! week four, another i love you, and a few more fun filled evenings. he said he is so excited to date and see me, and already planned where our date would be. i think if you start to have those conversations it might lead more naturally into an “exclusive” conversation. btw, he told me today that he would need my parents’ consent and then we both just changed the subject. i reminded him how his friend spied on me – he now says it wasn’t his friend but he himself. are just guesses but the fact that he took it down in the first place is the most interesting part to me. a few days after i posted, he and i went to lunch and had a serious talk about it. it wasn’t just becuase of him but out of 8 guys i met everyone lied aobut martial status & job among having 10 year old pictures up. i let it slide since it hadn’t been in use since 8 jan which was before we had met. he is gone the third day only, and when he arrived there he texted me that getting a wifi hotspot is problematic, but that he would figure it out. might not be helpful but at the end of the day you can only control your choice. "no guy likes being the guy who treated a nice girl poorly. on monday he asked if he could see me on tuesday and i told him i wouldn’t mind but i wasn’t getting intimate since i didn’t like the idea of him flirting and dating other women. i confronted him about it, we broke up, and then he came crawling back to me 2 weeks later and deleted his okcupid profile. are tricky conversations and can be difficult to work your way into.? anyway we end the goodbye on some jokes and pull funny faces at each other as i drive off. ish major, psychiatrist, author and host of wetv's marriage boot camp reality stars, jasbina ahluwalia, relationship expert, matchmaker/dating coach, radio show host and founder of intersections match, a matchmaking firm, and dr. free dating website is going to attract a significantly different clientele than a subscription site. tell me, am i just being used until something better comes along? we had a look and he has changed his profile to looking for women for friends. he seems to be just perfect, everything i was ever looking for. so when he walks by you and brushes your arm, you immediately think he was sending you a sign, when in reality he might literally just be walking by. i wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). good thing is, it doesn’t sound like you’re approaching this situation in a demanding sort of way. also that he got to go and wished me a great day and that we would talk soon. but i hate it that he responded to her like that. he said that he wants to continue dating me and that he wants to work on things. i i mean gee, is it really necessary to say that after you just told me you loved me? he even offered to show me the “fake” account he was using to help his friend. – it sounds to me like you were exclusive at some point (at least in his mind) and then later, without you knowing exactly why, you stopped being exclusive (again, at least in his mind). i told him i didn’t understand this plan since we had not talked yet. maybe i just answered my own question and it’s just hard to let go of something that seems to great. i told him i was hesitant to live together as that felt very committed and serious, and i didn’t actually know for sure what his intentions were with me. i suppose if she’s just dating you casually, it may be less stressful to think that you might be cheating on her. i took mine down right away and i just figured he always had his up. i have also noticed that on his computer he is getting on another site and looking at personals, mostly from other states. is now day 3 i havent heard from him at all today. you say to find someone who makes things easy for me — but relationships are not easy, and if they are, they aren’t real. he is the younger brother of backstreet boys alum nick carter and has previously dated two famous actresses and singers: hillary duff and lindsay lohan. the next morning he begged to meet me and we agreed to brunch on sunday (9 jan). i never saw another email, there were no text from random girls, or phone calls that seemed weird. he even had me add a tracking device on my phone so i can see exactly where he is at all times. yes first time i get an invitation to his place. they keep going on about a grown up gap year, and that they’re saving up for six months in thailand “in a year or so” move on, before you get hurt. actually i have some of my toiletries in his bathroom and he’s fine with that.. i brought up the subject and he insisted it was nothing that he had an app on his phone and would click on it when bored but that he would remove the app. when we were saying goodbye i told him i would miss him and he said i am already missing you’. after work he did call me and told me that they are being deployed to turkey for about 50-90 days. i was hurt but more disappointed because he told me that he would never hurt me like my ex s did or any man before him. we agreed that we’d tell each other as soon as we slept with anyone else for health reasons. we have fun when we’re together but i just don’t know if i should trust him. if you’re two months in and his profile is still up, it’s time to get your profile back up as well. we have a great time laughing, joking, talking and we both have told each how much fun we are having and how excited we are to see each ofher again. which privately causes me to panic…but i told him i was open to the idea and to talking about it further.
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that aside we normally go out at least once a month or every other month. he was very attentive towards me & was making plans to go to football games with me. another problem is that a few times he had informed me that he is confused and do not know what he wants in life or keeps on changing his problem which makes me feel so confused and disappointed. you actually like someone, don’t be a pushover in the hope that he’ll like you more for it. so looks like he pulled one over on me and is still online. i agree men need women to tell them how and what they feel since men aren’t mind readers but then, neither are women.’s tricky to suggest an amount of time set in stone for when you should expect things to move forward as every relationship is different. i am not checking up on him anymore cos that upsets me. but he still checks it daily so im kinda confused. time i finally felt angry that he couldn’t say to me ‘i am not sure about us’ – respect! stop fooling one another with the notion that we should not have expectations. try to pick what feels like the best opportunity to talk about it, not the first opportunity. as i discussed above, i would recommend against being aggressive or angry. i took some time to reflect and by the end of the week i realized how much i missed him. i assumed he got cold feet and freaked out about the ‘exclusivity’ talk we had. a few days afterwards i got a text telling me that he got crazy news and that he couldn’t tell me now but would call me after work. that text he sent to me by mistake screams that messing up with me bothers him. from thoroughly bloody nice chaps, to suave gentlemen with varying motives, to lotharios with questionable morals, to downright cheating rats, and their motivations for dating vary as well. brad, do you think what we have now can get more serious – become exclusive and enter into a relationship? when he says he’ll take it down when the time is “right”…well, if you’re dating someone and you keep telling her you’re not going to date anyone else then the right time is now! i stupidly rang him and asked if he wanted to be with me. i checked the messages tonight and it said he was online now so i messaged him with hi how are you, he didn’t respond. of the most difficult parts of dating in 2016 is that sometimes, it can feel a little bit too casual. the next day he says he went online and couldn’t find me. he says that if “he [doesn't] talk about himself much. the same story on above, i had the same story. jackie – as with the other situations, i can’t say exactly why he would keep his profile up. me, this guy is saying he loves you but he is not showing it. there is no shame in publicly searching as a guest when he has or she has already lied or had been interested in emails and winks from people on there once exclusive.. i put his hand on my chest and said ‘omg! well, he apparently took me requesting time to think as pretty much a break up. admit the date was perfect but i had bit of committment issue to because i got hurt in the past and due to this i dumped him on the third date but we quickly patched things up. however, if we use your examples of the real world versus online dating (and really a case that you appear to make that they should operate more similarly): if it were the real world instead of online dating wouldn’t you have been more firm that he shouldn’t be talking to another woman/making himself available to other women? still, these are areas you will need him to define. was pretty angry at my outburst……that friday i wrote him, apologizing for acting instantly rather than sitting with my feelings and just blowing up on him. in fact, he has since told me that he is actually glad i went through his phone and handled it the way i did with him (holding him accountable to it, ready to dump his butt, but didn’t attack him like the tasmanian devil). a couple of weeks went by and he still hadn’t taken it down. i am a relationship girl – cannot do this casual/fwb stuff! slept together after about 5 dates and it just felt right but neither of us mentioned about being exclusive, i think we both took it we were only seeing and sleeping with each other, at this point he was still active on site but my time on there was becoming less. erica – i’m honestly not sure how you could get him off the sites barring getting more aggressive with him about it. he always will have one job and continue to look for a bigger and better job even if he has no intention of leaving the one that he has. then i saw just two months ago he was texting w/ his buddies about have spring time itch again. during those 6+ years, i focused on raising my two sons, building my career, healing and finding myself and my own happiness. the keep saying they will hav a good future together and will make them proud if they get married one day. so read on to find out if he’s feelin’ it or just not that into you. i understand we never comitted ourselves to each other, sohe has every rigt to. and i hope it goes without saying that when you enter a relationship where you both are only interested in each other, at that point the multiple dating would stop! guys can be just as insecure as women can, and knowing there’s a woman interested in you, let alone a number of them, is a great ego boost. i texted and welcomed him back and told him to enjoy. do you think he will change, or should i just move on and find someone else? it proved to me this is someone i really want to be exclusive with. to know if sexyhotforyou has something alluring to say in an email to you that might up the ante of the lady you supposedly are crazy about? recently, we met up for the first time and we hit it off pretty well. he asked me if he should take his profile down? at this point in time it is not wise to promise exclusivity to any man without a proposal. so someone else will get to reap the benefits of my work 🙁. i said i just needed some reassurance and he told me to be reassured. he suprised me first thing in the morning with an execpected visit, we went to a braves game that we had scheduled a week before and then he invited me to spend the night at his place.’m curious though, maree: when you forced a “swift ending one way or another” with these guys (prior to the last) did you ever first force the “let’s be exclusive” talk or did you just end things? didn’t see an email from you yet, but i know i’m being anxious and impatient 🙂 thanks again for your great blog. if a woman had emailed me after i met my wife, i probably would have looked at the profile even though i knew i’d met “the one”…i think sometimes it’s more about wanting to know who was interested in you as opposed to pursuing them. i told him again that it makes me feel as though i can’t trust him if his profile is still visible because that means he is still single. on sunday (and i knew he was going to do this) he cancelled saying he had to go to meet his folks for lunch he didn’t even reschedule. saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, i went to visit him this time. i can’t say which one it is but i do think if he’s keeping his options open you’ll really want to do the same thing (and not just saying you are to convince him to stop). contrast, if your potential suitor makes an extra effort – perhaps remembering some small detail you mentioned in conversation, or tailoring a date to your tastes or personality – it is these things which guys don’t usually do that make it obvious he’s really into you. he seemed to show a lot of remorse, and made the comment that ‘he was a dirt bag’. he, not me, started talking of baby names with me. i never had the impression that he just wanted sex, since he didn’t exactly initiate it, it just happened while cuddling on the sofa, watching a movie together. the fact that you had to fight about it