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i just don’t understand how you can set a goal of marriage and children (which i still feel most women want, even if they deny it) and decide that this is the path that will get you there. but no, as you say he’d be worse to be married to than a gamma. gold[–]zeloticmale -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 year ago (0 children)people don't do this. remember attractiveness is but one small part of female attraction. gold[–]librarypublicaccesst 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)there's no guarantee of exclusivity unless you agree to it. for the pretty panty trick, i would not be above such shenanigans were he marriage minded and ready and i was feeling the same and it was all clicking![–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (13 children)efficient would be dating more than one person. so i think she has solved that problem for me. most people know in the first 5 seconds after seeing a person whether or not they want to date them. while you wrote the original post, i find the behavior so ubiquitous that my response was in general, which i explained to you. don’ t bother her at starbucks because she wants to enjoy her coffee and get on with her busy girl power day, dont talk to her at the bar, she is there to hang out with her girlfriends and dance.'s a trend nowadays because of uber-liberal (read: delusional) teens/young adults. yet, i offered that as a matter of wisdom, not as a matter of moral judgment. a single man active in this entire process, i can add that it is a considerable turn-off for me to engage with any woman that has multiple irons in the fire. gold[–]triplebackflip69 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (2 children)i had a girl on a date raise this really well with me recently actually. a few months ago free northerner had a chart of how people meet over time. ugh, but it'd be so much easier to schedule one after the other so i don't have to go home in between. also, the woman needs to make it crystal clear that she is not in the market for commitment/marriage. could post the screenshot of your ex girlfriend’s drunk text on valentine’s too, if you like! you'll discover yourself if this is what you're into and you'll see how it develops through experience.  are you dragging out something you yourself really should close the door on? yes, she reaches the next decision point: “does he see me as marriage material?'m not at all worried about finding a partner who appreciates exclusivity as much as me. · 214 comments what was the last fun conversation you had with a friend? don't get me wrong she's entitled to see other guys if you're not exclusive, but you're not obligated to continue dating her either.” if no, tell him “no” in no uncertain terms and don’t ever waver. then don't, there is no social or moral "obligation" to put up with it, or agree with it, or tolerate it! mine would be much more boring, like the sound of crickets. either she will like having your full attention or she won't. it is only to the woman’s benefit that she give a hard “no” to a man who does not meet her standards, because the message is the medium. i use those metaphors cause they make perfect sense for this situation, you can choose to keep your head in the sand, it's your life. i wouldn't worry about if she's dating multiple dudes; if it's a good match it'll work out. if she wants to explore, or wants to enjoy singlehood, or wants to just date, or wants to have sex with many men, or really is polyamorous, or would rather a guy woo her…may not apply., disgusting is your opinion, don't kink shame people who dig multiple partners/believe everyone follows your train of thought. you experience different people until you find the person you connect with the most and you fit each other best and opt to get serious. through that, friendships can build to the point that you might want to build a relationship. i think it's odd to expect fidelity from someone you're not exclusive with.[–]shizukarosefemale 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)blah blah blah. are five great reasons to date multiple people -- at once:1. for the three date rule (if she doesn’t sleep with you by date 3, next! if i met a woman in person at random event somewhere and we struck up a mutual interest in dating, i doubt if i'd continue soliciting responses from other women. in fact, the only woman guaranteed to be eligible to marry is a virgin. if all systems are go she should be busy wearing him out. i would never advocate stringing multiple people along for long periods of time cause that never ends well. if she reacts all bitc#y, well she’s done you a favor by pre-screening herself off the list! you want to twist the shiv just a bit, look him in they eye and tell him you stopped wearing a bra just for him, because the way he keeps looking at the girls really turns you on… but, you women are supposed to already know this stuff. its a low investment approach to a low investment environment. i've been seeing her for months and we've hit it off and she sleeps with someone else i'm most likely going to move on. if you don't talk about it makes it less concrete and there is less commitment attached to it. when i met my now boyfriend, after just a few dates, i mentioned that i don’t see more than one person at a time and he told me he never had either. it is only by really going out there and looking for someone who excites you that you will find that amazing relationship. she's obviously not super busy if you've gone out with her twice in the course of two weeks.) another example of the two genders having differing, and competing, “rules of engagement., there’s a reason there is historical precedence of a man having more than one wife, but there is not the reverse. gold[–]locksmith25 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (0 children)dating more than one girl can be exhausting and expensive. you seem to be an entertaining person capable of seeing what else is in town. it seems the options are total slut, anywhere, anytime or completely frigid like a vault – rather than all the inbetween as you mention above. however, men say the reverse is not true for women. rest in peace, that one time i dated like a baller.'ve done multiple dates before, but i define that as "seeing someone", which means we haven't yet become serious to the point of making it exclusive. it reflects well on her ability to make a decision and stick with it. i'm a small town guy living on the coast in a big city. it’s a clear message that says “i’m willing but you don’t have the key to open this lock… yet. gold[–]anderson_buck 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)all you can do is be up front about what you want and hope that she feels the same way but be prepared that she doesn't. don't be shy, flaunt that shit18 · 15 comments to what extent is it fucked up to end a tinder date prematurely? for the man who qualifies to the standard, the woman with said standard is assuring him that no other man who is not “up to snuff” will ever be able to worm his way into her affections. i meet this really cute gal, who is exactly what i feel, suits me. gold[–]sharehappynessmale 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)you can tell the girl your opinion about dating multiple people, but they may stop wanting to see you. gold[–]hoffytownmale -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (12 children)i think dudes with your attitude wouldn't sleep as soundly knowing that most women are doing this very thing. a lot of fun during dates, having fluent conversation and a "lot in common" does not equal feeling chemistry, the spark or sexual attraction. title of your post must contain your actual, concise question.

