The DOs and DON'Ts of Dating More Than One Guy at a Time
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honesty can bring you great pleasure and helps you avoid a lot of drama.[+][deleted] comment score below threshold-6 points-5 points-4 points 1 year ago (11 children)chill no need to get upset bro. if either of these are not what the woman wants, she is 100% better off doing traditional dating or coupling. at that point i would also ignore messages from other women on dating sites. some point, if you want the ltr, you need to drop plates and i’d say sooner rather then latter. if you're having those initial coffee-dates with more than one woman at a time, no foul. this guy has superior abs and is a better listener most of the time. gold[–]dcdictator 12 points13 points14 points 1 year ago (0 children)having sex with person a then person b then person a again is, to me, usually cheating. how to do that is something only your will be able to pick up on. the moral of the story for one of them is how a particular woman was fooling around with multiple men and the reputation it got her. obviously there is a difference between early getting to know someone vs. to multiple people is all part of the discovery process, and i agree it completely depends on where you’re at. that way, it doesn’t waste the time/resources or harm the emotions of a commitment-minded male. at least not the people you should want in your life. of her circumstances, the woman who is married yet not with her husband is in adultery with any man she has sex with who is not her lawful husband. (example: you go to the date site on time, she never tells you she can't make it. just better to be oblivious about it and enjoy life than think of it. i feel like telling someone "hey i want to be the only person you're dating right now" could come off as possessive in today's dating culture, but you're not going to feel comfortable with the idea of the other person being just as happy dating someone else at the same time. i think that women who do this, do it because they can. are likely correct that a hard no is often better than the indirect no, because once again it’s a woman/man communications thing, women are taught to “be nice” when they say no so they beat around the bush about it (no pun intended) when in fact that may only confuse the guy who thinks, “if it’s not a no it could still maybe someday be a yes. i still turn heads but when i was 18, it was more like trains, planes, and automobiles were crashing around me at all times if i wasn’t careful! i've gone out with a guy 1 or 2 times, so what? are correct in presuming that bears are conscious of their gender. 7, the point of the test drive is to nail down the sale. he says, “i don’t want to see anyone else…what do you think about going exclusive? more or less said,"one of the things i can't stand about dating nowadays is not having all the cards on the table and i only want one card on the table at a time, what do you think?, i call bullshit on the other guy not having enough time for her. but she is going to be all kissy with her plan b option anyway? i might be talking to them, but i'm not actively seeing them. if you’re dating broadly, never spending more than a few dates with any one person, it probably doesn’t matter much. at any time im texting 5-8 girls and seeing 2-3. lot of girls ghosted me in the past possibly due to these reasons and i fell into moments of mindset finding dating more as a job than something fun but you don't want this. most of what you describe i would advise women forgo….[–]wiking85 -4 points-3 points-2 points 1 year ago (1 child)sure, but you don't just go on a single date and start long term dating that one person, right? should have left well enough alone and not rocked the boat. i even think that dating many people might be one of the best ways to find the one person you are really looking to find. only time i “dress to show” is when i’m already out with my fwb and he’s been needing a pick-me-up from his depression when it gets bad. your comparison to an inanimate object cannot encompass this wide range of human interests and sentiments. but told me that i've really impressed her and she has had so much fun with me. he revealed all i needed to know about his character right then, i am not silly enough to not know if he would do it to her, he’d do it to [email protected]
toad, once again i was thinking your avatar was tsk, and this advice from tsk seemed well…rather direct! however one quickly learns some people photograph much better than they present in person, as well as the opposite. as for exclusivity we'll eventually talk about it, no hurry or pressure. only way to figure out who and what you truly want in a partner is to date multiple people. and honestly it sounds like she'd just go looking for another guy to add to her rotation even if the she did dump the guy she was seeing prior to you. women already know that answering that question isn’t easy, but it has a lot to do with his character and how strongly she’s attracted to him. because dating numerous people on the dl is exactly how you get your dick cutoff and burnt alive in your sleep. thing is one can always always come up with some random reason to talk to someone… maybe guys are always thinking of it as a pick up, because guys don’t just talk to girls for no reason, but the secret is most girls don’t know that! you both realize that asking her to divorce immediately is a pretty huge thing that affects a lot of people, so you send her home to her husband and/or family. strongly suspect that the charts and graphs demonstrating the woman’s n prior to [official marriage] strongly correlates to the likelihood of the [official marriage] failing is a case of seeing a phenomena that doesn’t exist. sadly, so few people (especially women, it would seem) are introspective enough to truly *know* what they want in the