for weeks is a really bad sign too. or what should i say to him to make him answer me and we become like we were used to. mean we are just getting to know each other, and it’s still very new, but since i had asked him if he is still on dating sites or talking to other women, i feel like he wasn’t sincere by telling me he wasn’t. how can a man give me a stupid meaningless ring and tell me he can’t to get married to me etc and then do something wreckless? that being said, i believe a month of spending time together is a good general time frame to expect some concrete definition to your relationship, especially when you’re going out of your way to interact with each other every day. he’ll be open to you, facing you directly or naturally in close proximity. he even introduced me as his fiancee once, and all his friends know about me. he was suddenly not wanting me to meet his friends. – let’s imagine you met my wife and i for dinner. they don't ask you if you like their college roommate just to test you or because they love you so much — they feel they just have to pawn you off to someone else. i removed my profile at the end of the first week or so explaining to him that it was my personal preference/instinct and that it placed no pressure or expectation on him. if we are “monogamous” should we even have these sites up? we act like a couple when we are in public and he loves pda. he’s never given me a reason to not trust him, when we aren’t physically together he calls and tells me where he’s going and what he’s doing, we talk and text daily, and he’s told me that i make him happy. before all this i knew we have a whole lot in common and there was a lot of chemistry and sexual tension plus i really like him. to make a long story short, he and i are perfect together in every way but, there won’t be a fairy tale ending where we live happily ever after, not after tonight. i could honestly envision us together for a long long time, and it just came as a blow. but, last weekend over in the same friends house she told me that his profile is still there. to repeat the same thing, just wanted to see if you could help me a little. if it’s not, you might want to have a more direct conversation regarding it…. i knew it was going to be tough but hey, it was only for a few weeks, and we promised each other that everything would be fine, that he would be fine. doesn’t sound like a great catch to me to be honest and i imagine there’s more going on than he wants you to know. i would be as kind as possible if you decide to have this talk with her: you’re not trying to punish/reprimand her, just letting her know where you stand. he told me he would try to meet me somewhere if he could get some stuff done for work and some family things, he told me to txt him in an hour or so and see where he was at with being finished. anyways, we still met up and spoke very very regularly over the next 6 months. i said it was up to him (i want him to take it down because he wants to not because i want him to…) i did say that him keeping his profile active made me feel that he wished to keep his options open and that if he wanted me to feel that way then to carry on. she said all the right things and we spoke of only being interested in each other. and does one sexual encounter at the age of 17 make anyone gay, straight or bi? i then said: ” i am the other girl” the look on his face was priceless especially when he realised that all of the stuff he had written (and there was pages and pages of very intimate stuff) was all sent to me. you been dating exclusively for 3 months or have you not had a talk on being exclusive? if he’s not talking himself up in your presence, straight up boasting or even bashfully so, he’s not trying very hard to win you over. basically i met this guy on a marriage website and we got to know each other of the basic stuff. when i quizzed him, he said casual meant no rules & includes going on dates. he goes out of his way to text me just to say hi, good morning, or see how my day is going. so it concerns me when i found out that his profile is still up and he goes online like pretty much everyday. though Aaron Carter recently came out as bisexual, he revealed he's not interested in dating men and will be pursuing relationships only with women. i feel like i’m just there and he is still looking for something better and it makes me feel bad. i was shocked and sad about it, of course, especially since we just had spent a great weekend together but only met twice so far. i keep chat with him, he just read it until i block him. six weeks ago i met a guy from an online dating site. your situation is a little different because it sounds as if he didn’t have a dating profile when you started dating but now he has one (? may (2014) he got an out of the blue text from his ex (fwb girl), saying he should come to a party she is having in june. he will however be stood up by the imaginary women, then the following day, i will tell him that i am no longer interested in seeing him. have been dating this guy i met from online for about 3 months now, everything was amazing in the beginning. i think you should let him know that in the next few months you need the relationship to change: either he needs to fully commit or the two of you need to go your separate ways. relationships are unique things and you’ll need to decide when it is best in yours to start demanding more…but at some point he will need to commit or you will need to move on. of course, you should only do this if you could be comfortable with it. i just don’t want to him to like someone more than me. on the other hand i don’t want to continue to put a lot of time and effort into this relationship if she’s looking for something else as i don’t want to be the fallback guy either….’m concerned telling her this may rattle her a bit givien her prior experience and scare her off. we had the exclusive talk, and we both agreed to not see anyone else – but we aren’t exactly “official” yet because of the uncertainty of his job (he’s at risk of being sent overseas for a minimum of 2 years). and i don’t feel like i wanna see others either. and if the car situation didn’t exist, is it likely you’d find another reason to worry? i was thinking of sealing the deal the second time we see each other. any effort less than that is just that, less than, and not what you want. i began dating, i realized what fun i was having with it, even if a date wasn’t great, i just loved getting out there and meeting new people and discovering things about myself and relationships that i hadn’t before. i know he was clearly a player – is it possible he is a reformed player? if anything, the attention and time he spends around you are key for determining his level of interest. even after three discussions and several screenshots as well as telling him how to delete his account and how to bury his cookie email tracks, he still could not resist. i don’t think you should feel stuck though – obviously this is a relationship you should work on getting away from (but i understand your concern given his response). he knows that i will soon live where he lives because that is my future plan (even before i met him) – which is four months from now. we met on a dating site and were surprised to find that even though we live in a small town we had never met. he also tells me that he hasn’t told any women that he loved them since his ex wife – and they have been divorced 11+ years at this point. sure, there is a degree of romance in having the guy take down the profile on his own. my landlord gave me (not kidding)a two week notice to move out. men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”. i struggled with myself whether to bring it up or not about what i had found out, but then i decided to confront him. i have not confronted my boyfriend about this online dating profile yet.’ve been dating the same guy for 4 months and today i asked him where i stand and he is not answering me back is he hiding something from me. i brought up the online thing & he said he was emailing 2 girls – ‘nothing interesting’. you see, i have been “that guy”, leading women along for whatever selfish reason or motive i had at that particular time. we were meant to get married next month and now it’s been pushed back to easter. he came all the way here (drove 40 minutes in practically a blizzard), and his birthday was three days ago so i made him a cute blanket.. they play too hard to getif they're playing really hard to get, then sorry, but your crush is just not that into you. i once again bring it up because i’m hurt and he proceeds to say he honestly thought it was nothing and had deleted the app and proceeded to even cancel his subscription in front of me. mild apathy is the order of the day, and we can waste months asking our friends about the hidden subtext of a message that just says “‘sup? maybe he’s that guy, but maybe he’s not.’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising. at least some of the guys will admit they’re keeping their profile online updated or keeping their options open. because we live on different hawaiian islands, we didn’t meet in person until about a month after emailing and talking. that h honestly doesn’t know if he can give, recieve or feel love again due to the divorce. i’d be careful: if he’s now dating another girl and things don’t work out with her, he’s likely to try and come back and make you feel like everything was fine and you were overreacting. so i never talked to him about the dating site but i found out that he isn’t using the site we met on anymore but that he has set up an account for a totally different site and tried to hide that it’s really him so that no one will know. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. this whole situation sounds to me like him trying to have his cake and eat it too.
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can be tricky to decipher because in social situations, the whole point is to be social. shares so much about himself with meso why is he pushing me away like this. you decided to meet and on your first date things go great. i found he was still on there, not just on there, but online now and he had added a new picture with a shirt that i got for him for christmas.’d suggest talking with him and encouraging him to let you know when he’s feeling down or tempted to create a profile…but you need to be open and understanding if he’s going to be that honest with you (so no attacking if he admits he’s feeling that way).” they are so worried that you’ll ask where things are going that they’d fake a power cut if they found you watching say yes to the dress on tv. if he still doesn’t make the right decision (taking his profile down), i think you may want to consider putting yours back up as well to see if you can find other people to date. i wish you the best of luck – whether he changes his mind or not! not ask it through time spent together or the hope that he’ll make the right choice or through milestones that make it obvious to you that the two of you are exclusive. retain some reality, because being online is so surreal and the rules of engagement so different to real life that some surely find it unbalancing. i realize every situation i’ve read is similar but i also know the answers will differ i appreciate any insight you can offer. anyway, last week his sister had been awful to me and i was home alone and upset. i gave him about a one-minute explanation over the phone, broke it off, and have not looked back. dave – you might try sending her here to see that others have dealt with the problem. he then said that he was going out at that time. to turn things around he tells me he likes me very much and misses me when he’s gone. ali – doesn’t sound like good news to me unfortunately. at the same time i don’t want to be a mug. about a month into dating, i knew i really liked him and wanted to see where it was going to go. i saw it two days ago i felt sick to my stomach but i decided to not bring it up until my emotions have cooled a bit and i can think rationally. he said he hates the fact i always have to leave and wishes i could stay at his place all the time.’m confused because things haven’t changed since we met. he still makes updates to his site and says he is single and “looking for long term and short term dating. i find it difficult – impossible – to continue with someone who isn’t sure about me. sent the email not as an ultimatum but just as an fyi… and i am sure he will stay on line until he decides what he is looking for and if in fact it is in me. i’m so confused, but over thisyear our conversations and time spent together hs allowed my heart to grow. is it too late to salvage anything…or was there anything to salvage?’m gonna see how it goes over the next month, if he’s still going on then he doesn’t care about my feelings and i’d prefer to be someone’s one and only, not their until something better comes along! in the first few weeks we were together i was worried about how my daughter would react to being around a new guy. again he didn’t pay for me he has never paid for me and i don’t run up big bills max but he won’t. started talking to a girl for around 2 weeks, we met on a dating website and have been talking daily. the reader above waited six weeks and i think that is very patient. figure