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i'm dating around so i can make sure i'm with the right person ultimately.[–]benjamminmiller 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (1 child)can you imagine how different the situation would be at 28 when people have experience with dating? many people date "comfortably"; they keep seeing people who are nice, but they never date anyone who really excites them. all i'm saying is its best to keep your options open, like in all areas in life. none of this is right or wrong from an overall perspective, it's only what is right for you. a high quality guy who finds out you have several other irons in the fire is more likely to move on than engage in some silly bidding war for your affection. i wouldn't want someone to do it to me, i won't do it to someone. wit, i got done transcribing the antique diary of a woman over the weekend (no more details because it would out me), which happened to capture almost an entire courtship (for lack of a better term, the period between her meeting the guy and marrying him) at the turn of the century. gold[–]riodosm 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)never worked for me.[–]scoodledeebebop 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)yeah, by the third date i'd probably know if the click was there. gold[–]scupdoodleydoofemale 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)i seriously don't get the possessiveness in this thread. with that act, in accordance with genesis 2:24, she is married.) i can see the rationale from the male point of view, he wants to confirm she’s into him so much she can’t wait.[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (10 children)i'm chill, i just like to swear. if not, are you willing to change some pre-conceived notions in that area of dating? gold[–]phycologist 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)that's not my thing. is no such thing as the “sin” of “premarital sex. i’d rather my body not cause anyone to have a bad day…., i have just started dating girls first time in my life and /// i think most often girls are seeing multiple people at the same time.“be the man, solve the problem and we’ll both get what we want. the likelihood of your time wasted by women that flake or do not respect your time with common courtesy. if dating more than one person at a time makes you uncomfortable, just don't do it man. the only question, at the end of the day, is who you’re going to listen to: the guy with the funny hat or god.[–]adenintheglaven 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)you have to have a pretty good bond to get to the second date. sometimes, what we think we want (or don't want) may not be so easily determined in one date. if that’s what you’re interested in i can call him for you…”. fits well within this post, so i’m going to hand you something that’s been bothering me for a while, which was prompted by that post about “isn’t my life complicated enough??Are we breaking up he never reply to my all message and to my break up text but still he didn't change his fb and instagram password? i'd argue that we're better off and more logical without this phase. you don’t have to say who you are engaged to! you won't ever have to explain to someone "hey, you were really cool but i found this one person i like more". you could get a cubic zirconia engagement-style ring too, tarn 😉 be engaged to yourself! reading profiles was a waste but, looking at candid photos was telling. obviously no as i just moved, she said that i should go on a few dates as that's a lot of pressure on her if it doesn't work between us etc. but be clear about that intention instead of testing the waters first.— am i sexually attracted to him (not “do i like him” not “are we good friends” not “he’d be a good dad”. because while a man can reproduce simultaneously with as many women (and their wombs) as he can manage, women can only be pregnant with one child at a time, so there is no biological advantage for him of you having more than one mate. - lifestylesπ rendered by pid 27678 on app-401 at 2017-10-21 05:29:24. i'm doing what you're supposed to do when you date. maybe, i should accept that the universe was trying to tell me something, me and the eighty percent of men that women find below average in attraction according to okcupid’s own research. imo you'd be playing games to handle it like this: we're dating, we're not exclusive, she's dating others, i need to bail. lot of women have a mental list of "musts" for the men and women they want to meet and date. once we got to the point where we were arranging to meet, they were always the only people i messaged. gold[–]wiking85 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (7 children)i mean is it that much different that casually dating until you find the right person among the options? gold[–]adenintheglaven 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago* (0 children)yes and no. i don't feel good about being "one of the many" she might be seeing at the same time. if i had a different personality, perhaps i may have been playmate of the year (back in the day! gold[–]printerror34 y/o dude, remarried dad w/full custody 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i've never committed to more than one girl at a time, but i almost always have at least one or two fwbs on the side. would be like some beta male who runs around “falling in love” with every girl he meets. i want to have fun and laugh a lot i visit a comedy club. women don’t have to worry a baby “might not be hers” so women don’t really understand how deeply ingrained and visceral this repulsion is in men. gold[–]ironengineer 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)as a counterpoint, this isn't something unique to today's culture. she thinks he’s marriage material and he thinks she’s marriage material, the only question left is whether he’s in a marrying mood *now* or if it’s just a general goal. you want to "test" multiple people go ahead, i'm telling you my view. there may be some truth to the cliche, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. gold[–]bowsntoes21 13 points14 points15 points 1 year ago (0 children)there is nothing honorable with not dating multiple people at one time.” she grabbed me by the arm and pulled me back inside and upstairs to her room.[–]anderson_buck 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)dating isn't a relationship, it's a process to discover if you want a relationship. if it’s just a polite fiction so you don’t have to introduce the guy as “mom, this is carl, we started schtupping a few weeks ago and we’re kind of exclusive now. this thread[–]kneedeepinthedead 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)i dont marry the first person i date. she closed the door, locked it and while she was getting undressed she said “i’m really hungry and i’m really horny so the food can wait til later. you don't want to end up going out with someone who just likes to be taken out. when one didn't work out, i'd just go pick out another. if all systems are not “go” then there is no reason to drop her panties. that from lack of any responses whatsoever, or the flakes who message you for a week then deactivate their account and disappear? you're sleeping with someone and still going on multiple dates, that's where it gets shady. specifically, her unbelieving husband can divorce her for her adultery or refuse to live with his christian wife, in either case she is free. gold[–]cheddar_chexmixmale 23 points24 points25 points 1 year ago (2 children)i wish i could touch on it but i really don't have a clue. i was dating, primarily online, i’d message numerous guys and a few of those messages would lead to a bit of light chatting. i kind of like one of them, i do, but i also currently like boning multiple randos more. gold[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (1 child)the more you have to chose from, the less you are satisfied with your choice and the more you feel like missing out on what you discarded.

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it’s a massive shit-test but posed as a question it actually removes the *judgment* from the equation and replaces it with- you guessed it -solipsism. god makes a covenant there is always shedding of blood.[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (16 children)do you buy the first car you test drive? dating new contacts constantly is a lifestyle for you instead of a means to an end, it should speak volumes about what you’re looking for. if she lies she lies and the second i find out it's over. this age-old ‘bad bff advice’ should fall to the wayside when it comes to matters of the heart. problem when it comes to dating is more pragmatism than anything. it is one thing for me to be dating multiple people, but i am supposed to be the most incredible person you have ever met, so much so that you cannot even fathom ever dating anyone else again as long as you live! he probably even sees people i go out with going out with other people. don’t want to spend any more time in orbit. while i appreciate his lack of jealousy, this is too much work for me right now. still, you are a woman and it’s to be expected, so i assign no demerits. me and my now husband met online and we both knew this was it. after a decade of (relative) adult life it's a lot easier to accept you're not going to fall in love with every person you're interested in. does not in any way confuse a man who is aware of what women are like. it's very ignorant on your behalf to presume that most girls see multiple partners before choosing one. gold[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-7 points-6 points-5 points 1 year ago (8 children)there's really no such thing as 'falling in love', its just extreme lust caused by 'feel good' hormones that cloud your judgement. i've always thought that meeting people and having chemistry through normal interactions is more enjoyable, whether it's just as friends or more than that. giving different types of people a chance on dates will help you to define who you really are and what you really want from a partner.[–]scoodledeebebop 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (2 children)i think online dating is different though. i think this got somewhat whitewashed away in time as a way for people to rabblerouse about the youth of today. i start dating again, i'll probably just stick with one at a time. yes there is likely truth to that… i may need hercules one day (god help me! i hadn’t met them, so all the text would blur together. i have spent much of my life dressing down on purpose to distract attention, mostly because if i don’t i not only get too much attention from the menfolk but other women start looking like they are going to burn me at the stake! problem is in that time period in which she’s either trying to decide whether he’s marriage material or trying to find out if he sees her as marriage material. gold[–]armchairhandjob 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)if you're going on dates with more than one person at the same time, i see no issue. that said, i didn’t give it much time to be honest before i decided meeting people in real life just going about my day worked better for me. if they were both super busy for one another why would she still stick around? this thread[–]scoodledeebebop 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)commit to someone first, then start dating them? that, unfortunately, is the legacy bestowed upon the church by the organization that’s run by the guy with the funny hat. am not brave enough to deal with what would happen otherwise! you're having feelings for one of them but you're not ready to give up on your cool new sex cult. do not allow questions/comments from throwaways or accounts with low karma (< 5 for comments, < 10 for posts). it’s cause that’s where god put your nipples, girls. i never cheat though, it's always open and agreed upon polyamory. even if i double up on something, i can just pretend my phone sent the text twice. with strategy that’s not hard to do (all that pua peacocking advice would help w this) . i’d need to have even more extra/disposable income than what i already spend on him plus myself, work less than my typical 50+ hours a week, and be comfortable sharing intimacy with yet another person. i would go so far as to say that this path is only for women who do not plan on ever marrying or having children…too much drama otherwise. it is the best way to avoid settling for someone who might be nice and fine but not really the best person for you. one is vaginal lubricity and the other is erect nipples, and neither of those work all the time., I have just started dating girls first time in my life and I was wondering how others go about dating multiple people at the same time. there's nothing wrong with it, and it's really important to take your time and find out who you are and what you want.[–]cheddar_chexmixmale 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (2 children)well, that's one way to look at it. as in, before you were going steady people did date other people. the opposite end of this:I have guys talk to me in line at the grocery, at the gym, while i’m working/ringing them out, etc. talking to a bunch of people is much different than having multiple dates and getting romantic. best not talk to her at the gym because she is only there to workout….’ve experienced enough serial daters to know the difference between those looking for the potential of something real versus being engulfed in the thrill of the hunt. dating more than one person is a good thing and something that should be part of your dating life. gold[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (1 child)the tricky part is when you start out with multiple no-commitment coffee dates that turn into second and third dates. not make posts asking about a specific person's or group of people's actions, behavior, or thinking., it's a thing these days as a large number of boys and girls in their teens/early-20s don't wanna settle and go out as much as they want., it likely comes from being relatively close to the city, unfortunately. having said all that, it sounds like she might be using you to make the other guy jealous, so you're taking a chance.[–]benjamminmiller -1 points0 points1 point 1 year ago (0 children)you forgot to leave your hangups at the door.” buckle up bloom and don’t take this personally, and what follows does not apply to a [email protected] fuzzie, it must be a relief to be a bear — i like the simplicity of it! but if you’re “going steady” with at least one guy, then, yeah, dating other ones is probably indicative of someone’s commitment issues – your’s or his. maybe you shouldn't project your opinions onto the rest of the dating world. gold[–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 1 year ago (4 children)to be fair there is a limit, by the first or second date you should know if want to continue dating that person. it's the same as not dating somebody because you dislike their attitude, or their political views, or that they are for/against drugs, vaccines, etc. i don't think you need to volunteer the info to her, but you shouldn't hide it either. i'm going to assume you paid both times but i could be wrong. which do you think will communicate your attraction to him more- that or a plate of cookies? dating several people at once is not about having to hide things or about being deceitful. i pass no judgement on those that just want extremely casual. majority of people don't buy the first car they see.”…not much of a way to act clueless without coming off as either incredibly stupid or a total bitch. you know you're going to have to have the talk with them and tell them you're not interested in becoming exclusive, but also they're really good at going down on you and losing that will suuuuuck.