long term. it is curious that the concept of a beta orbiter is so culturally recent. this is fantastic advice for any woman in the dating world to strongly consider. once i got the impression one person was interested, though, i’d usually drop the others. if he didn’t close his comments on the source post i referred to, i’d send a link to this post (and mine) and see what kind of comment he has. when it comes to settling down, even in these “modern times” guys truly care about this — men prefer women who have had fewer sexual (or better yet no) partners over more — no matter what your gal pals tell you. people always say they don't see a point in getting married because they are already in an exclusive long term relationship. it’s tricky, i usually just act clueless, like i didn’t notice the pick up, somehow exit gracefully, no rejection needed. and attracting amazing men and women happens to those who have an "abundance mindset. don't work hard to nail her down just so ten others can walk into your life and you have to start un-nailing her. better to date one guy at a time, both of you make a decision one way or the other if it’s possibly going to progress or not by date three or so, and act accordingly. i regret it, because it led to me losing the only actual worth-a-damn woman i dated when she found out. it’s all no strings, hooking up and hoping for the best it seems.[–]yerg99 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago* (0 children)monogamy is a weird thing in our culture. until you go out and work on your inside, there's no way you're going to attract the person you want., this advice is based on the premise that a woman values a single, monogamous relationship about all else. thats why i said earlier that if you feel a connection to a person you should then agree to be exclusive, before that point it's fair game. is the one resource money cannot buy and we all have 24 hours in a day. this is the fine line that baffles me… “i don’t want to date or be involved with multiple people. she had mentioned that she was seeing someone else but they are both super busy for one another, which is why she accepted to go out with me. it soes seem to me that someone shot herself in the foot.
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people are back in the dating realm as a form to get over an ex. i'd prefer that i (and my future mate) not choose from a place of scarcity or infatuation. - don't get me wrong, different strokes for different folks and she is free to do as she pleases - but if you are a 'one woman kind of man' you are probably better off dating women who also share that philosophy - trust me, plenty of girls would appreciate your point of view on the matter! so it's time to realize that you don't have to make up your mind about someone you meet on date number one. part of working on your inside is going out and meeting lots of people. date multiple men, but i never let them know that i am doing so., if you want some friendly feedback on your profile or the photos you are using, i would be happy to take a look! if yes, the question is whether he sees her as marriage material. you don't like being one of multiple people that she's seeing, then it's fine to stop seeing her because of it or not approving of it. gold[–]weedbro 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)there are plenty girls who are the same man dont sweat it. by taylornator7a community for 7 yearsmessage the moderatorsmoderatorstaylornator7uphoria♂dakruthrowaway3051cardinalsfanatic♂rampagingkoalakoality control officerjustonevotemale_invinoveritasfemalebaseball44121♂scarecowymale. then you can find yourself on third dates with two girls in the same week and it sucks, because you can't sustain that. that person may very well leave you for someone else, so it makes sense not to exclusively date one person. one of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most. i've always been that way myself, although my reason being "one woman is trouble enough. commentssharereportall 145 commentssorted by: besttopnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)[–]cheddar_chexmixmale 135 points136 points137 points 1 year ago (12 children)i really doubt this is going to be a popular opinion, but if you don't like that facet of the dating culture, don't conform to it. they think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar. using the power of choice is the key getting what you really want in your dating life. you have to tell the girl that you want to be in an open relationship, that you might go out with other girls and she can do the same. date you go on make sure you let her know she should be treating you. is why i prefaced my previous comment with a warning not to take it personally and said it was advice that had no application to a virgin. are likely correct that a hard no is often better than the indirect no. that’s what the hard no is supposed to do.” but, notice… that didn’t say get under 5 other people.. we obviously keep talking and what not, we had to reschedule date #2 twice. if you are dating a girl you are going out on multiple dates right? some women use sex to get what they want from their men? for venues where the opposite sexes meet, for some mysterious reason, they all turn into sausage fests. i've lived on both the east and west coast and i've never experienced this.