with all the things he has done it sounds like he is interested in me. carole lieberman, beverly hills psychiatrist, you’ll be sure to find all the answers to this age-old question. overall, there should be some consistency, if he texts you once a month, that’s probably a red flag. sum it all up: i would expect that within the first month of actively dating each other that you should have an idea of where you stand and i would expect his profile to be down. 6 months into the relationship, i told him i needed a break – that seeing him searching for the next best thing (as i saw it) was hurting me. then necxt evening, when we arer leaving, we hav an odd goodbye, but then i guess we always do. – was he the one who sent the text or did he receive that text? he replies within a min and we text for hours until i get sleepy and tired. there were a lot of other things said, and over the course of numerous conversations. forward to today……the last month and a half, we have been spending a lot more time together…. he didn’t get mad at me all, even for snooping. start small and work your way up if you’re truly afraid you’ll come on too strong. when we are together his behavior to me in without fault and amazingly caring. he said his profile was up but that he hadn’t been checking it and he hadn’t found time to take it down. you don’t have to be aggressive when you talk with him about this but i would be direct and ask him straight out where you stand and explain the confusion he’s creating for you. it’s possible to send a lengthy text from a train or a toilet. i have tried to keep my “option open” by staying on the site – but it just makes me feel bad…. it does make it harder him living in london and myself in suffolk as we don’t have what i would call a normal dating relationship which does make it harder. if most of your conversations revolve around what you did last night, then it might just be casual conversation. seems he wants me on his terms but doesn’t want anyone else having me. have read that many complaints from match is the status option is flawed and can be triggered from simply receiving and deleting a email from match in your personal account. seems really into me, seems genuinely happy to hang out with me and to really want to hang out but we haven’t had the exclusivity talk and i am honestly not going to go down that road and fish for information for another 2-4 weeks. last week, while just hugging and feeling so happy being there, my heart was racing with emotion that it actually startled. he has had it rough…a lot of ups and downs with his ex who has refused to let him see his babygirl. we had a mild argument about what was going on, and what it came down to was i told him don’t take me for a fool, and don’t take me for granted. we have been calling/texting each other about everyday since we met online.!First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating. if you don’t get a response to that you’ll definitely know something is wrong. first off, he has significant commitment and some emotional issues. it’s been a wonderful week and i decide to see if he’s up to anything else and low and behold i find him a jdate, jwed, passion, hotmatch, and zoosk. it’s a good idea to let him know that the active profile is the source of much of this feeling (leaving this out could leave many of us guys, who can be dense when it comes to relationships, confused or surprised). when i didn’t hear from this guy till friday afternoon, i was in no mood to wait and was not happy and you can understand why since i had spent all my patience with my ex. a month ago, i complained about his dating profile still being active. – i don’t think expecting someone to be honest is being “needy”. and he announces to them that we are moving in together. or that he just wants to get his numbers up. however there are more things apparently he’s saying that i didn’t tell him “i love him” during sex which was odd to me because i have in the past, i even brought him breakfast the last time i saw him…. i replied next morning and told him i had other plans since i thought we were on a break. there was all these messages from the dating website that we meet on. we both want to get married, so this site and our culture is the norm for that.”carter came to fame as a child pop star during the late ’90s and early 2000s. i’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now, we spend every weekend together. across the country, today is the first day i haven’t heard from him at all, even though i’ve made several attempts. if he really cares about you, being open and honest like this shouldn’t bother him. this might come off as being too ‘charming’ or ‘player-like’, but it’s actually not. the other day i did have to make a little remark where i said, you know…i know you arent in this for the long hall, (i only said this because when he told me he loved me, he also said…”this doesnt mean i necessarily feel i want to spent the rest of my life with you…wtf?, there is a caveat to this somewhat foreboding tale – men vary. i know he was aware that i disabled my profile because he can check it. a little reminder on what they’ve already found could do some good…and if it doesn’t at least you can be confident that you need to keep looking for the right guy. i understand his schedule because of his work demands as a nurse, but there’s this feeling inside me that makes me feel a bit sad and worried because it’s been almost a week since he last called me. this doesn’t bring me shame, just a weight and burden i have held onto for a long time that i would like lifted off me. major, his texts should be spontaneous and happen during varying times of day. not that you can’t find success, but often this approach mentally “locks” us into continuing to pursue a relationship even when it isn’t that great (and there are lots of other reasons to date multiple people in my mind, but i’ll not go over all that again here).. major also has some advice that might actually contradict what you thought you knew about reading a guy..so along along he was active and looking for talking to, meeting up with other woman.’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months but he continues to be active on dating sites. i didn’t realize that by cancelling an account it just meant that your subscription wouldn’t renew, not that your profile wasn’t still active..the “needle in the haystack” ohh that makes me so mad. when you bring up the fact that his profile is up, do you tell him that it bothers you? a lot of guys (this one included), the clarity at which a woman is able to say something exists isn’t clear to us at all (and i speak as a married man who has conversations like this from time to time with an exasperated wife who just doesn’t understand why i don’t get the obvious). he said the past few days had driven him crazy & we should cool it. he’s an adult and for whatever reason, this is the choice he’s making right now. he came back all defensive asking me why i would say such a thing and of course he is. if you think this is annoying i definitely understand but i would still encourage tact when you try to resolve this issue. if you can figure out how to log in, update with new pics and stuff, you can figure out how to do other stuff. accidentally discovered that my bf had recently logged into his online dating profile. i deactivated my pof online dating acount 2 weeks ago as soon as we discussed that we were dating. we haven’t gone on a real date yet because he lives in a different country than mine. i don’t know if i believe him or should believe him. i’ve talked to a lot of women where this type of situation can drag on for months only to see the man start dating another woman. this gives me one more reason to suspect that carter is just trying to use the lgbt community for some press. i noticed that he was not his normal self around me. when i was stepping out for a smoke he told me ‘if things gets serious, i’d like you to quit’ & i told him i’d do it for him. person would drag you into a bush before they let you bump into their own mum. surely… surely it means he is ‘not really that into me’ etc. so this was just the tactic he needed to reel me in hook line and sinker! met a guy online from okc in january 2014, i was evicted 6 weeks afterwards for violating my lease after letting family members stay with me. he began texting numerous other women, and even had a one night stand with a younger woman while he was out of town. but, i suddenly asked him about his still online in online dating or not? we were going to hang out all day but he told me yesterday that it’s his friend’s birthday on saturday, i mean how do u forget that?” he told me i was being needy but that he wanted to continue seeing me, but not be exclusive. but he’s still so kind to me to help me in my time of need. after almost 4 months, i was really falling for him, and had stopped dating other guys after month 3. i bring it up, he says ok let’s talk about, and bam. so it’s been three weeks now since we agreed to be exclusive but he still have his profile up and checking it., we’re here to make the guessing games a little easier in the future with some tips from some fellow students and three love-life experts. that or i would just cut him off… the guy i used to see from okc has a new gf supposedly but he is still on there. it’s a sacrifice i’m willing to make for him – something i never would have done for anyone else..if you need to lie, perhaps its time to keave. he takes out so much time from his busy schedule to skype with me, which he initiates a lot, and he drove to see me and paid and was a huge gentleman. i will add that he texted me at the end of our first date to say he had a great time and proceeded to text me everyday after that. he even had the brashness to say in his email to this imaginary girl (who was me): ” i am also very honest with my partners, nothing can be built on lies…. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot. for example, he’ll ask you to tell him about your major and why you chose it, your favorite music artists and what you like about them, and your opinions about things in the news. a guy checking his dating profile isn’t always a sign that he’s unhappy and based on your agreement i guess it’s fine for him to do so. he did many kind and loving things…though he no longer does them. we ended up sleeping together and he spent the night at my place. – i would generally expect that a man telling a woman that he would like to date her exclusively would be received positively. he’s spoken a lot about his parents and himself and his friends and his work. we were out for 10+ hours and he was telling me he hasn’t been out in a while or on a real date in almost 5 years. we met on a dating website, and the relationship took off right from the start., forgot to mention, i go over to his place a lot and everytime i leave, he begs me to stay and says he hates that i have to leave. it hurts me that he denies our relationship to people he know but is all about it in private. i just immensely like him, and i haven’t felt this way about anyone. when a day ago he made a point in asking me how it was going on the site., i think you should have been more honest with your guy. so, i put my profile back up today and i am not going to tell him. at this point, assuming you’re right, i’m not sure what other options you have. when he tried to confirm, i told him i hade forgotten we had a date and promised lunch to a friend. i have checked a few times by searching users on pof and each time i see his profile it says he has been on that day. he hasn’t asked to meet since i just nodded at his suggestion. after 6 weeks of talking non stop via text, a few phones calls a week, and seeing each other no less than once a week i brought up the “where is this going” talk….” but i wouldn’t fault him much for looking at the fake profile..and during all this, we are both still active on the dating sites…. about a week or so ago i ask him what we are. days ago i was having one of those days where i was thinking about it all too much and letting it get to me again. i’m not saying this is what is happening but i would argue he seems to deserve a little more benefit of the doubt than some of the other guys discussed here. so, after two months and three weekend-long visits/dates, but knowing that he is slow to commit, when is a reasonable time to have “the talk”? i recently met a man i like very much – we met for drinks/appetizers, had a great time, lots of laughter and connection, nice goodnight kiss as well. plus, it doesn’t help that most guys aren’t like ryan gosling in the notebook and hang from ferris wheels just to get a date. the next day, he disappeared and went totally dark on me. in other words, in many of the cases described in these comments the woman is put in a situation where she needs to force the “let’s be exclusive” conversation.
