Signs you are dating someone with bpd

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[–]writtenbynick 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago (16 children)yup, definitely my fault, you're right. and if you think they are, you may begin to speculate as to whether the person is a narcissist or a borderline. finally, i realized that she's mentally ill and i couldn't live with someone who didn't exist in reality. one week it was hehe you're so naughty, next week it was ew get the **** away from me then text dump. these women treat their new boyfriends like objects and literally won't shut the **** up when they first meet you to their friends talking about this amazing guy she met. the scary part is if they're high functioning borderlines (like i'm assuming yours was) is that they actually have the ability to appear rational and quite normal at times so if they do contact you after the breakup (and they always do guys) you may find yourself getting reeled back in before you know it, hell i questioned my own sanity at that point. just be in control of her financials (or keep hers and your accounts seperate), keep them away from drugs and alcohol, lay the pipe correctly, and just don't do anything to piss them off to the point where they are suicidal. maybe i should be glad she left me for someone else. the national alliance on mental illness reports that living with bpd can manifest into destructive behavior, such as self-harm (cutting) or suicide attempt. so do you think there's any hope for the borderlines after therapy to have a successful relationship? what you so nicely call "one-sided sob stories" are facts and events that have real implications and consequences on the lives of people, families and children. only a professional can diagnose borderline personality disorder, so it’s crucial to get help if you think this illness could be affecting you. and what's really unfortunate is that there are males with borderline personality disorder too, but it's the women who tend to get the label more frequently.- she tells you she loves you within the first month or first few dates of knowing her..they make you feel like you can work at some **** hole like burger king the rest of your life but everything will still be ok as long as you have each other. you have been involved with someone who appears to be seriously interested in the relationship but who sometimes goes emotionally off the rails, lashes out at you, and becomes over-defensive. bpd or not, that's what that's called - when you tell someone something that isn't true. i didn't know anything about bpd before my girlfriend was diagnosed with it and certainly had no awareness that my girlfriend had it. just arm yourself guys, and if you think there is a chance you are dating one run for the hills. i had a romantic interlude some time ago where someone who may or may not have a disorder said "compared to your ex wife i'm a wet dream". that does not mean that you won't hear about their awful, horrible behaviour while they're off the wagon if you go to an al anon meeting. narcissists and borderlines lack the self-awareness of an “observing ego”. the subreddit is not to your liking given that there are a large volume of people here who are coming out of the fog and realizing just how abusive their relationship was, there are other forums on the internet. it's really tough when you try to love someone who keeps moving the goalposts around on you depending on their ever-changing moods. i'm not saying people should just do that, but talk to your lawyer and see what your options are. i don't know think she's bpd, but she is bipolar. her diagnosis with bpd, i understood my girlfriend to have some form of depression as well as social anxiety, which i believe she still may have in some capacity in addition to her bpd. sarcastic, drawing out the word for emphasis, just the way you wrote it. lot a girls do it several times in the initial few days/weeks to see how far you will go; they do it even to the handsome guys they are interested in. during these years i had suffered bpd unknowingly, and then knowingly. many people are here to share their experiences to undo the effects of crazy-making, gas lighting, flying monkeys, manipulation, and all the other terms you can use to describe the kind of abuse that some people with this disorder push on their partners. those with bpd often display unpredictable and erratic behavior as the result of varying moods. if your partner is capable of some form of healthy love and communication and non-abusive behaviour and is successfully receiving treatment for their condition, then i'm betting you are not in the same boat as a lot of the people who actively seek out support here. you recognize any of these symptoms in yourself or someone you love?