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honesty can bring you great pleasure and helps you avoid a lot of drama.[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-6 points-5 points-4 points 1 year ago (11 children)chill no need to get upset bro. if either of these are not what the woman wants, she is 100% better off doing traditional dating or coupling. at that point i would also ignore messages from other women on dating sites. some point, if you want the ltr, you need to drop plates and i’d say sooner rather then latter. if you're having those initial coffee-dates with more than one woman at a time, no foul. this guy has superior abs and is a better listener most of the time. gold[–]dcdictator 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (0 children)having sex with person a then person b then person a again is, to me, usually cheating. how to do that is something only your will be able to pick up on. the moral of the story for one of them is how a particular woman was fooling around with multiple men and the reputation it got her. obviously there is a difference between early getting to know someone vs. to multiple people is all part of the discovery process, and i agree it completely depends on where you’re at. that way, it doesn’t waste the time/resources or harm the emotions of a commitment-minded male. at least not the people you should want in your life. of her circumstances, the woman who is married yet not with her husband is in adultery with any man she has sex with who is not her lawful husband. (example: you go to the date site on time, she never tells you she can't make it. just better to be oblivious about it and enjoy life than think of it. i feel like telling someone "hey i want to be the only person you're dating right now" could come off as possessive in today's dating culture, but you're not going to feel comfortable with the idea of the other person being just as happy dating someone else at the same time. i think that women who do this, do it because they can. are likely correct that a hard no is often better than the indirect no, because once again it’s a woman/man communications thing, women are taught to “be nice” when they say no so they beat around the bush about it (no pun intended) when in fact that may only confuse the guy who thinks, “if it’s not a no it could still maybe someday be a yes. i still turn heads but when i was 18, it was more like trains, planes, and automobiles were crashing around me at all times if i wasn’t careful! i've gone out with a guy 1 or 2 times, so what? are correct in presuming that bears are conscious of their gender. 7, the point of the test drive is to nail down the sale. he says, “i don’t want to see anyone else…what do you think about going exclusive? more or less said,"one of the things i can't stand about dating nowadays is not having all the cards on the table and i only want one card on the table at a time, what do you think?, i call bullshit on the other guy not having enough time for her. but she is going to be all kissy with her plan b option anyway? i might be talking to them, but i'm not actively seeing them. if you’re dating broadly, never spending more than a few dates with any one person, it probably doesn’t matter much. at any time im texting 5-8 girls and seeing 2-3. lot of girls ghosted me in the past possibly due to these reasons and i fell into moments of mindset finding dating more as a job than something fun but you don't want this. most of what you describe i would advise women forgo….[–]wiking85 -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (1 child)sure, but you don't just go on a single date and start long term dating that one person, right? should have left well enough alone and not rocked the boat. i even think that dating many people might be one of the best ways to find the one person you are really looking to find. only time i “dress to show” is when i’m already out with my fwb and he’s been needing a pick-me-up from his depression when it gets bad. your comparison to an inanimate object cannot encompass this wide range of human interests and sentiments. but told me that i've really impressed her and she has had so much fun with me. he revealed all i needed to know about his character right then, i am not silly enough to not know if he would do it to her, he’d do it to [email protected] toad, once again i was thinking your avatar was tsk, and this advice from tsk seemed well…rather direct! however one quickly learns some people photograph much better than they present in person, as well as the opposite. as for exclusivity we'll eventually talk about it, no hurry or pressure. only way to figure out who and what you truly want in a partner is to date multiple people. and honestly it sounds like she'd just go looking for another guy to add to her rotation even if the she did dump the guy she was seeing prior to you. women already know that answering that question isn’t easy, but it has a lot to do with his character and how strongly she’s attracted to him. because dating numerous people on the dl is exactly how you get your dick cutoff and burnt alive in your sleep. thing is one can always always come up with some random reason to talk to someone… maybe guys are always thinking of it as a pick up, because guys don’t just talk to girls for no reason, but the secret is most girls don’t know that! you both realize that asking her to divorce immediately is a pretty huge thing that affects a lot of people, so you send her home to her husband and/or family. strongly suspect that the charts and graphs demonstrating the woman’s n prior to [official marriage] strongly correlates to the likelihood of the [official marriage] failing is a case of seeing a phenomena that doesn’t exist. sadly, so few people (especially women, it would seem) are introspective enough to truly *know* what they want in the long term. it is curious that the concept of a beta orbiter is so culturally recent. this is fantastic advice for any woman in the dating world to strongly consider. once i got the impression one person was interested, though, i’d usually drop the others. if he didn’t close his comments on the source post i referred to, i’d send a link to this post (and mine) and see what kind of comment he has. when it comes to settling down, even in these “modern times” guys truly care about this — men prefer women who have had fewer sexual (or better yet no) partners over more — no matter what your gal pals tell you. people always say they don't see a point in getting married because they are already in an exclusive long term relationship. it’s tricky, i usually just act clueless, like i didn’t notice the pick up, somehow exit gracefully, no rejection needed. and attracting amazing men and women happens to those who have an "abundance mindset. don't work hard to nail her down just so ten others can walk into your life and you have to start un-nailing her. better to date one guy at a time, both of you make a decision one way or the other if it’s possibly going to progress or not by date three or so, and act accordingly. i regret it, because it led to me losing the only actual worth-a-damn woman i dated when she found out. it’s all no strings, hooking up and hoping for the best it seems.[–]yerg99 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago* (0 children)monogamy is a weird thing in our culture. until you go out and work on your inside, there's no way you're going to attract the person you want., this advice is based on the premise that a woman values a single, monogamous relationship about all else. thats why i said earlier that if you feel a connection to a person you should then agree to be exclusive, before that point it's fair game. is the one resource money cannot buy and we all have 24 hours in a day. this is the fine line that baffles me… “i don’t want to date or be involved with multiple people. she had mentioned that she was seeing someone else but they are both super busy for one another, which is why she accepted to go out with me. it soes seem to me that someone shot herself in the foot.