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have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. i said that he really should think about changing that if his goal is simply to date around. guess i’m wondering if he’s interested or not. he invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. that i will want to continue in the same way knowing he is looking/browsing for someone else? as i’ve said previously, if you can do this without anger or making him feel threatened, i think it will go better. first, the idea that you calling his phone or texting him would drain his phone battery is a lie, although i imagine he’s going to use that event if pressed on why he’s not talking to you. after everything this guy has done for me…i just don’t get it…commitment issues? he told me the thing’s he told my fake profile weren’t true – ‘i was obviously trying to pick her up – would i tell her i am seeing or sleeping with someone? she showed me the profile and it said he was interested in meeting women for dates. i have never done online dating myself but because of my boyfriends profile i now log in under a fake profile every day to check his activity. this morning i decided to reciprocate the photo txt, and i sent him one (nothing i would be ashamed of though if someone else saw), and i sent a message along with it that said good morning 😉 it’s been a good 20 minutes since i’ve sent it, and in another 15 i know he’ll be at work and therefore wont text me. so i know this is wrong but i decided to make a fake profile using my sister’s photos since she lives in another country. and if i do, i’ll have to tell him it’s a real relationship or nothing. i know he likes me cause his actions shows it..he said no, just that he is struggling at the moment. told him i understood as he is just newly ‘out there’. finding out the basement roommate and he actually did have an intimate relationship after swearing up and down since july that he never touched her was the final straw of many in the red flags and numerous chances to be honest. since our relationship has been a bit all over the place for these months, should i have even brought up the topic? he’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them. i texted him yesterday and he said that he “saw” my text but was “super busy and forgot”. there where little things that happened when we first started dating that i didn’t concern myself with too much at the time, but now i felt like i had to get resolution about those things if i was really going to make a big commitment like this with him. if you can share your body through sexual contact (which is clearly intimate contact), then you should be comfortable enough to have the talk about expectations. he never checked to see i made it there or home safely, and hasn’t really been in contact the way he was before i left. the online dating profile is tellng me that he is still keeping his options open just incase. i am really confused cos y’day he was online 3 times i haven’t even gone into my account. lieberman says, “one big clue that he’s not interested is when you’re in social situations and he keeps looking up at every pretty girl who goes by, or if he’s making an effort to let others know that he’s not really with you in a romantic sense. he had planned romantic trips for the two of us, we were together practically every day, we went on family camping trips, i met his parents several times, he was talking about future stuff with each other. 5 days later – screen shots proved he had just been online and active. this morning, page six reported that a notorious hollywood publicist may behind carter’s recent drama. but it was shocking to see what all he had been doing during that time and i was completely in the dark about it. if you guys are planning vacations and are seeing each other soo frequently, he should have more respect for you and not have any active accounts. since i feel that really good advice would require me to understand the relationship on some personal level, i can’t tell you exactly how to approach the situation., based on his responses to your previous questions, i get the feeling if you were able to prove he was using the services his response is going to be a strong one (and to me it seems like the wrong person is getting angry! i just think i could get hurt if i asked him where things are going more so than if i just moved on, perhaps if i contacted him less he might get the message….! this after he tells me he’s the luckiest man to have a great catch like me. last week we went out for meal, he came back to mine, we slept together again, he went home that nite, he txt me as usual to say he got home, we said it was a lovely nite and then good nite to one another. he could’ve at least told me upfront instead of brushing me off and beating around the bush. if he can’t bring himself to take his profile down no matter how much you talk about it, i think you need to consider keeping your options open as well. im not sure what site i met him on or if he is even on a dating site now. this article has been very helpful but i want something a little bit more specific. if you do it without anger, i can’t see how he would object (although i think your anger was appropriate before). they’ll probably never go, but it’s a signal that they’re not serious about including you in their future. he also said that he would fetch me in the airport. that said, she is regularly active on match and i’m a bit concerned putting myself out there with her she may not be ready more given the whole cheating matter she had to deal with. along with many of my personal friends have reiterated your story to me through tears and hugs. i try not to pressure him about it and he hasn’t been dishonest with me.” he said he doesn’t like being told what to do. – have you tried talking with him about this more aggressively? so i began “snooping” and found that even though after 6 months he was still using the dating site that we met on, but he is doing it from his phone so that i can’t check. that we are at different places in regards to what we want at the moment, although we do want the same thing in the end, a loving, solid relationship. his recent words are problematic, and they can’t help but make me wonder if he’s just doing all of this for the notoriety. wanted to write you before i did anything to freak him out the way females usually do. am not brad (obviously) but if you read my post, which is right before yours, you can see i was almost in the same situation. think i’d try to shrug it off for now. and this was the first time in my life that i had actually dated a variety of men at the same time. we were seeing each other multiple days a week, but enjoying every bit of it. nevertheless, i was shocked and disappointed when he told me one morning that he had been on a date. went to a spa, it was beautiful and we ended up staying the night together……. she says he’s on it regularly and this evening while he’s texting me on the phone, she calls and says, “he’s online at match right now”. but it was apparent that he was really hung up on her. we spent our first valentines together and he met my family. i told him he shouldn’t be taking his frustrations out on me & that he can date my ‘friend’. it’s one thing to say someone is the only one for you, it’s another thing to actually live that out. they are not looking out for you if they still are checking out the menu while proclaiming they are crazy about you. said he is only seeing me and i shouldn’t worry…but…should i? it’s just what always happens to me and i really would appreciate it if you would tell me what my next move should be and how this should turn out/how he feels and what he may be thinking. i was very worried because i knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. i think for now, you might want to hide your profile in the off chance that he’s keeping his profile up because he still sees yours is up. he said the only reason he was on it was to try to figure out why they took out of his account. i messaged him on my friends proflie and he answered very nicely that i was pretty and he was still looking for a relationship. or maybe he’s doing this to get my fake profile girl. and barely said much at all…this past week i got a bad feeling so checked the dating site where we met, and his profile (which wasn’t there a week before) was back up. would it really make you feel better if he waited until the next morning? at this time he posted that he was “single” on ok and so did i. i get that you can view profiles for free… but my thing is that if a person is into you seeing you more than once a week – nine times out of ten you have nothing to worry about… dating more than one person is not something most guys are good at and let’s face it… it is too damn expensive. i know that when you are dating you should do this but i just can’t and he said he was the same. brought it up and he told me that he thinks there is someone else better out there for his “lifestyle. if he can’t give you a straight answer, tell him where you’d like the relationship to go and ask him what he thinks of that. he said that it was everything about me that turned his heart around and brought out the person he used to be a long time ago, and that he absolutely did not want to lose me. we are planning a tropical vacation in a few months, we’ve taken several weekend trips together, we’ve brought up the subject of moving in together if he doesn’t get sent away, and i’m seriously falling for him. now im starting to question if i should stay in this realtionship or go. everything i’m hearing is that if you open the email (even to just delete it), match will now show you as active. he did, when we spoke i said i was upset, i just seen his profile and how it changed and we were literlally with each other hours ago. i got my revenge though and set him up by using a friend’s profile to catch a great big rat (and even though it was me he was writing to he still lied and lied and lied) and i caught him out big time. someone who likes you will want to make you feel as though there was never anyone else for them. i can see why some people might not like their friends reporting on this sort of thing regularly…but if you’re close, she would probably appreciate it., i find really annoying is when he informs me that he is not cheating on me but why is he still on the dating site. there’s evidence that he may be talking to an ex…. i am trying my hardest not to bring this up again, but the recent picture really has me thrown for a loop. do like that you’re reading the 5 love languages together. we havent spoken properly about this as this was late last night and when i rang i woke him. we have a lot of common interests and have so much fun together, but have had a couple of awkward conversations about exclusivity and where this may be heading. would then suggest that if things are still going well between the two of you in a few weeks that you let him know that you would like to be girlfriend/boyfriend and see what his response is. i think you should make sure some others in your life are aware of what’s going on…i don’t feel very equipped to help you very well if things are turning abusive. non the less i started to warm up to the idea. so when i met him on thursday i asked him why he was online if he so wanted to get off. she's currently the beauty editor for her campus and the editor-in-chief of hc south carolina. very sad to see all the comments on here about the hardships that everyone is experiencing. online dating was an avenue i hadn’t tried and i was curious! while i agreed to casual & laid back – and only cos he said he’s just come out of a relationship & doesn’t want something full on (and i have too but i am ready) i did not saying anything about the seeing other ppl business. although you might associate bragging with douchey-ness, it's actually a way for him to impress you. i mean he seems like a decent guy and all but i guess i’m just worried. few days later i log back onto the online chat room we met on seven moneths ago, i made a new profile and he was online…………. whether he’s just checking until it expires or he renewed after he showed me the cancellation it still means he clearly isn’t that into me. i am aware that there is a 30 minutes lag off in okc, like you will still appear online even though you already logged out. but my daughter has this thing where she loves to look at his pictures and since his phone is touch screen and she is only 3 she sometimes hits other buttons, well about a week ago she opened his browser and ended up on the exact dating site i am talking about. my profile was still up i did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago. let’s just say that hypothetically speaking another attractive women sent him a message to his profile. unfortunately it seems that at this point you should have a conversation with him about this and where he sees things going…i’d hate to think that he’d be using you for a place to live (and hopefully that’s not it). there were quite a few other things we talked about, but that was truly a big one for me. i asked about it and to his credit -it is an old flame and he hasn’t been on the site since april. he changed the city to the town he used to live in, shrunk his height by 2 inches, and hasn’t put up a picture. it’s almost like the allure that a casino has…you might win big but something make you want to stick around and try a little longer. he said he could ask me the same thing and that i had blown up his phone all day until it died. he finally set up some time for us to talk, but i was frustrated that at this point, he had already given his landlord 30 days notice. don’t think i’ll ever hear back from him.” while it might