What You Need to Know When Dating Someone With Borderline

- she tells you she loves you within the first month or first few dates of knowing her. you have been involved with someone who appears to be seriously interested in the relationship but who sometimes goes emotionally off the rails, lashesWe also serve as a safe space for nonbpds to discuss the experience of being abused. these women are the walking dead and will kill you emotionally, if not physically if you let them, someone in the sky was looking out for me because i was able to get out while i could." she wants men to think that she is not easily impressionable and she thinks it makes her more desirable to him, while at the same time fails to realize that she is on a very thin line and she could lose him forever and settle for someone less. goldreplycontinue this thread[–]bgodmz 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (6 children)a few things to bear in mind:Personality disorders are a spectrum. goal is to educate, because even though bpd only makes up for about 5% of the female population these women usually have a lot more partners than the average chick making the odds of running into one much higher." then (she's afraid of abandonment) she's nice, kind, sweet, to pull you back and you get a glimmer of hope, then the cycle repeats itself. is a reason you are posting here and not there. of these disorders are the result of an incompletely formed sense of self. a person with borderline personality disorder often has intense emotions about friends and others close to him/her, in particular lovers or caretakers, which may correlate to fear of abandonment. i mean, we'd had discussions where she had admitted that they were clearly part of her mental health issues, but how dare i bring that up when her feelings in the moment don't agree with that? because partners of bpd are some of the most loving, patient, compassionate people in the world. just didn't take all of that abuse the right, validating way! and you eventually, once you can't live up to the perfect man she thought could rescue you from her horrible dark life. a ton of years of my youth dating a bpd. flips out when you don't text her back in time etc. only way i could see it work is if you were to live with a sociapathic mindset 24/7. these outdated “survival skills” are based on the particular nature of the person’s early trauma combined with the developmental trajectory that followed. goldreply[–]xtramundane 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago (0 children)my own personal list includes the time honored "i don't care", and the personally tailored "maybe i just need to find someone more flexible and my own age". you feel like the king n then devalues you, causes you to wonder where that person went that you knew aka "splitting". do not put yourself at risk by staying in a situation where you might end up arrested even if you did absolutely nothing wrong. wish you the best, hell maybe she's not borderline but if she is don't be surprised when she leaves you out of the blue or starts ****ing your friends behind your back (be shocked if she hasn't already) you mean about as much to her as a toaster, and once she gets you to break she will replace you with a new model and no that model won't be better looking or better built than you, most bpd's actually downgrade in my experience..Yes they will contact you a year after not speaking and act like everything's okay. flips out when you don't text her back in time etc. goldreply[–]kasunex 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (4 children)safe space for people who are involved with bpds to talk about their experiences. still coldly doing all kinds of sketchy **** when you aren't around..in the beginning that is, once she has you she uses sex as a weapon until she gets bored of you. are many people here who are exiting or have exited relationships with their former bpd partner (you'll see the term bpdex floating around a lot). a persistent or episodic mental health illness doesn’t have to rule your life. that first night when she did it, i hadn't met with my lawyer for the first time, and armchair attorney advice online was "don't leave your house, no matter what! i hope you find a community that better suits your needs. oh and she will probably be sucking off/banging the guards for cigarettes. they are in relationships they get very intensely involved way too quickly. · 8 comments how to find balance between self respect vs loving others31323310 signs you're dating a bpd/npd (self.

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hatch on facebook at sex addictions counseling or twitter @saresource. i'm not sure if the girl i started dating is one, but she's showing some of those signs. vice: when did your girlfriend tell you she had bpd? both are likely to have some serious challenges when it comes to sustaining healthy relationships. these women bro- she never liked you, loved you, or cared about you. just gotta prepared to sort through the bs and emotionally disconnect yourself from that. goldreply[–]batmanlives3 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)at this point, you are just ranting and sounding very much like the people we talk about on this particular landing spot on the web. out r/bpdlovinsupport and r/bpdsoffa and you'll get a lot more sympathy. i'm glad you had the strength to survive and move on eventually. "it's rather silly that you're being so sarcastic, aggressive, and rude". borderline personality disorder (bpd), in particular, can be one such illness that zaps a person of energy, self-esteem, and hope for a better tomorrow. dsm 5 classifications list ten types of personality disorder, two of which are “borderline personality disorder” and “narcissistic personality disorder”. the scary part is if they're high functioning borderlines (like i'm assuming yours was) is that they actually have the ability to appear rational and quite normal at times so if they do contact you after the breakup (and they always do guys) you may find yourself getting reeled back in before you know it, hell i questioned my own sanity at that point. very glad you would hold me to this standard (my sarcasm is razor sharp deadly, i get it), but for pwbpd it is free reign because of their condition. but then what comes along with it, a couple of weeks later, is: "why didn't you call me back immediately? and what if they also have an exaggerated need for attention, over-react when criticized, and seem to shut you out for no reason? goldreply[–]thoughtitwaslove 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (1 child)do you have any other tips for success with bpd lovers? in order to be diagnosed by a mental health care profession, one needs to be at least 18 years of age and exhibit five or more of the following symptoms:Extreme reactions to real or perceived abandonment. you're in a functional, healthy relationship with a pwbpd who is successfully receiving treatment for their disorder, then you're in the minority, but i congratulate you and hope it continues being successful and stable.