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people are back in the dating realm as a form to get over an ex. i'd prefer that i (and my future mate) not choose from a place of scarcity or infatuation. - don't get me wrong, different strokes for different folks and she is free to do as she pleases - but if you are a 'one woman kind of man' you are probably better off dating women who also share that philosophy - trust me, plenty of girls would appreciate your point of view on the matter! so it's time to realize that you don't have to make up your mind about someone you meet on date number one. part of working on your inside is going out and meeting lots of people. date multiple men, but i never let them know that i am doing so., if you want some friendly feedback on your profile or the photos you are using, i would be happy to take a look! if yes, the question is whether he sees her as marriage material. you don't like being one of multiple people that she's seeing, then it's fine to stop seeing her because of it or not approving of it. gold[–]weedbro 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)there are plenty girls who are the same man dont sweat it. by taylornator7a community for 7 yearsmessage the moderatorsmoderatorstaylornator7uphoria♂dakruthrowaway3051cardinalsfanatic♂rampagingkoalakoality control officerjustonevotemale_invinoveritasfemalebaseball44121♂scarecowymale. then you can find yourself on third dates with two girls in the same week and it sucks, because you can't sustain that. that person may very well leave you for someone else, so it makes sense not to exclusively date one person. one of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most. i've always been that way myself, although my reason being "one woman is trouble enough. commentssharereportall 145 commentssorted by: besttopnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)[–]cheddar_chexmixmale 135 points136 points137 points 1 year ago (12 children)i really doubt this is going to be a popular opinion, but if you don't like that facet of the dating culture, don't conform to it. they think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar. using the power of choice is the key getting what you really want in your dating life. you have to tell the girl that you want to be in an open relationship, that you might go out with other girls and she can do the same. date you go on make sure you let her know she should be treating you. is why i prefaced my previous comment with a warning not to take it personally and said it was advice that had no application to a virgin. are likely correct that a hard no is often better than the indirect no. that’s what the hard no is supposed to do.” but, notice… that didn’t say get under 5 other people.. we obviously keep talking and what not, we had to reschedule date #2 twice. if you are dating a girl you are going out on multiple dates right? some women use sex to get what they want from their men? for venues where the opposite sexes meet, for some mysterious reason, they all turn into sausage fests. i've lived on both the east and west coast and i've never experienced this.[toad raises an eyebrow in surprise] bloom, i told you not to take this personally. that means you're virtually unable to properly fall in love with someone you're fucking in the same time period as other people. gold[–]randomitchmale 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)just be upfront about it bro. gold[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (11 children)why do i care what random women do? the rest of the time you should be working on yourself. gold[–]anderson_buck 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)that's probably why he's testing the waters, to see if he wants to commit. of reaching for he bandaids and a padded bra, get rid of the bra, go with a shelf-bra (leaves the nipples exposed) or use those sticky thingies that do the black-magic boob adjustment but leaves them free to bounce around without a bra. someone communicates that to me, i have the expectation that they are not out with a different person each night of the week and making out with each one at the end of the night (or more. it doesn’t work that way, especially with alpha men. if you don't feel like it's for you then don't do it. if he’s rp aware, then a significant part of his answer will be wrapped around how attracted to him he thinks she is and now she’s looking at the 3-date rule (more on that later) because for him that’s a good rule of thumb. i won’t try to explain, but doing that is a form of submission to him that he will appreciate at a subconscious level or perhaps at a conscious level if he sufficiently aware. you have to be honest at every step along the way and do the right thing. for a number of reasons, but i think you touched on it with #9 – clouded judgement. or 2, or 3 or 4… but in keeping with the instruction of paul in 1st cor. finding chemistry and compatibility online was like a needle in a haystack for me. you really like a girl, you shouldnt have emotional or physical time to date others. *now* start with the steaks and sammiches and afterward help him exercise off those calories., of course — if the slipper fits after you meet any gal who finds you via rpgcupid (tm) just send me a finders fee! if a woman really does want to be a slut, then the “no dating multiple men” rule won’t apply, and she’ll do as she pleases. i am beginning to think that all venues that worked don’t do so now or won’t in the future. making sure one hookup isn't leaving things at your place that another hookup could find later. for the girls and the headlights, well to explain why would be tmi but just trust me on this. don’t talk to her at the gym, she is there to work out. she might be fun, but if you're looking for a relationship or are likely to get emotionally attached, she's not for you. thinking about dan’s post on his “successes”, the guys who don’t get their messages returned may be the better for it. great, now i'm just dating one person like a commoner. don’t have access to a scanner to post any of it, but also came into some 50’s era romance comics i’ve been reading. as well ask my dog to deal poker as ask women to be honest agents in the smp. there lies the issue with most of these situations… people are not honest about what they’re really looking for, or it changes by each passing day. it should be manged like the precious resource it is. it isn’t that it was “ownership” as much as it didn’t reflect reality. two, if i start seeing someone else too, do i tell her? can be scary to put all your eggs in one basket but women will only chase the carrot for so long before they emotionally detach from you.” the issue could be circumstances, could be one of attraction, could be as simple as logistics, but the message is the same- be the man and solve the problem.(usual disclaimer, not all men are like that, not all women are like that. say it depends on where you are in the process. because i have heard guys in the manosphere say so over and over again. so many websites believe it is okay to date multiple guys until the couple agree on being exclusive. no but that doesn’t seem like much of an investment in time. it doesn't make you an immoral person to do so. great, now i have to find multiple destinations in completely different neighborhoods so i don't accidentally overlap and then have to have an awkward exchange in the middle of the street.

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[–]jonab12cool kid flair 4 u 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)a lot of people have the option to shop for the best partner product. are in a damned if you do and damn if you don’t situation. if the 1st thing you say when they open is i have a boyfriend or not interested then you come across as a bitch. this may be true of some women who are dating multiple people, i actually believe that there are many good (and, in fact, great) reasons to date several different people when you're single.…he’s ok with you dating (and especially sleeping with) other guys while you are dating (and/or sleeping with) him…. do what feels right, and if that means one at a time, then do that. short, there’s a lot stacked against making and finding a true lasting connection these days, and no clear path for navigating from point a to b. from a gal’s standpoint, i am not so sure the three date rule is wise because she risks racking up her n count if she’s dating guys who are just looking to get to date 3, add a notch to his conquest sheet, then bail (unfortunately i have seen that happen to friends — a lot.)submitted 1 year ago by pegaz887hi, i have just started dating girls first time in my life and i was wondering how others go about dating multiple people at the same time. here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. asking “isn’t my life complicated enough” is really asking him to give the woman what she wants without any complications. gold[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (9 children)if she sleeps with other guys then i'm moving on. break, but honestly you have no guarantees, even marriages are fleeting. · 183 comments what baked good do you make that crushes at parties? thanks to a concept called “preselection” women will often be more attracted to a man who is with another attractive woman. a decent percentage of the ‘sphere has guys who complain about sexily (not slutty) dressed women and how they’re horrible teases. gold[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (14 children)if you think that people who "explored their options" thoroughly are happier with the choice they made than those who didn't, you're wrong. it’s an admission that she wants it but at the same time doesn’t want the complications that would result… so the message is., men who tolerate women dating other guys often do so because they are themselves seeing multiple women.[–][deleted] 54 points55 points56 points 1 year ago (39 children)dating isn't about commitment, its exploring your options.[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i learn the hard way. i have against dating multiple people at once is that it dilutes the hormonal rush that falling in love essentially is between multiple people making you unable to attribute that amourous state of mind to anyone in particular. yeah, it definitely doesn't end well which is why i personally advocate exclusive dating, but i understand that there are a lot of factors that go into dating so my perspective definitely isn't the only one or necessarily the "right" one. again, the medium is the message and in *your* case the message would simply be delivered in a much more concrete fashion. women assume (perhaps wrongly) that other women have done the due diligence and so it’s a form of subliminal shorthand to indicate a guy is high value. but, i do have issues with those saying one thing and meaning another. the assumption of dating a conventionally attractive woman, there is a chance she is dating other men under she becomes committed to another guy. i would say that well over 99% of the women out there who think they are not married actually are. you haven't had a convo about exclusivity and it seems (not sure) that you're not sleeping with her. not complain about other subs here or post to push an agenda..Point being, best to ignore what women say on the topic of when to approach. gold[–]upsidedowntreetrunk♀ 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)what the fuck does welfare have to do with any of this? golduse of this site constitutes acceptance of our user agreement and privacy policy.. you want to schedule them back to back but you've seen enough sitcoms to know that's not a good idea.[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (4 children)i'm convinced it is a city thing. if you end up liking one person more than the others and decide to see that person exclusively, you may have some awkward moments with the others, but being honest is always the right thing to do. at that point it's really hard next to impossible to reignite the flame if the woman detaches for that reason. is, i can usually tell pretty quickly which ones are going to sway the conversation towards a date request. a side note, i am currently working on the theory that the woman’s n is *not* in any way a major issue a man should consider when dealing with women, it’s the an (number of adulteries committed) that is the issue. the “sexual revolution” and “free love” were concepts born of extreme hubris and/or a complete denial of human nature and gender dynamics. there is no other way the text can be read. a lot of guys handle this situation with no issues. when you're on a date with one person but thinking about another person." when you develop an abundance mindset, you see that the people who come into your life are ones to whom you are very attracted. optimal solution would be if both me and the girl i'm dating are on same page on this thing. with your approach you're risking putting all your time and energy into potentially the wrong person, by doing so you could've missed out on the perfect person for you."two, if i start seeing someone else too, do i tell her? gold[–]riujitakatsu 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)thanks for asking op. they go out with whoever happens to cross their path and then don't look any further. for some reason dating advice to women by women advises that gals “date multipole people at a time” and i agree, it’s bad advice! one and only thing that you're responsible for, it's telling, from the beginning, what your intentions are. when you tell someone you just want to keep it casual for now and they think that just means you don't want to get married and have kids within the year.“if it’s not a no it could still maybe someday be a yes. up meetup in your area so you can get out and meet people. have actually heard more than one high quality manospheriasn say it was the one gal who good heartedly swatted him off initially (while clearly signaling she was into him) that ended up winning his heart.'m not trying at all to say you are, i am not trying to be disrespectful at all. you'd be trying to protect yourself first and foremost, when you should be trying to enjoy life, first and foremost. just know that from a man’s point of view, there is almost nothing more disgusting than a girl who acts like that and no quality man in his right man would want to associate his name to her. gold[–]fabosexy 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)i hate it too op but its the way it is. if you see dating one person at a time as the honorable and right thing to do, then that's what you should do. “i’ve got a dog that does that but i’m not a bitch in heat. maybe worse bc there was this odd “job interview” contrived quality about it. there is no right or wrong, only an opinion and which side you choose on it. boys, battle of the sexes, blue pill, casual sex, commitment, courtship, dating, love, marriage, red pill, relationships, romance. again, we were talking about accomplishing the goal of *demonstrating* physical attraction to the man *without* having sex and i stand by what i said.[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (12 children)you're using marketing catchwords to describe relationships. i always thought dating was the “see if we like each other” phase, and then commitment was the time you…commit. gold[–][deleted] 22 points23 points24 points 1 year ago (47 children)dating is testing the waters, why would you put all your eggs into one basket? unlike their human counterparts, girl bears don’t dither over mating decisions. she did say that she plans on seeing that other person again as well., you’re not my type but i hope that a good one comes along before you lose patience.