seem like teasing or flirting, someone who has pure intentions is not going to interact with you this way. jenn – i actually touch on this issue a bit in my article on when a guy disappears after a few dates. after the first week he was asking me to be his girl. i love him but he wont commit, using this family thing as an excuse i guess, but then he still is online tlking to random women whilst keeping me in and out of his life? i’ve been dating a guy now i met online for almost four months now. most of these unapologetic “proud to be bi” men have zero interest in legitimately and truly dating men (unless money and/or opportunity is involved). here we are, i have doubts and feel uneasy about the whole thing. i could see that most of the time he would try to set up a date with her first, and then me when she couldn’t. you’re not sure how to approach it, i’d basically let him know what you told me: you feel bad for snooping but you were suspicious and now you’re very hurt by what you found., i’m in a similar situation to most on here. the subject is in your email subject line and says: so and so sent you an email. i have been seeing this guy for two months and we’ve gotten fairly close. we were out with his family and friends yesterday and i just happened to catch a text message on his phone that said “what are you doing babe” to the very same girl.. which is solely his decision… however i have the right to vocalize my thoughts which is what i did… i would never tell him to close his account and also to those of you that are upset that you man has his account out there… how do you know unless yours is out there or you are still online? is a writer with bylines at vice, refinery 29, xo jane, hello giggles, and fashion canada.. when i think back i am surprised to find that each and every time it was i who decided when he should have an opinion about me, i decided when he should take down his profile and actually i decided everything about timing etc based on my instinct and my feelings. it’s hard to judge why his profile is up otherwise – it might be because he’s still looking to date others or it might just be that he’s forgotten about it. no matter how much you think you like someone, it’s really only worth pursuing them if they’re going to pursue you back. i still had my profile up and so did he. we both want a faithful and loyal partner, and since his last girlfriend cheated on him constantly while he was deployed to iraq (3 times), he said he really doesn’t have time for games. his parents are apparently reaaaaaaaally keen on this idea and so are hers. maybe once you know where he stands, it will make it easier for you to make a decision? it’s the first time i’ve met someone like him. only problem is that i now trust no-one and everyone i meet on the net is suspect, although now i keep my profile up (even though i do not use it) so at least they know i my profile is still active. i asked if we were exclusive and he said yes. am so confused…i felt the connection…how can he now say there’s no spark. no shame in protecting your biggest investment: your self esteem and right to know who you are in bed with…. he said we are not dating but we couldn’t establish any status quo. i called match to make sure i did not falsely accuse him of being online if he was not. should i wait a little bit until we get more serious? we had the most incredible night (no intimacy) and i felt so so so comfortable. so based on my observation i am assuming that he was checking his profile for a minute or two then logged out. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. he wants to spend all of his free time with me and i feel that due to the fact that hes new to the city that’s mainly because he doesn’t know a lot of ppl. i am comfortable raising a family with a man (which is what i’m currently doing). you are old and wise enough to read the tos and have basic respect.
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my situation he is now an ex for a reason. if i want to check on someone i just use a friend’s profile to see when they were last online. he didn’t reply to that one anymore because he obviously had gone offline already. towards the beginning, we decided to go withthe flow and see where this relationship would go. saw texts between him and his hockey buddies about how he wants to f*% everybody and how we was getting that ‘spring time itch’ really bad.‘c’ stands for consistent, as in, is he or she consistent in both words and actions?! i said i really like you and have knocked back dates from others too as i was seeing and sleeping with him, he said, he knocked back dates too! however, i do worry that the next time he tries dating someone else he might find himself interested in her and then you’ll find yourself alone. he always tells me that he has a great time with me and i’m his favorite person, but that he never dated much when he was younger and thinks he owes it to himself to date around now. – i need to wrap this up, it’s way longer than i meant for it to be! ultimately he said he thinks we need a break for a week or two – that things were getting messy & the last thing he wanted is to hurt me. has got to alter in this “bi-guy” movement, especially from a celebrity standpoint. it seems that this was the choice he was making prior to you making an issue of it so i really don’t think your actions need much scrutinizing.. texts might mean he’s interested, but that doesn’t mean he’s ready to date. sarah madaus, a sophomore at temple university, says, “if he seems disinterested in your conversations, or even when he asks you a question, he’s probably just trying to be nice. i had asked him about this issue a few times and each time he just informs me that he is not cheating on me or dating anyone else. think that many guys who use internet dating think of it as a “smorgesbord” and feel that it is their right to taste everything on offer!’v egot the same problem on ly mine is a little different. i met my boyfriend (i think) on plenty of fish in july and we’ve been hanging out, having fun since. gaining my trust, after my past, is not an easy task and he has managed to do it. the end, i chose to believe him, forgive him, and continue our relationship. then he tells me since he had been in relationships up until now, he’s just not ready for a full on relationship’ and that he likes checking when he’s bored. after reading many of these stories i have somewhat of an undertstanding that this is not uncommon. after 2 months he asked me to be his girlfriend – actually an old college friend of his we met on the street asked if i was his gf and then a few mins later i told him that i did not want to continue to see him unofficially so he asked me to be his girlfriend and said he’d tried to ask many times but was too shy. he tells me how lovely a time he had and how he doesnt kno if we will definately be able to meet again due to the situation. but he didn’t pay for my lunch just gave me the change for his coffee. i recently signed up under a fake profile and tried to wink and favor him. you could continue to date him if you want, but if he says that he loves you but refuses to take down his profile even when he knows it bothers you…well, i find that very concerning.. i also haven’t heard from him all day yesterday, but i didn’t think anything of it until i found out about the badoo thing. he told me that i really hurt him and that it will take some time to repair the hurt. let him mess you around – only see you on his terms, sleep with you and then make excuses to leave shortly afterwards – and he’ll do it. he was bored, and it made him feel good about himself. i still think that’s a fine thing to do but more recently i’ve found myself encouraging women to be a bit more pro-active or aggressive (whereas changing your photo is rather passive-aggressive). he asked me a month into the relationship to be his girlfirend ive met his family and friends. but again, maybe i misunderstand what exclusive means in this case.’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but that tinder user was in fact me., he is still active on the sight and logs in. i asked why and he said he wasn’t really feeling the site etc. no reaction from him but when we were talking about the weekend it was clear he had no dates. i am only asking – in these early stages – for respect enough to put all the other girls aside for a moment… is that really too much to ask? initially he asked me out first few times and then ive been doing it since. we had plans for friday but he said the weekend was best spent with friends. the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, i would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.’m realizing that the bottom line is, i don’t trust him anymore. i’ve developed some very strong feelings for him and i feel that i am making the right move in continuing to see him. i’ve been to a work picnic once but haven’t met his friends . where he stands may not be where you hope, but he should still know where that is! that’s like saying, “the 0 i spent on my subscription is more important than what i have with you”. i asked why he was online recently, and he said it had to be a mistake, that he must have accidentally pushed a button on his phone that logged him on without him even realizing it. he keeps saying he just gotten out of a relationship & do is not ready. know this has become a long message, but i really hope you find the time to reply. i kinda don’t want him to see other guys in between the next time we meet up again. they’d go five miles out of their way to find a library before they’d borrow a book from you, just in case they have to commit to staying with you while they read it. 3 months in is when i saw he was still logging in……it upset me…. many men are seeking wives, not playmates and they’re up front about it because they sincerely don’t want to waste time with women who aren’t interested in long term commitments. as far as the deployed thing, he is getting deployed in a few months, and this is something i knew about not long after we met.. and then back to the sex thing he thinks he was going to get some from me but i told him not till “the break is over and the sites are deleted” (this is all texting btw) and he goes “you’re demanding stuff because you said were not going to have sex till i delete match”…ummm duh… i said yes and i have a good point to, that don’t you think? he asked me to come to his area next time and i just nodded. that being said, are there any creative ways where you could spend more time together even though you don’t have cars? notice shes still going on this same dating website we met on ( i had taken mine off since we met) but this worries me so much that i asked if she still went onto the site and she said she did. he told me he was the luckiest guy in the world to have a great catch like me’. i doubt gay men anywhere are really upset by this news. we chat/txt evey day without fail, he has been to my house few times now but i’ve never been to his. i relaxed and began to enjoy the journey, tentatively falling a little by little for him. is why although i am inherently bisexual i choose to identify as “homo-dominant” instead. we both said that we had a great time after it was over. he tells me to look after myself and tries to make the goodbye casual and jokey….” so obviously, i creeped today and you can see (even if you’re not a member with a profile) if a username of a profile exists. i played stupid and said i had thought that was the plan from the start. but if he shows initiative in texting you and trying to talk, then that definitely shows interest. don’t start making a demands on the 30th day just because i suggest a month as a good measurement. begin to open up more about how you feel but with no expectations or demands (at least not in the beginning). brings me back to what i said at the start. we all know that what a man does speaks louder than what he will ever say. if you want to take a stand and draw the line at 6 weeks, i’m okay with that. on sunday he told me he thought it was harmless to email though he was only seeing me. especially to the lady who’s heart they’re trying to win! he called me his girlfriend and said that he doesn’t see anyone else. he gave me a key to his place also and told me to stop by whenever. to get to the point here just like many of these other stories i felt something was off with him, i wasn’t getting the morning texts anymore. our emails were immediately riveting and he even told me it seemed like we knew each other for ages. both of us even changed our status to “seeing someone. he will be turning 30 soon and i am 6 years younger. someone is flirting with your friends, it is because they don't like you. i stopped answering and next time i saw him i asked him if he was still on the site and he answered and said: “yes im still on there and actually last week someone messaged me on there, and i’m pretty sure it was you. maybe wait a week or so and see if the profile comes down on its own. and he replied with a nice good morning text as usual, apologizing for not texting yesterday but he didn’t go to the wifi place but went to the base and finished settling in and going to bed early. that being said, almost 100% of the time when i talk to women in this situation they want to follow the advice your friend is giving you: lay low, wait it out. but i knew i had to be supportive and not dwell on my fears, so i did the best i could to cheer him up and not burden him with my worries. i treat him so well, cook, clean, and care for his kids but yet i seem to have no standing with him. major reminds us that “ultimately ladies, it’s up to you to set the expectations immediately and openly for your relationship. he opened an email and my friends said he was online within 24 hours. i did confront him to discuss it but now i realise i did so – not to understand him – but only with a view to declaring that he had failed, that i don’t ‘share’ and therefore we couldn’t continue in this state. lots of dates, exchange of christmas gifts, meeting family and a lot of his friends. i texted him that i missed him, i havent mentioned anything to him about deleting his profile, i told him i deleted mine and he said he cant delete his from his phone. i deleted my profile ages ago, but this afternoon i had a look and he is still using it. i added however, i know he wouldn’t take advantage of my kindness, and that i want him to feel hugged and to stay safe and alert out there.. i ask for a proper goodbye and he hugs me and hesitates to kiss me……. hours from where i live, so we knew that dating each other wouldn’t be that easy, but we also said to each other that we would make it work. are key indicators right from the start in the dating world – clues to identify what a guy really wants from the outset. it sounds like he’s assuming you’d continue to date other people because you spent the money even if you found someone you wanted to date exclusively and that makes no sense to me. up until meeting up, we messaged once a week, usually i messaged but he also did if i didn’t. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot. i did bring up exclusivity but he said isn’t it too early? i’m really freaked out about commitment – i love this guy and have a relationship with him like no other, he accepts everything about me, he adores me, is kind, gentle and makes it his daily goal to do things that make me happy. he did & told me his dad’s very ill – he seemed so upset. he mentioned twice that nobody comes to his apartment but me. they’re replying with one word answers, they’re not busy or mysterious – they just don’t want to have a conversation with you. then today i searched again and it said active in 3 days. he even told me that he’ll fetch me at the airport. met him on pof in august 2013 and to be honest, i had just started dating again since my divorce 6 1/2 years earlier. he asked me to cancel the recurring payments in paypal, which i did for him (english is his second language and he’s not terribly computer savvy). should i have her make a date with him and me show up?, i thought i was the only one in this situation. i understand his availability issues because of his work as a nurse, but i’m feeling this sadness and doubt inside me because it has already been almost a week since he last sent me a message. during the date, he continued to say the same things that he’s been saying to me and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. that is the case, hard pass and make sure your friends don't buy into it either. i asked him on sunday and he said he was in there cleaning up his inbox before deleting. have been seeing a man i met online for almost a year now. i have checked simply out of curiosity and really to keep myself from getting to attached at this point. he then texted me and said he too tired was but i saw he was on his match account. and as i touched on earlier, i do think it’s reasonable to demand respect from these guys. hmm…i don’t think you should be looking for a way to blame yourself for his actions. you enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. he can get you a hotel room and take you on a road trip but logging into a website and removing his profile is beyond his time and resources? occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. if you feel horrible as you’re doing it, then just stop. he actually messaged a friend asking if she wanted to chat and that she was the only woman he was talking to. but he did cancel on an invitation to join me at my friend’s farewell on sunday. he doesn’t have a problem with it and i obviously don’t either. trouble is that it’s hard to know whether the person you like is playing it cool, or simply not bothered. and today when we were texting i said (in response to something), “i mean i like you enough to know that i don’t wanna see others. the 2nd day away, he sent me a pic of himself in a towel. i realize she’s already reached that point where it would be devastating for her to lose him but allowing it to continue only to have things end over this a few years from now isn’t going to improve things for her. if he’s introducing this way to some people but that way to other people, i think you have a right to know where you stand. logic aside, i would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing i asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you exclusive and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other? so as our conversation goes i knew he was referring to me the girl he was seeing. i want to pull back from him and stop seeing him, but it’s so hard to do when you like someone. i told him it was iffy and i had hidden my profile because i’m not sure about it all together. could you tell me where you see our relationship going??Any suggestions on how to deal with this now am i just wasting my time and just move on? he told my fake profile in his last email 2 days back that there was no spark between us & that’s why he kept it casual.’d try not to worry too much at this point. you were a bit persistent while i guess i didn’t help matters! on last friday he said in case i was out late to let him know. spent most of the night talking to be honest with you. we have gone on trips, and had wonderful dates, he told me i’m just the girl he’s dating. strange thing is, while i deleted my profile from the site on which we’d met, he hadn’t and i assumed he’d just cease using it or hide his profile and not renew his subscription but, turns out he has a match membership discovered by my suspicious sister whose brought it to my attention. curiousity always killed the cat and i checked to see if he was still active a couple weeks ago and he was. i’m having doubts if he’s still interested but i view his page anonymously and he hasn’t been active for 2 weeks and also removed his pictures. i know its him because of the wording he used and the things he is looking for. its been like 2months together and he is really great guy if i have to be honest and i do have my moments too in annoying him too. and he said he had logged in to show his friends my picture that i was the highlight of the weekend. we dated for two months before we became intimate and i just assumed that we were exclusive.
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we talk on the phone most nights since we are busy and live about 45 minutes away from each other. have been on 5 dates with a guy who i met online, i really like him & feel like we have a good connection, but he has not yet mentioned exclusivity & deleting our profiles. i did ask him two months ago to tell me if he wasn’t interested in me he just had to tell me. i can honestly say it was incredible for us both 🙂. brad, i really enjoyed the post and seems that many of us experience the same issue. i even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up. then today he calls me like nothing’s wrong and when he could tell i was uneasy talking to him he made a big fuss and said ‘well i can tell you’re in a bad mood so bye. said u were on there he replied with yea but he has 2 mutual friends. frankly, don’t care for it for a multitude of reasons but it has been a good vehicle in which i have met some terrific people. with a few men but didn’t have the desire to take it further than friendly chat……. 20 minutes later he texted and told me i was far hotter’ in person. i txtd him the next afternoon when he said he was done work, and asked him if he could meet me somewhere because i needed to talk to him, i was having a bad day (it actually wasn’t about him, rather than my pseudo grandfather had fallen ill, and i just needed a shoulder to cry on). i was able to see his messages and as of today it shows that he had logged in and there were messages from women in which he had responded to just a couple of hours earlier before i came home. you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, i recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period. curious of anyone’s thoughts on this…been going out with a guy i met online. said ok, that i would hang in there, but i asked him to please be straight up with me the second he doesn’t feel like this will go anywhere and he promised he would. i have a question, i have been dating a guy that i was introduced to by my sister. i said i had made an account and saw him on there. i do hope to hear back from you about my situation, you seem to have solid and sincere advice. he got angry and said he wasn’t doing anything like that and he would take it off when he thought the time was right. he has no idea that i know about this site. don’t attack him about it – show genuine curiosity and i hope he’ll realize that even if he thinks it’s not a big deal that his profile should come down/be hidden. i finally told him he need to set up a specific date with me where we could go out and talk about this stuff together and privately. that might seem like semantics but i can see where a guy is coming from if he felt like it was commitment. the responsible party is the man or woman who has to open those emails to stroke their ego or satisfy what they think is a harmless curiosity. he says hes not dating/sleeping with anyone else but why is he still online? two days ago, someone brought his pof account to my attention, knowing that we were “together”, so i got online and checked it out. we dated for a year and then we moved in together. he kept me in the loop of events for the following days until he finally left for turkey, and we spoke before he actually got on the plane. i didn’t evern take him seriously on the date (even though i thought he was hot), i was joking too much to get rid of him but he seemed to like me alot and wanted to see me more. i would rather have someone that challenges me and pushed me to be a better person every day, and i intend to do the same. a healthy normal relationship should consists of time together and time apart. he has a difficult time discussing a lot of emotional things. and just to make it clear, my sister isn’t creating suspicion with me, i’d noticed how all along, he’d be texting me and suddenly stop with no goodnight, see ya, nothing, just stopped in mid conversation. i think there might be a third option which would be to do a little of both. and that’s most often how the “real” world works: the days of grade school where we are forced to ask someone to “go steady” are behind us. are you ok that you may hurt both of you because opportunities come easier and in catalogue style online? i took time to respond to their messages, but i was deliberate with all of my interactions and made sure not to let their interest wane. met a guy online we hit it off really great. they like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable.“i’ve been hearing a lot of negativity too… like prejudice and slurs, and remarks that i don’t deserve,” the 29-year-old pop star told tmz. he even told me that the first time he saw me he knew he’d marry me one day. are some very interesting posts here and you give great advise. we lived together over a year later and then he one day just moved out. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. i kept refreshing the search everyday i don’t know why and then last friday morning i was shocked when i saw that not only had he been online but he had uploaded his picture. he pointed out to me the other day that he has a hard time showing affection and was asking why i stayed with him. so i went into my whatsapp (that’s how we communicate) and checked when my messages to him were actually read (i normally don’t pay attention to this), and it came out that he seemed to have been online at times when he told me that he didn’t have wifi on his phone. up for our newsletter to get the best of hc delivered to your inbox. if he is honest and admits to having a commitment issue, could you give him more time? i generally do believe he does like me but he is just either not wanting to be hurt again so taking these easy or he is seeing other women. week two came and i found that while i was waiting for him to respond to a text i sent (45mins) he was on the dating website from his phone. he cuddled me beautifully the entire night – it was sweet. i’m no saint though i go on match too but i’m different and it bothers me he uses it that much. if after a week his is still up, you could try dropping hints: maybe mention that you took your profile down or talk about how you enjoy spending time with him. you just never know but i have given up on online dating. in about another month or so, he will know for sure if he will stay here or be sent away, and we have agreed to talk about being officially exclusive at that time. yesterday morning i checked again and it said ‘online now’ to say i felt sick was an understatement but i didn’t want to go wading in and accuse him when i didn’t know the story. the b in lgbt is often silenced, and there is still a lot of bi-phobia in the gay community and the straight community. i expressed the same feelings and we planned to move in together two weeks from now. well…i don’t think it’s a *good* thing that he’s still logging in.? i felt suspicious but right away he said he wanted to do friday or sunday. connecting with people has never been easier, but we have so many options and opportunities that it makes sense to spread out our energy and keep things low key. it seems to me that many people want to be open to long distance relationships but then when they get in one, they decided to keep their options open for something closer. we’ve skyped almost every night for 4+ hours a night, and we text all day. then a day later i saw him driving around, i called him not to initially bring anything up, but when he didn’t answer we got into it and he said that he does want stuff to work but i can’t be so paranoid. if he’s going to be around you, force him to get to know you. i am not asking the guy to committ to me and plan weddings and babies. i don’g want to pushtowards anything, because i feel as thoughhe will if he wants to…but am i wasting my heart on someone whois using me as plan b or using me as a passing fancy? my problem is when i date i can only focus on 1 guy and 1 guy only. is not a river in egypt and you can do a non member search to check if he or she has lied to you before. 4 units so busy but he bought it to my attention that he saw me online previous day. you might try to justify it by saying they're nervous around you or they don't want to be too obvious about their very serious, very real, and incredibly intense feelings toward you, unfortunately, that's usually not the case. i told her i recently gotten an email and deleted it but i have not been on in a long time.. he told his fwb girl ‘love you’ in a text, and that was a little over a month after we first met. we slept with each other again, and we also hit it off in that department too 😉 so everything was really awesome and i just thought “i hope it’s not too good to be true! fortunately, things have been wonderful and things just keep getting better between us. went on a few ‘one date wonders’…lol…he reached out to me…. then even though my fake profile kept telling him i wasn’t interested he kept asking telling me i (real me) was ok with this since he’d been ‘honest’ with me. have said to him that if he likes, he can continue dating but he needs to tell me, so that i can do the same. he texted me later & said the following: are you ok? neither of us had an official discussion about bf/gf labels yet, but i wasn’t in a hurry for all that stuff, as everything truly felt great and was going so well. soon after he tells me his parents want him to start thinking about seeing a family friend’s daughter from the same background as them. upset, he asked me later what was wrong and i told him. – i think you should gently ask him about it but not attack him about it. he’ll smile and not look bored (because he’s not; he’s excited to be there with you) and he’ll actually nod and lean in while you’re talking (because he’s actually listening to what you have to say and not simply politely waiting to respond). i’ve stopped responding to these emails from the fake profile. and then he texted me out of the blue and said he was drinking not too far from where i live and was wondering if we could meet up to which i said no way cause i had plans and he was bummed about my answer. saw each other every weekend and we would stay the night at each others house…i trusted this guy, he made me feel loved by his actions. once the “exclusivity” talk came up (from my end): i asked if he was still on that dating site, because i took my profile down about two weeks after we met. have been dating this guy i met on okcupid for a few months now.?Recently, i started dating a man i began to realise i really really liked. i slightly said some of my concerns today (coming off as joking) and he lied and said he hasn’t been online since the time of our date to take his profile down..but between the texts and the online dating profile still being live i am not sure what to do. he’s been too busy to delete it and also his friend is using it to find women. how do i let what would normally be a wonderful relationship (if it were not for his dating profile) progress, or how do i let it go?. i guess cos he doesnt want to be too attached? was/am in the same situ, whatever happened in your situation? i’m afraid if i put my profile back up that it will make the situation worse, plus i really don’t want to. almost feel as if i am growing walls around my heart so i don’t come out……don’t people build walls to not let anyone in? my friend asked if i check to see if he had gotten on his profile, so i did, and that sunday night he had been on. all else fails, ahluwalia says to use the acronym picck, which stands for prioritize, integrate, consistent, cares, and keep, to see if the interest is there. in the article above i recommended that you update your profile to show him you’re still active. i in your situation, i would make it clear to whomever i was dating that absolute commitment was of the utmost importance to me.! snatched my phone out of my hand said he would ” f me up” if i went on a date with another man even though we’re broken up! he asked me to be his girlfriend shortly after we got the apartment. the same is happeningto me again so maybe next time i will try meeting someone who doesn’t have a computer as i am rapidly losing faith in meeting someone who is honest and loyal and can commit to one person. am his first relationship since a divorce from a 16 year marriage from a woman who had cheated on him. if he likes you, he will make the effort to meet up. we’ve had this dang conversation at least 4 or more times! there’s the possibility of a move for him in the future after his military career ends, and he has asked me to go with him if that possibility becomes a reality – i accepted. well he blew up and i blew him off for three days till he finally manipulated me back into seeing him through constant texting.?Now it’s been 4 months and i wanted to see if he’s being true to his promises and i decided to check. so if he doesn’t take it down within the next week, and i approach him about it again, wouldn’t it come off as pushing? might be something relatively harmless (such as an ego thing and nothing more). jessica – i think it would probably be best to ask him what he’s looking for in a relationship since that conversation hasn’t come up. he did not introduce me as the “girlfriend,” but simply by name. i asked him about going to the movie again and never heard anything back. i have also made myself avaible for this same night. i also took more time to look at his profile than i originally did the last time, and i noticed that at some point he uploaded a recent picture that he actually just posted to facebook back in april. after spending the last 5 months with him, i’m decided that i made the right choice. we talked for hours and both expressed how comfortable we felt talking to each other about any topic that you can think of. he then says, oh, i thought it was because of me. each time i saw/found out my guy went online after going out with me for a while i felt sick, duped, confused about where i stand, no longer confident about how he felt about me or what i thought the relationship was, suddently totally insecure and worst of all foolish…. oh, and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend in february. also, he is seeking a long term relationship and he loves love as i do (from what he’s told me). have for the most part what i tell my friends an “effortless relationship”. everything is great so far, we go out for dinner, watched movies, sometimes just stay in his apartment and ordered pizza and cuddle on the couch and watched a movie. i feel that it is his way of letting me know that he is not doing anything behind my back and is totally honest. jane – unfortunately, i’m not sure there’s much help to give here. his title on the site is “just looking” but his goal is to “fall in love”…. in the morning things were as usual great – he asked for my advice about some property & financial matters & we talked about everything under the sun. i know you make a case for not doing this in your comment but i worry that there is some risk in expecting a man to recognize:The moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally). i also had a gut feeling as it had happened to me previously. he wants to keep talking to other women, which could eventually end your relationship, but in the mean time he wasn’t to continue with you. to be honest, i’m not convinced that all the guys doing this even understand why. so i know he is not in it for the sex. i met a guy on plenty of fish in june. i think that’s a great book but it will only help if you take what you learn about each other and apply it. now 5 weeks later i will be meeting his kids and going to a family gathering soon but he is still online. had not been on my profile since nov when we had the talk, and neither had he, but we didn’t discuss hiding or removing our profiles., i’ve dated a few girls who i liked so much and thought they were so significantly “out of my league” that i was very strict with myself not to come across as too keen. however, i know has has a dating profile because a few weeks after we started dating my friend who uses the site told me she saw a profile for him. a guy will actually appreciate you more and respect you far more as a person if you’re straight with him. it started with us emailing back and forth a few times a day for a couple of weeks, then it progressed to phone calls – some of the calls lasted 4+ hours. i mean, when is the point where he would take his profile down? why is he window-shopping for other women when he says he wants to marry me? monday i texted him and we texted the whole day. in your case, he asked you to be his girlfriend…he needs to cut out the unnecessary continuation of online dating now. i got a strange feeling in january 2014 that something was just ‘off’. second, i believe the following guidelines can help when having your conversations:Be honest. and i have the ability to love and commit to a man. you do not know after a month of seeing someone if you would like to eliminate the rest to give her a fair shake, recognize that there is something that is not resonating for you and the best course of action is to be direct and tell her. abruptly changed his mind because he suddenly “didn’t feel it” with me, i had a sneaking suspicion something.
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but i was extremely bothered by it, it didn’t sit well with me at all. he talks marriage, knows my ring size, and talks about our future and potential children. i was thrilled 🙂 but then, he was charged with another 6 month subscription – despite the fact that he had cancelled. he asked for my msn and said he is getting on with me shockingly well………. questions to you are these, one thing that sort of bothers me is that we are exclusive, however he only hid his profile. “the trick ladies, is to not let your heart hide what your eyes can clearly see,” he says. last night i didn’t hear from him at all. he said ‘no’, he said he had posted those pictures to see if i would notice, and because he was curious to know if i had been online lately, which he saw that i hadn’t. i told him i’m a straight up woman if he wants to explore to just tell me and that i hoped he finds what hes looking for and someone who loved, respected and appreciated him as much as i did, this set him off right away…. but for some reason – i am resistive to be ‘all in’., we went camping last week and i noticed he was texting another girl while i was curled up next to him but i didnt say anything, i didnt really see what they were talking about it but it made me kinda concerned. do text and talk on the phone quite often but i had came to realise that its already been 3 months and his profile is still active and he goes on it quite often. don’t try to force these important conversations even though every bone in your body may want you to talk to him about it as soon as possible. it hurt so badly, and it made me feel extremely dirty and disrespected that he would mess around with me and talk to others the same day. he told me he would remove his profile and that he was so sorry he upset me. they’re not doing a marie kondo life declutter – they just don’t want to leave a trail of evidence that indicates you were ever together. i want to take it the relationship slow too but i also don’t want to be seeing a guy that is looking for the bigger better deal. i would talk to him: let him know you want to be exclusive and see what he says. it is hard for me to see him everyday cause of my busy schedule and i always work on weekends. to hear your experience went that way kelly…i promise not all guys are bad though! i only work 5-6 hour days, and then i was back to staying at my place but we were still constantly seeing each other.! i just found out today he has