- she tells you she loves you within the first month or first few dates of knowing her. just so you realize, the only person in my marriage who ever used the term "craaaaazzy wife" was, in fact, my stbx about herself and how i must have seen her. although you will find it similar all across the web. but i get it, you had to assume, just no choice in the matter. so essentially you are blaming him for reacting negatively to your inappropriate behavior. vice: how have romantic partners reacted when you've told them you have bpd?- all of her exes are *******s or abusive, she's had numerous burnout relationships but the breakup never had anything to do with her roll eyes. goldreply[–]kasunex 5 points6 points7 points 4 months ago (14 children)i don't blame you for being bitter. the focus of the sub is to support nonbpds at any stage of their relationship with someone with bpd: during the relationship, ending the relationship, or after the relationship. you can have empathy for the pain they're in, but it's not an excuse. to the work of the late james masterson md and others, it now appears that these personality types are laid down early in life as ways to cope with the absence of necessary supports and supplies at a crucial time in the development of the personality. then the chick had the nerve to keep trying to check up on me after i moved on and started dating again. you on how to forgive them for everything, a complete and total pardon well condemning you for the same thing./r/bpd is the right place for bpds to seek support and validation. with bpd are often obsessed with being the "biggest victim", and that includes feeling victimized by strangers on the internet who are anonymously sharing their own personal pain.

What You Need to Know When Dating Someone With Borderline

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goldreply[–]stolenwake 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (0 children)"why do you take things so literally? then the chick had the nerve to keep trying to check up on me after i moved on and started dating again. dare you tell me i didn't care enough to make things better. ask when commenting to bear in mind, that while pwbpd share many common traits, each loved one here is dealing with an individual experience. you feel like the king n then devalues you, causes you to wonder where that person went that you knew aka "splitting".[–]bgodmz 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (1 child)along the same vein, i'll add "i"m a shitty partner", "you deserve better than me", "i'm afraid i'm going to hurt you. what advice would you give to someone who is dating a borderline and wants it to work? they want it to work they need to either be prepared to give reassurance: "i'm not leaving you, you're safe with me. goldreply[–]bgodmz 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (2 children)i actually remember her saying once "well, you know i always come back," like that's some kind of reassurance. a milder form these are normal responses to adversity or victimization. that is they have difficulty reflecting on what they feel or need or want and are likely to be dishonest, avoidant or manipulative rather than clear and assertive. people with borderline feel empty, and they are always trying to fight off what they perceive as rejection and abandonment, so they see abandonment and rejection where it doesn't necessarily exist.'s say you are banging one and she's hot and you are aware of her mental illness." "i didn't do xyz you're the one who did xyz. health issues don't justify abusive behaviour toward another human being, especially one you (supposedly) love. sharetweetsexlovedatingmental healthromancejennifer lawrencebpdpsychologistsilver linings playbookvice blog…newsletters are the new newsletters." she wants men to think that she is not easily impressionable and she thinks it makes her more desirable to him, while at the same time fails to realize that she is on a very thin line and she could lose him forever and settle for someone less. part of make sure she takes her meds do you not understand, srs?- she does whatever it takes to please you in bed.[–]married2bpd 5 points6 points7 points 4 months ago (0 children)i can't even explain the level of frustration i felt when she would dissociate. and with the amount of guys who date women online here, a lot of you probably are. whether real or imagined, a person suffering from bpd may show intense, often inappropriate, reactions when he/she feels abandoned. can be a massive headache at times but the right one will be the most loyal, loving girl to you. if you feel the need to share your frustration using strong language, do not aim it at the poster, but start another post where you vent freely about your own situation. feelings may constitute extreme love (idealization) or hate (devaluation) and are subject to change without notice or predicating event. made it nineteen with a position very similar to what you have above. unless you know you're obsessed with a persecution complex rather than being productive and helping yourself.'d be a lot more sympathetic towards you if you were coming off as polite, kind, reasonable, but frankly, you're coming off as an extremely unpleasant person.[–]theballinist[s] 12 points13 points14 points 4 months ago (15 children)as someone who spent 6 years in a physically and mentally abusive relationship full of lies, cheating, gaslighting and emotional manipulation, i think i'm allowed to be a little bitter., however, your relationship features large toxic or abusive characteristics, and you meet with a group of people to learn how to placate your abuser, i would strongly encourage you to read up on codependency and think about whether that may apply to you. in reality, [they] may have just not been aware whatsoever. still coldly doing all kinds of sketchy **** when you aren't around. they aren't concerned with the dating futures of other people with bpd. goldreply[–]bgodmz 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)the "we need to break up / oh actually no, you're right, i don't have a reason" started so early with me that it was extremely difficult.