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current evidence demonstrates that (at best) only about 20% of people in the church are virgins when they get married and only about 5% of the ones in the general population are virgins when they marry, it is reasonable to assume that between 80% and 95% of the couples in any given church are living together in state and church sanctioned adultery. but a gal has to know the difference between that situation and a “no deal” one before she whips out the ribbons and lace! some want to just talk, but more try to ask me out…to which i decline, but will give a short hug to soften the blow. she is satisfied with the answers, then she should start fucking his brains out. i'm sure many people will agree and disagree for their own reasons. she doesn't want exclusivity then you have to decide to end it or keep dating her knowing that she's seeing other people. if her father lets the marriage stand and her husband is a christian, forbidden to divorce his wife for any reason (1st cor. i don't think it's possible to date more than 3 girls at a time. gold[–]swallonyall 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)god damn youth ruining everything! wait, i wonder if he has information i should know about. and then you find out there's no chemistry and you start again! when i visited nyc i was completely off guard by how direct the ioi’s were. as i said, in the beginning, you don't have to bring up the fact that you're dating around. but i don't think that is how most people go about dating. there is simply no way someone can focus on an individual when they’ve invited the herd at feeding time. hit it off right away and date number one goes super well. gold[–]scoodledeebebop 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)the trouble with these 'facts' is they're all what i call 'couch data' - research conducted by projecting one's own biases on the general population. i don't know if it was me or you who changed their views or just a lucky streak of topic we happen to agree on. i suppose it’s “old fashioned” but the old ways often work because generations and generations were spent trying and failing to fine tune them., i realize what i’ve said is in complete disagreement with virtually everything christians have ever been taught about sex and marriage. i don't know anyone who dates multiple people at once. gold[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children)usually i know if i want to see that person again, as long as i'm interested i won't date others.[–]triplebackflip69 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)makes so much sense :).[–]upsidedowntreetrunk♀ 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)have fun with that. for a guy, you contact twenty women and maybe four or five respond, one or two sustain a convo online, lucky if even one turns into a face-to-face meeting. it's just how you roll, so you should "do you", man. “date multiple guys at a time” advice is just another example of women thinking they can act and behave like (alpha) men. and that includes not talking about ex-boyfriends on dates, or sharing any details about hell dates i’ve been on. you're not worried about exclusivity, but if she sleeps with someone else you're done? not such a bad thing when it comes to choosing a long-term mate? i think his girlfriend realized last time that he wasn’t here only to check out the farm products so hopefully she’s put my place on the list of places they are “too busy” to visit! i don't feel good about being "one of the many" she might be seeing at the same time. today, with birth control, sex and babies may not be as tightly connected but our brains are still wired the same as 1000 years ago. gold[–]pacsan300one y chromosome 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)for me, "dating" long-term means exclusively being in a committed relationship with only one person, who i call my girlfriend. my now gf also always dated multiple guys but at the end of the first date she was so hooked on me that she didnt want to date others anymore. i only ask that the female is not so blatantly seeing other girls or mentioning it to me. don’ t bother her at starbucks because she wants to enjoy her coffee and get on with her busy girl power day, dont talk to her at the bar, she is there to hang out with her girlfriends and dance… by her self; cannot hit on them at work because of sexual harassment. once you've found this person, you agree to be exclusive. some want it and others don't, there's nothing wrong in not wanting to settle down with one person., if i'm not seeing anyone why would i be sleeping with anyone? some of them will "drop off" naturally as one or both of you realize you are not a good match. being new to a bigger city i feel like i'm on top of the world at moments. i am pretty sure bears know their gender, so bears can vote! especially for a woman as you have described yourself to be. gold[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (7 children)firstly i'm not paranoid nor am i omniscient. met a lot of cool girls that have stopped sending me nudes. meeting in person works for you, then, stick with it. i have spent much of my life dressing down on purpose to distract attention, mostly because if i don’t i not only get too much attention but the gals start looking like they are going to burn me at the stake! and if she can walk to the kitchen to make him a sandwich afterward, he didn’t do a good enough job. cause i'm in a relationship now and i was upfront about it bro..i don't see an issue unless they are lying about it. if you were to start a relationship with a woman that you already have a long standing friendship with, then i think it is ok to say "yes i like you enough that i would like to explore whether or not we can take this deeper by being exclusive. i always like to have options open (and make new ones) and i do move quickly between failed dates but once there's one girl i'm really interested in she becomes my main option (which only happens when i'm sure she is going to meet me). you meet lots of people to figure out which one you prefer to spend your time and energy with. thus, they make incredibly lousy decisions that only serve to give instant, rather than delayed-yet-better, gratification. cause it seems like you are better off what you are already doing since changing yourself is hard and scary. gold[–]shizukarosefemale -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 year ago (0 children)wtf. you don't have to tell the people you date how many people you're dating. that's just me, my life, my single experience and view of it. that “men are the gatekeepers of commitment, women the gatekeepers of sex”, then i’m not really sure this makes sense for women. so no a girl should not be fucking multiple men or sexually active with more than one man at a time. the frequently asked questions and do a search before asking a question. actually ladies (hope you don’t mind dan) since most of the male bloggers don’t post photos of themselves, it’s easy for women to think, “oh he’s just some loser living in his mom’s basement anyway. gold[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)personally, i don't agree with dating multiple people at once. if the topic comes up just say you're a one girl at a time kinda guy. i’m a naturally friendly person so don’t mind the conversations and will happily engage in interesting topics. woman capable of saying “no” to a man is a woman who is capable of saying “no” to their children, or to a salesman, or to anyone else… or even to herself. just be real about that with those contacts that interest you.[–]hoffytownmale 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (10 children)i should have clarified that i'm saying that one woman you start courting will be dating other dudes. i just moved half way across the country last month. doing so for the hell of it/more often wouldn’t occur to me, plus it seems cruel to do to other men.