another profile on pof i want to date other men but now i feel stuck….’m so grateful to have come across your article here and am impressed by the fact that you’ve continued to respond to commenters for over 4 years now, wow! while we were saying goodbye he asked me out and i agreed. it may be that he’s being honest and he’s only seeing you but the whole “actions speak louder than words” thing isn’t doing him any favors and were i in a situation like yours i would want to let him know that. doesn’t mean that he always has to be the one initiating conversation; you should definitely feel free to text first on occasion.’m not sure i follow cathy – did you meet him a long time ago on a dating site but now he’s forgotten? i made it clear that i was not looking to settle down, but did want to continue dating him to see where it could lead, but could only do it if neither of us were going to continue to see other people. my sister looked on her computer from he account as she is on there, too. a fear of commitment, soaked with very, very committed conversation and feelings? since we see each other daily (he gets mad if we don’t) i just don’t know how to deal with this anymore and its taking its toll on me. he also told me at night that he’s missing challenge in his life. we hit it off and are still seeing each other. realistically i believe that whether or not he has paid for a subscription, if he is interested in me – then he shouldn’t be using it! for when a guy knows that he has you, you’re screwed…i think that can work both ways. lol but then proceeded to tell me that i “grew on him”. now the only reason i knew to look and see if he was on there was this gut feeling that i got. he is affectionate and kind, all the traits i was looking for. have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice. have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him. you had left a comment in another post saying that he expressed surprise when you told him you only date one person at a time, so i think he is coming at the relationship from a different starting point. however, now that he’s made the commitment i think it makes the next steps easier.!, conversation was boring and didnt amount to anything so i just blanked him and deleted profile. yes, it might feel slightly awkward—come on, when aren’t first convos awkward—but it should also be engaging and interesting. it is being wise and mature to set clear concise boundaries to value and protect your emotional sexual health. for example, if a guy messaging you on a dating website is prompt and regular with his responses, this is a sign that he’s genuinely interested. the things that probably happened to you this thanksgiving eve. i’m nervous that if i were to message him from that fake account he would indeed respond. he really truly think that its going to be okay with me? evan clark, a junior at the university of south carolina, says that “if you text each other or hangout, it can't always be the girl initiating. ideas on how i can get her to talk to me?) last night i went on (my profile is hidden) and his profile is active for everyone to see. until now, nothing about him has bothered me at all, and i would hate for this to ruin what could be a great thing. i sent one text on that first day, and one on the second day, and decided that was it. i’m pretty sure that my wife would be upset if i flirted with other women and told her it didn’t mean anything or that it was an ego thing. after quite a bit of texting we couldn’t meet up. said, she has let me know her prior bf cheated on her the whole time they were together. he asked to meet so i suggested lunch on saturday – since that’s a harmless, friendly thing! we continued to date and then on valentine’s day we broke up officially. we met online mid june and became sexua lly active early august. he answered back telling me that he knew i’d been online too. – i can’t really speak to what’s going on in his head. he might just be hiding that he’s not ready to commit. i checked, and again i was right on the money (i should have read this blog before so i did not do what i did again) i called him out, this time he flat out lied and got verbally abusive. after a couple of weeks i told him that i had deactivated my profile and he told me that he had cancelled his subscription. if any of the following signs apply to your current relationship, it’s time to look elsewhere. have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. we’ve even been to a festival and just went away for the weekend together. it’s so frustrating for me that the website charged him (earlier than they should) and after he had cancelled his sub. he said he wasn’t doing any of that on purpose and i was wrong to think he was intentionally doing those. he didn’t like it at all and only thought of me. i definitely can not be physical with him if i know he is talking to other people. i know that’s easier said than done but if you do end up dating him again just be very cautious…sounds to me like he would have cheated on you if he would have had the chance. i just don’t know how to deal with the pain. ms curious – i’m not sure anything is jumping out at me here as requiring a lot of worry.! now i’m really starting to panic – so without hesitation and with some authority, i look him straight in the eyes and tell him in front of everyone – ‘that is not a for sure thing yet, as we still have not talked about the details’. i guess it could but it might just be a schedule or habit thing (like something he does before bed) so i’d try to not read too much into the timing. would you be at ease knowing that if you are looking online you cannot give the relationship a chance? i met my boyfriend on an online dating website years ago. just understand that will be what it is and expecting more may just disappoint you if you’re looking for something more long term.” so i told him i was going to start seeing other people…. not by his charm or anything, but by the effort he puts into being with me and everything.” i then printed this section out and asked him again if he was cheating on the internet and he looked me straight in the eyes and said: “definitely not”. am a woman in my early 50’s and i have been dating my boyfriend who is a year older than me for about 8 months. would it be acceptable if he continued to go along to such events and chat and flirt with other girls? i have no shame in making sure after i had been lied to once to check again to be sure. so i said i cant speak now can he call me later. he once said to me that he loves sex with me but that a relationship shouldn’t be based on sex. men have been in the frustrating situation of being involved with a woman but not being honest enough with themselves to admit that they’re stringing her along.’s the absence of the obvious that tells you he’s not that fussed. i also said that i wanted to be there for him and support him, and that what he gets from me is honesty and loyalty, but that i require the same. am struck by how similar my experience is to so many others. i’m afraid that i’m starting to fall for him. however, if you go another month without any change, i think you might want to keep your options a bit more open as well (and be sure to let her know this in a gentle way as she’s going to be sensitive to feeling like she’s being lied to). he promised that was not his intention and again said he would take his profile down, but needed help because he couldn’t figure it out. he introduced me to some guy as his girlfriend but tells everyone else i am his friend.? if this is the case, then ill do the same thing hes doing to me. am thinking of giving him a few weeks and see what happens but at the same time i am concerned as well and confused as to why his profile is still active and he often logs on. i feel like i maybe scared to trust him, cause i am just so tired of a heartbreaks. he also said that i should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. i thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch! there is no cure but an expensive therapist to sit with you for several sessions for emotional damage – to help re establish your self worth and value that was destroyed by one person who had the audacity to demand no expectations while you jump to his cool as heck laid back beat. try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him. i love him so much but it seems that he keeps making these promises that mean nothing.’ if you’re cool with that then go for it. he said that’s fine cos him & his friends would go back to the city in any case.. i think it’s all because of the recent stuff with my brother…. a couple of weeks ago, i think it sank in with me how fast we were moving and i asked him for some time for me to think. said he was hurt that he’d hurt me and that he never had any intention of actually meeting anyone. i really do appreciate the advice but it’s not going to work out. similar story met a guy online 2 months ago we meet once a week on the. – it sounds to me like she’s keeping her options open and i’d recommend you do the same. ‘dated’ a few guys when i decided to try the online forum. i try to kind of ask, but he always makes me feel so stupid for asking, as i should (and think) i trust him. i was not satisfied with his anwser so i kept a close eye on things. in many of the other cases, the guys don’t clearly commit or label the relationship. you’ve made a commitment to each other, it’s pretty clear to me. i’m not too sure because he was willing to have a baby with me if i let him, deff not ready now! | your chances of dating newly out bisexual aaron carter have recently increasedafter stating his love for all of his fans, carter wrote: “there’s something i’d like to say that i feel is important for myself and my identity that has been weighing on my chest for nearly half of my life. may be hiding something…although it may not be that he’s looking to date other women. don’t know what to do at this point – my friends say just lay low, wait it out, don’t contact him anymore and see what happens – my gut is leading me into the mindset that he found someone else while i was away, or just decided he went too fast and is now backing off way too much. went through this with my now ex bf i met in july 2011 from match. to me, it sounds like another guy who isn’t necessarily cheating but is struggling to commit. but i do remember in the summer we seemed very close. i confronted him about it and said that it bothers me that you still have your profile up on match. initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. how he hates the fact he makes me feel the way i do with all this., if you let your account expire and can prove that to her, that means you can’t read or reply to any communication so there’s really no risk of your profile being there. but i like him alot so just waiting to see if he’ll make contact. again, not with any type of ultimatum, but i’d let her know that you’d be interested in concentrating on dating each other exclusively. in looking back, he never specifically agreed to be exclusive – i made that assumption that since we talked about it, and then continued to see each other, then that was the agreement. i know he’s been feeling unwell & low lately and my sister doesn’t help the cause. what he did is not right and you did not deserve to be hurt like that. then a few days later he once again “ignored” a text. he always tells me that he loves me deep down but i just don’t know what to do anymore. i still think its about respect… and not so much about committment. he is now back on the dating website daily again. sure, it may seem that he’s just playing it cool to start with, but if it is prolonged, i’m afraid he’s not that into you. find it very difficult to give advice on this topic because there are often so many things going on that i can’t really predict. thing about the advice above is that someone women will want to start this process immediately after the first date. how am i supposed to trust him when he makes empty promises? that he would go to the place we had dinner at on monday since it was ‘so so good’.! yes he needs to appreciate what he’s got instead of fretting about what he’s missing out on. i am going through something similar and i really hope that you may be able to give me some words of wisdom, advice, anything! that for the first time since his divorce, he is ready for a full on commitment, and that it just took him a really long time to get there. he is super attentive when we are together, has introduced me to all of his friends who have warmly accepted me into their circle as one of their own.. i hope it’s not too late to get a response. i think it’s more likely he still wants attention or that he’s lying (unfortunately). met an amazing guy about 2 months ago and we decided to only see each other. what if this other guy he sees has a car and they meet up regularly? yeah, it would be nice if when he got the “hi” email if he would have said to himself, “oh, that reminds me, i should hide my profile! only that, but the sexsearch profile showed that he had been active on it in the last 5 days. not in that place to talk about exclusivity but one thing that i find bothersome for me is when i see he is online immediately after i’ve left his place or he’s left mine. i am sorry i know it is painful to hear .