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just gotta prepared to sort through the bs and emotionally disconnect yourself from that. above all, do trust your own insights and let the person know what you observe. apparently your partner is doing just the same if you can consider these behaviors as justifiable in the moment.. barbara greenberg: it's a personality disorder that's really all about having very intense moods, feeling very unstable in relationships, and seeing the world in black and white—things are either all good or all bad. validating her lashing out kinda seems like invalidating my own self-worth. you don't try to conform your worldview to their hallucination. detach yourself emotionally and your no longer useful to her because she needs a soul to feed off of, she will begin to look for a new host. goldreply[–]kasunex 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (3 children)for someone without anything to defend, you sure took the time to write that initial comment.- all of her exes are *******s or abusive, she's had numerous burnout relationships but the breakup never had anything to do with her roll eyes. the difference between someone with tourette's calling you a name and the person is bpd calling you a name is that that person wants you to suffer and hurt. if you are, in fact, hoping to find a place to give you advice and not have venting or the sharing of stories of abuse or listen to other people who want to know they're not alone in their situations, i can recommend bpd family. they tell you someone else is the problem, the person they've never met. regardless of whether low self esteem is the core or not, they manipulate this self loathing to make you feel sorry for them so they're never responsible for anything. if you look through this sub it appears the same 5-6 people post multiple times each day. commentssharereportall 85 commentssorted by: top (suggested)bestnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)[–]zaccapoo 18 points19 points20 points 4 months ago (4 children)good list. and the alien logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. i've been around many alcoholics and addicts over the years, and there are humans behind that disorder. on the other end try to play captain save a hoe a and "rescue her", that will only push her away from you. it really make a difference whether you are attempting to have a relationship with a narcissist or a borderline? seem like useful grey-rock tips8 · 10 comments he wants a divorce, i'm not sure why i care so much. in a nutshell these women (labeled as bpd or cluster b's will be the best you ever had in bed, will satisfy your ego in a way that no other woman will ever have, and provide such a high for you at the beginning of a relationship most normal women you meet will be boring to you. don't allow bpds to post or comment here to protect all involved (as per rule 1) and as there are two other subs that are designed as safespaces for bpds.[–]sunflower-power 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (1 child)i'm sorry that happened to you., that episode, that sentence is so overwhelmingly bpd it's threatening delete itself. because their emotion is all there, and acting that way is all they know, and then when you show them an easier way to be, and to act, they see how much easier life can be. is it like to date when you have borderline personality disorder? based on information from the national institute of mental health, some sufferers of bpd often have psychotic episodes as well, and three-quarters of the bpd population are thought to practice self-injury. » blogs » the impact of sex addiction » are you dating a narcissist or a borderline? i think it's primarily that women get the diagnosis because when women are upset, they get sad, depressed, and worried." so [people with bpd] get attached very quickly, give [the relationship] their all, but then get disappointed very quickly. the partners of peoples dreams are crude imagining of a flat character that mainly serves their desires. there are a lot of nuances, complexities, and lines to be read through with bpd, but mostly i see borderline personality disorder as an illness about pain, fear, and struggling to cope with all of that. i don't know think she's bpd, but she is bipolar. you don't know what you're talking about, really you do not, and this is probably not the right place to be posting for you.