[toad raises an eyebrow in surprise] bloom, i told you not to take this personally. that means you're virtually unable to properly fall in love with someone you're fucking in the same time period as other people. gold[–]randomitchmale 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)just be upfront about it bro. gold[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (11 children)why do i care what random women do? the rest of the time you should be working on yourself. gold[–]anderson_buck 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)that's probably why he's testing the waters, to see if he wants to commit. of reaching for he bandaids and a padded bra, get rid of the bra, go with a shelf-bra (leaves the nipples exposed) or use those sticky thingies that do the black-magic boob adjustment but leaves them free to bounce around without a bra. someone communicates that to me, i have the expectation that they are not out with a different person each night of the week and making out with each one at the end of the night (or more. it doesn’t work that way, especially with alpha men. if you don't feel like it's for you then don't do it. if he’s rp aware, then a significant part of his answer will be wrapped around how attracted to him he thinks she is and now she’s looking at the 3-date rule (more on that later) because for him that’s a good rule of thumb. i won’t try to explain, but doing that is a form of submission to him that he will appreciate at a subconscious level or perhaps at a conscious level if he sufficiently aware. you have to be honest at every step along the way and do the right thing. for a number of reasons, but i think you touched on it with #9 – clouded judgement. or 2, or 3 or 4… but in keeping with the instruction of paul in 1st cor. finding chemistry and compatibility online was like a needle in a haystack for me. you really like a girl, you shouldnt have emotional or physical time to date others. *now* start with the steaks and sammiches and afterward help him exercise off those calories., of course — if the slipper fits after you meet any gal who finds you via rpgcupid (tm) just send me a finders fee! if a woman really does want to be a slut, then the “no dating multiple men” rule won’t apply, and she’ll do as she pleases. i am beginning to think that all venues that worked don’t do so now or won’t in the future. making sure one hookup isn't leaving things at your place that another hookup could find later. for the girls and the headlights, well to explain why would be tmi but just trust me on this. don’t talk to her at the gym, she is there to work out. she might be fun, but if you're looking for a relationship or are likely to get emotionally attached, she's not for you. thinking about dan’s post on his “successes”, the guys who don’t get their messages returned may be the better for it. great, now i'm just dating one person like a commoner. don’t have access to a scanner to post any of it, but also came into some 50’s era romance comics i’ve been reading. as well ask my dog to deal poker as ask women to be honest agents in the smp. there lies the issue with most of these situations… people are not honest about what they’re really looking for, or it changes by each passing day. it should be manged like the precious resource it is. it isn’t that it was “ownership” as much as it didn’t reflect reality. two, if i start seeing someone else too, do i tell her? can be scary to put all your eggs in one basket but women will only chase the carrot for so long before they emotionally detach from you.” the issue could be circumstances, could be one of attraction, could be as simple as logistics, but the message is the same- be the man and solve the problem.(usual disclaimer, not all men are like that, not all women are like that. say it depends on where you are in the process. because i have heard guys in the manosphere say so over and over again. so many websites believe it is okay to date multiple guys until the couple agree on being exclusive. no but that doesn’t seem like much of an investment in time. it doesn't make you an immoral person to do so. great, now i have to find multiple destinations in completely different neighborhoods so i don't accidentally overlap and then have to have an awkward exchange in the middle of the street.
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current evidence demonstrates that (at best) only about 20% of people in the church are virgins when they get married and only about 5% of the ones in the general population are virgins when they marry, it is reasonable to assume that between 80% and 95% of the couples in any given church are living together in state and church sanctioned adultery. but a gal has to know the difference between that situation and a “no deal” one before she whips out the ribbons and lace! some want to just talk, but more try to ask me out…to which i decline, but will give a short hug to soften the blow. she is satisfied with the answers, then she should start fucking his brains out. i'm sure many people will agree and disagree for their own reasons. she doesn't want exclusivity then you have to decide to end it or keep dating her knowing that she's seeing other people. if her father lets the marriage stand and her husband is a christian, forbidden to divorce his wife for any reason (1st cor. i don't think it's possible to date more than 3 girls at a time. gold[–]swallonyall 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)god damn youth ruining everything! wait, i wonder if he has information i should know about. and then you find out there's no chemistry and you start again! when i visited nyc i was completely off guard by how direct the ioi’s were. as i said, in the beginning, you don't have to bring up the fact that you're dating around. but i don't think that is how most people go about dating. there is simply no way someone can focus on an individual when they’ve invited the herd at feeding time. hit it off right away and date number one goes super well. gold[–]scoodledeebebop 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)the trouble with these 'facts' is they're all what i call 'couch data' - research conducted by projecting one's own biases on the general population. i don't know if it was me or you who changed their views or just a lucky streak of topic we happen to agree on. i suppose it’s “old fashioned” but the old ways often work because generations and generations were spent trying and failing to fine tune them., i realize what i’ve said is in complete disagreement with virtually everything christians have ever been taught about sex and marriage. i don't know anyone who dates multiple people at once. gold[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children)usually i know if i want to see that person again, as long as i'm interested i won't date others.