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a week later both of our schedules me up and we go out again. so, to get a quality man, “dating multiple men at the same time” would not be the best strategy. were i you, i'd continue to explore my options in the new town - you are bound to meet more people and chances are some of them will have higher set of values than to swap spit with anyone who ask her out. will add a “fill in the blank” category…for bears and such 😉. real love is formed after being with someone long term.[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (12 children)there's a huge fucking difference between marrying the first person who gives you attention and having to fuck multiple people at the same time in order to make a choice which one seems like a suitable partner. it's a little silly too because by sharing them you're basically becoming exclusive. we're still nothing to each other and i certainly don't know him well enough to throw away opportunities i may have with other nice guys. they are people who stimulate your mind and your soul. women who are not virgins but eligible to marry (meaning they are no longer married) are like used cars- nobody is going to get upset if you take it for a test drive. don't have to make a decision on any particular number date. plus, if you are busy with other guys, that gives him time to seek out other women! think it is delusional to chase after only one person with the hope that you will eventually become exclusive. reading artisanal toad’s comment, i don’t know if i am more mad or disgusted. for exclusivity we'll eventually talk about it, no hurry or pressure. a first date is a fact finding mission, but once i agree to go on more dates, i am not longer trying to set things up with other women. get to see her and you're both very excited because you're crazy about each other. it is a great way to really take the time to understand what you want in another person -- and to know when you have found it. as you say, w online dating first you have to even make a connection, then there’s this emailing/phone call stage that’s pretty time consuming, then finally there is the face to face where it seems to be a yes or a no on each side fairly immediately. i would ask you why you are uncomfortable with them dating multiple people. i am not brave enough to deal with what would happen otherwise! i have always thought that the right and honorable thing to do is to date only one girl at the same time and only when that is finished, it's alright to move on to someone new. if i am correct (and i think i am), it will turn a large portion of “red pill wisdom” on its head. i think a lot of women really don’t realize this is a huge deal to guys who are looking to date seriously, not just play the field.. when they all drop off the map except for the one you were the least into. he really is the keeper to my freaky universe and i should probably tip him more. there's been 1 person out of 5 this year or so who actually got that point without flaking or ignoring me beforehand. since women are the way they are, the only visible indication a woman is really attracted has to do with her nipples, so it leads to a single question-. myself, the three date rule need not involve sex but, there should be some token of being earnest about going forward..based off what you said, seems she wouldn't even be dating you if the other guy was more available to her. tarn, east coast is way different than where i am. 7:11), then she can either be reconciled to him or stay separated, single and chaste. where i live there’s always some plausible deniability…is he just nice or is he chatting me up? it *isn’t* that the virgin should be saying “not until you put a ring on it” but rather the virgin *must* understand that giving him her hymen *is* the act of giving herself to him in marriage. gold[–]clearlysituational 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)eh, all young people these days are about as reliable as a lemon you get for 0 off craigslist.” 3 cups of coffee with three different dudes in 5 days is not the same as walking around with three different types of baby batter in her jizz box. the less, there is some truth behind it, although it's men and women that do it. while god is not mocked, neither does god punish people for doing something that he did not [email protected] toad see today’s post and ballista74’s post on how the church crowd is missing the boat too. just tell her early on that you want to be exclusive. be the contrarian: how has that been working for you? if you feel you want to be exclusive, the two of you can discuss it, but dating is a very weak contact of any sort. had my boyfriend found out i was dating multiple guys, i think he’d have ended things early on, as would i in the reverse scenario. this person is fine, so there's no need to cast around for others, right? especially when i'm seeing other people besides you in a romantic context, which i am absolutely doing right now. dating should never be about who is pursuing you the hardest out of a group. gold[–]jonab12cool kid flair 4 u 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (0 children)agreed. a guy is really direct and i am not interested, i employ plausible deniability. is dating multiple guys at a time good, in your opinion? worst of it is spending the better part of a night looking for someone that looks like a possible, composing a message, and not hearing a a thing back., it triggers an ancient and long held fear in men of being cuckholded — that should you get pregnant, the baby might not be his. everyone assumes you are exclusively dating if you schedule a second date. by getting rid of the orbiters and their steady supply of attention, when she finally gets the approval/validation from a man that’s fit to rule her, she’ll squirm in ecstasy like a beagle pup getting some attention. they might make an exception for an alpha cad but, for a guy who may go the distance…. and it is perfectly reasonable to wait until they ask to say no thanks. if they haven't expressed any desire for commitment, then you should act accordingly. so, you are at least 3 standard deviations from the norm, yet, that does not negate the advice i gave in any way. gold[–]showmethebiggirls 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (0 children)why don't you just ask her if she's seeing other people instead of getting your shorts all in a bunch?[–]my_swamp_now 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)uber left and uber right are both delusional. worst of it is spending the better part of a night looking for someone that looks like a possible, composing a message, and not hearing a a thing back.[–]chenjane -1 points0 points1 point 1 year ago (1 child)are you a libra? if we're at the point we're sleeping together, i don't want you seeing other people. reeks of plots and plans and moves and counter moves . when you tell a story a bunch of times because you can't remember which one you already told it to. ultimately, they fail to see how equally a failure that is, for the reasons you describe – they fail to think it out in practicality and simply monday morning quarterback as most everyone commenting on dating and marriage do. chat room: hang out with the other askmen regulars on our irc chatroom. this is another one of a woman’s standards she has to be able to articulate- at least for herself.… if all systems are go, she should be wearing pretty underwear and give him a chance to see how it looks on the floor sooner rather than later. i’d have to go back through my transcript to find out how many: just did, she referred to this man 276 times in the space of a year’s worth of entries almost always denoting doing something with regards to him, subtract about 20 or so for multiple references in the same day, but you get the idea. gold[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)imagine dating a married woman. · 79 comments how do you ask a girl out after you've already known her for a while?