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    ask any psychiatrist they will tell you bpd is the one disorder they are actually scared of. you say you left it a shell of a man you once were thats how i feel. If you or a loved one is seeking help for BPD, give us a call today. ask any psychiatrist they will tell you bpd is the one disorder they are actually scared of. more note: when you start referring to things you don't agree with as toxic circle-jerks, you lose a lot of credibility out of the gate. i had no real idea of what bpd was before then. have to assume that you're either a very angry and inconsiderate sort of person or that you have a hard time controlling your anger and tend to lash out at people. those suffering from bpd may often feel disillusioned or unfulfilled with their places in life. some have family members or have to co-parent with a bpdex and are looking for advice or an outlet to vent. when it comes to bringing the police into it, making false allegations, and threatening my future as a parent to my children.[–]sunflower-power 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (0 children)i used to get, "well i know i told you to leave every third day, but i don't know why you actually did it. aside the question of whether you should stick around, and assuming instead that you see some value in this person, you may be wondering whether they are exhibiting signs of a personality disorder. part of make sure she takes her meds do you not understand, srs? can be a massive headache at times but the right one will be the most loyal, loving girl to you. often feeling like he/she is “bad” or “evil,” a person with bpd may show signs of low self-worth or value. men or women, whatever their [sexual preference] is, tend to really like [people with bpd] at first, because they are very intense, and very passionate. they take lying to a new level and actually convince themselves that their feelings for you are the real deal. some people with bpd label people as "good" and "bad" friends (black vs. my girlfriend's diagnosis, i have done some considerable research on bpd, mostly as a means to better understand and to protect her. when i feel as though someone is secretly attacking me, i will get on the defense, become overly emotional, moody, and dramatic, and perhaps will call them out on it. would like to share my thoughts on the basic similarities and differences between these two disorders of the self and how they might affect relationships. goldreplycontinue this thread[–]marriedtothedevil 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)do you wonder if any of these people have jobs? these experiences upset you then you can only be insecure in your own relationship. we are often most blind to our own dysfunctional family relating.[–]thoughtitwaslove 3 points4 points5 points 4 months ago (0 children)thanks for that clarification, you're right. is literally a place for people to vent without exactly the kind of judgement that you are giving them. my pwbpd is the only one who says that about me.[–]writtenbynick 5 points6 points7 points 4 months ago (14 children)you nailed it. for people with bpd that refuse very long and intensive treatment, their main agenda is to control their illness by controlling their environment. is kind of like what you have to do when it comes to these women. if you ever want me to record that for you so you can play it back, i will!, you went on to say that /u/writtenbynick was abused because he wasn't validating his partner enough. goldreply[–]married2bpd 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago (2 children)"that never happened! as /u/oddbroad has said before, if that cured bpd, then no one would have it.
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    people i know that have stayed long term in a relationship with someone with bpd to a relatively successful level aren't concerned with going on a campaign. people also bring up the combination of symptoms ignoring the fact that they are part of specific groups of diagnostic criteria. i am part of a community for children with bpd, and we get the absolute worst of it. feeling unsure and being unsure about someone is normal and healthy. nobody is perfect, but if you read some of the stories here, you'll find the level of abuse most users received is above and beyond what you're referring to.- compliments you a lot, tells you your the best she's ever had, etc. most neglected people are the loved ones of people with bpd. bpd symptoms affect my relationships with family, friends, and lovers almost all the time. oh and she will probably be sucking off/banging the guards for cigarettes. spend a lot of time working with folks suffering from bpd, just as i spend time working with folks here suffering from ptsd.'ve done way too much reading on this because when something liek that happens to you, you want to search for answers. goldreply[–]oddbroad 3 points4 points5 points 4 months ago (0 children)people with untreated bpd are not exclusively asking for sympathy, they're asking for a universal pardon and an excuse. goldreply[–]oeu4 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago* (13 children)perhaps the reason your comments are being met with negativity isn't because you stumbled upon some hate-filled echo-chamber, but instead because you came here with no posting history to immediately jump on a thread and accuse abuse survivors of being bitter and stigmatizing bpd (simply for venting anonymously on the internet). these behaviors are often considered to be dangerously impulsive and can put oneself or others at risk.