[–]triplebackflip69 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)makes so much sense :).[–]upsidedowntreetrunk♀ 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child)have fun with that. for a guy, you contact twenty women and maybe four or five respond, one or two sustain a convo online, lucky if even one turns into a face-to-face meeting. it's just how you roll, so you should "do you", man. “date multiple guys at a time” advice is just another example of women thinking they can act and behave like (alpha) men. and that includes not talking about ex-boyfriends on dates, or sharing any details about hell dates i’ve been on. you're not worried about exclusivity, but if she sleeps with someone else you're done? not such a bad thing when it comes to choosing a long-term mate? i think his girlfriend realized last time that he wasn’t here only to check out the farm products so hopefully she’s put my place on the list of places they are “too busy” to visit! i don't feel good about being "one of the many" she might be seeing at the same time. today, with birth control, sex and babies may not be as tightly connected but our brains are still wired the same as 1000 years ago. gold[–]pacsan300one y chromosome 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)for me, "dating" long-term means exclusively being in a committed relationship with only one person, who i call my girlfriend. my now gf also always dated multiple guys but at the end of the first date she was so hooked on me that she didnt want to date others anymore. i only ask that the female is not so blatantly seeing other girls or mentioning it to me. don’ t bother her at starbucks because she wants to enjoy her coffee and get on with her busy girl power day, dont talk to her at the bar, she is there to hang out with her girlfriends and dance… by her self; cannot hit on them at work because of sexual harassment. once you've found this person, you agree to be exclusive. some want it and others don't, there's nothing wrong in not wanting to settle down with one person., if i'm not seeing anyone why would i be sleeping with anyone? some of them will "drop off" naturally as one or both of you realize you are not a good match. being new to a bigger city i feel like i'm on top of the world at moments. i am pretty sure bears know their gender, so bears can vote! especially for a woman as you have described yourself to be. gold[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (7 children)firstly i'm not paranoid nor am i omniscient. met a lot of cool girls that have stopped sending me nudes. meeting in person works for you, then, stick with it. i have spent much of my life dressing down on purpose to distract attention, mostly because if i don’t i not only get too much attention but the gals start looking like they are going to burn me at the stake! and if she can walk to the kitchen to make him a sandwich afterward, he didn’t do a good enough job. cause i'm in a relationship now and i was upfront about it bro..i don't see an issue unless they are lying about it. if you were to start a relationship with a woman that you already have a long standing friendship with, then i think it is ok to say "yes i like you enough that i would like to explore whether or not we can take this deeper by being exclusive. i always like to have options open (and make new ones) and i do move quickly between failed dates but once there's one girl i'm really interested in she becomes my main option (which only happens when i'm sure she is going to meet me). you meet lots of people to figure out which one you prefer to spend your time and energy with. thus, they make incredibly lousy decisions that only serve to give instant, rather than delayed-yet-better, gratification. cause it seems like you are better off what you are already doing since changing yourself is hard and scary. gold[–]shizukarosefemale -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 year ago (0 children)wtf. you don't have to tell the people you date how many people you're dating. that's just me, my life, my single experience and view of it. that “men are the gatekeepers of commitment, women the gatekeepers of sex”, then i’m not really sure this makes sense for women. so no a girl should not be fucking multiple men or sexually active with more than one man at a time. the frequently asked questions and do a search before asking a question. actually ladies (hope you don’t mind dan) since most of the male bloggers don’t post photos of themselves, it’s easy for women to think, “oh he’s just some loser living in his mom’s basement anyway. gold[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)personally, i don't agree with dating multiple people at once. if the topic comes up just say you're a one girl at a time kinda guy. i’m a naturally friendly person so don’t mind the conversations and will happily engage in interesting topics. woman capable of saying “no” to a man is a woman who is capable of saying “no” to their children, or to a salesman, or to anyone else… or even to herself. just be real about that with those contacts that interest you.[–]hoffytownmale 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (10 children)i should have clarified that i'm saying that one woman you start courting will be dating other dudes. i just moved half way across the country last month. doing so for the hell of it/more often wouldn’t occur to me, plus it seems cruel to do to other men.