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permanent ones, like vasectomies or even tubaligation could be used, too. the next few days we keep talking, and then we got talking a little more personal, i then ask if she is seeing anyone else. when someone says “it’s been great talking to you, how about i take you out for a coffee? all you have to do is show up, be present and connect with each person when you're with them. unfortunately in online dating things can be all about the photos…a big drawback to it imho.[–]wolfcry0 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)dating has nothing to do with commitment, that really comes after. post, one i’m going to save for eventual comment on my own place if i end up doing a link round-up. most females hate the idea of being in an ltr with a guy who will never commit, and this fact should be taken into account. what you describe as “dating multiple men at the same time” is not actually dating multiple men at the same time. what is the point of winning a game that has no fixed rules? but she had no idea… covert love opps, slide in under the bitc# shield radar. she has 4 ways of being released from that marriage: in general, her father can annul the marriage according to his authority given in numbers 30 (in your case, i agree with ton, talk to your older brother, who was your nearest adult blood relative at the time. he is an emotional whore, giving away his most valuable asset cheaply. gold[–]kanst 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i am not that experienced but that is how i have always felt. someone can't stand the idea of being exclusive, and you want to be exclusive, tell them.” dan isn’t as shy, so let’s have a look to see if he’s the kind of guy a gal might hope to cuddle up for a lifetime with, shall we? don’t you want a high quality man rather than one who is too timid to draw the line in fear of losing you? gold[–]benjamminmiller 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)the choice to get nachos after the bars have closed. i’ve experienced this situation multiple times and those pursuing the hardest are almost guaranteed to the be the ones that ghost you once the conquest is achieved. it can work for a statistically insignificant minority, but even then only in very specific situations, probably 2 guys at most, and with corresponding prerequisites. i suppose if someone goes the online route they would need to realize, like it or not, one has to make a fairly dramatic visual and personality impression to even be considered. gold[–]bowsntoes21 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)i'm a republican and i date multiple girls at one time. for most, it translates to endless, long-term frustration for many of the other reasons you listed. (it’s been shown that verbal rejection can chemically hurt as much as a slap to the face, and i prefer to not cause pain. in your details below or click an icon to log in:Email (required) (address never made public)[email protected] fuzzie i found online dating to be just as scattershot as meeting people in person. you can be dating six or eight people at a time, getting to know each of them. (even the covenant of peace that god gave to phineas) the new covenant, of course, was instituted with the shed blood of christ, once for all for all time., the relationship could progress to a point where the two of you could talk and decide to be "exclusive". unless you two have discussed your feelings for each other and explicitly agree to monogamy, be safe and expect that you're probably not the only one. he encourages me to see other people but it is not something i have resources for currently. i don’t have many strong expectations on the front end when dating, but if i’m going to focus what i bring to the table on one woman, i expect that focus back. if yes, all she has to do is secure commitment and there are many different positions to experiment with. the various metaphors for why you should/n't date multiple people are just silly. had he not hit on me when he was married he may have had a shot. say, two can play that game and have two men. dating advice today, women are often told to date more than one guy at a time as a way to prevent getting too attached to any one guy until he gets attached to her. being honest helps weed out the ones you will enjoy spending time with. my guess is that there is some insecurity or jealousy that you would want to deal with a counsellor because it us going to cause you problems down the road. i mean, i haven't met their friends yet so it's possible they all hang out together in some sort of sports league situation and next thing i know i'm showing up to one of their football games and realizing i'm dating the entire cast of friday night lights. is dating multiple guys at a time good, in your opinion?” that’s a double-whammy because it depends on his socio-sexual rank., are they both looking for a life partner for this thing called marriage? gold[–]arkofjoy 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i think there are different issues here. the adamic, noahic, abrahamic and mosaic covenants were all instituted with sacrifice and the shedding of blood. gold[–]jewfro667male 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)i'm doing it right now and it's difficult as fuck. reason a lot of women shy away from dating multiple people is because they feel awkward about what to say if one of the people they're seeing asks them about it. personally i haven't met too many women who were so simple i could understand them by one or two dates, but i mean if you can then yeah go for it. and the alien logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. if they still aren't on board, go see someone else. if you live in fear and insecurity, you are going to meet someone exactly like you.[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-8 points-7 points-6 points 1 year ago (13 children)i know plenty of guys that married the first girl that gave them attention and ended up losing half their shit in divorce. i’m not talking about a standard that rejects a repulsive gamma, i’m talking about a guy like your hercules who is probably a far worse husband-material choice than a repulsive but loyal gamma would be… but… he’s hot and he trips her switches so instead of a “no” he gets a massive shit test. in older generations' time there was even the more formalized notion of going steady. just like 98% of what women say for online dating open with a a hey you/ hey there. plus, isn't it better that i'm not committing to someone i'm not sure about than to commit too soon and still reminisce about rando boning? is a huge part of a relationship’s starting foundation, regardless of what type it is.. most guys are idiots and don’t have a clue what the subconscious signals of interest are that women display for a man they find attractive, but if your response to his approach is a big smile and your high beams come on, doncha think that’s going to be [email protected] fuzzie dan has some good stories of online dating madness – check out his gym junkie gal tale for example! you might miss opportunities, you might miss dates, but at least you won't feel bad about having those opportunities in the first place. gold[–]unajodienda 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)nothing in life presents itself as an optimal solution. gold[–]benbo1008 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)dating => yes. …other women start looking like they are going to burn me at the stake! almost every day (or every other day at most) after she references meeting this man, there was a reference to a date with the same man. don’t be too easy, ladies, it may make him wonder how easily you would cheat!'ve found another question that's answered with opinion but started as strongly as fact with either side having valid points and there not actually being one answer. it is tough for them to keep a relationship together. am sure you realize the way she behaves with you on a date is likely the same way she behaves with others on a date? generally when talking to multiple guys i never tell them about each other because i'm not rude and i try to break it off as soon as i feel we're not compatible. what it demonstrates is that she doesn’t take dating seriously and she doesn’t take the guys she is dating seriously. but where you live people are more aggressive about it so maybe that wouldn’t work.

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we know that you object to the “three date rule”, here is a sound reason for it. gold[–][deleted] 31 points32 points33 points 1 year ago (3 children)i went through a big online dating kick about a year ago, and typically was dating two girls at a time. at no time should a man be regulated to such a status by someone he is supposedly dating. you may need to do a little more leg work, and while it may require going on a lot more dates, it is absolutely worth it to get uncomfortable and to leave your dating comfort zone. most women with experience dating are used to having guys try to string them along and will cut it off if they find enough reasons to deterrmine you aren't progressing the relationship. gold[–]pegaz887[s] 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (8 children)i agree, but you didn't touch on how i could address if i'm not the one doing multiple dating at the same time. i would never date someone who was dating multiple people. goldcontinue this thread[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-8 points-7 points-6 points 1 year ago (9 children)dating is a superficial process.” if a woman is going to be a slut, then be a slut. too many gals just don’t get the gatekeeper concept. if she asks, or it somehow comes up, then be honest. best strategy to not get caught up on it is to do it your self. this makes me dread the rejection part because they’re wasting their time and should be using it on someone who could potentially say “yes”. it avoids the issue of having to admit (especially to herself) that she has standards she won’t compromise because to ask the question is proof she doesn’t have said standards.[–]cheddar_chexmixmale 27 points28 points29 points 1 year ago (5 children)it's a bit of both from what i can tell. or, put him in contact with me and i’ll explain it to him) or her husband can die. gold[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)do you want to end up with your dick cut off and being burnt alive while you sleep? it's just your life, your opinion and view, and the way that you roll. i am not brave enough to deal with what would happen otherwise! initially, if you meet them casually, you really, as i see it to dictate how they spend their time when they are not with you.[–]gizmo-duck 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)this is why people have such a hard time justifying marriage. to ways to avoid the 3-date rule, forget the baking cookies thing. the moderators with any questions/comments, or before posting a survey/study/other personal content.[–]upsidedowntreetrunk♀ 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (3 children)who the fuck is shaming you? great advice, most likely there is someone woman out there who is looking for a guy like you. gold[–]theguyabovemeeatspoo 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)it's not a big deal to fuck around. if you still feel the same way about her after a few dates with others, continue working to nail her down. that and the commentary in malachi 2, there is actually a question as to whether a marriage between a man and a woman who is not a virgin is a covenant marriage, but that is speculation on my part. to mention, when she's out with that other guy, you're going to need something to do. when people meet spontaneously one skips all that lead up, and jump right to yes or no and then the “getting to know you” phase follows. isn't that what dating is - to get to know people you might be interested in? it must be nice to have somebody buy all those meals and attend to you. and i know he sees other people doing it too. if he is, does she really want this guy to get away? gold[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)what the. gold[–]newdecade1986 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)exactly, what op is talking about as 'dating' for 80% of cases probably means those first 1-3 dates where people pretty quickly realize whether they have an interest in each other or not. (see it yourself on dan’s blog, ladies…too funny! she wants to get married, then she must decide things in this order. gold[–]benjamminmiller 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i've never know this sub to be so insular. opinion is that most people i have actually dated in person (or tried to date from tinder) were not seeing other people and certainly weren't banging them on the side. if i meet someone, sleep with them the next week and then the next week she's sleeping with another dude i just brush it off. the woman is married to the guy she gave her virginity to and since her father didn’t annul the marriage (how was he to know she got married or that he could annul it? also is common in the reverse, a married man with a girlfriend. no one does and you got to accept it and have fun instead of worrying you're competing. people do not associate love with sex and some don't need sex for love. expect more than that from a woman i'd consider having a relationship with. great, now i've met another person who knows i'm dating this person and i have to spend my dates with other people looking for that person like they're a spy who could cause my undoing., arm-chair prognostication from people who don’t know what they’re talking about, put to people that just don’t think about it.. none of the people involved, most especially the woman, should not want marriage. finding it means meeting and interacting with as many prospective significant others as possible.’t talk to her at the gym, she is there to work out. if she wants to get married she should be courting, not dating and certainly not hooking up. instead join various social or voluntary groups where you are involved with both men and women to make something interesting happen. because of sexual dimorphism, it is obvious at a distance.'dating' someone meaning continually seeing them for a long period of time is a different thing in most cases. a woman wants a husband her standard should be “is this guy marriage material? as i outlined at my own place, courtship fails in this regard, but dating multiple guys happens to be the answer for those who see that courtship is a failure, as thomas umstattd jr. i've just accepted it as a part of today's dating culture that i'm not a fan of, but the reality is that if i want to date someone i'm going to need to put up with that. i was picking up a date once (we’d flirted a bit on campus but this was only the second “date”) and we got about half-way from her door to the car when she stopped and said “no. gold[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (5 children)well it depends on how emotionally involved i am. patience is one of the most important aspects of being selectively single and investing in the process until the ‘one’ comes along, from my perspective. that would (possibly) kill her circle of beta orbiters and a girl has to have her fall back plan. but if the ultimate goal of a woman is to get commitment from men (which is harder than sex), then spinning plates like a man might do doesn’t make sense., it likely will cloud your judgement as far as any one guy. no guy wants to marry the town bicycle, as the old saying goes. be honest — are you dating multiple guys because it’s a way to psychologically deal with the fact that one of those guys (the one you really want) won’t commit to you? dates in with a good connection should be enough time for her to make a decision and she's choosing to try and see you _and_ at least one other guy. there's a million people with a million different ways of thinking. gold[–]halfysreddit♂ 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)you can always ask her if she's seeing anyone else, although personally i wouldn't as it might come across as too interested in personal matters too quickly. aww, this love note you left on my pillow in the morning is completely cute but now i have to hide it in an old grocery bag i'll shove in my closet so the person i have coming over in an hour doesn't get offended by something they technically don't have any right to be offended by because it's only our third date. yes this entire blog is based on women forgoing today’s norms, like hook up and casual sex and such, and why she should.