[–]oddbroad 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago* (0 children)you're demonstrating some traits yourself. she discarded me, she said "oh sweetie i'll remember you always and still love you", about 2 minutes after she called me the world's biggests piece of shit asshole for four nonsensical paragraphs. since we're now apparently editing our replies to add more points (fun! the pwbpd feels persecuted as if you are attacking them personally, even though you're just talking about your own ex. people with bpd may also seem overly reliant or dependent upon friends, lovers, or family members. youre left thinking "wtf happened to the person i used to know. what do you find to be the biggest misconceptions about bpd? if it gets to that point for anyone out there, don't worry about "upsetting" your partner. with proper treatment and maintenance, disorders like borderline personality disorder can be managed in such a way that allows you to live the fulfilling, happy life you deserve.'s a saying in the bible that says "the devil comes to steal, to kill and destroy" and that you must put on the full armor of god to avoid all of his traps". up for the best of vice, delivered to your inbox daily. before you knew the diagnosis, was there behavior that made you wonder if something was amiss? in a nutshell these women (labeled as bpd or cluster b's will be the best you ever had in bed, will satisfy your ego in a way that no other woman will ever have, and provide such a high for you at the beginning of a relationship most normal women you meet will be boring to you..in the beginning that is, once she has you she uses sex as a weapon until she gets bored of you. they take lying to a new level and actually convince themselves that their feelings for you are the real deal. i would still not advise sleeping with one because very few men are mentally tough enough to do so with a bpd."montre - i like this fukker and i dont care what any one says, hes a rustler of the golden era, and i like that chit. so you're right, the person with a personality disorder is the only one who has it correct.'m a beta, so that stuff doesn't really bother me, lol, jokes on you. for example, someone with bpd may have extreme feelings about how they are unloved or worthless triggered by an event in which a friend is five minutes late for a lunch date.
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    • Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms: Could You Have It

      people with bpd and without bpd:Stop walking on eggshells, by randi kreger. it's almost as if you had something to defend or something. everyone in my life says i'm a horrible, abusive monster who doesn't care about anyone. trolled, threats, insults, you couldn't even imagine, every day for the mere crime of talking about what it's like to have a parent like that. barbara greenberg, who treats bpd, thomas*, a 32-year-old who dates someone with bpd, and karla*, a 29-year-old recently diagnosed as borderline. if you suspect you or a loved one is suffering from bordering personality disorder, learn more about treatment options here. seems as though you are fixated on the idea that all people with bpd have, being that if people treated them with more sympathy they would live a better life, it would solve all of their problems. "well, i had to cheat on you because you're not _______ enough! goldreply[–]hyper_responsible 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)how about "we were just friends" - "why do you always do this? "stigma" is perpetuated primarily by people suffering from bpd who really want to be heard. updated: 8 dec 2014views expressed are those solely of the writer and have not been reviewed. however, broad demonizing of all pwbpd is unproductive and discouraged. simply put: if your relationship is not abusive or toxic, then you're fine. goldreply[–]bpdperhaps 13 points14 points15 points 4 months ago (5 children)yes, nothing makes me feel more secure in a relationship than someone vocally questioning whether we're actually compatible every week. referring to the earlier example about a lunch date, a person with bpd may yell at a friend for being late. if you know their history, their parents and family, you may even have insights into how those relationships were distorted or problematic. sweetly to you then insulting you if you don't respond immediately. if [non-bpds] are mad, maybe they'll keep it to themselves. they will contact you a year after not speaking and act like everything's okay.[–]oddbroad 3 points4 points5 points 4 months ago* (0 children)the view point you speak of is toxic. just like the month before, where she texted me "you're the best husband ever! call us and we can connect you to the care you need. those dealing with bpd, the trust and patience required by relationships can be a complicated issue. the scary part is if they're high functioning borderlines (like i'm assuming yours was) is that they actually have the ability to appear rational and quite normal at times so if they do contact you after the breakup (and they always do guys) you may find yourself getting reeled back in before you know it, hell i questioned my own sanity at that point. and you eventually, once you can't live up to the perfect man she thought could rescue you from her horrible dark life. reason why you read so many threads about guys dealing with these types of women lies in the fact that these are the only type of women who have the ability to drive an otherwise normal guy to the point where he desperately needs to find emotional support. think the real-life abuse many pwbpd inflict on others is infinitely more cruel than anonymously venting on the internet, and yet, somehow we are still subjected to judgment and scolding for that. i don't resort to such bitterness because i actually respect my pwbpd partner. goldreply[–]batmanlives3 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)you really should read through people's stories before engaging them." staying in an abusive relationship -- physical, emotional, psychological, financial, etc -- is probably not a great idea, regardless of why someone abuses you. so eventually [people with bpd] do get rejected by partners because they're just too intense. the only good thing about borderlines (i can't believe i said that ) is that they usually will not cheat on you in the beginning of the relationship unlike most typical serial cheaters because she's too busy telling all her girlfriends and family how your the best thing that ever happened to her. but the common conception is just [that they are] crazy, which is an extraordinarily damaging misconception to those who suffer from it. *names and details have been changed vice: so what is bpd?
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      who is not open to gaining greater self awareness and resolving these issues will be a bad bet no matter what their actual diagnosis. see you always take what i say and twist it. i'm sure your brand new account is just a coincidence. saying that you hate yourself or you want to kill yourself is one hell of a way of changing the conversation. the scary part is if they're high functioning borderlines (like i'm assuming yours was) is that they actually have the ability to appear rational and quite normal at times so if they do contact you after the breakup (and they always do guys) you may find yourself getting reeled back in before you know it, hell i questioned my own sanity at that point. if you don't like this forum your welcome to go somewhere else, /r/bpdlovingsupport /r/bpdsoffa. then you accuse him of being unkind and impolite, when you're the one who barged in here judging people for anonymously discussing their abuse (and your tone has become increasingly patronizing). goldreply[–]oddbroad 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)personality disorders are not a spectrum. and i agree with you in the long term, this is primarily about believing that your partner is a dream partner in the very beginning of dating as a naive belief.'m going respond under the assumption that you're not being disingenuous, and that you're not just someone who may actually have bpd that's attempting to stir up trouble, given that your entire post history is responding to this particular thread. you can hold sympathy for the fact that this is an unchosen illness with real human beings that suffer while simultaneously understanding the suffering they cause in other people. the focus in this sub is on your individual needs and supporting you through your difficulties. when i told my ex-boyfriend aaron* about borderline, he had zero clue of what it meant, or what it means to live with it or be close to someone who suffers in it., if it gets to that level, like it did for me, you need to audio and / or video record. you are an intuitive person you will be able to see the signs of what went wrong in another person’s early bonding experiences. i should probably just care more for her situation when she called me a "fucking asshole. think bpd is entirely misunderstood (if people are even aware of it at all) and sufferers are seen as "crazy" more than anything else. goldreply[–]oeu4 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (1 child)why don't you give /r/bpdsoffa or /r/bpdlovingsupport a shot? saint thomassep 6 2015, 5:36ammost people first encounter borderline personality disorder (bpd) on screen: it's the condition behind glenn close's character in fatal attraction. just be in control of her financials (or keep hers and your accounts seperate), keep them away from drugs and alcohol, lay the pipe correctly, and just don't do anything to piss them off to the point where they are suicidal. the largely unfair stereotype that has emerged of bpd—partially because of some hollywood portrayal—is that of a crazed, manic, uncontrollable woman.- she does whatever it takes to please you in bed. apparently it's also a place you can all come to bash and stereotype against bpds in general but i guess that's in the fine print.: my girlfriend didn't receive an official, medical diagnosis for bpd until a number of months in to our relationship, and the scenario surrounding the diagnosis itself was particularly unpleasant—as had some events which occurred in the months prior to the diagnosis which, considering things now, led to the diagnosis in the first place. however, many of her mood swings (which of course i can now link and identify with her bpd) before the diagnosis were difficult for me to understand, and for the most part, i assumed it was something to do with me being difficult for her to be with. below are some signs you are dating a borderline, anyone who is experienced in dating one of these is free to add to the list. here has tried to please, understand, help, and support their pwbpd. lot a girls do it several times in the initial few days/weeks to see how far you will go; they do it even to the handsome guys they are interested in. this "bitterness" that you're shaming people for came from them finally snapping after years of trying, and being constantly met with abuse / hostility.[–]thoughtitwaslove 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (5 children)you certainly did. i kept trying to peel back the layers looking for the person underneath because i knew that people are complicated. you can have traits that is not considered the same as a full diagnosis. healthy and secure separation from parents or caregivers means coming to see oneself as an independent being.- compliments you a lot, tells you your the best she's ever had, etc.

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