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's her way to tell you that she does right now not have the intention to be exclusive with you..Now that said, it is (again) your opinion and your choice.” i assure you, it made a *huge* impression on me. what you describe is disrespectful to the men and to the girl herself. i don’t think it matters for the millions of women who are no longer virgins because the rules of marriage apply whether or not it’s a covenant marriage. gold[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 1 year ago (2 children)i think it's about interacting with a single person over extended periods of time. most important reason to date multiple people, in my opinion, is that it is the number one best way to really find the person you're looking for. gold[–]kittyhammer 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (0 children)benefits of dating multiple people at the same time:Fast-track to meet the women on the same wavelength. gold[–]blonderson 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)i don't think this is nearly as common as you claim it is. if i had the perfect girlfriend, beautiful, funny, clever, whatever but i found it she was “dating multiple men” i would be history within 30s. personally, i consider any guy with another gal off limits, but red pill field studies show this often works in a man’s favor.), every single sexual liaison after that was an instance of adultery, including her state and church sanctioned official “marriage. goldcontinue this thread[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (1 child)there was a time when i had you at like [-15] in my res, you just evened the score with that comment. she lies she lies and the second i find out it's over.. what if their roommate/friend you met sees you on a date with someone else? the point of dating is to get to know [email protected] ton, somehow i have a feeling that you just barge on in with conversation regardless! if she’s friendly, well then after some rapport…come up with some reason to get together/meet up/talk again… do you think liz’s mike honestly wanted to study? gold[–]wiking85 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (3 children)what do you think dating is? of what the state or church says a woman’s marital status is determined by god’s law. (however if you're hitting point of sleeping with the second girl, you should probably be cutting off contact with girl 1 so it's kinda moot.” is actually a request for the guy to keep plowing and see where it gets him. most dates don't go anywhere, being forced to compete against another guy just lowers the chance of it turning into a relationship even more. other way to avoid this issue is to avoid the whole dating scene altogether. gold[–]upsidedowntreetrunk♀ 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (8 children)if i like you enough to go on a date with, i'm not dating other people. it’s avoiding the finality of saying “no” because… well… he’s hot and maybe… somehow… who knows? you are dating you should be seeing more than one person. if you feel yourself getting emotionally dependant, step back and reevaluate your emotional maturity.” bang a virgin and she’s married to you because that’s what *god* said about it. for the offer but, i haven’t signed on in over two years, maybe longer.[–]hoffytownmale 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (4 children)but how can you expect them to follow rules you haven't shared? because the betas and those nasty gammas and omegas don’t deserve even a hint of what they’ll never be allowed to have. preferably at the same bar so i could just sit there all night motionless like a beached seal. logistically, it was just confusing to trade messages with multiple people and keep their information straight. it felt disloyal to entertain the idea of more than one guy and i thought it sounded like a disaster in the making, having to eventually choose. · 56 comments how do i turn down a guy who hasn’t directly asked me out? you can't go to your favorite bar on all your dates because the others might see you there. of the things i noticed was most women are not open to being approached most of the time, so when you do run across one you best get to chatting…. at the same time, if you date exclusively, you don't get that feeling of guilt when you have to sort of toss aside x number of people and you've been committed to that person from date one. if he’s ok with you dating (and especially sleeping with) other guys while you are dating (and/or sleeping with) him, he’s already determined he will not commit to you — ever. you may also not have an initial spark, but once you get to know someone they become more attractive by parts of their personality they didn't share with you at the start. 3 cups of coffee with three different dudes in 5 days is not the same as walking around with three different types of baby batter in her jizz box.. the issue is one of standards and the woman must (and i do mean “must”) have some standard, some heuristic in making her decision about whether a man is marriage material *for her. think most often girls are seeing multiple people at the same time until one of them becomes serious, but i'm having a hard time accepting this. he may not be and that’s where you’d hope he has enough integrity to be honest… although there isn’t a whole lot of reason to lie about stuff like that at this point because if a guy has the basics and knows game, it’s put out or get out, there are plenty of fish in the sea. i think most often girls are seeing multiple people at the same time until one of them becomes serious, but i'm having a hard time accepting this. my past experience i think if you really like her you need to win her over.[–]hoffytownmale 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (8 children)why would she tell you that? if you are in the 1st couple of dates/ getting to know you phase, yes everyone should be dating as many as the can arrange. so long as it doesn’t feel to “pick-upy” chances are she’ll think you are just being friendly. the question becomes one of “how does she communicate that she’s very attracted to him and she’d really like to rip his clothes off and wear him out without actually doing so *and* without explaining what her reasons are? someone asks you if you are dating others, you need to be honest and tell that person that you are, but that you are enjoying spending time with them. a woman who is not a virgin and yet not married (from god’s perspective) there is *no* prohibition on having sex with a man she is eligible to marry (which excludes incest, miscegenation and other stuff). have you ever thought about this and how can i go about accepting that this is how things work? get out there and know that an amazing relationship is out there for you, but that you are the one who has to go find it.[–]shizukarosefemale 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago* (1 child)do some of you guys think going out on a second date implies exclusivity." naturally, if you're casually dating someone and having sex with that person, always wear a condom. if the rules apply to you for your post/comment? eh, that joke was funny but not as funny as the ones that the guy i date on saturdays tells. ok, i think i'm just gonna copy/paste text all three of them as much as possible. rarely were people in person the persona they portrayed online.. agreements with everyone involved to still practice safe sex and use proper birth control methods. i've had rough patches with this strategy (like the girl who always flakes me despite supposedly showing interest) but i feel comfortable with it. has algorithims that give a clue to personality compatibility it was there on their profiles in terms of percentages. standard equipment on women is a hymen, designed to be broken (there’s your shedding of blood) in the act of becoming one flesh as she initiates the marriage covenant with a man. is the opinion of my guy, and a lot of it has to do with the fact we are “just” fwb, even after 9 years. realize dating is experimental, and if you want to feel safe in it, don't give up sex or your heart more than you feel is appropriate for the non committed thing is. the likelihood of being taken for granted since you have others. online one would assume someone is talking to multiple people, i would think, but once a match is made, then they’d focus on each other. there are two reliable indicators of sexual arousal for women that can’t be faked. · 6 comments what’s something you secretly love about your so?

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